File this under HR headaches: A guy who’s been unemployed since the pandemic crisis started is now considering working for his former dom.
This particular Reddit user told his brethren in the r/askgaybros forum that he hooked up with this “tall, muscular, and hung” dom a while ago and broke things off because the dom is married.
But through a twist of fate, the two happened upon each other on Adam4Adam and started chatting again. “He immediately tells me that he is looking for an assistant to work for his company and that he could pay me a decent salary when I look for a new role,” the Redditor wrote. “He complains that everyone who applies is an idiot and he knows I am smart enough to do it.”
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As if to make the situation even more fraught, the dom also mentioned the possibility of sex in the workplace. “He insists that we could fool around sparingly if the opportunity arose, but that it wouldn’t be required and that he primarily wants to hire me because he thinks I am smart enough to do the job,” the guy added. “To quote him, ‘No, I actually need to fill the role. I know you can do this which makes my life better. Maybe the sex does or doesn’t happen. But I need someone regardless.’”
One commenter on the thread was all about the idea. “What have you got to lose?” that commenter wrote. “You could always quit if it doesn’t work out.”
Recommended another: “Take the job but insist on no sex. Also insist on going through the normal interview and hiring process, you’re not taking any special favors. You want to be treated like any other employee and that includes the sexual harassment and relationship restrictions.”
And a third commenter suggested taking screenshots of the conversation. “He’s given you the perfect out or defense material if he tries to go back on his word that he wouldn’t inherently expect sex.”
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Others, however, seemed to think the original poster should look elsewhere for employment. “He’s definitely going to ask for sex whenever he wants,” one user wrote. “Are you willing to do that?”
“He’s trying to hire you so he has an easily-accessible Fleshlight at work,” said another. “If you’re okay with that, go ahead, but I don’t think this is gonna end well. The power dynamic is so f*cked up.”
Added someone else: “Honestly be careful with stuff like this. Not only myself but others have dealt with this. If he’s the type to get angry easily, then you might get fired fairly quickly. Or if he also gets bored or you no longer want to have sex, then you’re not going to like where this ends. Just my own perspective.”
By the way, a 2018 EdenFantasy study found that 44 percent of people polled had had a workplace romance and that 1 in 5 workplace romances resulted in a lost job. The survey also found that 14 percent of respondents had had sex at their workplace and that 1 in 5 of those people was caught in the act. Just words of warning here, people! Sometimes a little work/life separation isn’t a bad thing.
Catholicslutbox
Yes. Yes, yes, yes.
Creamsicle
I got furloughed this week. I would jump on that job (*rimshot*). But seriously, there are lots of people out of work. Take the job, it will probably go remote anyway since we’re already seeing a spike in cases and states will be forced to issue a Shelter in Place order again before the end of the month.
50 50
Money is money, if you need the work – go in with both eyes open.
Also how come the article doesn’t note all the marriages and children that come from successful workplace introductions.
TheMarc
I feel for the OP. I have known what it was like to be out of work during a time of extreme uncertainty. I was willing to take any role offered. But this seems like a recipe for disaster. Someone who is already cheating on their spouse offers a “legit” role to ONE of the people he’s cheating with does not scream a truly legit, professional role. No matter what his potential future boss says there WILL be an expectation of messing around; either in the office (incredibly dangerous) or outside of it. And if you’re seeking future, meaningful advancement or other opportunities within the company, it’s not a good look being someone’s “boy.”
joeboyle49
YES JUST SUPPOSE THE MAN TAKES THE JOB AND THEN THE BOSS EXPECTS HIM TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM AND SUPPOSE ONE OF THE OTHER EMPLOYEES JUST HAP[PENS TO SEE THEM IN AN OFFICE OR SAY THEY GET CREATIVE AND DOES IT ON THE ISTAIRWELL OR SOMEWHERE THEY DON’T THINK ANYONE ELSE WILL SEE THEM BUT THEY DO AND THEY REPORT IT TO THE HIGHER UPS AND THEY TALK ABOUT IT TOO OTHER EMPLOYEES THEN WHAT?? WHAT DO YOU THINK WOULD HAPPEN IF THE WIFE JUST HAPPENS TO HEAR IT FROM SOMEBODY?? THE MANS WHOLE WORLD WILL EXPLODE!!
missvamp
seems like a recipe for disaster. the dom- he’s looking for someone he knows he can manipulate. so of course he’s going to hire his former sub & try to push him around. this guy is desperate for work/money. he may still have feelings for this guy/dom. it’s just not ok. you don’t shit where you eat & you def don’t throw kink into it. ffs, it’s just a horrible idea!
Doug
That’s my take too. If he’s calling everyone who works for him as “idiots,” it’s only a matter of time before he’ll be calling this guy the same thing. Why would someone want to work for a guy after emotionally disconnecting from because he wasn’t honest? This guy is a control freak and knows exactly how to tie the writer around his little finger.