Queerty is better as a member

Log in | Register

Gay Partners Of Over 60 Years Die Within Two Weeks Of One Another

It’s a classic New York City love story: a ballet dancer meets an actor/photographer, they fall in love, and move in together. But in this case, it was nearly sixty years later till they could get legally married, because they were gay men.

The dancer was Shaun O’Brien, who died on February 23 in Saratoga Springs, NY. The photog was Cris Alexander, O’Brien’s partner and husband who died March 7, just two weeks later.

Writes the New York Times:

When same-sex marriage became legal in New York last year, [Cris Alexander] married Shaun O’Brien, the celebrated character dancer with the New York City Ballet. They had been together for more than 60 years and died less than two weeks apart…

“If there is a cause of death, it’s a broken heart,” his friend Jane Klain said in confirming Mr. Alexander’s death. “It’s as simple as that.”

While their deaths are certainly tragic, reading their obituaries shows they lived very full lives. And it seems that they had an ample share of their golden years together, both having retired in the 90’s to a Victorian mansion in beautiful Saratoga Springs.

On:           Mar 26, 2012
Tagged: , , ,
    • Charli Girl

      Thanks to Guvna Cuomo this young couple were able to “justify”
      their love. Now if there are any bigots in the family they won’t be able
      to treat their estates as if they were ” roommates”!!!!
      Now let’s go FEDERAL!!!!

      Mar 26, 2012 at 10:51 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • The Real Mike in Asheville

      I’m unsure why you would label their deaths as tragic?

      Life ends with death, it is as natural as growing first. These two gentlemen lived full and loving lives, survived homophobia, ignorance and HIV/AIDS, shared love and pain, and togetherness of 60+ years. And that they, along with many others, able to share and cherish one another in matrimony, it is all a thing of beauty, not tragedy.

      My hubby and I are at 26 years, sure hope we get 34 more years.

      Mar 26, 2012 at 11:10 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Benjamin Corsey III

      60 years That is AMAZING! I would love to leave this world in that manor. Closely following the love of my live on the ultimate adventure, the last one we as humans experience.

      60 Years! That seems more real to me than my parents marriage that only lasted 19.

      Mar 26, 2012 at 11:43 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • RP

      It’s beautiful and inspiring..

      Mar 26, 2012 at 1:01 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Katie Murphy ex cath family

      Something similar happened in Calif. When gay marriage became legal a couple in
      their 80s as I remember got married. One died a few weeks later.

      Decades together and only a few weeks of being recognized as full citizens. Then came
      prop hate, courtesy of so called xtians whose culture gave us slavery, the KKK and

      And the catholic church of the endless hidden molestation of children. Trying to hide their own evilest of crimes with a blitzkried of hate and demonization by the church and its german pope.



      Mar 26, 2012 at 3:51 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Frederick

      Beautiful story, may they both rest in peace.

      Mar 26, 2012 at 4:10 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Mikel D McGrew

      This is a heartwarming story and a lesson to all the people who believe gay and lesbian couples cannot have long term loving relationships. I pray they are together in whatever after life there is and perhaps they will encounter my late partner whom I still grieve for after six years.

      Mar 26, 2012 at 4:38 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Miguel

      B E A U T I F U L story :)

      Mar 26, 2012 at 5:35 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Frank

      The story suggests that gay marriage leads to death…they died soon after they got married..LMAO

      Just kidding…

      Mar 26, 2012 at 8:07 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • Curtis

      True Love

      Mar 27, 2012 at 12:00 am · @ReplyReply to this comment ·
    • bernard

      hi joseph and i have been together for 32 years this sept. so we you see we are out there and there are moor . thangk you bernard

      Apr 27, 2012 at 4:22 pm · @ReplyReply to this comment ·

    Add your Comment

    Please log in to add your comment

    Need an account? Register It's free and easy.

  • Copyright 2016 Queerty, Inc.
    Follow Queerty at Queerty.com, twitter.com/queerty and facebook.com/queerty.