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Jake Jacob (solid name) is an out-gay doctor who recently looked back on his “life-altering” decision to walk away from the Mormon church, an institution widely known for its anti-LGBTQ policies and attitudes.
In an emotional Instagram post, Jacob wrote about the day he decided to no longer wear his “magic underwear,” which those in the church would call ‘temple garments.’
Noticeably clad in a t-shirt and briefs, Jacob said, “It’s been 12 years since I decided to stop wearing them, it made no sense since I was having sex with men which is a mortal sin against the Mormon church’s teachings.”
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He continued:
“The conscious decision to take my garments off was life-altering physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It was my last physical reminder, for good or bad, of my ties to childhood religion. It was liberating for my body to finally remove the oppressive clothing that insisted I always stay covered instead of celebrating the body God gave me. It was also liberating to eliminate the constant reminder of childhood guilt and trauma, like shedding unnecessary shame I’d been carrying for years about who I am and my God-given orientation that I can’t and shouldn’t change.
“It was a necessary step in overcoming years of conversion therapy that taught me I was broken and somehow God was suppose to fix me if I was righteous enough, an ever-moving impossible goal post. I shed the self loathing and disdain engrained into myself with a lifetime of being told I was the equivalent of a pedophile and a murderer simply for wanting the same love heterosexual people enjoyed so naturally in the culture at the time.
“Sliding into my sheets without any clothes the first night I felt freedom I’d never experienced before. I could choose how I presented my body to the world, not a corporate religious organization. It started a journey of loving my own body, embracing my flaws, of actually looking in the mirror and choosing to like what I see without guilt or forced “humility” which I now know was the quest for impossible constant perfection of body and mind. I began loving myself for who I am independent of a higher power’s approval or acceptance of my peers.
“Today with good and bad days but I am grateful for that pinnacle step of self acceptance. I’m grateful I took a chance stepping into the unknown discovering a life I never dreamed could be so fulfilling.”
Here’s some more from his Instagram:
Dick Gozinia
More power to him. It’s REALLY hard to grow up LDS and then walk away later in life.
michael_totzke
He needs to step away from the gym, IMHO …
sunonthehorizon
Whew, thankfully no one asked you. Most likely you need to step into one.
FlickaNash
Steroids is a helluva drug.
GayEGO
I was raised in the Mormon Church in Idaho back in the 1950s and there was too much negativity in their doctrines. The only good thing I learned from the church was a Teacher who said – “God gave us a brain and expects us to use it.”. I thought about it and knew there were so many great people out there who were not Mormons, why would God expect them to be Mormons. I left the church, went into the Navy where I learned about Gays, knowing that I have always been attracted to guys, and I met my partner of 57 years, married 15 years in Massachusetts, and we lived the American dream. He passed away last year and I am adjusting to being alone in our home.
jackmister
@ Gay EGO
Sorry for your loss.
j41005
I also was raised Mormon (in So. California) and then moved to Idaho. After moving I realized how wrong the LDS beliefs were and left the church. It was a difficult process emotionally and spiritually. Then later, after being married and having children, I came out (at age 50).
Today I’m happier than ever, close to my kids and best friend with my ex.
To any young people out there who are struggling, I know it sounds trite but honestly, IT DOES GET BETTER.
Kangol2
I’m sorry for your loss, GayEGO. Thanks for sharing your story and for your service.
SFMike
A true American hero. Thanks for sharing.
Inspector 57
Good for him for leaving the church.
On the other hand, his posts make him look like all the other narcissists that Queerty is so fond of featuring.
jackmister
Is that magic mormon underwear? Because he looks positively enchanting in in.
linedrive
No this would be the underwear he chooses to wear instead. The “magic” underwear is very conservative…pretty sure the bottoms reach almost to the knees.
j41005
The LDS “magic underwear” are similar to T-shirts and long boxer briefs (almost to the knees) but made of a lightweight material.
dougie
Even though they’re not Mormon underwear, he WOULD look good in them. Hell, he’d look good in any kind of underwear!
ptcruiser13
And with his handsome looks, killer body and ass like that… how could he not walk away.
shanfrina
… Welcome to our “Ex Mormon Gay Club!?!” There’s lots-of-Us, who escaped to much better Lives. It “Takes Time” to find a new, more Supportive “Spiritual Home!” Happy “Holidays 2020”
j41005
I believe there are more than we realize, both ex-LDS and still in the closet within the church.
barryaksarben
Im in my 60s and was young in the 70s in Omaha which always had a very large Morman presense and let me tell you we saw so many at the gay bars that we knew when a new season of missionary work had begun. I knew a few and they all seemed so messed up from it. One guy ended up murdering a guy he had been living with which was so sad. Glad this guy and others have found out in time
amanwithanedge
butt.
sillyme
@GayEGO,
I’m sorry for your loss, and also thank you for your Service at the same time. Glad your still with us…
Onecaddy13
I’m happy for you for finding your true self. Continue to enjoy sliding between those sheets without the unmagical undies. ENJOY!!!!!
rand503
I’m surprised that adults go through conversion therapy. I wonder if he was forced or coerced, or he did it hoping to somehow change. It probably doesn’t matter, but just curious. I can’t imagine going through such a horror.
Liquid Silver
Hello, Doctor, I’m ready to have my tonsils probed…
balttymore
He is so brave….if I didn’t know better I would think it was a thirst trap
RandomGuy
Too bad he became an A-Gay party boy there’s an entire thread dedicated to him and his thirst trap antics on a site called Datalounge.
bjpdx
Thank you for pointing this out. Douche is douche.
bjpdx
Poor guy. Out of the 16 million Mormons in the world, about a million of them are gay. Kinda like Baptists or Jehovah’s Witnesses or others. But he is special because he is hot, has party boy profiles, and worships his body. Sorry, but being a Mormon was not his REAL problem.
kevininbuffalo
If he were 60 and bald with a pot belly Queerty would never have run the story.
Sister Bertha Bedderthanyu
If you guys have the time go over on google or bing and do a search of Mark Hoffman and see how he scammed those LDS Church leaders with forged documents that were they real would have led to the end of that church. A damn salamander FISH talked to Joseph Smith in this letter and every damn one of those men whose church members believe that they are living saints believed the letter was real. Arguments were breaking out amongst the leaders themselves whether to go public with it. You would not believe how easily this guy pulled this off. I’ll let you read for yourself because you will swear on a stack of New Testament bibles that I am lying.
Oh, by the way, don’t forget that Mormon belief days that blacks were once a tribe of whites but they did “something” to offend god so bad he turned their hair coarse, darker their skin and made their lips bigger. I kid you not. It is in the Book of Mormon and if it has been removed that means they are once again rewriting their lies but it is in there because I read it for myself. I wonder if that offense was why three legs are generally common amongst……..let me shut up folks and just thank god for his MANY blessings that he allowed me to experience, especially the one he took offense to.
darkanser
Looking at him, I was half expecting to hear he had become a porn star.
Dunnedin
Sigh. Reading comments here (and just about all articles), the toxicity that the LGBTQ+ community faces from the hetero community pales in comparison. Which is one reason I warn those who are planning to come out to be ready to be attacked for what they wear, say, do, look like, believe…by members of the community they hoped they would feel safe in. There are sh*theads everywhere.
Extec
Leaving the LDS church is a difficult thing, and conversion therapy can bring a lifetime of trauma. Jake is way handsome, obviously smart, and he seems sweet and caring, If he’s not already married or partnered, some guy is going to be really, really lucky.
Way to go Jake! Sending you love and hugs,
Tombear
Marry me!
Minerva Pomerantz
In Las Vegas we get plenty of damaged COLDS flotsam that drifts down from Utah. More power to all our community who leave the miserable confines of this religion to begin the healing process.