While celebrating their anniversary at a Dublin restaurant, a gay couple claims a waiter told them to leave due to complaints from other diners.
A letter that ran in the November issue of GCN, an Irish magazine, claims that fellow diners were “uncomfortable” because the couple was holding hands:
“My partner and I were in a Dublin city centre restaurant celebrating our second anniversary and we were being physically tactile with each other. Not kissing the faces of each other or anything, but holding hands and looking into each other’s eyes.”
“A waiter came to out table and told us that customers at another table were complaining about us. He suggested that we stop showing each other physical affection.”
The couple insisted they had absolutely every right to hold hands and asked to speak to the manager.
The manager asked them both to leave.
“When we said we had every right to show each other affection, the manager said that it was unfortunate that other customers were uncomfortable, and suggested that we leave. He told us we wouldn’t be charged for our meal.”
The letter’s writer says they were “humiliated” by the manager’s actions, and as they left the restaurant, someone eating at another table said they were “disgusting”:
“As we were leaving the restaurant, feeling humiliated, a woman at one of the tables, probably the one who had complained about us, said the word ‘disgusting.’”
The author of the letter says this incident has destroyed his perception of Ireland as a tolerant place following May’s referendum, which made it the first country in the world to legislate for gay marriage by popular vote.
“This is not the indication,” he wrote, “on any level, of acceptance or even tolerance. The whole experience has really shaken the foundations of what I had come to believe post-referendum about my country,” he wrote.
H/t: LGBTQ Nation
Grant Mealey
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Daniel Salmeron
Why is humiliated in quotes?
Luis Collazo
People Are assholes!
Craig Bankert
I would not have left, would have asked that they call the police to have them removed, video taped the entire event, created a media storm, law suit, and made a payday out of it.
Nathaniel McManus
I would have tossed the table over where the woman was sitting who said they were disgusting! “There’s the reaction you wanted, bitch!” And walk out. I have anger issues lol
Marshall R. Krug
sad.
Toni Kahwage
Why did they leave? Don’t you know what makes a woman loose thousands of threads of her hair in agony and give her a heart attack?!? ð?? Just do the opposite LOL
Brian JC Kneeland
time for non-discrimination laws!
Sandy McLendon
To the idiots of the world: IF EQUAL MARRIAGE IS A LEGAL RIGHT, SO IS A LITTLE PDA. Why anyone should have to have this spelled out is beyond me.
Mark Anthony Arnaldo
how sweet
Nick Marriott
Yeah……I would have thrown the bitches drink in her face…..what a vile cunt of a human being!
Seosamh O'Donnacha
I’m gay and from Dublin and have no time for this lame story. If it’s so humiliating then name and shame the restaurant. Why no names? Few establishments would behave like that in this day and age. If it really happened then give us the facts so there can be a consequence, otherwise it’s just a waste of time.
Mark David
What Taliban state was that in?
Luis H. Ramos
Question (unless I missed something) Why isn’t the restaurant being named? The only way to fight back in an advanced society is to hold the bigots’ feet to the fire.
Deborah McKenna
Why has this restaurant still not been named also don’t understand why the couple left without getting the police involved
Clay Delery
I agree with all those that say the restaurant should have been named.
Óscar ML K
Name of the restaurant?
Sharon Holloway
This place would have lost my custom, treating two people who are obviously in love like this
Daniela Strobl
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Tim Collins
Well I think its b******* and I think everybody needs to mind their own goddamn business and leave the couple alone if they want to hold hands and dinner time let him be there and I hurt nobody dumb stupid ass people
Barbara Elizabeth Slater
The person who complained and the waiter and manager were “disgusting”.
Bob Pattinson
The restaurant should be named and shamed. “Straights Only” restaurants are as unacceptable as the “Whites Only” restaurants of the past. The complainants should have been asked to leave, not the gay couple.
Jeremy Coburn
Bs like this is still going to happen for awhile. Homophobia still permeates our society. It will get better in time. Until then, hold hands and kiss and be human. Keep fighting.
Faye Denton
Name the restaurant so that people can go there and tell them what they think and then leave without buying anything. Enough people do that and they will find that they have an empty room, instead of a restaurant.
David Browne
I’m from Dublin and question this story. I’ve never had an issue holding hands or kissing on dates with men. Everyone knows it’s against the law to discriminate so I that’s why I find the story suspect.
Carl Szulczynski
That happened to me once. That’s what the mint/candy/jelly bean jars are for. Showering the host and management on the way out.
Edwn Szto
why is humiliated in quotes? there’s no secondary meaning to it
Enrique Subia
Some people are just assholes. What’s wrong with 2 people loving each other? I honestly more disgusted with narrow minded religious freaks
brooklynbobby
@David Browne: Well you may question it but that doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. A Jeremy Coburn says things like this will continue to happen and will not stop for a while. The referendum that was passed was by popular vote but I can pretty much guarantee that doesn’t mean that everybody in Ireland supported it. Yes homophobia is alive in well all over the world and definitely here in America. And hopefully things will eventually get better but no matter what there will always be idiots who have a problem with it and there always be people like the restaurant staff and management who will cow tow to them. Is discriminating against gay people illegal in Ireland? If it is these two guys should file a complaint against the establishment.
I do agree that the name of the restaurant would have been EXTREMELY helpful! These places need to be called out so that at the very least gay people and their supporters can boycott them and publicize what kind of treatment they can expect if they patronize the place.
And for all the folks calling for violent reactions. You know that isn’t going to help our cause. Tossing a table or throwing a drink is done only for dramatic effect. You guys have been watching too many old Bette Davis movies! LOL
meghanada
That’s why we need gay-only areas. That’s why, when gay bars apply policies to guarantee that a gay atmosphere won’t be diluted by straight people, it is not “heterophobic”, and not “the same” as being kicked out of an establishment for being gay. We need these policies; straight people don’t. We are in danger of being enveloped by a hostile majority if we don’t use them; straight people aren’t.
onthemark
Maybe it’s an “Irish” thing to take the time and trouble to write this letter to a gay publication, but not to mention the name of the restaurant. To Americans this seems strange. Usually on Queerty there’s a link to the original story. Are we missing some detail here?
SteveDenver
I would shout “WHAT? WHO IS OFFENDED?” immediately stand up and start scanning the room. Be confrontational in such a situation. Don’t take it quietly. Business owners need to fear broaching such a subject when there is nothing illegal going on.
CWM85
Sad and feel sorry for them. We still have a long way to go globally to combat homophobia. No way this couple should have been asked to leave. Smh
Maude
We got their brains, but getting their hearts is quite another story.
We will win, but not before at least one generation passes.
In the mean time, phuck’em!
Brian
Note that itwas a woman who complained about them holding hands. This is homophobia as gender war.
onthemark
@Brian: And the other shoe drops… clunk!
Jim Philbrick
Umm.. what’s the name of the restaurant and why aren’t Irish gays publicly exposing and shaming them? How can the name of the restaurant… its location in Dublin not be revealed? Horrible Journalism
Jay Bowyer
No matter what the popular consensus and no matter what is legislated, there will always be bigots. We recently had a similar incident at a local bar-restaurant here in Mid Coast Maine and the offending bigots were asked to leave – by the owners. The crowd, mostly straight with a sprinkling of bikers and such – applauded and jeered. But it’s going to take a bit of time before we’re really treated equally.
Marcus A. Moutra
I would’ve gotten the name of the restaurant, the rude ignorant ass manger, employee, and the location to file a lawsuit.
DuMaurier
@brooklynbobby:
I love Bette Davis, but yes, some things should stay in the movies. And of course, just because a referendum was passed doesn’t mean everyone’s on board (in fact, it can spark push back, which this incident may have been) But by the same token this shouldn’t rock the “foundations” of the victim’s view of Ireland’s tolerance level. Don’t give the dwindling bigots that much power.
Adam Nagel
I’d say EFF U, I have every right to be here! U CAN’T make me leave!
Sean Brennan
I would have started making out with my man… heavy.
Brian
Why didn’t the two guys take a stronger stand against their eviction? Seems like they gave up far too easily. Where was their belief in themselves?
Roan
I would have stopped at bitch’s table and groped and tongue kissed until we needed a towel to wipe off. Then call the bitch a c**t and be done with it.
Jorge Albertto
So what’s the name of the restaurant we need to know so we can start posting notes to the business
Jorge Albertto
Ok folks @ Queerty by popular demand we need to know the name of that place
Observant
As presented, there’s far too much information missing for this story to pass the sniff test. If you truly desire to be a credible news source, try leading with the facts.
On a shallower, yet brighter note, it was worth the click just to see commenter Oscar ML K’s pic. Beats the hell out of most of your Morning Goods photos.
john.k
@Jorge Albertto: Queerty doesn’t know any more than anyone else. The story has been carried in at least two national newspapers in Ireland as well as in GCN (Gay Community News) but the complainers seem not to have named the restaurant.This has led to some doubt about the veracity of the story. As previously pointed out there is anti-discrimination legislation in Ireland.
alphacentauri
I’m not surprised this happened in Ireland there’s a lot of people against LGBT people there.
Dylan Ryan
Arrrggghhh stop reposting this… It never happened!!!!
Pascal Dunne
It didn’t happen.
B Stallone
I agree. If no restaurant name is given then I doubt the story. Wouldn’t be the first time that a fake story was told by someone. They would know that the restaurant would be confronted and if the story was not true, there would be a liable issue to deal with.
john.k
A report in yesterday’s Sunday Independent says that the complainers’ did not identify themselves to GCN. When people from the magazine tried to contact them to advise them that they could make a complaint to the Equality Authority they got no response.
Cam
I have no doubt that incidents like this happen, but if this is real, then why not name the restaurant?
Without that it’s more if an urban myth type story.