5 Ways Facebook Places Is Bad For Gays (And How To Stop Them)

Facebook pissed in the faces of everyone’s privacy again yesterday by activating Places, which allows you and your so-called friends to check-in and announce your location on mobile devices — kinda like Yelp!, Gowalla and Foursquare, but with 500 million onlookers. The company claims it’s not about publicizing your location, it’s about promoting local businesses, socializing, and creating memories to share with your grandkids (awwww!). But it’s also definitely another revenue stream for the company that changes its privacy agreement every week and then lets blogs tell you about it. Yes, there’s overblown alarm about the program’s potential drawbacks, but tell that to a closeted teen, or a lesbian who likes to cheat. Here are five way Places it could make your life hell. And how to avoid them.

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  • Hilarious

    Solution: Stop using Facebook.

    People act like it’s something they’re owed. It’s a free service that isn’t obligated to give anyone anything.

    If you want to keep in contact with real friends you actually talk to there’s your cell, instant messaging, Twitter(even if I think Twitter is stupid), actually meeting your friend in person, and email(yeah I know it’s so archaic).

    Facebook like Twitter and all of these other “social networking” sites are for attention whores and advertisers. There’s literally no reason to use them outside of “Hey everybody! Look over here!” mentality.

    There are plenty of ways to update the people you care about(and care about you) privately with all the risks.

  • byufag

    Thank you thank you.

    I’ve changed my setting on the fucking facebook.

  • Roger Rabbit

    They missed the biggest one –

    Farmville addicts at home are Farmville addicts at work, and all the hiring managers will see the activity to determine how much you will be doing Facebook at work.

  • Yuki

    There’s an easy solution to stop this if you use Facebook:

    Opt out of any programs, and add only people you know.

    It’s as simple as that. This article reads, to me, like fearmongering.

  • Marcus


    I agree.

    BTW, if people are SO worried about being found out on Facebook, privacy or whatever, I know of an even simpler solution:

    Get off of Facebook altogether.

  • whiz

    A closeted teen or a lesbian who likes to cheat?

    Stereotype much?


    After a more than a little bitter ex got all Basic Instinct on me and tracked me down via MySpace after what I thought was a good 3000 mile buffer I swore off these sites forever…….

  • bitter ex

    oh there you are

  • :)

    Twitter is 1000x better anyways


    @bitter ex: curses! :p

  • mark snyder

    Places isn’t going to out anyone! People will out themselves if they choose to share where they are. Come on.This is a nonstory.

  • Lexy

    Hell, I outed myself on facebook just to avoid standing up at thanksgiving and making an awkward speech. ty facebook!

  • B

    No. 2 · Hilarious wrote, “Solution: Stop using Facebook. People act like it’s something they’re owed. It’s a free service that isn’t obligated to give anyone anything.”

    Suppose you used a “free service” and later found that this service had tricked you into giving it the password for your google/yahoo/etc account and had read all your email, at least to the point of recording subject lines and contacts, whether in your address book or not, and then started spamming these contacts.

    Free or not, there are some reasonable limits on what they should be allowed to do.

  • BubbasBack

    What is a FacebooK?

  • Sceth

    From the article: “De-friend enemies immediately…”

    Its premise is sad because it’s funny. It’s funny because it’s true.

  • Aaron in Honolulu

    Is it just me or did the nerd who invented Facebook get buff?

  • Schteve

    Oh my, where to begin with where Queerty has gone wrong on this one?

    1) “It could out you to friends, family, and your boss.”
    Considering you have control over where you are tagged, at best you’re identified at being at a gay bar from your friend’s post on his own wall. And that’s no different than if he updated his own status with “at the gay bar with so-and-so”. Still, if you are afraid of being outed, I would surely hope you’ve told your friends you are in the closet and they will know not to tag you nilly-willy.

    2) “It could make it easier for stalkers, thieves, and bashers to find you.”
    Only if you have stalkers, thieves, and bashers as Facebook friends. The default setting for Places access is friends-only, so if this is the case then I have many suspicions about you given the activities your friends partake in.

    3) “Your constant irresponsibility is now apparent to everyone.”
    If you are seriously dumb enough to check in somewhere you shouldn’t be then you deserve the consequences. Again, it’s no different than posting a status update to the same effect. Facebook isn’t forcing you to check in at every place you go or anything.

    4) “It could allow your jerkoff friends to play horrid social pranks on you.”
    Why are you Facebook friends with someone who does that anyway? They would be removed in a heartbeat. Still, a friend cannot check you in unless he checks in at the same place. Now I ask will raise more eyebrows, a Facebook post stating that your roommate said you were at a sex museum, or a Facebook post stating that your roommate said he himself was at a sex museum?

    5) “You become a spam haven.”
    Facebook doesn’t give any information at all to advertisers. Advertisers merely select specific demographics or interests they want to target, and Facebook shows their add to people who meet those requirements. Advertisers do not know that you ever saw their add.

  • declanto

    @BubbasBack: You are such a treasure :D

  • j

    @bitter ex: I lol’d.

  • Michael

    If you don’t want to be found, and are not interested in social interaction, but just love Facebook, build out your page on a LAMP stack on your PC, and enjoy meeting yourself.

  • fredo777

    @Hilarious: “There’s literally no reason to use them outside of “Hey everybody! Look over here!” mentality.”

    Sorry, but that is rubbish. I find facebook a great way to keep in touch w/ lots of former classmates, etc., all in one convenient place. I don’t necessarily want to pick up a phone + have a full conversation w/ everyone in my social network or even send out e-mail to them all, when I can just shoot them a brief comment on their wall. I think these sites only get a bad rep b/c of the way certain people (not all) choose to use them.

  • Bryan

    google maps doesn’t allow people to see your house in real time, they have cars with cameras go through and the images are usually 6 months old or so. does queerty think that they have webcams pointed at your house at all time? do you ever bother to fact check?

  • Nick de Casa

    I really, really don’t like Facebook.
    I’m 20, and my generation has become completely consumed by it. It’s bad enough going out for a drink with a friend and having them texting every five minutes, but to have them checking facebook is even worse.
    It has its uses, but do I think it’s making life better, do I think it’s making society better? No.
    I deleted mine a while back, but eventually I caved in, and reopened it. As a university student, you have to have it. Your social life seriously suffers without it. As soon as I get my degree, I’m deleting it.
    One of the great things about leaving school/uni, is that you no longer have to pretend to like people you didn’t, you no longer have to hear about their lives, no longer have to put up with them knowing everything about you. I want those people to not know what I’m up to, and I want to not know what they’re up to.

  • seaguy11

    Maybe its time for the closet cases to come out and quit bitching at Facebook??

  • L.

    It’s not as simple as ‘opting out’ – leaving aside that FB has the bad habit of makings users opt out instead of opt in – because there is way for people to tag you in Places without you agreeing to it.

    It’s apparently due to a weird thing that happens the first time someone tags out, and you either dismiss the message telling out so, or you don’t even get it.

    From then on, all your friends can tag you and you won’t get further warnings. (There was a post on one of the Gawker sites about that, can’t find it now.)

  • Blue Falcone

    @Nick de Casa: “One of the great things about leaving school/uni, is that you no longer have to pretend to like people you didn’t, you no longer have to hear about their lives…”

    Only if you’re unemployed.

    But seriously, fuck facebook and get a real life.

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