Once upon a time, Kris Saunders-Stowe was your typical gym-loving gay guy. He worked out several times a week, maintained a healthy diet, and never in a million years thought he’d end up in a wheelchair.
In 2000, he noticed some discomfort in his knees. He tried doing physical therapy, but the problem wasn’t improving. It wasn’t until he had to have his kneecaps taped in place that he learned he had underdeveloped muscles.
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“I found this bizarre because I was a regular gym person and I’d go to the gym seven to eight times a week,” he tells Gay Star News in a new interview. “I was very active and in very good shape actually.”
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As time progressed, the pain got worse. That’s when Kris’ doctors told him he had arthritis.
“The doctors said there was damage to all the heads in the bones of all the joints and all the kneecaps were damaged,” he recalls.
By 2008, he was in “constant, constant pain.” His legs would constantly give out and he developed painful growths on his joints. No matter what he tried, nothing seemed to be working to fix the problem.
In 2012, his partner Dean finally suggested he try using a wheel chair.
“My response started with an F and ended in two Fs (f*ck off),” he laughs. “Like a lot of people, you see a wheelchair as a very negative thing. That is how a lot of people see it.”
But as more time progressed, and as the pain intensified, Kris acquiesced and gave the chair a try. Much to his surprise, he actually liked it.
“It took all of the load off my legs and I was able to express myself again,” he recalls. “I got in the chair and I was free. Suddenly I could move at the same speed as everybody else, and I never looked back.”
Through it all, Kris says he never lost his passion for fitness. In 2012, he launched Wheely Good Fitness, where he offers fitness classes to people with disabilities.
“Most of the time, people think seated exercise is very gentle and low intensity, but this is actually high energy and high intensity,” he says.
The program has been a huge success.
“I’ve created a bit of a family actually, a family of monsters,” he says. “They come in shy, head down and six months later, they’re a monster.”
Kris’ offerings include seated aerobics, mixed ability classes, and even spin, as well as video workouts. His latest class? Dancing!
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“When I was a kid, I used to do ballroom and Latin dancing,” he says. “I was called a poof through school because of it and I didn’t even know I was gay then.”
So far, he’s been leading ballroom dance classes, but he hopes to incorporate more other styles and even plans on filming three wheelchair dance routines later this month.
“You can still dance in a wheelchair and express yourself,” he says.
h/t: Gay Star News
Zambos271
That’s great and really uplifting! I wish him and his classes much success!!
silveroracle
Such a handsome man.
Kudos to him for carrying on with what he enjoys doing.
Ive suffered from slight back and knee problems for years so I understand discomfort.
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Redmage
Good looking dude, probably a cool guy.. Sadly the gay community is so superficial, he’ll probably never get a date off of any of those apps.. Except from someone who may have a fetish about someone in a wheelchair or so.
calpoidog
A) If you read the article carefully he says he has a partner; b) there’s no mention of him using “those apps” C) your characterization of the entire gay community might be a slight over generalization; D) there’s someone out there for everyone (e.g., I used to love the craigslist ad I used to see in SF looking for guys with “a missing or deformed penis”)
avesraggiana
Man, this guy is everything – good-looking, kind-hearted, self-effacing, of service to his community and the world, and an excellent role model. Our gay community needs many more people like him.
Can any of this be said about the most riveting celebrities of our time – the Brainless, Self-Involved Kardashian Tramps? I’m still wondering what they’ve done to merit our attention.
Andy
I can relate with this guy completely. I was a gym enthusiast until toxic chemicals burnt my lungs to the point where now I am waiting for a lung transplant. I walk 2.5mph on the treadmill and get about 4 miles a day done. So I give him kudos. It can be done and its time for gays with physically challanged to come out of the so called closet. There are more of us than we think!
rodzilla
good for you andy! we hope u get your transplant soon! sounds like u got your work cut out for you but sounds like you’re the kind of man that can handle it!
Creamsicle
Good on Queerty for featuring someone sexy who is not necessarily able bodied. (although some of the maneuvers I’ve seen wheelchair users pull off make me feel physically inferior and uncoordinated). I remember seeing a news clip back in the 90s about a wheelchair basketball league called Murderball or something to that effect. It seems like it would actually be far more challenging than traditional basketball. This guy deserves a ton of respect for what he’s doing and how he’s helping others.
Brian
It’s a bit of progress for Queerty. But of course they had to taint it by having the headline be about his looks and not about the program he created.
Wheelerman
Kudos to him! I was left using a wheelchair many years ago due to an accident. My partner was a rock for me.
Believe me, there are guys who are looking for other guys using chairs. A community of devotees who love guys in chairs. I’ve met them.
Anyway, keep up the good work, Kris Saunders – Stowe! You’re an inspiration!
gravityyaoi
Do you think it was going to the gym 7 to 8 times a week that stressed those muscles and led to him being in a chair? I think that’s another check for people doing too much which is just as bad as doing too little.
dwes09
The article makes clear that the first diagnosis was incorrect and that the actual diagnosis was arthritis. That has nothing to do with the muscles at all. Given the extent of it, it seems likely that the cause is genetic or autoimmune disease of some sort.
Portland Bud
Kudos on featuring such a positive person. His taking a setback and forging his own way, that not only improves his life, but the life of others, is a real inspiration.
I usually read Queerty for the trashier stuff and have come away today feeling uplifted…..(Also got my quota of trash too…..Thanks!)
jhon_siders
Good for what he is doing ! Is he exploring replacements to get him back on his feet again ?? From all my years of heavy construction – truck driving and fighting oil/gas well fires and blowouts ive had a broken back resulting in a fused spine a pelvis issue that causes sciatica so bad I loose my right leg use I’m still working and getting treatment for it surgery is around the corner I could go on disability If you stop fighting you will go down hill fast get opinions and do not stay down!
SiamSam
Wow. Respect, man.
girldownunder
Wow
jhon_siders,
I have the exact thing going on now, post poor diagnosis after a MVA. Physio hasn’t done much & am on my way to yet another specialist to see what the options are (I’m not keen on a scalpel on my spine!).
Best of luck to you & thanks to Queerty to post such a great story! Keep ’em coming!
winemaker
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alanballs
Thank you Queerty for an inspiring, uplifting, positive story that includes one of our brave, compassionate, loving brothers.
Berkleyguy
This is always a question. I have a close friend who is sight challenged and it’s always been a debate as to when he lets a potential date know he uses a walking stick just for assurance. The guy is fully functional, smoking hot and from all indications is a romping fool in the sack. I advised him to leave it out of his profile and then find an appropriate time to out his so called “disability”.
jd.cali
Great article – thanks!
Redmage,
Dumba*** comment. You are the only one who is perpetuating the shallow image conscious gay community. Read the article before you comment.