A Reddit user recently called for “Grindr horror stories,” and within hours, commenters had shared dozens of misadventures. After reading the thread — and wincing the whole time — we’ve chosen some of the best of the worst.
Cling-On
“I was talking to a guy on Grindr and pretty quickly switched over to text. After talking for only two days, he became clingy and I got such a bad vibe from it. I made up a dumb reason that it wouldn’t work out. He was devastated, tried calling my phone over and over, sent me voice memos of him crying, had two of his [friends] text me from their phones, and posted an Instagram story (which I only saw because one of his friends sent it to me) about how much he hated some shallow gays along with screenshots of our convo. It was literally a night from hell.”
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Misaddressed
“One guy gave me the address of another gay dude who wasn’t expecting anyone.”
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Friends Without Benefits
“Talking with a torso for a couple days only to realize it was a good friend of mine (with no chemistry). Super awkward for a while. But now we laugh about it.”
Catfish Car Ride
“Got into the car of a 53-year-old who just didn’t look like what I was expecting when I was 16. He was scary, and his photo was mad deceptive. Convinced him to pull over somewhere, and I ran home in the rain. I’m 19 now and it feels like it was a while ago so I might have been younger but I’m pretty sure I was 16.”
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Unexpected Watersports
“Put his d—k back in my mouth, and this dude started peeing. Gagged and nearly threw up right there … Noped the f—k out of there after that. Then dude says he wants to do this again. Like WTF. Moral of the story is I’m going to have to choose more wisely when it comes to Grindr.”
Gallows Humor
“My ex-boyfriend’s near-daily excursions on it behind my back? Knee slap, belly laugh.”
Chrisk
Yeah if somebody starts peeing when I’m blowing them you might come out missing a dick.
myrdraal2001
Not when they have to lie about who they are.
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
Had very excellent chats with very hot guy. Actually thought there was a possibility of sumthin more than just a hookup. Finally made plans to meet went to his house and the freaking crypt keeper answers the door. I thought little awkward his Great Grandpa was answering the door….I asked for Jason and he immediately went in for a kiss!! He “apologizes” saying the photos he sent were a “few years old”
Chrisk
That’s very Ageist of you. Old guys need love too.
Lobby
omg that’s a hilarious experience. That old guy is a creep.
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
ChrisK: If you are kidding LOL……
Brian
I am eternally grateful that I met my husband before dating apps became a thing. Dating websites were bad enough but the apps seem about 1000 times worse.
jim_allio
I’m an older gentleman but I do okay in general. However I have had some memorable Grindr shades. One guy responded to ask, “Ummm I thought Grindr had an age limit.” Another told me “I’m personally highly insulted that you even looked at my picture, let alone smiled at me. Please never click on my profile again.” I responded that all I had done was send a smile and he could have just ignored me, he unleashed a stream of profanity and vitriol and then blocked me. I was so … crushed? Nah, it was funny AF tho
iamru2
Wow your story tops the ones they posted which sound pretty tame!
PinkoOfTheGange
Many years ago, when I was a young queerling, my drag mama taught me that a smile is just a smile and hello is just hello. Be polite respond in kind because you are going to get old too.
iamru2
Lol the pic they used! That’s how I picture several of the trolls who come here saying how “outraged” they are because someone dare say something they don’t like or agree with!
Aires the Ram
Hmmm, I wonder if just turning your cell phone “OFF”, and leaving the house and going out in the world would be a decent way to not only learn how to socialize properly, but to actually meet people? Just wonderin’ here……..
woodroad34
Right? The thing most people forget is that with dating apps you miss out on the subconscious communication signals that people give off: body language, facial movements, attention spans, lingual inflections. Those things you tell you more than just reading words.
calpoidog
and I would add when you’re at the gym and there are a ton of hot guys around, you’d be better off leaving your stupid phone in your locker rather than walking around with your eyes glued to your screen. You people look like idiots and you sit on the machines too long checking your social media. Believe me, you’d look hotter (because you’d actually do your work outs) and you might even meet people (used to be the #2 meeting spot (after bars) before the internet)
Man About Town
I had nothing but horrendous experiences when I got involved with “online dating” ten years ago, so when apps came along, I thought, no way am I even gonna give ’em a shot. Thanks to these horror stories it looks like I dodged a major bullet!
woodroad34
Me, too. A woman friend of mine brought it into perspective that you can only tell something about a person in person and upfront–true they could verbally lie to you, but you will always catch the subconscious body language, eye contact, personality traits and verbal inflections you can only get by meeting someone in person.
jim2030
I responded to an ad and he gave me his address. When i came over, i couldnt find his house number so i ask him how. He told me that there was a white toyota corolla park beside it and the door was unlocked. So i went to his room and felt something was off but i still went to his room. Then i went to his bed but it seems like he was asleep which is weird since i just emailed him 5 mins prior to meeting him up. So i started feeling his bulge but it was soft, then it became a bit harder when i saw another person moved from the bed. I realize it was a female and i knew from then that i was at thr wrong house. The dude got hard and he got up but he was unable to see me because i was covered with his sheets. He must have thought he was dreaming or it was his girlfriend doing it. Anyway i run as quickly and quietly away from the house.
Ashke113
Anyone who has a “traumatic” experience on Grndr anymore deserves whatever happens to them. With all the bad stories, physical harm, deaths etc., that have been reported about Grndr members (or any site) yet guys are still stupid or desperate enough to get off, they’re only asking for it.