It’s a big day to be gay!
Within a matter of hour, California will begin issuing same-sex marriage licenses, thus making it the second state in the Union to allow queer nuptials. Massachusetts, of course, was the first, which means it’s a perfect time for the New York Times to take a closer look at the shocking reality of homo married life: it’s not all it’s cracked up to be!
Shocking, we know, but it’s a lesson we should all learn. Or, rather, should have learned…
While some couples bicker and fight, others are taking an “unconventional,” although not entirely surprising path toward healthy relations:
Eric Erbelding and his husband, Michael Peck, both 44, see each other only every other weekend because Mr. Peck works in Pittsburgh. So, Mr. Erbelding said, “Our rule is you can play around because, you know, you have to be practical.”
Mr. Erbelding, a decorative painter in Boston, said: “I think men view sex very differently than women. Men are pigs, they know that each other are pigs, so they can operate accordingly. It doesn’t mean anything.”
Still, Mr. Erbelding said, most married gay couples he knows are “for the most part monogamous, but for maybe a casual three-way.”
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While an intriguing look into trials and tribulations post-wedding living, the article doesn’t necessarily offer anything groundbreaking, but does include some interesting trivial tidbits:
Nearly two-thirds of the weddings have been lesbian marriages, including one between two women named Melissa McCarthy. And while nearly half of straight people marrying are under 30, more same-sex married couples of both sexes are older – nearly a third are in their 40s.
Lawyers say same-sex couples are more likely to draw up prenuptial agreements than straight couples are.
Ah, yes: that’s certainly a lesson we’ve all learned: nothing last forever, except your stuff.
Meanwhile, hats off to the NY Times for giving gay marriage such prominent placement in its venerable pages. Remember the magazine’s cover story on gay marrieds in Massachusetts: that massive group of under-30s who tie the knot, perhaps a bit prematurely?
ggreen
Leave it to the New York Times to pander to the prurient interests of its Staten Island and New Jersey readers. It’s like Jerry Springer does gay marriage. The two “gays†quoted in the story should be proud those intelligent and pithy quotes will forever be on the NYT web site to haunt you the rest of your trashy life.
Charlotte
Congrats to everyone in CA who’s about to tie the knot!! We just celebrated 4 years of gay marriage in Massachusetts. We just suggest that CA gay couples planning to marry chat with a lawyer or counselor & get the facts about your State’s marriage laws before making it legal. It could save you a lot of $$$ & grief in the long run. Check OUT our short on gay marriage: http://www.OUTTAKEonline.com
fermat
That article is so full of it, it should come with a shovel. What about all the “uncoventional” straight couple who have open relationships? I’m sure they are out there.
“…while nearly half of straight people marrying are under 30, more same-sex married couples of both sexes are older — nearly a third are in their 40s.”
Is that because gay couple are more mature and waited to see if their relationship would stand the test of time, or is it because they had to wait until it was legal before they could get married? Maybe they wanted to get married in their twenties, but weren’t allowed to do so 15-20 years ago?
Sorry about the vitriol, but the article is too sensationistic for my taste.
Mike
Every relationship is different. Each person should create the relationship they desire. If this works for them, who am I to judge?
rod townsend
Gay couples tend to be better educated and have more access (economically) than the larger population. If a comparison of prenuptial agreements arranged by straights of similar educational/economic, my guess is that their would be a flattening of the difference.
hells kitchen guy
The article was about as newsworthy as reading about different kinds of dog owners. Some gay couples fight and split. Some stay together. Some have open relationships. Some are monogamous. Some have arguments about children.
Yawn.
RPCV
I’ve claimed all along that the members of the gay community, oveall, are not sufficiently mature to deserve the privilege of gay marriage. Two faggots laying in bed: “Oh, come on honey, let’s get married. We can still trick around!!”
RPCV
Rod Townsend: You wrote: “Gay couples tend to be better educated…” Apparently you flunked out. You later wrote: “…my guess is that their would be…” I’ll let you scratch your head to find the mistake………
SeaFlood
RPCV, I find your first comment disingeneous. Marriage is not about “not sleeping with anyone else”. That is something heterosexual culture put on it, and for good reason. It’s all that really simplistic and annoying crap about babies and biology. However, child rearing is something GL people can choose to do so it doesn’t have the same anxieties tied to it.
With that removed, all we bear is the sentimental cross. However, GL couples have a long and beaten path of being unconventional and testing what brings two (or more) people to pair(or more) bind. Thus, members of the gay community, especially those who create relationships that cater to the needs of the individuals within it, are more than sufficiently mature to “deserve” the privilege of marriage.
Perhaps, some members within our community should explore their own self-hatred and discover the ways in which is has been projected onto gay communities. Gay people “deserve” marriage because we all deserve to have relationships that are in the open, recognized, and as boring and mundane as anyonehet.
And then… THEN… we get to do boring and mundane in our own way.
crazylove
Somewhere around 70 percent of heteros in marriage cheat. That’s the result of polling data. Thus, why people should ignore RPCV. Bitch doesn’t know what she’s talking about when she’s on that crack.