A guy recently asked “What killed your crush?” in the r/askgaybros subreddit, and the comments on the post — while occasionally superficial and biased — are good indicators of what would make a gay man swipe right. Here are some of the responses, ranging from superficial to super relatable, edited only for grammar…
“He went outside to smoke.”
“Him saying ‘No homo’ in a situation that had NOTHING to do with being gay. I’m convinced the guys who say it are closeted.”
“I realized he is not shy, just empty.”
“Being too involved in religion. Totally fine if you believe, but please keep it to yourself.”
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“I recognized that he’s straight. He’s still going to be in my mental spank bank, but I will not waste my thoughts thinking something else could happen.”
“Just overall boring conversation/him having no motivation or goals.”
“First high school crush, he got a girlfriend. Second one, I overheard him say, ‘He looks so dorky’ about me. Third one, high school ended.”
“Well… He told every classmate I was gay.”
“Turned out to be too bland.”
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“Sounds shallow but he aged badly in just a couple of years. He was a bi guy who decided to marry a chick and had a kid with her. I held out hope for two years, then I saw him. He put on about 60 pounds, lost some teeth, and was balding (not the good kind of bald). On top of that, I felt such negative energy coming from him. Gone was the hot, vibrant, muscular stud who made my blood rush to my groin. Now when I look back on my crush on him, I roll my eyes.”
What are some of the things that have killed your crushes? Share in the comments section below…
marcinmass
Teeth during oral
Unclean uncut dick
Too much use of poppers
On drugs
Grandolphrz
When he asks if I know a particular movie or something. Then I say I don’t know it, but he tells me anyway what he was going to tell me, even though I had no idea what he was talking about.
Hussain-TheCanadian
Let’s see……………….shallow, selfish, doesnt care about his fellow human beings, doesnt care about animals or the environment……….worships money, racist, bigot, uncultured.. …………mmmmmmmm……yeah that’s it
Goforit
Hussain…. You could have saved yourself a lot of typing and just said Republicans.
JerseyMike
I’m done with queerty.. 75% of my comments are blocked for not legitimate reason.. I don’t post comments about other posters.. I don’t post comments about ethnicity. I don’t use foul language. You have the same 30 people posting comments. Seem like you would want more.
Jack Meoff
That about sums it up which is why I barely post any more. The ones here who do are just bored and snarky and will attack you for your views.
Vince
Jack Meoff
You just attacked everyone for no reason and complained everyone is “bored and snarky”. I’d say pot meet your kettle.
dmanhart
JackMeOff: I think Vince just proved your point.
ShowMeGuy
He votes Republican with no concern about the quality of the candidate. Life is too long to deal with that kind of stupidity.
He smoked and actually tried to kiss me while still holding a ciggie in his mouth and since I have issues with drug addicts…..LATER ! ! ! ! !
CenterRight
What is worse than gays who are obsessed with sex and have the nerve to tell you that they are “horned up”. Gays who talk incessantly about sex and positions and how much sex they like. Gays who like to watch porn and are not embarrassed about sharing with you the disgusting porn that turns them on. Gays who still don’t wear condoms and insist upon unsafe sex. The list goes on and on.
Goforit
CenterRight…. Uhmm, you do realize that it is YOU that is obsessed with talking about sex. Just because you talk about it in a negative way does not negate that you are still being obsessive.
Cam
Hey, Butterwings,
If you’re going to pretend you aren’t a right wing troll account coming in here, you may want to at least FAKE being LGBT.
Lazy trolls siiiigh, I would think the RNC could find better.
1898
• heavy smoker
• inadequate hygiene
• wanted me to stop wearing deodorant
• alcoholic (and in denial about it)
• chest/back/legs covered in dozens of skin tags (yes this is superficial and I still feel bad about it but i just couldn’t get past it)
• boring / nothing in common
• fickle/flaky
• libertarian nutjob
• compulsive liar
Cam
Why would he want you to stop wearing deodorant??
iauajo
And then you came back to reality…………..
1898
@Cam because he had a fetish for stinky pits and other “man smells” as he called them. i’ve actually encountered a lot of guys who are into that. it’s definitely not for me
Prax07
My deal breakers in no particular order…
Tattoos
Piercings
Dog owners
Uncut
Hunters
Kids
Republicans
Guys in open relationships
HIV+ Guys including undetectable
Guys that PnP
Non-smokers
Brian
Who in the hell does that leave?
Aires the Ram
@Prax07: My oh my, you’d sure be a fun date………but good luck ever getting one.
Cam
@Brian
Closeted sterile Mormons with dog allergies??
Man About Town
Non-smokers a deal-breaker? That’s gotta be a first!
Invader7
@Prax07 : You need long term therapy STAT !!! Talk about issues. Who doesn’t like dogs has mental issues . You sound like a really miserable bloody wanker. I bet you’re a bitter, nasty old hateful queen.
Brian
I once had a guy that kept sticking his tongue into my nostrils while we were making out. The first time I thought it was accidental, but he kept doing it until I started moving my head so he couldn’t. That’s a fetish I don’t care to encounter again.
voyy
He married a woman his father picked for him and had a couple kids…that quashed an 8 year romance pretty much.
tjack47
Controlling
Abusive in any way
Selfish
I don’t have a type really. I do tend to like men who are big, but I like thin men to.
Pretentiousness
Condescending
Drugs or excessive alcohol use
Silent_Joe
* Doesn’t listen
* Rude to customer service employees
* “Trump 2020”
* Bullies
McCone2007
What should be fun hurt way too much. Leave it at that.
iauajo
McCone you need to be introduced to desensitizing sprays, they work wonders!
Bytemenow
Republican
Smoker
Excessive drinker
Illicit drug user (pot, opioids, etc…)
Poor hygiene
Arrogance
Constant negativity
Narcissist
Clingy
Doesn’t care about his appearance
There are a few others, but these are absolute for me.
david_warner
Judgy, shallow, bitter queens who care only about surface things and fail to see the person as a person.
Prax07
Well I do smoke, so whatever guy I’m into must be a smoker too. Not about to quit anytime soon either.
As for the other deal breakers…I live in a state where hunting is a big thing, which I loathe, so no to any guys that hunt.
Tattoos and piercings completely gross me out, so no to guys that have either. That goes for uncut guys as well, uncut just looks like a big worm hanging there. No thanks.
Can’t stand children, so any guys that have kids…just no.
Was attacked by a large dog when I was a small child, have never gotten over my dislike of dogs since. So no, dog owners are definitely out.
Republicans being a No should be self explanatory.
james7
Everything was good until the second date; when he showed up wearing a cheap plastic watch from Kmart. All through the date, all i could do was wonder: if he thought that was a good idea, would all of his ideas be as proorly thought out?
Goforit
Sounds like your date dodged a bullet by not having a second date with superficial you.
Prax07
Bitter, yup, miserable, yup, dog hater, definitely. They’re loud, smelly, aggressive. Nope, do not want.
Mojohood
Alcoholics, Moochers, Gays whose entire lives revolve around them being gay.
James
Cheap beyond belief. Took me to an all you can eat place. He ordered and told me I could go back for his seconds. Then to a movie where we waited at the exit until intermission so we could walk in backwards into the theater as though we were leaving and no one would notice our entry. Also he slept around a lot.
sweetnovember
You really had a bad date experience. Your tolerance and patience are strong.
EricRaul
-anyone “woke” or never shuts up about how much they hate trump
-says yaaas
-uncut guys that don’t keep clean down there
VaJohn
Wow, some pretty picky/superficial guys in here. I know we all have preferences, but seriously? I thought I was picky, but my tastes are comparatively catholic (small “c”). One guy I talked to (briefly) online once told me he thought I looked “really hot”, but couldn’t get past the fact I had a goatee. Since I thought he was hot, too, I said, “I can always shave”. He responded that he’d already seen my picture with a beard, so he just couldn’t. I realize he could’ve just been yanking my chain, but, if true, THAT is shallow!
BuzzyWuzzy
A lot of guys will strongly disagree with me and I’m cool with that, but TOO MUCH HAIR DOWN THERE. I wasn’t a fan of Bush in the White House and I’m not a fan of bush anywhere else really.