Grown Woman Responds To Child’s Birthday Invitation: “I Do Not Believe In Your Lifestyle”

1606248_687528744623503_1301552983_o-360x238Have you heard? Seven-year-old Baldwin, NY resident Sophia is having an amazing tie-dye themed birthday party this weekend, and only the best of her bestest friends are invited.

Unfortunately for Sophia, Tommy will not be in attendance because his mother Beth “does not believe in” Sophia’s fathers and their homosexual relationship. So instead of politely declining the invitation, rancid bitch Beth decided to RSVP “no” with a hateful message attached.

As you can see, clearly scrawled across this adorable invitation to a seven-year-old’s birthday party, a grown woman wrote the following to Sophia’s parents:

Tommy will NOT attend. I do not believe in what you do and will not subject my innocent son to your “lifestyle.” I’m sorry Sophia has to grow up this way. If you have an issue or need to speak to me [she included her phone number].

We’d take the time to discuss the proper way to respond to an invitation, but this is probably a conversation best had between you, the outraged reader, and Beth herself. The radio station that originally caught wind of this story has openly published Beth’s number on their Facebook page, claiming she welcomes anyone who disagrees with her to give her a call.

And before we forget—happy birthday Sophia!

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  • Alexa

    Poor Tommy, having to grow up with that hateful bitch for a mother.

  • mykelb

    Serial Mom needs to call this woman and keep calling her until she runs screaming into oncoming traffic.

  • BlackHouston

    This is so tacky. Queerty, Is it fact checked? Lessons learned from hot mess Dayna Morales?

    if nothing at all, please take down this poor (bigoted) woman’s phone number. Yes, she’s a homophobe but I don’t think it will be of any help for our cause when her voicemail starts getting flooded with threatening calls.

    P.S Happy BIRTHDAY Sophia, rise above the haters!

  • Fitz

    @BlackHouston: I don’t agree. There should be a cost to being such a jerk. Eventually she will change her phone #, but you know…my mamma always taught me that there are consequences to your actions.

  • SteveDenver

    Bigots love to use children as human bludgeons and shields. I hope Tommy grows up rejecting her and telling her, “You made me miss the coolest party of my childhood!”

  • BlackHouston

    @Fitz: Vengeance is a dish best served cold. Even if the strategy is implicit, this lady will eventually be forced to confront her homophobic actions by the time this story finds its way across the cyber world. She is hateful to be a bigot but she’s a bigger fool to have targeted her rage toward a 6 year old. If gays justifiably go in on her, she’ll discredit it and possibly use it as a way to portray us as “militant” but the truth is we don’t have to go in on her alone. In fact, the point gets across even louder when homophobes are held account by their own networks of neighbors, families, friends, and our straight allies.

  • BrianZ

    @BlackHouston: Crazy Beth gave permission to the radio station to publish her number. Sooner or later, hateful people get what’s coming to them and sometimes they throw the door open and invite it in.

    I find it completely disgusting that this woman chose to address her hate through the children. I’m sure she considers herself a fine, shining example of a Christian: Wouldn’t Jesus be pleased?

  • Kieran

    Oh Beth….you poor dumb bitch.

  • Fitz

    @BlackHouston: I totally get where you are coming from. And I’m amazed that this is queerty and we aren’t calling each other names by now, lol. I still think humiliation is powerful as a tool. Yes– if some jerk calls and threatens her (and I am sure that there is one or two) then it allows her to just put us in the category of “threatening people”.. but there is a basic lesson to be learned that if you say hateful things, it will haunt you. It’s like the first law of surviving 6th grade or something. Say crap about me, and I will beat you to a pulp in front of your friends, throw your bookpack into the water, and make you limp home.

  • balehead

    Make no mistake…This is Child Abuse….

  • balehead

    it was Tie Dye party…maybe she objected to Hippies?…

  • balehead

    Social Welfare should be called on her…it was an act of child abuse she committed…

  • BlackHouston

    I hear ya and I agree that naming & shaming can be an effective tool. I just don’t see it being effective in this particular case.

    and I SECOND the praise in our people embracing a spirit of civility amongst each other. It makes no sense for ANY of us to be nasty toward each other in spite of our shared history of oppression. Cheers to creating a space for mutual respect, entertainment, and solidarity. Abrazos!

  • TheNewEnergyDude

    I can’t *wait* to call this cu*t!!!!

  • Bozen

    I’ve been coming to this site since 2007, during computers class, when I was a senior in highschool. Nowadays I rarely come here. This site is just as bad as all the other people they try to shame.

    Really Queerty? Leaving her number visible in the picture but blurring out the others?

  • Cam


    Oh give it a rest. This moral relativism is not just intellectually lazy, it’s boring.

    Do you know when gay rights started to get some movement? It was when people finally stopped being delicate little simps and actually started calling people bigots. When people stopped letting the “It’s just my religion” be an excuse” and when politicians got in the way like Barney Frank did for a time, just the fact that they were gay no longer shielded them.

    Beth made a point to not just block her son from attending this party, but went out of her way to specifically ruin the event, and harass the people holding it.

    She seems to feel that she has a great defense of her actions and invited calls. Fine.

  • dvlaries

    Pat Robertson, Brian Brown, Tony Perkins to Beth’s “rescue” in 3… 2… 1…

  • ImDaBeach

    Has anybody called this Trunchbull yet?!?

  • Tracy Pope

    Other gay and gay friendly media outlets have blurred the phone number because it was the, ahem, responsible thing to do. I think it’s more likely they didn’t want any type of backlash. Kudos to Queerty for not being the ones to cave like that. Nobody gets a pass for bigotry and hate.

    @ImDaBeach: Yes. Apparently she was expecting a lot of responses. It goes to voice mail and, being a Google Voice number, it’s capacity is massive.
    I wouldn’t be surprised if the right-wing media have contacted her wanting to parade her about saying we’re haters and there’s a war on religion/free speech/heterosexuals.

  • tthaw

    I just hope for his sake he isn’t gay – I can’t imagine how she would handle that based on this reaction. Poor kid indeed.

  • Poison Girl

    @BlackHouston: The woman who wrote the letter requested that her phone number be published claiming she welcomes anyone who disagrees with her to give her a call.

  • Poison Girl

    @tthaw: He is already what he is going to be. Can you imagine coming out to such a bigot? The reason this makes me so upset is that she didn’t have to reply anything. She could have just said no. I feel so bad for this child growing up in such a hateful home. Happy birthday Sophia! You don’t need anyone at your party who is a hater. I hope you have the BEST party EVER!!!!!

  • Poison Girl

    @BlackHouston: Oops, the above post was meant for Bozen, not you. Sorry about that! Clearly Bozen didn’t read that this bigot wanted her phone number posted.

  • Poison Girl

    @Bozen: Read the article! SHE WANTED her number posted. Good riddance if you can’t take the truth. This woman is a bigot who is a horrible parent and human being. She could have just declined the invitation, however, she wanted to spread the hate.

  • Poison Girl

    @balehead: I so agree and was just going to mention this but you did a fine job. I’m so very sad for her child. Imagine if she’d declined this invitation because the family was black. Tell me how well that would go over. Civil rights include sexual orientation. End of story.

  • masc4masc

    So these GROWN MEN decided to take a personal note and post it all over the internet with the woman’s telephone number? Both sides are evenly immature now. Too bad all this bitchiness is in control of raising kids.

  • Merv

    It’s sad that I have to wonder if this is even real, or a ploy for attention and money.

  • Nicodemus

    Is there a pool to put money into to rent them the biggest gayest bouncy castle EVAR?
    That would be cool.

  • Curtispsf

    Just gave “Beth” a call and left word. I didn’t yell at her OR make hateful comments to her. Just said shame on you for subjecting a 7year old child to YOUR hateful lifestyle.

    Oh yeah, left my number so “SHE/IT” can call me if IT has any issues IT would like to discuss.

  • Curtispsf

    @BlackHouston: Agreed. So I called her and, very calmly left word that she should be ashamed of using her child as a tool to bludgeon others. And told her she could call me back if she liked.

    I’m certain I won’t change her mind, but I used space on her answering machine. Now would ANONYMOUS or someone else get us her address, please. I think Beth wants delivery. I wonder if anyone delivers at midnight?

  • Respect4all

    @masc4masc: Bigots feel that they have a God-given right to spread their bigotry whenever and wherever they want to. They even feel proud of it. Why shouldn’t there be consequences?

  • Mfox

    LOL at this.. Dear straight woman (as I am straight)
    Gay people can not reproduce.. therefor.. us straight people created that gay couple. Please educate yourself and do not subject your child to your ignorant hatred.
    Man.. I wish and can only pray people realize its 2014..

  • pmck

    This was just found to be a hoax.

  • pmck

    DJ’s admitted it was a hoax

  • MiaMamma

    A total fabrication created for publicity and self-promotion. DISGUSTING. Why? Because there’s not enough *actual* bigotry and hate directed toward the GLBT community we have to MAKE SHIT UP?? I’m appalled. I hope the station fires these two as a demonstration that no one should be used in such a shallow, hurtful, calculated attempt at grabbing press and ratings. I thought this went out in the 80s with Al Sharpton and Tawana Brawley.

  • DShucking

    Yeah, hoax. But like any good hoax it was believed because it’s so easily believable.

  • DShucking

    @MiaMamma: Thank you for reminding us of Al Sharpton/Tawana Brawley.

  • MiaMamma

    I just sent an email to the company that owns the station demanding this pair be fired. If you’d like to weigh in, here’s the address: [email protected]

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