Guys Reveal How They Really Feel About Open Relationships

Where do you come down on open relationships?

To some guys, they seem like an excuse to bail on commitment. For others, it’s the only way they can feel free to achieve emotional and physical fulfillment.

One thing becomes clear: There’s no ‘one size fits all’ when it comes to partnering up.

We wanted to hear what guys have to say about the topic when they’re free from judgment, so we asked Whisper to dig up some dirt.

Here’s what they found:

I'm gay and in an open relationship. My husband and I are cool with it. I couldn't be happier.

I have a very big sexual appetite and my boyfriend isn't really that sexual. I'm afraid I'll want to be in an open relationship soon and he won't, so we'll have to break up.

Gay men irritate me, they say they want a relationship but they can't commit to anything. where are the men who believe in monogamy.

I would like to try being in an open relationship but I'm not sure my boyfriend would go for it. We're gay.

Being gay is hard when all you want is a monogamous relationship and it seems like everyone else just wants nsa sex and you're not willing to compromise your morals just to feel wanted.

I'm a gay male who feels so out of place. I believe in monogamy and I feel like so many gays don't, why do I feel like I'm weird for wanting to be monogamous?

I wish I could find a gay man that actually wants a relationship... None of that open relationship bullshit...

Gay male monogamy is a myth. I've been married to my husband for over 2 years. Have had more partners in those two years than before I was married.

Being gay frustrates me. I'm the committed masculine type, but I can't seem to find the same thing. I'm afraid I'll always be alone.

I'm starting to think that as a gay male. Love and monogamy is something I won't be able to find.

I wish that the other gay guys I have in my life weren't so promiscuous. I crave some commitment. Is it that hard?

My bf sometimes annoys me because lately I haven't been in the mood for sex. I think it's becoming boring and I want an open relationship. We're gay and in our late 20s.

I'm a hopeless romantic who believes in monogamy. I wish other gay men were like that.

My secret is that I have really low self esteem. And I told my boyfriend that I was ok with an open relationship but I don't think I can ever do that. (22 gay male)

Why is it that every guy I have dated wants to be in an open relationship? Can gay guys not be monogamous?

I'm tired of every other gay guy I meet to just want to hook up. Yes, sex is great, but I'd rather have it within a committed relationship where the main factors are love and respect, not sex appeal.

I'm gay and in an open relationship with my bf but would like to try polyamory.

Because monogamy doesn't exist in gay male culture, I've accepted that maybe I will be forever alone.

I want to monogamous relationship with a guy, but I don't think it happens in the gay world

I'm going to ask my boyfriend to be in an open relationship so emotionally we can have each other but physically we are free.

I want to meet a guy but gay men seem to want nothing but sex and an open relationship... I will just stay single because I'm not about that life!