A Reddit post has gone viral and prompted hundreds of comments after asking gay men what gay stereotypes were relatable.
“What is the most accurate gay stereotype?” was posted in the popular ‘AskGayBros subreddit.
Of course, nobody should be reduced to a stereotype, and we’re all a whole lot more complex than that. However, that said, the responses came pouring in.
The most-liked response? Apparently, “Walking too fast.” This prompted a few witty responses of its own, including, “Gotta make up for all that time wasted in the closet…”
Even those who face physical challenges could relate.
“I use a wheelchair, and this applies to me too. I get so desperate when I have slow people in front of me and I can’t pass them,” said one user.
The next relatable stereotype? “Terrible sitting posture,” said one user, earning nearly 600 upticks. “Can’t sit in chair right” also scored highly.
“Half the time I’m slouched so low my tailbone is almost hanging off the edge of the chair,” agreed another commentator.
One less controversial ‘stereotype’ suggestion came with, “gay guys like to have sex with other men”. One person labeled that, “The only true gay stereotype.”
Fourth on the list was: “Being at least slightly more sarcastic, sassy, and/or passive-aggressive than the average straight guy.”
Some wondered if this was a response to being bullied when younger or deflecting negative attention.
“I feel it’s cultural. When I stop hanging around with gays who behaved like this, I stopped being like that. I think also maybe … quick wit is one way shut down high school bullies with unoriginal group think comments,” pondered one responder.
Another person theorized that “most gay guys are horny af,” with another pointing out that, “Statistically gay men have way more sexual partners than straight people. The US average for heterosexuals is still seven.”
Other suggestions included: “Iced coffee”; “Being obsessed with female singers or drag culture”; and “gays don’t know cars. My Uber could say to look for a Toyota Corolla and I might as well be looking for a semi-truck without more information.”
All of the above seemed to score points for relatability among other users. This prompted debates about nature vs. nurture.
“Reading most of these, I think many are developed by gay culture and groupthink and not by being just gay,” argued one commentator.
“If you stick a bunch of people together and there is a bunch of unwritten code a lot of things will come out. I think this is especially the case with ‘gays are bitchy’, ‘gays are fashion victims’, etc. The fast walking one I can’t explain though, that’s definitely me, long before I knew any other gay people.”
None of us want to be reduced merely to stereotypes or portrayed using tired old tropes. However, some gay guys clearly see patterns of behavior among their peers.
So… are you a walking, talking gay stereotype, or do you mostly buck the trend?