On Monday evening, Utah Lt. Governor Spencer Cox spoke at a vigil honoring the victims of Sunday’s massacre at Orlando nightclub Pulse, delivering a touching speech that was even shared on Facebook by Philadelphia Democrat Brian Sims, who wrote “I have never been more impressed with a Republican elected official than I am today!… One of the most enlightened, moving, and substantive speeches about the aftermath of Sunday’s massacre and the role of legislators in condoning or condemning violence against the LGBT community that I will ever hear.”
Sims added: “This kind of response is exactly what advocates, activists, and our allies have been pushing for, for years. If we don’t allow our enemies to evolve into allies than what are we doing here? We need both parties to support equality if we’re ever going to achieve it. This is the future of the Republican Party that we desperately need today.”
Contrast this to the Texas GOP lawmaker who said Pulse wasn’t even a gay club, and Sims’ point is quite clear.
Watch the speech below, or scroll down to read his remarks:
Here’s a transcript, courtesy of KSL, worth reading in its entirety. As Sims writes, “If you read nothing else today, read this!”
Ladies and Gentlemen,
Thank you for being here tonight on this very solemn and somber occasion. I begin with an admission and an apology. First, I recognize fully that I am a balding, youngish, middle-aged straight, white, male, Republican, politician… with all of the expectations and privileges that come with those labels. I am probably not who you expected to hear from today.
I’m here because, yesterday morning, 49 Americans were brutally murdered. And it made me sad. And it made me angry. And it made me confused. I’m here because those 49 people were gay. I’m here because it shouldn’t matter. But I’m here because it does. I am not here to tell you that I know exactly what you are going through. I am not here to tell you that I feel your pain. I don’t pretend to know the depths of what you are feeling right now. But I do know what it feels like to be scared. And I do know what it feels like to be sad. And I do know what it feels like to be rejected. And, more importantly, I know what it feels like to be loved.
I grew up in a small town and went to a small rural high school. There were some kids in my class that were different. Sometimes I wasn’t kind to them. I didn’t know it at the time, but I know now that they were gay. I will forever regret not treating them with the kindness, dignity and respect — the love — that they deserved. For that, I sincerely and humbly apologize.
Over the intervening years, my heart has changed. It has changed because of you. It has changed because I have gotten to know many of you. You have been patient with me. You helped me learn the right letters of the alphabet in the right order even though you keep adding new ones. You have been kind to me. Jim Dabakis even told me I dressed nice once, even though I know he was lying. You have treated me with the kindness, dignity, and respect — the love — that I very often did NOT deserve. And it has made me love you.
But now we are here. We are here because 49 beautiful, amazing people are gone. These are not just statistics. These were individuals. These are human beings. They each have a story. They each had dreams, goals, talents, friends, family. They are you and they are me. And one night they went out to relax, to laugh, to connect, to forget, to remember. And in a few minutes of chaos and terror, they were gone.
I believe that we can all agree we have come a long way as a society when it comes to our acceptance and understanding of the LGBTQ community (did I get that right?). However, there has been something about this tragedy that has very much troubled me. I believe that there is a question, two questions actually, that each of us needs to ask ourselves in our heart of hearts. And I am speaking now to the straight community. How did you feel when you heard that 49 people had been gunned down by a self-proclaimed terrorist? That’s the easy question. Here is the hard one: Did that feeling change when you found out the shooting was at a gay bar at 2 a.m. in the morning? If that feeling changed, then we are doing something wrong.
So now we find ourselves at a crossroads. A crossroads of hate and terror. How do we respond? How do you respond? Do we lash out with anger, hate and mistrust. Or do we, as Lincoln begged, appeal to the “better angels of our nature?”
Usually when tragedy occurs, we see our nation come together. I was saddened, yesterday to see far too many retreating to their over-worn policy corners and demagoguery. Let me be clear, there are no simple policy answers to this tragedy. Beware of anyone who tells you that they have the easy solution. It doesn’t exist. And I can assure you this — that calling people idiots, communists, fascists or bigots on Facebook is not going to change any hearts or minds. Today we need fewer Republicans and fewer Democrats. Today we need more Americans.
But just because an easy solution doesn’t exist, doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try. The greatest generations in the history of the world were never innately great. They became great because of how they responded in the face of evil. Their humanity is measured by their response to hate and terror.
I truly believe that this is the defining issue of our generation. Can we be brave? Can we be strong? Can we be kind and, perhaps, even happy, in the face of atrocious acts of hate and terrorism? Do we find a way to unite? Or do these atrocities further corrode and divide our torn nation? Can we, the citizens of the great state of Utah, lead the nation with love in the face of adversity? Can WE become a greatest generation?
I promise we can. But I also promise it will never happen if we leave it to the politicians. Ultimately, there is only one way for us to come together. It must happen at a personal level. We must learn to truly love one another.
The Prophet Muhammad is reported to have said: “You will not enter paradise until you believe, and you will not believe until you love one another.”
Jesus said, “Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you and persecute you.”
Now, you know a little something about hate. And you know a little something about persecution. But you also know something about loving, blessing and doing good. What our country needs more than ever is less politics and more kindness. If nothing else, as we can see here tonight, this tragedy has the potential to bring us closer than ever before.
And so may we leave today, with a resolve to be a little kinder. May we try to listen more and talk less. May we forgive someone that has wronged us. And perhaps, most importantly, try to love someone that is different than us. For my straight friends, might I suggest starting with someone who is gay.
I leave you with the words of Lyndon B. Johnson. They were spoken at another very sad time in our history, the death of President John F. Kennedy. He said this:
“Our enemies have always made the same mistake. In my lifetime — in depression and in war — they have awaited our defeat. Each time, from the secret places of the American heart, came forth the faith they could not see or that they could not even imagine. It brought us victory. And it will again. For this is what America is all about.”
On behalf of the 3 million people of the state of Utah, We Are Orlando. We love you. And I love you.”
Billy Budd
If all republicans were like this, America would be a better place.
NH Mike
Wow.
GC1985
He has a good heart… But he should get on the lifeboat off the sinking ship known as the Republican party. Trump and about 95% of the entire GOP has gone insane. Jump ship. You can’t save a party of lunatics.
AzLights
Wow. Absolutely beautiful and touching. So many Republicans could learn from this man.
chris_clb614
Future POTUS. Too bad he’s not running now.
Malcolm Forest
Very fake. It is obvious he had some PR company write that speech for him and he chose to use this occasion to make some fake political statement. Did he write this speech himself and from the heart, of course frakking not!
What a disgusting, fake man.
I don’t even know who this man is, or what kind of political party he represents. I know he is a total user pushing this horrible event to try to advance his political career.
He is disgusting. What kind of person would use the Massacre to push his job forward? I am guessing this guy is just like Trump.
By the way, you Americans, BAN GUNS. It aint rocket science, you morons.
GC1985
I am not about to assume whether his intentions are genuine or not, but if he really wanted to make a statement denounce Trump and possibly leave the Republican party. One Ohio republican penned a letter slaming Trump. Sure, there is a possibility he did that because voters now favor his democratic challenger.
You can’t fix a broken ship with a bandaid.
SnakeyJ
@GC1985: I agree the speech was probably written by his people, i’m assuming he had input, but just the fact that he said this is amazing. I don’t think he needs to leave the republican party, this is the kind of person who can actually, make some changes. Many people like the Republican fiscal policies, but not their stance on human rights issues.. maybe this guy could become a leader that way?
Alistair Wiseman
@Malcolm Forest:
So you “don’t even know who this man is, or what kind of political party he represents”?
What, you can’t read? It clearly says “GOP” and “Republican” in the title of the post!
As for whether he wrote the speech himself; who cares? What difference does that make? He is the one that delivered the speech. Do you think he didn’t read the speech before he delivered it?
President Obama, on a regular basis, reads speeches that he did not write. Are we to believe they are not his speeches or his sentiments? Unbelievable
GC1985
@SnakeyJ: Their fiscal policies have been an absolute disaster. What is their to like? Most Americans certainly don’t. Tax cuts for the rich and regressive economic policies are what makes me hope the party collapses completely.
Obama is the President, alistain. Unlike Congress, he actually works everyday of the year.
Paco
All religions with anti-gay texts need to teach their impressionable flocks, the sane and the crazy of them, that homosexuality is not a sin.
The Republicans need to immediately stop pursuing all anti-LGBT legislation that continues to perpetuate the hatred toward the LGBT community.
Speeches are nice, but actions to bring about positive change are better.
SnakeyJ
@GC1985: That’s fine, you don’t have to agree with their fiscal policies, but others do. All i’m saying is that isn’t it better to compare Republicans and Democrats based on things like fiscal policy rather than human rights? If they can set that part aside, accept that all people are… people… then the debates can concentrate on what the population really thinks will make the country stronger. It’s better than constantly fighting if gays have basic rights. I’m just saying it’s a step in the right direction for the party, and not that the party is right for everyone.
Hun
https://youtu.be/xLqkizGtFo0?t=729
MikeColling83
Pretty words won’t stop bullets.
Kangol
I applaud his comments. I wish that he would either leave the GOP since he clearly stands against their anti-gay policies, OR that he would talk to his party and its new leader, Donald Trump, and tell them to stop the hateful, anti-gay, [email protected], classist rhetoric and policies.
Republicans have used anti-gay and hom0phobic rhetoric to win elections for decades now, and they are still doing it. Look at what they did in 2004, and then again in 2008, 2012, and 2014. They passed laws this year to strip away rights from trans and LGB people.
This Utah Republican should denounce such hateful measures, because the GOP party is aiding hate against LGBTIQ right now. One good speech does not change that fact.
misterhollywood
I’m not going to knock him. We need more voices like this on the right. I don’t care about his motivations. I care about the words and thier impact.
Me2
This was definitely a moving speech. But words mean nothing without action. If he’s truly been enlightened and really believes what he said, then it should easily be reflected in his future votes and activism.
Bob LaBlah
Not to get off topic here but why hasn’t that embarrassment to the community, the former olympian turned reality show trash queen, opened her mouth about this? I make no apologies as I ask this question and don’t really give a damn who is offended either. Feel free to ask who I am talking about if you are that stupid and honestly can’t figure out who I am referring to.
GC1985
@SnakeyJ: Oh baloney. The GOP is bad at fiscal policy and bad at a variety of other issues. You think I am a single issue voter? I care about a variety of issues and the GOP is a disaster. And Democrats do tackle the major issues. The GOP is horrible for the economy and most people recognize that. I would rather the GOP just disappear.
Zekester
I thought the speech was amazing and moving until I did some research and went back and listened again. When I listened the second time I noticed that he apologized for things he did as a child. He didn’t apologize, or even mention his anti-gay political record. He didn’t mention or apologize for endorsing Ted Cruz just THREE months ago and he didn’t say that he now supports gay rights, marriage rights or hate crimes law that he was very recently on record being against.
He may be changing but I’m not going to treat him like a hero or laud his courage or call him an ally until I hear him address his anti-gay political history and see that his ACTIONS toward the LGBTQ community have changed.
Daniel-Reader
What we need is an end to governments around the world that fail to protect human rights. We need politicians to stop making excuses for failing to protect other people’s human rights. That would be a good starting point.
Dave Downunder
The speech is incredibly eloquent and hopefully he really means it. I doubt that it will really change much though. It takes more than one politician to affect this level of change.
Mo Bro
@Malcolm Forest:
@GC1985:
I have to assume that anyone like you who expresses disdain toward someone like Spencer Cox who so compassionately reaches out to us is simply angry at life and is constantly seeking out something to make you feel remotely important.
Good thing you didn’t likewise possess so much mistrust of Obama when he evolved in our favor too, right?
onthemark
Some Queerty readers are profiting from gun violence, and don’t even realize it:
“If you have a 401(k) plan with Vanguard Group, in all likelihood you own gun stocks — and you’ve done well off it.”
http://apps.bostonglobe.com/graphics/2016/06/make-it-stop/
GC1985
@Mo Bro: He hasn’t really evolved. Try again. By the way, I wasn’t really attacking him.
drivendervish
Sorry, but one great speech by a republican doesn’t mean we want any of them elected anywhere. I urge you to read the republican platform, a platform that this guy would have to adhere to if he wants to go any higher in political office, and they all do. They would take away our right to marry. Yes, they want to repeal a right we already have. They want to kick gays out of the military again. I could go on and on but any member of the GLBTQ community who is thinking about voting for a republican should find out for themselves what the party is really about.
ishtarabz
Ridiculous. A Republican who had nothing to do wit the shooting apologizes but the Muslim community doesn’t. Yet the readers of this magazine for the most part are besides themselves over a meaningless, illogical stunt.
When will the Muslims apologize for their disgusting behaviour?
GC1985
@ishtarabz: When will you admit who you are and stop posting this republican apologist nonsense? Many Muslims have already apologized and expressed outrage.
And the shooter was a heavy drinker and a raving lunatic… Muslims aren’t supposed to drink.
Mo Bro
@ishtarabz: Why should they apologize when they have Barack Obama doing it for them?