We’re firm believers here in the ancient proverb that states “age ain’t nothin’ but a number.” Or was that Aaliyah?
Either way, May/December relationships are hardly eyebrow raising, but how would you feel if you were in your early 20s and your father only hit on guys your age? Your friends, even?
Related: Don’t Mind The (Age) Gap: Seven High Profile May/December Gay Relationships And How They Worked Out
The line quickly blurs.
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Such is the dilemma of one concerned Redditor, who recently sought advice from the interwebs.
He wrote:
“Sup bros? My dad is in his late 50s and he has a penchant for younger gaybros… And by younger I mean YOUNG… my age. I’m in my younger twenties. The other night we went to my friend’s restaurant. The owner is a good friend of mine who I went to grade school with…. My dad was hitting on him, hard. And it was making me feel quite uncomfortable. Apparently he goes to my friend’s restaurant a lot. I saw in his phone too he has all of these shirtless pictures of MY friend saved to his camera roll. This is really creeping me out. I also believe my dad has been helping out younger gay guys my age with college. I don’t know if they are having sex though. This is really concerning me and I don’t know what to do. I thought he was past his midlife crisis but now I don’t know what to think.”
We’d say Dad saving shirtless pics of your friends is a bit much, but maybe we’re just old-fashioned.
What would you tell him?
Christopher Malcovish
This is incredibly trashy; have some respect for your son.
Chris-Tyler Young
Then hit on guys his age and show him how creepy it feels to you.
Rich Penway
but how did his dad GET those shirtless photos of his friend??
Scott Stevenson
This kid sounds like a douchebag. Who cares what his dad’s type is?
And remember kids, you will get old someday too.
Tom Remillard
Sounds like something right wing would put on FB.
RIGay
To think that when I was that age, my biggest fear was to come home and find my 70yo dad in watching “Wheel of Fortune” in his underwear. My! How times have changed!
Derek Perron
It’s disrespectful. It would be creepy if it was a straight guy hitting on his daughters friends then it’s creepy here
bostonjd617
Again, another Reddit story, which means it’s more than likely completely fake. It can’t be checked. It’s like publishing a friggin rumor you read on the bathroom wall.
Why publish this? It only makes gay men look gross.
BOLOGNA!
Leonard Woodrow
Is this for real? Does this whining child not realise that many young guys are only sexually attracted to father type men, and have no interest in a same age relationship?
Grow up, boy … you are an embarrassment to your father.
redcarpet30
Daddy needs to do you the favor of keeping you out of his sex life. Other than that, he gets to hit on/date/fuck who ever he wants so long as they are over 18 and consenting. So get over it, your dad has a sex life.
bostonjd617
@Leonard Woodrow</a@Scott Stevenson: Frankly, I think the opposite it true.
I completely agree, age is not important, but it is the father’s responsibility to be respectful to his young gay son and to let his son explore his gay sex life in private. This is true to any parent regardless of their orientation/interests. It’s unhealthy and predatory behavior that obviously makes his son uncomfortable and who wouldn’t be. That should be enough.
This isn’t about May December relationships. It’s family business.
Jere
I’d tell this kid to mind his own business regarding his father’s romantic/sex life, but perhaps ask Dad to knock off the blatant flirting/hitting on/whatever with guys when he’s supposed to be spending time with his son.
Matthew S McCoy
i would be more concerned about the younger guys using sex to take advantage of his father than who his father has sex with. Age is just a number
JodyBoy
Young = Yummy
J.T.
What a brat.
SteveDenver
When your dad hits on your friends, tell him, “Stop hitting on my friends.”
If that doesn’t work: stop going out with your dad.
He’s like many men — gay and straight — who are older and hit on younger people. It’s none of your business if your dad is helping out young guys and having sex with them.
Merv
Are the flirtations welcome or unwelcome by the recipient? That’s the only question that matters, and the son didn’t answer it. If we could find out where the father got the shirtless pics from, that might provide an answer.
kookookachoo
Gosh, this hits me right where I live. I’m gay and in my 50’s and I like men in their 20’s as well. But I don’t have children. I would not hit on my children’s friends or the friends of some other young men that I may know. I know when men are attracted to me and that is the kind of man I would pursue. I’m experienced enough to know that some young men will hit on me. It works the other way too. lol. I want a man that wants to be with me and doesn’t need “convincing”. And there are plenty out there.
This guy’s Pops is too pushy and in the words from Harry Potter: “Bad form!”
Pyxy Dyxon
I think he should get over it one day he’ll be older too. I like the attention of older men, They also are usually better in bed more giving. the Daddies who keep in shape are really good at fucking
Matt1961
I’m 54, and my boyfriend is 24. My children are 24, 25, and 28. They don’t have issues with us, but I’m also not out looking to score with their friends.
The creepy factor having to see your parent date a friend, I can sort of see that, but to tell the father to “date men his own age” is a stupid remark that shouldn’t be given any attention in my mind. Age is just a number, love is love, it’s time to wake up and smell the coffee.
Jesse Cerna
I personally only date older men anyone above 40.i dont ask for money,anything between us its just us.i dont even care to ask or know anyting bout their family. Now these guys same for dad are taking it a bit far.i would talk to both and say yall need to stop youre hurting our friendship and father son relationship.
drivendervish
Dad should stop trying to pick up men in the presence of his son if that makes him uncomfortable and should definitely stay away from his friends.
Jay A. Scaramazzo
Gay. Don’t stop go.
Rob Fratt
Girls have been dealing with this forever. Do we really need to wonder why they do it? Lol
scotty
id say way to go dad! and tell the son to mind his business. im 51 and my spouse is 28.
bamboo_child
do you ever post any news that’s not stolen from reddit?
ramonromano
The son needs to grow up. My mum and I flirt with the waiters all the time. And If she was gonna screw one I’d be happy for her.
Timothy Herbert
kinda not his son’s business who his dad is trying to date or hook up with. no laws seem to have been broken.
Giancarlo85
Fake sorry. As everything else that is fake on that site.
Creepy seeing some old men trying to get with a guy that is young enough to be their son. A 20 or 30 year old age gap is creepy.
da90027
What a ridiculous stupid article…I should have cleaned the toilet instead.
Brian
Maybe he likes giving spankings.
Errol Semple
Intergenerational relationships benefit both parties.
DCFarmboy
Daddy’s paying for other boys’ college? There goes the inheritance.
Stache
He has a right as his son to be concerned. These guys are not hitting on his Dad. It’s a one way street and they’re using this lust for $$ purposes.
I’d be super embarrassed and very concerned for my Dad who doesn’t seem to relate to people his own age.
SonOfKings
His son is a hater. “Don’t rain on my parade.”
gaym50ish
Whether it’s “creepy” or not depends on whether the younger man welcomes being hit on by this guy. If he’s perfectly OK with the attention and the guy having his shirtless photos, or is even having sex with the older man, then there’s nothing “creepy” about it. And if the younger guy is really the son’s friend, he shouldn’t have any problem talking to him about his dad.
Giancarlo85
I’m sorry but relationships with big age gaps are usually a one way street.
Chris
Tell your dad how his behaviors made you feel and talk it out with him. We used to call it “communication.”
And no more snooping on his phone, email, or any other gay app he may have. You don’t want your privacy invaded, don’t invade his.
Aromaeus
I would just let him know that your friends are off-limits and you would appreciate it if he kept his predatory behavior to his own time not when you two are out.
Seriously I try to be open-minded but on this I can’t help but side-eye anyone over the age of like 50 who are intent on 20 somethings. As I’ve gotten older I’ve lost any interest in anyone under my own age. I’m only 25 and I’m still skittish about talking to guys under 21.
dannysax
Timing is everything. If one has a gay son, which I don’t, it’s not appropriate to hit on son’s friends in son’s presence. If for some reason, son’s friends show interest in son’s dad, and for the right reasons, then maybe issues can be resolved over time between the friends as an affair progresses. I and a few of my friends prefer younger guys, and most of my boyfriends have been 10 years or more younger than me. These relationship things have to handled delicately and communication is of the utmost importance. I have known an older straight man whose same-age gay friend got hit on by the friend’s gay son, and that was a sticky situation for sure. But I do not see age as a barrier when two guys like each other.
Ricky Cavazos
So? If he can get young **** then go for it! How many straight men the same age go for women the same ages as their daughters? Just look at the almighty Trump.
John Kuehnle
There is no difference, called a double standard
esemple
@Chris: Right on.
esemple
Intergenerational relationships are the best. Both people have something to offer.
Dag Espen Thygesen
grow up
Thomas Ryan
Haha go dad!
Stephen Meeks
And….?
Damon Strong
Is this one of those Reddit stories? Then it’s most likely fake. Reddit should be renamed “Fake-It”.
James Rumsey
As long as your an adult your fathers sex life is none of your business. Its not like your 12 and hes kiddyfiddling … jeez get a grip!
DavidIntl
The age difference really shouldn’t be an issue, and if he does end up in a relationship with one of the guy’s friends – shouldn’t he be glad to have a friend as a step-father?