Comedian Michael Henry is back on YouTube this week asking the tough questions about nude photo etiquette. Specifically, what’s up with guys who ask to swap photos and then don’t hold up to their end of the bargain?
On one side of the argument, Henry’s co-star Preston Sadleir asks, “Why should someone have to send you their nudes if they don’t want to? It’s his body, he’s allowed to change his mind. It was a ‘sexual situation agreement’ — you’re allowed to say no to anything you said yes to previously in a sexual situation.”
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“Are we really comparing this to sex in person?” counters Sadleir’s on-screen boyfriend, played by Mano Agapion.
“This is totally different,” chimes in Henry. “This grown man and I made a commitment to each other that we would equally share our nude pics with each other. So what? He’s allowed to have a nude photo of me but I can’t have one of him? That’s not fair.”
“If you make a commitment, you should honor it,” agrees Agapion’s character.
In the comment section, viewers sounded off on the debate.
“If someone doesn’t hold up to a private exchange with someone online/messages that’s very dishonorable,” wrote one commenter. “That’s the place that needs good faith and trust. One person gets something, the other person gets nothing, plus that nude is potentially always there. If someone did want to back out mid-exchange, that needs good justification. You can’t lead someone on just to stop without explanation.”
“Well yeah,” another viewer responded to the first comment, “but even if they do honor the agreement my nudes are still there for their use and them being respectful on how they use the photos is not a given. So although I do think it’s bad when someone doesn’t send back and it makes the other one feeling tricked and insecure, I understand the idea that they have the right to regret and decline if they see something they don’t like.”
“I just assume they’re not into me and move on, yes, sucks that they did not return a pic when they agreed to exchange, but yes they have a right to change their mind, again I just move on, their loss….and on certain apps a block means deletes my pics off there phone,” wrote another commenter.
coward, panderer, profiter, oppertunist and washover esoteric handwashing by posting a wink smile for your as message not even approving the comment. that is one way track narcisst propaganda for emotional economics. you are not that clever. you are not even pretty. do you think your is the only platform I can make this point? people are getting wise and you are cheap in so many ways.
reclaim the Scapegoat or remain lost in fake is.Real and Love is not pretending!
simple answer, wait for the requester to send their pics, if nothing, block, or just block those that send pics without any request. Having said that, there are plenty of profiles that say they accept NSFW pics then have a comment in their description of no nudes etc. Can’t have it both ways (unless you’re versatile).
Can we just stop for a moment and consider how completely weird it is to insist on seeing nude photos of someone before a hookup? In the good old days of pre-internet dating I don’t recall anyone saying “let’s see your junk first, or I’m going home.” When did gay guys get their priorities so utterly twisted??
Simple, Scruff allows you to send disappearing pics. The receiver is unable to take a snapshot of it with cell and it only lasts seconds. This way if they don’t respond in kind, block em and move on. It’s not that serious but I understand where they are arguing that the other person is not fulfilling their end of the agreement, You’re better off knowing before hooking up so that way you don’t get catfished
Who cares I love nude men and dick pics
What’s the point of sending nudes when you don’t even get non-nudes that aren’t filtered? It becomes pointless if your expecting it to represent reality.