Since revealing he’s gay last week, Olympian dreamboat Gus Kenworthy has felt the wave of support that accompanies a high-profile coming out in 2015 — messages poured in congratulating his self-served eviction from the closet.
But while it’s a marvelous thing that there is so much support out there in the world these days, it’s the internet after all, and trolls are to be expected.
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Like one Prexton Vice (aka @MmmPrexton), who tried to throw a wrench in Gus’ good news with an age-old (read: tired) question — who’s the woman in the relationship?
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He posted his eye-rolling query on Twitter:
But Gus wasn’t having it. He fired back with the perfect response:
Elaborating on his decision to come out last week, the 24-year-old said, “Part of the reason I had such a difficult time as a kid was that I didn’t know anyone in my position and didn’t have someone to look up to, who’s footsteps I could follow in.
“I hope to be that person for a younger generation, to model honesty and transparency and to show people that there’s nothing cooler than being yourself and embracing the things that make you unique.”
He’s off to a great start.
h/t Attitude
SeeingAll
“Elaborating on his decision to come out last week, the 24-year-old said, ‘Part of the reason I had such a difficult time as a kid was that I didn’t know anyone in my position and didn’t have someone to look up to, who’s footsteps I could follow in.
‘I hope to be that person for a younger generation, to model honesty and transparency and to show people that there’s nothing cooler than being yourself and embracing the things that make you unique.’” Good for him. He seems like a pretty great example of a man. Tough, but smart and kind.
SeeingAll
Though for those that do have that “man/woman”-role relationship going on (I sometimes see it with lesbians), that’s totally okay too.
Michael Jarboe
I always responded by, “who plays it in yours?”
JaredNorthcutt30
This is homophobic? How retrograde is Queerty. Visit a radical faerie commune sometime, hun. And I’d extend the same offer to the naked snowboarder.
JaredNorthcutt30
And perhaps, the societal role for gay man means to be something more than “has a penis.” Witness the other Queerty articles. Perhaps, then, people will stop asking these pertinent questions
MinnesotaNotNice
Well played, Gus, well played indeed!
Victor Barry
Score!
Masc Pride
It’s inaccurate to call that tweet homophobic when a lot of gays DO emulate hetero relationship when it comes to gender roles. The guy asked a question, and Gus worded his perspective well (even if it was a little intellectually dishonest).
Desert Boy
Straight people can be so ignorant.
Desert Boy
@Masc Pride: Define “gender roles”?
I’m a great cook, I love to create delicious, interesting, ethnic meals. My husband HATES to cook, so he cleans up the kitchen. Does this mean, according to you, I’m the female and he’s the male?
My husband loves to vacuum, keeping a clean floor. I HATE housework of any kind. Does that mean, I’m the male and he’s the female?
I think your comment is stuck in the 1950’s.
redcarpet30
Hetero’s don’t even do the “man and woman” role play anymore. We don’t live in the 50’s.
I’m glad he’s having mostly success but TBH all this exposure is just making me depressed that I’ll never get any from him. Most excessively pretty people I can just ignore since they aren’t spamming all my news feeds.
Xzamilio
When a Lebron James, or a Derek Jeter, or a Tom Brady comes out of the closet, it’ll have more clout in the world of professional sports. I am not trying to diminish this man’s coming out journey, but any of you who are avid sports fans know I’m right. On a bigger scale, small or lesser known athletes coming out just don’t matter.
Gus8519
That persons ignorance is the perfect example of why you see some of the dumbest warning labels on things.
SeeingAll
@Xzamilio: I think it does matter, though. Actually a lot. Even smaller sports and smaller athletes break the stereotypes and garner more respect from the public. And that all trickles down into the public consciousness at large. Even Michal Sam, arguably not the best player in the NFL, still went further in football than a zillion other guys. I do admit one of the mega sports stars you give as examples would make even more of a difference, but still…. (My opinion only).
Xzamilio
@SeeingAll: I said on a bigger scale, it doesn’t matter… and it doesn’t. Michael Sam would have made a much bigger impact in the NFL had he come out after he had established himself as a force in the NFL… unfortunately, one could make the argument that he only got the attention he did because of his coming out before the draft. In the grand scheme of things, it is great, but I’m talking the NFL, NBA, and MLB. Yeah, there is the NHL and MLS, but it would be absolutely incredible to have someone up there that is undeniably the best and just happens to be gay.
Masc Pride
@Desert Boy: I think your comment is delusional, and you’re probably very eager to be outraged. Some of you love to act clueless when someone asks the type of question Prexton did. We’ve ALL seen gay and lesbian couples where we can even visibly tell who’s the “hubby” and who’s the “wife” (and fairly frequently). Butch lesbians love lipstick types and femmy guys typically gravitate towards alpha male types. It’s a thing. Let’s stop acting like it’s not a thing when a straight person acknowledges it. Queerty even had a story about hetero role norms in gay relationships not too long ago.
@Xzamilio: You actually have a point for a change. Especially since those aren’t just bigger names, they’re also very manly guy’s guy types. Whether it’s PC or not to acknowledge, some of those types coming out would definitely make a bigger and way more immediate impact than a twink skier that not many are familiar with. However, it would also have to be more than one in order to be more than just an exception.
Desert Boy
@Masc Pride: Like I said, you’re analysis is circa’ 1950.
Xzamilio
@Masc Pride: Oh, thanks. That means nothing coming from you.
CWM85
I don’t think this was homophobic, more like annoying and full of ignorance.
NoCagada
@Desert Boy: I have a feeling Masc Pride dresses like June Cleaver…just WAITING for Ward to take care of the Beaver…Probably clutching his pearls now
NoCagada
@Masc Pride: So, Oh, wise one (according to the self-legends you appear to idolize)…there are plenty of straight couples with “role reversal”…After you stop riding your pink panty knot, you can fill us in on that…
Giancarlo85
@Masc Pride: Mask pride back at it with his finest. Hopefully my post won’t get mass flagged again for calling him out on his backwards social views. No, you misinterpret what gay people mean. And your criticisms on gay couples is well noted. We get you don’t like certain gay people and want to degrade them.
It’s funny how you also come off as a misogynist at the same time.
There was absolutely NOTHING intellectually dishonest about what Gus said, and a great of intellectual dishonesty in what you just wrote.
“Butch lesbians love lipstick types and femmy guys typically gravitate towards alpha male types.”
This is nonsense though and couldn’t be furter from the truth. And a femme gay guy is still a guy. Great job on insulting femme gay guys and woman all in the same post.
Giancarlo85
Mask Pride thinks being feminine is inferior. This is both homophobic and misogynistic at the same time. He also confuses feminine gay men with women… which is quite frankly downright ridiculously ignorant. Feminine gay men are men. They aren’t trying to be girls nor are they trying to assume the role of females.
youarekiddingme
@Masc Pride:
You have NO idea what the idiot who wrote the twitter comment actually meant…
Did he mean, who does the masculine chores and who does the feminine chores (as you assume)? or
Did he mean, who is the top/bottom in the relationship?
Just so you know (since you’re probably not in a relationship), not every gay male couple engages in anal sex so the terms “top” and “bottom” don’t always apply.
You are horribly misinformed in the are of gay relationships and should probably attempt to find someone who will accept you so that you too can understand the nuances of a relationship for yourself.
Masc Pride
@Desert Boy: Your responses are full of denial. And like I said, this site has also pointed out exactly what I said more than once. I’ll try to get you some links.
@Xzamilio: You’re welcome.
@NoCagada: What?
Masc Pride
@Desert Boy: The site seems to block full links, so just C&P and then type in the Queerty site address before the backslash. Here you go:
/is-there-always-a-man-and-a-woman-in-sexual-relationships-even-when-its-a-gay-one-20100130
/do-gay-men-have-a-problem-with-gender-roles-im-a-masc-dom-top-who-needs-to-be-held-20150718
It’s clearly not just my imagination.
Masc Pride
@youarekiddingme: You have NO idea what my comment actually meant. The guy was asking the question in a general sense. There was nothing cryptic about it (at least for those of us that don’t go desperately searching for things to be outraged over). I already know not every couple is top/bottom, but lots are. You’re confused. Go back and read it all over again.
youarekiddingme
@Masc Pride: The guy was asking in a “general sense?” REALLY? How pray tell do you know that? Did you write the question?
If you weren’t confused about your own relationship (again, if you have one), you would understand that when you are asked that kind of a question it refers to who acts as the “feminine” in the relationship with regards to:
1. The “so-called” feminine tasks (cooking, cleaning, vacuuming, shopping, etc). and
2. The “so-called” feminine role in the bedroom…
Can you figure this out now or do you need a road map?
Witnessing your previous comments on other subjects I see how perplexing this subject could be for you to comprehend…
Giancarlo85
@Masc Pride: Actually it is all your imagination. You have no clue about feminine gay men and you equate femininity with weakness. I assure you… Feminine gay men are more courageous than a coward like you. And the fact that you equate feminine gay men to women shows how much of a bigot you are.
Masc Pride
@youarekiddingme: He wasn’t super specific, so that means he was asking in a general sense. However, if there’s no way to tell that he’s asking in a general sense, there’s certainly no way to know if anything malicious was meant either. You’re adding a whole bunch of extras–that the original comment didn’t include–just so you can be angry about something. Refer to the Queerty links that I gave Desert Boy. Queerty has acknowledged the part male/female gender roles play in gay relationships as well. You just want something to bitch about. Pop some Midol and call it a night. Not interested.
Rod Watkins
<3
Giancarlo85
@Masc Pride: Here he is… Making more excuses for bigotry and expressing his hatred for feminine men. The only gender roles in gay relationships are male male.
youarekiddingme
@Masc Pride: Oh yeah you fucking moron he was trying to be a nice guy by his comment….That’s how everybody took it!
Stop trying to empathize with some homophobic hater who had to write some trash on this guys twitter account.
I’m not going to “Refer” to any idiot links that you post. You are an imbicile who constantly posts anti-feminine articles so save it.
Captain Obvious
I usually don’t get caught up much in these types of articles, but this guy is genuinely adorable. I actually read his Twitter and I hate social media.
Masc Pride
@youarekiddingme: Replace that Midol with Prozac! No one’s “empathizing” with “some homophobic hater”. Stop being such a drama queen. Queerty has posted stories on the exact dynamic this guy’s comment was referring to, which is the real reason why you’re not going to look at those links. And please show me where I’ve posted all these “anti-feminine” article links. Since I supposedly constantly do it, it should be fairly easy for you to link back at least ONE. You’re clearly just mad that all your straw man arguments are failing miserably. It must really suck to be so angry about everything all the time.
Giancarlo85
Queerty has never posted articles on the “exact dynamic” of this guy’s comment. The comment posted was homophobic in its nature. Stop with the fem gay guy bashing. It’s getting quite hypocritical.
grayshade69
He don’t have to say a single word. He has some biscuits that I LOVE!! 😛
girldownunder
@Giancarlo85: Feminine & masculine do not = sexual gender– & this seems to confuse a LOT of people. But, it’s a bit hard to fault totally straight folks because they DO grow up programmed to see these aspects of a person as bound together as one.
So, when I hear that “are you the boy or the girl” question, I don’t take it personally & I don’t think the asker is “stupid” or “clueless”–> they’re just asking. I take the time to explain because every heart turned away from ignorant hate is one less to worry about.
Daggerman
..one of the strangest things about heterosexuals, is they always think that when your gay and are in a relationship with another man–which one plays the woman??? I mean how absurd can you become????
Joe
@Michael Jarboe:
I will remember that! Great answer to a stupid ass question. Cheers!!
Joe
Meant to mention, good for you Gus! Shut them trolls down. It is one of the insensitive and absurd questions I’ve personally ever been asked.
GayEGO
@SeeingAll: I remember back in the 1960s when I thought about a relationship with a guy and who would be the woman and who would be the man. Later I decided to just be myself as a man. My partner is a man as well and we have been together 53 years, married 11 years in Massachusetts.
SeeingAll
@GayEGO: Uh huh. Very Cool. But why are you telling ME this ?
SeeingAll
@Daggerman: But in a lot of cases they might not know any better, especially if the only gay relationships they’ve seen are ones where there really is that type of “man” “woman” role going on (which I think is the more uncommmon gay relationship yet it DOES exist).
youarekiddingme
@Masc Pride: Prozac..LMAO…Find a boyfriend yet? Thought not…nobody that desperate..
So you don’t like gay men who happen to be effeminate…Don’t take your prejudices out on everyone else.
I have no “hate,” just no tolerance for those who don’t treat us as equals. Regardless of mannerisms, behavior, sexual identity, sexual orientation, race, color, creed, religion or ethnic origin. We’re all human and deserve equal rights and protections under the law. Period.
The “slight” given by the bigot in the twitter article is another example of an asshole being an asshole. A legitimate (naive) question from a decent person (as pointed out from many here) is an entirely different matter and is handled/explained appropriately.
Stop protecting the bigot who was trying to be an ass in his Twitter Comment.
CWM85
Hi giancarlo85
Giancarlo85
@CWM85: Um… hi?
@girldownunder: I personally can’t stand the question. I usually respond “we are two equals”… and if they really get on my case I say “Maybe you should try to be an equal with your significant other or spouse!”
Mask Pride is a deeply closeted person who is influenced by bigotry and disgust towards feminine gay men. Feminine gay men scare him as they have more courage and tenacity than he ever will.
meghanada
Predictably, that Prexton cvnt is a fan of that crazy phobe Azealia Banks.
lykeitiz
I think his response was perfect, and people are reading their own views into it. I interpreted it to mean (without him saying it), that whether or not his partner was masc or fem, they would still both be men, and most importantly, which he did say, NOT trying to emulate heteros.
Masc Pride
@youarekiddingme: Well I’m not a 15 year old mallrat, so I don’t go around looking for a “boyfriend”. lol
I’m not “protecting” this person; he’s not in any danger. The kid who left this comment is probably all of 13. He’s long moved on, and you’re STILL crying over a flippant remark from a teenager. Even if he is the raging homophobe you’ve created in your head, you’re still the biggest loser here. Grow a pair, buddy!
youarekiddingme
@Masc Pride: You’re such a loser and soooo predictable!
I don’t even know you and I was convinced that you didn’t/couldn’t have a partner and guess what…I WAS RIGHT!!!
You and your “hand” have a wonderful weekend.