Don’t knock it ’til you’ve tried it, you say? Well, these Redditors have tried it…
In a recent r/AskGayMen thread, dudes have been discussing the kinks they had until they actually tried it for themselves.
Among other kinks that couldn’t be worked out, commenters didn’t enjoy submitting to submission, found degradation too degrading, got pissed about waterspouts, and decided that the more isn’t the merrier when it comes to sex.
While it’s different strokes for different folx, there’s no kink-shaming here!
Check out these 50 shades of gay that didn’t live up to the hype:
Submission
“Being with someone overly dominant. Used to think I’d love it. Tried it and had the overwhelming urge to fight the guy doing humiliation or being rough. Decided I’m clearly the one not fitting here, lol.”
“I thought I liked being submissive. Turns out, I like being dom no matter my position!”
Degradation
“I bawled my eyes out when my dom said no one loved me and I’m just a tool to him. It was the worst sex I’ve ever had, and he was so sorry about it. Also, anything that involves pain, except for ass smacking. Tried to get whipped and flogged once, and let’s just say I really felt nothing.”
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Puppy play
“I was into the idea of puppy play for a while for myself [and] my partner. We both felt really ridiculous the whole time. I know you don’t always have to actually act like an animal, but even when we tried pulling back on the roleplay, we ended up just enjoying the things we normally did with extra steps. I like dog masks and stuff, but otherwise, I’m really not into it. I love to be pet though.”
Choking
“I thought choking sounded hot. Turns out, I don’t like doing it or even being choked.”
“I thought it sounded hot, too. And then I read how f-ing dangerous it really is.”
“Yeah, I tried it a couple of times, and within two seconds, I’m like, ‘How do people enjoy pretend murder?’”
Watersports
“It always sounded so hot in my mind but… just no.”
“The smell killed the vibes so hard.”
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Body odor
“I’m attracted to manly men, and I don’t know, just the idea of a masc dude ‘not showering’ for a bit [and] embracing his man scent sounded hot in theory. But I met a guy who didn’t shower for two or more days before we met, and it was gross. The smell burned my nostrils, the taste was terrible. I built everything up so much that I didn’t have the heart to kick him out, so I held my breath and half-assed everything until I got him to come and naturally exit without issue. I had to immediately wash my bedding. Call me stupid, I still believe there might be some enjoyment to be had from a guy who has been at work all day or just finished up a sweaty workout and hasn’t had time to bathe yet, but no more guys going more than 24 hours without bathing ever again.”
Group sex
“Group sex has been ruined for me by a bad experience. I’m sure under different circumstances it would have been more enjoyable, but now it’s just something I’m not interested in trying ever again.”
“Group Sex or even threesomes. Either I sense someone is being left out, or I feel left out myself. It just has never worked satisfactorily for me. I find the idea hot and can get off to it in porn, but in real life, no, thanks.”
“I participated in an orgy once. A friend wanted to, and he didn’t want to go alone. There was one guy who kept talking and talking and talking. ‘It sure is quiet in here!’ ‘You guys having fun?’ ‘Looking good, guys!’ He was like an announcer at a sports game. Dude, just shut up and let the rest of us have some fun!”
Rambeaux
Love the description of the blabber mouth at the orgy.
MSM
No Talking. except “oh yes” “deeper” etc. Moaning is, of course, permitted.
Chelsea21St
I’ve tried group sex a few times – it was always more about doing drugs than having sex. So haven’t bothered with it since.
ScottOnEarth
The group-sex talker is HILARIOUS!….especially, “He was like an announcer at a sports game.” Sounds like chatty-Cathy was the one being left out of the action.
missvamp
kink is def not for everyone. figuring out what you like & don’t like is very mature.
group sex is never what you see in porn- never.
barryaksarben
I found that WHO introduced it to you matters a great deal as to your enjoyment level. I found that. neither waterspouts or scat have zero appeal to me as I consider them excrements and not hot in any way. I have topped with waterspouts for guys really into it and it wasnt bad but I didnt enjoy it. some Dom with a guy I trusted and being submissive are both great if done right, group sex if the vide is right and no running commentary. again it always was who introduced things to me as I was open to most things
esrosejr
I dated a wonderful young man who did not “believe” in deodorant. I had never thought that pit odor was a belief but, well, there you are. Compatible in every other way, I just could not get past it. Maybe a bit of “he would not do it for me” in there but why not.
myloginname
I dated a guy who was into bondage. He handcuffed me to his bed and asked me if I was scared? I’m not much of a role player and told him the truth. I wasn’t scared and I knew I’d be out of these handcuffs within the hour because we had dinner reservations. Sorry Michael, you were still fun in bed regardless.
myloginname
EDIT Sucks when you go to stalk an ex lover online and instead of finding their most recent pics you instead find their obituary. RIP Michael
Jimthy
I enjoy the whole tie up thing ..tied to a bed and gaged while your partner is the boss. I like to be dominated.but just for fun.nothing violent and not into peeing on each other and group sex. Smack on the bottom is hot to..Everyone has their kink..and yes like one already said .find what works for you. And I have to be clean and my partner to..one guy had a smelly ass who I rimmed.oh disgusting. Never again.lol
storm45701
Threesomes are fun for me, but numbers beyond that means someone is getting left out. I love being dominated but not humiliated. And water sports (and scat) sounds absolutely disgusting.
RIGay
Back in the day (late 80’s / early-mid 90’s), I thought I would be into water sports, but discovered that I have a not-too-rare issue of blood in my urine. Tests and exams came back negative for anything. Medical opinion was “monitor”, that anything could cause it (exertion, strenuous exercise, etc.). But that scared the Hell out of me that I could have opened up that vector for possible HIV exposure with someone who was HIV+ and into the activity. I just lost all interest from then on.
Yes, urine is more or less sterile, better chance that any viral load would not survive in that environment, but hey. I survived that pandemic by taking precautions. I survived this recent pandemic by doing the same.