What exactly is a country boy?
According to Urban Dictionary, he is “a guy born and raised in the country. (Usually the American South.) A true country boy has rather short hair, and no piercings. They dress in nice, clean-looking clothes, and only wear ripped jeans to work in.”
The definition goes on to describe country boys as “strong, hard-working, and very masculine. Chances are, he drives a truck. In a relationship, a country boy is usually an old-fashioned gentleman.”
But can they be gay?
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A recent Reddit thread titled Gay country boys? seeks to answer this question:
Any of you guys ever met a gay country boy, farm boy, or the redneck type? Just wondering. I’m a country boy and I personally don’t know anyone that is gay. Although I’ve wondered about a few guys before.
Well, it turns out, there are quite a few gay country boys living our in rural America.
“Red neck farm boy here,” one guy writes. “Born and raised in the middle of nowhere. So, yup, we exist.”
“Gay country boy checking in from Iowa,” another guy says. “Grew up on a hog farm, horseback riding, hunting, fishing, mudding. … I’ll always be a country boy at heart.”
“I spent the first eighteen years of my life living and working on a family ranch in east Texas,” a third guy writes. “Got my degree in Agricultural Science, and I’m employed in the livestock industry. I’ve just contentedly resigned myself to the fact that it’s my lot in life to work with cattle.”
“I live in Oklahoma, and three quarters of the Grindr profiles here are for guys with pickup trucks looking for someone to go hunting/fishing/mudding with,” a fourth one says.
Then there are those who aren’t country boys themselves but who are attracted to them.
“I always think country gay boys are hot,” one guy writes. “Also, Brokeback Mountain, right? That’s very country.”
“My BF is a country boy,” another man says. “He grew up in the bible belt of Alabama. He moved to Florida 3 years ago. Funnily enough, I met him outside of a 7/11 where he was causing a ton of trouble with his fellow country boy friends.”
“I’d love to meet some,” a third guy writes. “I am exhausted by the one-upping connoisseur ethos I’ve been dealing with in city-gays. I draw the line at defending my choice of take-out sushi. I am assuming that country boy gays have more productive/meaningful things to do besides instagramming high tea.”
Of course, there had to be one killjoy who couldn’t help but keep it real:
“People who have a fascination with cowboys would probably be quickly disabused of that if they had any idea what cattle can smell like, or what you can smell like after spending a full day working with them.”
How do you feel about country boys? Share your thoughts about this rare breed of gay men in the comments below…
joeyty
But Queerty espouses we hate country boys. So…??
Guy068
@joeyty: It does? I thought a hot body was all it took to win Queerty’s appreciation. Not that I’m knocking that. After debating with Sanders or nobody holdouts and people insisting HRC pass some gay litmus test (which is pointless since we’re not some unified bloc. We’re people who grew up everywhere and have every ethnicity, race, religion in our backgrounds so no one will ever please even a majority of non-heterosexual support) I look forward to Queerty’s niche, the shallow appreciation of the meaningless things!
joeyty
@Guy068: Shallow appreciation of meaningless things is fine. Even Wilde praised it (“Beauty has its own genius..” something like that..). But the hick redneck country bumpkin thing is always despised by Queerty readers (to bond in the assumption that they’re superior to…..someone or other..). Other given hatreds : Texas, Israel, Ireland, the south and the MidWest.
PSJoey
Do you have so little respect for genuine gay country boys that you have to use morphed shots in your story to pump them up? Really?
http://pre05.deviantart.net/cc39/th/pre/f/2015/086/0/c/farm_boy_muscle_morph__original__by_theology132-d8nb0bs.jpg
Alistair Wiseman
God bless country boys!
(Psst, hey Queerty, just so you know, – country boys are not liberal social justice warrior types, they aren’t special little snowflakes that whine about trigger warnings, safe spaces and microaggressions. They often times vote Republican. Egads!)
joeyty
@PSJoey: you definitely busted ’em
OrchidIslander
@Alistair Wiseman: Psst, hey Alistair Wiseman, just so you know, – your assumptions about the totality of country boys is no better – or worse – than Queerty’s. I was a country boy, now man, still live in the country – same as most of my friends (gay and straight) as well as my extended family. Our political leanings and world views are varied. We don’t always walk in lock step, we don’t always agree and we don’t all vote Republican, but we do live in the country and for that we are all grateful.
Kangol
@joeyty: Wait, when has Queerty espoused hatred of Ireland? Or Texas? Or the Midwest? They aren’t championing Hawaii, Asian Americans, Native Americans, poor gays, elderly gay people, etc. And note that Alistair, as usual, can’t help but show his Breitbartian bias by using that nutty terminology (“social justice warrior,” etc.) and erasing the fact that a sizable portion Southern “country boys,” at least, are black and vote Democratic (Queerty got this at least with that morphed photo). Don’t believe me? Go to Mississippi, Alabama, Georgia, South Carolina, North Carolina, Tennessee, etc. LOL
Alistair Wiseman
@OrchidIslander:
“We don’t always walk in lock step, we don’t always agree and we don’t all vote Republican….”
Thus, why I used the verbiage “often times”.
Do not fear reading comprehension. It is your friend.
joeyty
@Kangol: Type in Ireland, Texas, Midwest, Israel, Alabama, and Mississippi into Search and read both the articles and the comments. (But do each search separately). Do you think you can manage that ?
joeyty
@Alistair Wiseman: Boy…he sure upheld ONE bad stereotype of the country boy, didn’t he ?
joeyty
@Kangol: “… the fact that a sizable portion Southern “country boys,” at least, are black and vote Democratic (Queerty got this at least with that morphed photo). Don’t believe me? Go to Mississippi, Alabama..” But, of course, when Queerty covers the homophobia of those states, they pretend it’s only caused by the white residents.
phallictomato
I haven’t seen many gay country boys. They certainly are hard to find. I think the whole ‘gay country boy’ fantasy/story is one that many of us wish would happen to us (maybe I’m wrong here and not many wish it, but I personally think it’s kinda hot!). It’s awesome to know they’re out there and that they actually do exist though.
kenton
In a previous life, I was a roustabout in West Texas (oil field worker) – and they don’t all fit into your homoerotic fantasies as you describe. The straight and gay roustabouts are of all types w/ the only common theme that they all wear some variation of a boot.
Stop w/ the myth and realize that the gay country “cowboy” is out there and exists in many different ways. Stop the stereotyping, please.
David
I would love to meet a few gay country boys esp if they are any different from the city ones I meet.
jag4313
I’m in Houston and there are a lot of these gay country boys trying to make it in the big ole’ city. And when the Houston Livestock Show and Rodeo comes to town the country gays come out of the wood works.
Heywood Jablowme
@joeyty: Queerty making fun of a homophobic or closeted Republican politician in, say, Texas, is not exactly the same thing as making fun of ALL Texans. I looked up their mistake about Northern Ireland and, yeah, I have to agree with you that was pretty dumb. I doubt you’re right about an anti-Israel bias though, since the Israel stories I checked (on a cursory search) were pretty positive and seemed mostly obsessed with hot Israeli soldiers, plus the recent knife attack on a pride parade by a gay-hating Orthodox wacko. The Midwest, really? – well, maybe you’re the one who’s never been there and has crazy ideas about what it’s like.
Just a couple days ago you spouted the ridiculous notion that much of Clinton’s support comes from “hicks” (YOUR WORD) who resent any NYC native (e.g. Trump)… oh and also, you said they hate Jews! The RealClearPolitics polls contradict your bizarre theory: solid support for Trump from West Virginia to Texas to Idaho, as anyone might expect. Now Alastair (who I realize lives in California, not that there’s anything wrong with that) says, more accurately than you, that country boys “often times” vote Republican. No doubt true.
But now you’re accusing arrogant city gays of using the word “hick” as a slur when you just did it yourself! Make up your mind.
SeijnSei
@PSJoey:
OMG thank you!
Josh447
@PSJoey:
Disrespect? It’s a fantasy already, why fuck it up?
Bob LaBlah
As a born and raised southern boy I must shout from the mountain top that muscle Mary carrying the bail of hay is a model posing for a picture. That is an insult to me and every other southern who know that pic is full of shit. Not only could they have chosen a better pic in his case but did it occur to the editors that the first place anyone thinks about when you say country is the south? The black guy in the pic looks rather shiftless, very laid back (though I do admit he is cute) and those tears in those pants look factory made. What a damn shame no research or thought was given to what should have been a fine topic for an article on a gay website.
JeanDePrato
The country is 99% out of this rural Mid-Atlantic former country boy and I don’t miss it at all. Have you ever shoveled manure? or fretted over it raining on your hay? Farming is rated as one of the most dangerous occupations. And I know of a few instances. I’m not IN a city but I’m close enough to go there and enjoy the things available to see and do.
Captain Obvious
This article gets country boys all wrong and makes us sound like some sort of cheesy porn scenario.
We’re not usually ripped. We’re just thicker and heavy set from the types of food we eat. Gives us a nice ass and larger frame. If you want that ridiculous Ken Doll look you find that in the west where they’re afraid of gluten. You’re not finding that down here. In fact we’re usually considered pudgy/fat by them.
Country boys are laid back, love their moms, and usually hold manners up high. Rednecks are not the same. Mixing way too much stuff into porn.
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seeker2114
Well ya known what they say. ” Save a horse ride a country boy::)). LOL
Bob LaBlah
@Captain Obvious: Sit back and enjoy.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e_TGzbFH0hg
Steve318
I’ve said it here before–flamboyant, effeminate, and free spirited gay men have a hard time hiding their sexual orientation, but the rest of us that don’t fit that type have to watch our step or be branded by the stereotypical public perception of what queer is. Since gay country boys don’t fit the established mode, most hide it, and due to their locale, they hide it for reasons of safety and sanity. But now the perception is changing, so hopefully more gay farm boys cowboys, athletes, and non “gay” stereotypical guys will come out, and the tired, old, and dangerous public perception of what it means to be gueer will fade into oblivion. Thank god I’m a country boy.
Bob LaBlah
@Steve318: How could you have forgotten to add this?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QRuCPS_-_IA
Raymond Saint-Pierre
How could you leave out how much real shit rural queers have to shovel or hear in reality? Especially in the Comment section!
Thad
And I thought we suburban gays had it rough. We’re always looked down upon as the second-rate or left-behind; not good enough to make it in the big city, not good enough to cut it on the farm. It’s kinda like the worst of both worlds. Except…we can usually afford where we live, it’s usually pretty safe, if we have kids they get to go to decent schools, and we’re actually close to any scene we want to be part of. Or to avoid it all if we choose.
Daggerman
…WOW! All together in a Welch accent, ‘I’m the only Gay in the village!’…HA!
joeyty
@Heywood Jablowme: No, it’s all. Just being of Irish, Israeli, or Texas-born blood is what negates them as people. It has nothing to do with political party or religion.
joeyty
@Heywood Jablowme: BTW : Yes, Clinton’s support DOES come from hicks, mostly. Who else would support such a homophobe or believe her lies, like, “Mommy will he send me back to Ethiopia?!”. LOL. She and that Arkansas chubby-chasing scarecrow hubby DO belong in jail.
joeyty
@Heywood Jablowme: BTW : The city boys who use the word “hick” ARE hicks who moved to the city, thinking it made them sophisticated. The out-of-towners here are the worst. The same reason they hate the Irish, because they believe hating blue-collar Catholics makes them WASP sophisticated. That’s why they basically laughed over firemen dying on 9-11. (Until they want to give a straight guy a blowjob and sneak up to the Bronx to find some mick, wop, or spic to pay).