If everyone is a little bit gay, and Harry Styles no doubt falls under the “everyone” umbrella, then Harry Styles has just said he’s a little bit gay.
The former One Direction heartthrob was giving the final concert of his solo tour in Inglewood, California over the weekend when he noticed a fan’s sign that read “I’m gay and I love you”.
In response, he said: “I love you as well, thank you for coming… and I mean, we’re all a little bit gay, aren’t we?”
He reiterated: “We’re all a little bit gay.”
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" We're all a little bit gay" – Harry Styles 2018.
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The interaction comes mere days after he paused another show to help a gay fan come out to her mother.
Styles, whose own sexuality is thought to be in the “fluid” realm after some song lyrics heavily suggested so, has not shied away from making his support for LGBTQ fans known.
For the record, the song is “Medicine” and the lyrics go:
“The boys and the girls are here, I mess around with them, and I’m okay with it.
“I’m coming down, I figured out I kinda like it, and when I sleep I’m gonna dream of how you tasted.”
Donston
I would say leave this young man alone and let him figure his life out. But it’s apparent he’s using his sexual ambiguity and connection to “queerness” to promote himself and detach himself from “heteronormalcy”. However, it’s unlikely that he has legit passion or romantic fullfillment towards dudes. Just one of those guys who might be turned on by individual body parts sometimes, which is very common stuff. If we accept that it’s very common it becomes easier for people to be honest with themselves and others.
I do however feel like this “everyone’s a lil bit gay” trope is driven from a hetero perspective. Because if most people are indeed at least “a lil bit gay” then most people are at least a “lil bit straight”. The “everyone’s a lil gay” trope allows gay/homo-leaning/trans-leaning people to hold on to a sense of heteronormalcy, or it makes them feel greater pressure to bi/fluid/pan/queer indentify when they know that they only have legit instincts, passions, fullfillment and contentment with one type of person. It also feeds into the idea that bisexuality/pansexuality/fluidity/etc. is modern, while straightness and gayness are basic and of old times, which in turn leads to more people claiming to be stuff that they’re not in order to be “cool” and can lead to greater gay shame or internalized homophobia or hetero worship.
There are some unfortunate rippling effects to these tired phrases and cliches that a lot of people, particularly people who live mostly hetero lives and have mostly hetero romantic and sexual orientations, don’t get.
radiooutmike
I agree with you. The whole “everyone’s a little gay” attitude is just a cover, a post to prop up their own sexuality.
Sure everyone’s a little gay, so I don’t have to deal with my internal conflict. Projection much?
Donston
Females are apart of my orientation. Hell, I masturbate to lesbian and trans porn here and there. But ultimately, I know that my substantial and sustained romantic, sexual and emotional fullfillment and contentment is same-gendered. And that’s pretty much all that matters.
If we want the conversation about the spectrum to be more mainstream and be more helpful then we need to stop continuously pushing tired cliches and phrases and actually have in depth discussion about people’s dimensions, instincts and internal and external struggles. Also, everyone needs to stop being so obsessed with feeling special or like a victim or trying to feel like they are a part of something.
some_charge
But females and trans are not a part of gay orientation, no matter how much you try to force it on us.
Donston
Prepare for a long ass response to a basic and short post.
I don’t recall saying females or trans people are apart of the homo orientation. They’re apart of my personal orientation, and I consider myself gay. To me (and to a lot of people) if a guy knows he wants to be with a guy and knows his overall fullfillment and contentment is same-sex then he’s gay. Damn all these rules. He may or may not be inherently completely homo, but to me you’re gay.
Do we want men to continue being scared of the word “gay” or be scared of the world knowing that they have overall same-sex fullfilments, or do we want rigid rules instead? Because the majority of famous gay-identifying men have admitted to having sex with women, having some type of sexual activity with women, having some type of attraction towards women or having had relationships with women. This would include Elton John, Ian McKellan, Neil Patrick Harris, Ricky Martin, Zachery Quinto, Colton Haynes and so on and so forth.
Based on some of these gay rules “mostly gay” and homo-leaning men are going to stay closeted, continue to delude themselves, continue to deal with self-hate and obsession with heteronormalcy or continue to say that they’re queer, bi, fluid, pan, etc. for the rest of their lives despite knowing they want a guy and can only be satisfied with a guy because they feel they aren’t “allowed” to say they’re gay. And we’ll eventually be down to less than 0.5 percent of men claiming gay.
So, people need to stop being obsessed with rules and plopping their own labels on people before it really comes back to bite.
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TomG
Try looking up and read about the Kinsey scale which shows most people are little bit gay.
some_charge
Gay men a gay. If females are part of your orientation (unless you’re a woman) you’re not gay. End of story. Lumping these “gays” with actual gay people is wrong like lumping “straights” who have gay feelings with actual heterosexuals. You are the one who tries to keep bi people in closet rather let them be themselves.
Donston
I’m actually inherently pansexual, not bi. And I’m also gay. I am however a lot more bi than a lot of people who say they’re bi. And I’m probably more homo than some people who say they’re gay. I’m a gay-pansexual. At least 50% of gay-identifying people are not 100% inherently and conventionally homo. That’s something that “bi pride” people as well as gay-identifying who are super protective of their identity are just gonna have to get over. No one’s taking gay away from me. I let people like you do that to me for years (particularly females). And once I realized there were tons of people out there like me, I refused to let that keep happening.
People who have legit sexual and/or romantic passion/desire beyond one gender should definitely fully embrace bi/pan. That’s not me though.
No one’s trying to force anyone in the closet. Your way of thinking is actually what keeps people in the closet. You’re the one trying to snuff out the spectrum and nuance for the sake of continuing to force people to fit into an old mode that’s no longer working. People are too complex for that. And words evolve. Sociology evolves. This evolution isn’t perfect. We’re in a very awkward stage right now. But the “new” ways of thinking and comprehending orientation is making it slightly easier for people to understand themselves, gain comfort with themselves and be honest with others. And ultimately, that’s what matters.
Lacuevaman
i think i may care “a little bit” ….. nah, i don’t give a flying f**k.
SpacemanSpiff
Yes I agree. Why is this on Queerty? And all the other non-gay-related Trump stuff? Can’t gays have a “safe cyberspace” not infected by poisonous partisan politics? We all know where to get our politics fix elsewhere online that caters to our own biases (sadly).
TomG
I presume that Harry heard about the Kinsey scale where most people have a little gay in them.
Tim
Kinsey scale. Google it.
Donston
How many times you gon’ mention the Kinsey scale? No one has to “look it up”, because it’s pretty old news at this point. Honestly, the Kinsey scale is almost useless at this point, because it was conjured in overly manipulative experiments and basic questionaires, doesn’t take into account just how wide and varied orientation can be, doesn’t include trans people, and it doesn’t reflect the rate of romantic connection/intensity. Also, you have some misinformation, because the Kinsey scale actually determined that most people were full on hetero, a tiny percent was homo and an even smaller percent were somewhere between that. Another reason why it hasn’t aged well.
My problem with the “most people are at least a lil gay” trope doesn’t have to do with disagreeing with it. It just seems like a very heteronormal perspective. Everyone’s obsessed with someone being “a lil gay”, but people who have unabashed same-sex leanings being “at least a lil’ straight” no one seems to care about. It just ends up coming off very hetero-worshiping to me. It can also be a copout for people who do have non opposite gender leanings to not have to confront it or be real about it because “everyone’s a lil gay”. The idea may have some truth, but it’s also a bit shallow, problematic and reinforces heteronormalcy.
Ultimately, beyond anyone’s scale or identity getting a full comprehension of yourself from a romantic, sexual and emotional standpoint is how you understand who you are.
Xzamilloh
Vagina doesn’t gross me out, and the two times I had sex with a woman, I didn’t hate it. I’m a little bit straight, I guess.
some_charge
You’re very much bi. That’s all.
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