Remember Dominic Hilton, the 27-year-old former gay escort who said he turned straight after a period of celibacy? According to one website, he recently sought to attend a very gay party in a studded jockstrap and harness, despite being totally heterosexual.
According to the reputable journalistic institution Cocktails and Cocktalk (C&C), “[Hilton] sent a photo of himself in a harness to the Sugarboy Facebook page in December of 2018, asking if it was OK to wear to their party that Friday.”
In the photo he allegedly posted, Hilton is also wearing necklace chains and furry handcuffs.
Sugarboy, according to C&C, is a gay party based in Manchester, England. The event bills itself as “a new gay party for lads, sexy gogo boys, amazing DJs, contests, competitions, beautiful men.”
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Here’s a recent video promo for Sugarboy below. It begins with an Asian woman asking for a c*ck and ends with twinks gyrating in briefs — seems pretty straight to us.
If you’ll recall, Hilton said that after breaking up with his last boyfriend in December 2017, he decided to go celibate. He didn’t have sex at all in 2018 and now identifies as a heterosexual. (No, he’s not bisexual, he says, because he says his attraction to men has entirely vanished.)
Hilton said he’s trying to find an “open-minded girl” to lose his virginity to, but if that’s the case, he might wanna try a different party than Sugarboy.
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It’s entirely possible that Hilton has continued going to super gay parties because as a newfound heterosexual, he still feels more comfortable partying in gay spaces (and old habits are hard to break, especially when they involve twinks and dubstep).
Whether Hilton actually attended the party or not, this situation shows how complex and fluid sexual identities actually are. If a guy identifies as straight, but hasn’t slept with women and still dresses like a gogo boy and attends gay dance parties, is he really straight? Of course he is. Just like you can be gay or bi without having ever having touched a boy.
What matters most is how Hilton sees himself.
Donston
Fluidity does have legitimacy. And I’m perfectly fine with people wanting to embrace new identities and tests the waters. And I don’t even equate gay with homosexuality. I feel someone can be homosexual or near homosexual and not really be “gay”. Gay to me is more about sustained romantic passions, emotional contentment, relationship ambitions than purely about sex and attractions. Having said all this, you could surmise by the details in this dude’s story (and by some of his anti-gay ramblings) that he’s just a basic, confused, attention-seeking, often fibbing headcase.
Hussain-TheCanadian
Donston, I love you, I enjoy your comments always, but I got to admit, I disagree with you on this.
A person cannot “fluctuate” between homosexuality and heterosexuality on any given Sunday, such beliefs are exactly what the Muslim and Christian Taliban claim about us, and it feeds their efforts into persecuting us, and I for one never wanted to have sex with a women, the very idea of it makes me want to reach for the bucket.
As for Dominic, Queen got issues, and if he’s straight, then im the quee…..i mean king of straightdom.
Donston
The problem with your pov is that you’re speaking from a defensive standpoint. You’re trying to shield yourself from hateful, anti-gay, homophobic people. I’m just speaking from reality. I have experienced a degree of fluidity. And there are many people who say that they were heterosexual and became bisexual as they got older, they were homosexual and became bisexual with age, they were bisexual and became conventional homosexuals as they got older. Many, many people keep saying stuff like this. It’s almost standard. You can’t just keep dismissing them because you’re scared of how that information will be used against the lgbtq “community”.
There are people who are “technically” homosexual but don’t really have same-sex romantic passions, emotional contentment, relationship fulfillment. While there are people who are “scientifically” heterosexual yet prefer persistent same-sex affections, romantic connections and relationships. There are people who are bisexual/pansexual people that never really develop general passions or sexual interests or relationship interests beyond one gender. There are asexuals or borderline asexuals who still very much consider themselves straight or gay. There are bi-identifying who are probably very, very close to being conventional homosexual or heterosexual. There are gay-identifying people who are not particularly homosexual and embrace “gay” or “lesbian” because of their romantic love, sustained passions and relationship comfort. And so on and so forth. Everyone is just different. Everyone embraces different identities for different reasons. And everyone has their own journey. In general we give way too much weight to identity. The focus must primarily stay on people gaining self-understanding, self-comfort, mental health, and being with and loving who they truly want to be with and love. Not on dictating everyone’s identities and sexual behaviors and constantly trying to “prove” orientations.
I don’t know how much of what this dude is saying is legit and how much of himself and his motivations and traumas and internal struggles that he’s leaving out. But just because this guy is kinda sketchy and comes off a bit headcase-y doesn’t de-legitimize fluidity and the spectrum.
Donston
Having said ALL of this, I do understand why these conversations do make people uncomfortable and defensive. Homophobia, internalized homophobia, gay shame, self-rejection, hetero worship, inferiority/superiority complexes- these things are still very prominent (especially for men). And there’s still the popular “it’s a choice” argument. And I’m not saying that orientation is a choice. I’m saying that people are often more complex than mere sex and identity. Some people are completely traditionally heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual their whole lives. But other people contend with fluidity, contend with contradictions and a host of other things throughout their lives. It’s important to keep evolving the conversation of orientation and make sure it includes ideas on sexuality, romance, emotions and relationships. It’s important to at least try to comprehend struggles and life arc’s you don’t immediately relate to. It’s important to keep evolving the idea of identity and evolve the identities themselves (more and more young people have already jumped on the bandwagon of “gay” and “straight” not equating to “homosexual” and “heterosexual” but being more about sustained passions, romantic preferences, emotional contentment). It’s important to talk about and confront internal struggles and past traumas without fear of being judged. This will all ultimately assists everyone.
RIGay
I’m sorry, this is me not giving a f*ck.
Hussain-TheCanadian
Well this is the fastest relapse from a conversion I have ever come across. I guess the celibacy part is over…….someone pass me the remote.
iamru2
This is bullying. And I could care less about this guy.
bbg372
“What matters most is how Hilton sees himself.”
You cannot be heterosexual without performing heterosexuality. Without action, and without social recognition, the identity is meaningless. If heterosexuality is nothing to him but a private daydream, then he may as well see himself as a helicopter. Because unless he is living heterosexuality, then the identity is literally that meaningless.
Likewise, he can identify as a doctor, and go around handing out diagnoses, but if no one recognizes him as a doctor, then he is not really practicing medicine, is he?
sydboy007
Yes Mam
bowlingbutch
Just another example of someone needing 15 minutes of fame and of course he got it. Queerty could wallpaper a bathroom with the stories printed of these fame chasers. I say paper a bathroom because that;s where these stories belong
fur_hunter
If this guy has been some ‘Poster Child’ for those Gay Conversion Therapy clinics, I hope he is outed all over the place to prove that his so-called ‘CONVERSION’……DID NOT WORK….just as all legitimate psychiatrists and psychologists have said they don’t. It’s @$$HOLES like him that keep those stupid clinics in business.
Geeker
Why does the gay community care so much about what porn stars do or say?
ShowMeGuy
I’m guessing his bank account was starting to get thin. Gotta gay you up so people will pay you up.
BivisibleGuy
In the same thought thread, his entire life was being part of the gay community. To think that he would just walk away from his friends and livelihood seems pretty absurd. Why would he not want to be around the community that he grew up in, even if he identifies as straight? He is only asking about being appropriate for a party. It is doesn’t mean he is going to pounce on a dude; maybe he just wants to spend time with friends or continue his connections. There is no mention of what line of work he is in since escorting. Maybe he is doing something creative that he can use community resources to help him promote? Being straight doesn’t completely devoid his last few years…
Donston
BivisibleGuy, I highly, highly doubt that’s what’s going on. He’ll likely continue to use dudes for sex and especially money and indulge the partying aspects of the stereotypical “gay lifestyle” but wants the world to know that he now views himself as “straight” and only really wants to be with a female and wants to start a family with a female. All of that is cool. But just keep it real. I still hook up with chicks occasionally and still enjoy some female affections here and there but still ultimately consider myself “gay”, and I as well have experienced a decent amount of fluidity. You don’t have to play these games. Just be real with people. He’s also said some rather anti-gay things. So, it’s not just about him changing and wanting something else.
I figure he’ll ultimately end up a lonely queen, because while he supposedly has no interests in dudes he also doesn’t seem to have any real interests in females and appears to only be interested in them to create a hetero family.
BivisibleGuy
Donstan, while I usually like your replies (though I don’t comment often on most posts, I read them all), but I am unsure about your cinicism or if you have other information about this person… You mentioned his criticism of the LGBT community?
Donston
If you read beyond this article and check out some of his social media you’d see he has said some borderline homophobic/anti-gay things. However, that’s not that unusual. When my sister moved on from a “lesbian lifestyle” she became kinda anti-gay, and that made it difficult for me to be comfortable being out. She even went as far as to underhandedly suggests that if I were ever interested in guys that I should keep it all about sex. However, she did eventually even out and became more reasonable and more gay-positive.
Also, general his story just seems like it’s missing a lot of pieces. And he doesn’t ever say that he’s gained attractions, passions, romantic feelings, emotional connections or anything towards chicks, just that he’s not that into gay sex anymore and wants to marry a woman and have a family. That sounds a lot more like you’re becoming a borderline asexual who wishes to have a hetero family more so than you’re becoming anyone’s definition of “straight” or have gained genuine romantic/sexual/emotional interests and fulfillment in females. There’s actually a good deal of people like him who are hyper sexual and promiscuous for years and sometimes indulge things like sex work but then lose their sex drives at a young age and don’t really have romantic passions and emotional affections to depend on when it comes to relationships. Those types do often end up alone and frustrated unfortunately or simply indulging a hetero relationship and family because they feel it’s the right thing to do. That’s why it’s important to develop and understand yourself and your orientation from all aspects, not just sexual.
At the end of the day, it’s his sense of self, his identity and his life. And if you’re one of those people who think “gay” is simply wanting to be with and build a life with someone of your gender. While “straight” is wanting to be with a build a life with someone of your opposite cis gender then it’s all good. I actually wish him well. He’s not even 30 yet but has clearly been through a lot and probably has a lot of confrontation and healing ahead of him.
Rock-N-RollHS
So, he’s a lesbian now?
ricdardc1
“As Momma would say,……. What’s a Woman to do in Time Like These !”
bjbalme
What matters most is us not having to hear about this dumbass story anymore. So over attention seekers. Just live your life bruh and do whatever the hell you want.
jjose712
What a surprise.
He seems the kind of guy who thinks you need to live a certain livestyle to be gay, which is utterly ridiculous.
He maybe needs time to reflect in his life and what he wants before going to internet to declare his sexual orientation changed (when it’s obvious it didn’t change at all)
cynicalsteve
Bro… you gay. Bitch please.
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
Meanwhile this pig is all over social media spewing hatred against Gays.
He was a somewhat cute twink who sold his arse for cash. He aged out and is simply average looking with zero definition and muscle on his body. All of a sudden his clients have lost interest. Suddenly he is “no longer Gay”
He is a pathetic attention whore please stop feeding the pig….
LetsGetLit
He needs some meat on those bones.