A young filipino man was surprised when a guy reached out to him on Grindr… to chat. Not to hookup. To chat.
“He started sending me messages in August,” the man writes in a new post published by Gay Star News. “He initiated conversations with a ‘Good Morning!’ or a ‘How are you?’ and it was charming.”
The whole thing kind of caught the man off guard. Until then, he had only ever used Grindr to hookup with guys. Not to, like, get to know them. The guy didn’t even have any risque photos of himself on the app.
“With him,” he adds, “we didn’t talk about sex.”
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After a few months of chatting, they agreed to meet up. The man admits he was still unsure what the guy’s intentions were.
“Typical me, I asked, ‘Is this wholesome or a hook-up?’” he writes. “He said that he wanted to get to know me. Perfect answer, right? So movie date it was.”
They met up for dinner and a movie. Immediately, sparks flew.
“It didn’t take long for us to hold hands,” he recalls. “Anyone who saw us would quickly conclude that this was a date. Our body language was too obvious.”
Dinner was great. The movie was great. The conversation was great. The chemistry was great. Everything was great.
At the end of the evening, they kissed. He recalls the special moment in vivid detail:
We kissed. Lightly. Lips brushing lips. Our cheeks slowly and slightly rubbing each other. His face breathing on my neck. It was hot. But it was also sweet. It was coming from a space of deep longing. We aroused each other without going too far.
Then they said their goodbyes.
Even though they had met on a hookup app, the topic of sex didn’t come up once during the entire night.
“Perfect while it lasted, it was a reawakening of my body, of my soul, of my heart,” the man writes. “It was a series of good moments that allowed me to feel human and much of a man again.”
“I’ll let that one night, with that one man, stay with me this way. Ordinary from the outside, but magical inside. At least for me.”
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Brian
Seriously? This is worthy of a story? And we wonder why so many people think of us all as deviant whores.
Vince
I’d say most people care very little about gay promiscuity or monogamy. Trust me. It’s just you.
Juanjo
Seriously Brian? Can you really be that delusional?
Tête Carrée
@Brian
Who your mother?
We must not have read the same story.
iron
The most important message to me was A Bond was formed – is the result of earned trust
Brian
I guess my original post wasn’t clear. It has nothing to do with the guys in the story. It’s that apparently 2 guys meeting on a hookup app and going on a date instead of just having sex is so unique and shocking that it warrants an article written about it.
They went to dinner and a movie, held hands, had a goodnight kiss, and doesn’t sound like they saw each other again. Is there another point that I’m just missing? Or is the article just to trumpet the fact that 2 gay men did something just like regular people do?
Vince
and Danny595 of coarse..:)
Jaxton
This is a great example for men in general. Male-male romance is hugely under-valued in the West. Purity, chastity, reservedness – these are qualities worth investing in.
We have this ugly all-or-none approach to male-male interactions. You either have a platonic thing or a sexual thing – that’s a false choice that needs to be shamed.
Juanjo
Jaxton has his mother vet all his prospective dates and then accompany him as chaperone when the date occurs.
irbaboon
Well, you are just as pure as angel piss aren’t you Laura Ingalls
chris33133
Reads like an excerpt from a romance novel.
Tanengrin
I’d say rather like a Grindr add
OzJosh
This can only be an advertorial paid for by Grindr, presumably because they want to promote themselves as more than a hookup site. There is no other reason for it to exist.
chryso
Soooo…. he had a romantic date that went well and decided to not see the guy again ?!? HAHAHA No wonder some are desperatlty single !