Anyone who starts using Grindr and other gay dating apps quickly becomes acclimated with the buzzwords — including “generous” or “gen only,” i.e. people willing to pay or wanting to be paid for sex.
But what’s it like to enter into such a transaction? One Redditor recently asked that very question, saying he’s always been curious.
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“I get ‘generous’ offers from guys a lot but I’ve never gone through with it,” he wrote. “I’m terrified of getting caught or it being a set-up. However, every once and a while, the offer is so much money that I’m very tempted. I would love to hear stories of people who have taken money and whether you think it was worth it.”
Other users had tales to tell. “Charged this one dude $100 for an hour,” one wrote. “Dude literally paid $65 for a cheap motel & he came in 5 minutes. … Easiest $100 of my life.”
Another said he became a financial dom. “I once did a findom thing with a ‘generous’ guy just to see what it was like,” that user wrote. “He showed up gave me 1,800 bucks and left. I’d recommend it to anyone.”
As for the generous types, one guy said he was offered a massage with a happy ending for $100. “He was a beautiful guy with a nice fit body and a kind disposition. I’m no great looker, but he seemed to be attracted to me, and we ended up doing a little more than he had originally offered,” he recalled. “He was very passionate and thanked me afterwards, and I very gladly paid him with a generous tip. … Overall, it was a great experience, but I won’t be doing anything like that again I don’t think.”
Another user entered into a strictly PG generous relationship. “Had a guy offer me 800 a week for a platonic month of just being there with him,” he wrote. “And going [on] cute dates. He was 28, which isn’t by any means old, especially because I’m 19.”
Other guys, however, warned their Reddit brethren about phishing. “Apparently, there are a lot of bots out there running this kind of scam where they offer to be your ‘sugar daddy’ so be wary,” one wrote.
“Yeah, they always hit me up asking for bank info, then promise me an obscene amount of cash each week by direct deposit,” another commented. “It’s ridiculous.”
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One guy, however, apparently crossed paths with a super generous fella. “Last week some dude Venmo’d me 100 dollars just because,” he wrote. “I was ignoring him and said I didn’t want anything, but he still sent me money. Thanks, kind stranger.”
It is absolutely ridiculous that prostitution is still illegal in most of the Unites States. If it were legal and well regulated then the majority if the issues (scams and health risk/safety risks) would be non-existent. It would have the added benefit of getting getting prostitution off of dating and hookup apps.
P.S. – This isn’t even a gay issue. Hetro dating apps are littered with the same thing just using different “code”
“As for the generous types, one guy said he was offered a massage with a happy ending for $100…. ‘I very gladly paid him with a generous tip.’”
A “generous offer” is 20% off a massage? You guys need to get out more.
Just call it what it is, prostitution. Calling it gen, or anything else is just stupid. You take money you’re a hooker.
The usage of gen or generous is because people can’t openly advertise sex work on apps like Grindr. The problem isn’t the people using code words its our weirdly conservative culture that thinks people shouldn’t be allowed to be sex workers. It isn’t even that we don’t think people shouldn’t be allowed to be paid for sex work. We allow pornography which is people being paid for sex I guess our objection is when one persons pays another, if you are paying to people to have sex while you film it then it is okay. Apparently the person paying can’t be directly involved in the sex or baby Jesus cries.
Clearly you think prostitution is a bad thing. All capitalism is prostitution to some extent.
It should be legal.
The scams were the worst in Paris when I was there over the summer. Scores of Arabs and French dudes wanting you to pay online first! Some even used the same photo. I’m from New York City. I just laughed at these idiots.
Most reputable porn companies provide sexual health care, and safe environments. Going to meet some random john for cash sex on grindr is dangerous in all ways. And would I date a porn actor? No, flat out No. Would I date someone that admits to ever getting paid for sex, flat out No.
With or without, one does not make it any more or less dangerous.
Guys that pay are usually less attractive than those that don’t,
If offered cash, yes, CASH, I’d do it. but I wouldn’t because I’m not a looker.
Oh please girl. Most porn actors and escorts are better looking than the general population. You’d be down on your knees in a New York minute. 😉
That might’ve been true once upon a time, but the quality of men doing gay porn has dropped drastically. There’s probably 1 attractive dude for every 10 duds.
@Catholicslutbox : isn’t that the truth? Over the past decade, the quality of men in porn – gay and straight – has declined significantly. Gone are the days of Jeff Stryker, Peter North, Mike Horner, TT Boy and Jack Venice. Those were the days.
Omg…Jeff Stryker…I’d still marry him in an instant today. He was my ideal man back in the day. You’d go to your local video store, go behind the curtain into the back room, and he’d be the center attraction on most of the vhs cases in the tiny gay section.
Being on those offers gentlemen of the world.
That’s bring not being
Bloody predictive spelling
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