SOUNDBITES — “Hey, remember when Barack Obama couldn’t get his tongue any further up our butts? … Ah, those were good times. … Anyone who wonders why I’m so down on Barack Obama — and have been for months — needs to meet my boyfriend: He supported Hillary Clinton during the primary, while I backed Obama. My support wasn’t passionate; I didn’t write Obama a check until after he clinched the nomination. During the primary I was fond of saying, ‘I’m for Hillary or Barack or both.’ But those facts can’t save me from the boyfriend’s wrath. I’m not to blame, he admits, but I’m handy. Barack Obama has been backtracking on his commitments to gays and lesbians since the moment he got elected, and someone’s going to hear about it. Might as well be me.” —Dan Savage on his “one-night stand” of passion with Barack Obama
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My boyfriend is certain that Hillary Clinton, if she’d been elected president, would have been a passionate, ballsy supporter of gay rights. “Don’t ask, don’t tell” would already be history, he insists, and it’s hard for me to argue. Not because he’s necessarily right — we’ve been betrayed by the Clintons before (Bill signed “don’t ask, don’t tell” and DOMA into law in the first place) — but because it’s impossible to argue with him about all the progress being made on the civil rights front in the parallel universe where Hillary Clinton is president. He can’t actually prove that things would be better under President Hillary Clinton, but I can’t prove things would be as bad or worse. All he knows for sure is that — seven months in — things are bad under Obama.
And since, um, Barack Obama won the White House by a single vote — mine — that makes me ultimately responsible for everything.
And that’s why I’m being so tough on the president. Not because Obama won the White House thanks to my vote (or check), but because I know that every broken or delayed promise, every weasel word that falls out of Robert Gibbs’s mouth at the daily press briefing, every shift from “end” to “change” is going to upset the man I married in Canada — where they actually don’t make a distinction from a constitutional or legal standpoint between same-sex and opposite-sex couples. And that means yet another argument about what could have been under Hillary Clinton.
Mike L.
Has it ever occured to ppl that maybe just maybe they have a plan far ahead from what we know. Get healthcare this year, do immigration nxt year when there will be elections where hispanics will be important (ofcourse we know reps will mostly be against and well they will lose a lot of votes b/c they’ll get racial not to mention how they treated Sotomayor) and once the Dems win more seats nxt year we’ll have a bigger majority to pass most if not all of these laws into effect including repealing DODT, DOMA, and many more LGBT rights, among many other things that they want to pass.
Just my theory.
Wayne
This one one of the best articles I’ve read by Dan Savage. Good for him to be able to admit his error and speak out loudly against Obama’s backtraking and betrayal of his promises to the gay community.
coco
Oh… here comes the racist Dan Savage. I can’t stand his fagly face on CNN. Hey Savage the black boy is the president, go chock on a tissue. And we have a wise latina in the supreme court!
wondermann
@Mike L.: I agree
Wayne
#3
I thought the article was pretty tongue-in-cheek but with a clear point of view. I don’t see where it would be considered “racist.” Was Mr. Savage a racist back when he was an Obama supporter during the election? Or is he only called a racist because he is upset with Obama’s backtracking on LGBT issues? Accusations of racism seem to be the default defense that Obama supporters immediately go to instead of actually debating the critics on the issues. And sadly, Obama’s actions as president have been a far cry from what his promises during the election led us to believe.
Aaron
@Wayne: Thank you!
Sceth
The actual article aside, the excerpt is basically Dan Savage calling his husband a nag.
DavidMichael
Bama didn’t say when he would deal with DODT, he just said he would. He has broken no promises. He has over 3 years left in this 4 yr term.
If it’s one thing he excels at better than most other presidents, it’s strategy. So lighten up, we’re a patriarchal nation that is slow to bed down with gay sex.
This gay fay panty bunching is out of place this soon after his elect and way too silly for words.
Tim
@Mike L.:
Sorry but I think this is a simplistic view. It’s pie in the sky to think the Democrats will pick up seats in 2010. More than likely we will lose some seats in both the House and Senate. Once that happens it is even less likely that GLBT legislation would be passed. Of course this will give the president perfect cover because then he will say sorry I’d love to get these things past but I don’t have the legislative votes. He doesn’t want to take a politic stand on GLBT issues plain and simple.
DavidMichael
PS You don’t actually think he is going to not sweep in the gay vote to boast his edge for a second term now do you? Paleeze.
Sam
Anyone who thinks Hillary would be doing more for us is half retarded. But we already knew this about Dan’s boyfriend.
Tim
@Sam: I think Dan’s point was we will never know because you can’t prove or disprove something that didn’t happen. The point he did make is while the president says lots of nice things about the GLBT community and makes nice gestures he has proven so far he doesn’t want to spend any political capital on GLBT issues and has so far fallen far short of the “fierce advocate” he claimed he was going to be.
TANK
Yeah, Dan’s too vulgar for me.
Bill
Anyone posting comments like, ‘they have a plan, we just don’t know it’ or ‘give him a chance, he still has 3 more years’ – you are clearly naive or under 25.
We’ve been used again, folks. Used. As usual. Look, I voted for the brother, too, but he used us. And our money. To win.
It’s not the first time. It’s not going to be the last time.
But if you are kidding yourself that Obozo has a magic trick up his sleeve, you are setting yourself up for 4 years of heartache and disappointment.
NO ONE but US will secure our Equality. NO ONE. It is solely up to us. And until we present ONE UNITED FRONT, ONE organization, ONE leader, we will not get anywhere. Harsh but true. All that these gay groups like HRC and their ilk are interested in these days are lining their own pockets with $$$ and making $$$ off of other people’s oppression.
Without a clear, strong person leading us, with so many groups all over the map, we can’t seem to agree on a single issue. Should we march, or should we not. Should we blah or should we blah blah blah…
Is it not clear by now that Heterosexuals have NO intention of doing the right thing and giving us WHAT IS ALREADY OURS? They are STEALING our RIGHTS from us. We must take them back. They are ours by birthright. We must fight. Literally. We must create civil disobedience. We must not run away from the violence THEY show toward us. We must meet force with force and we must stop being afraid to shed some blood for our rights. It is time for EVERY Gay American to ask themself: Do I REALLY want equal rights? Am I REALLY willing to put my life on the line so that future generations of Gay Amercians do not have to suffer at the hands of the very people who CREATED them. Until we grow the balls required to demand action and FIGHT, we will remain exactly where we are.
Where is our TRUE ‘fierce advocate?’ Where IS our leader? And why can’t Gay & Lesbian Amercians come together as a unit demanding that we will no longer accept that CRIMES that Heterosexuals are committing every day that our equality is denied. When do we seek reparations for the crimes that Americans carry out every single day by denying us what is alreay ours??? It is time for Gay Americans to understand that this IS and WILL BE a war. People will inevitably lose their lives in this one, as they did in the civil rights struggles of the 60’s. We MUST be willing to die for our rights. If equality is what we TRULY seek, we must be willing to pay the ultimate price for our future generations to avoid the pain that we have endured. Heterosexuals are DEMANDING this type of action, as we have tried peacefully to persue equality to no avail. Heterosexuals WANT this war. They have no intention of EVER ‘granting’ us equality, as if it was theirs to ‘grant’ in the first place.
They are commiting crimes against God and Humanity every day we are denied what is already rightfully ours. And we must not accept it any longer. We must acheive this by any means necessary. We must stop worrying about whether or not they hate us. They do. Who fucking cares. They always have and they always will. Who fucking cares. Why would we even worry about being ‘liked’ by a group of people capable of creating MILLIONS of Gay children, then spending the rest of their lives making sure those children are abused and mistreated. Really? We care about this group of people why, exactly? They care fuck-all about us. WE are on the right side of morality here. NOT them.
And if we don’t believe that in our hearts, they have won.
Mike L.
@Tim: @wondermann: Well I guess I’ll keep having hope, and you can just live in your despair. Even if the Dems lose seats I teh LGBT community wont stop pushing for our rights. Just b/c I have hope that what I said may happen doesn’t mean I don’t stop writing or calling my state reps and senators in the gov or the Pres for that matter. I hope you do write or call those that represent your state b/c thats the only sure way to make wave alongside demonstrations.
@wondermann: Thanks, now lets hope and be active in our communities to bring that change we need.
Quack
Gay rights or not, I thank God every day that Hillary Clinton was not elected. She would have done nothing for gay rights! Just look at her husband! We’d be sitting in the back of the bus for real!
edgyguy1426
Why would they have ‘a plan’ and not let us in on it? So they can finger wag & pull an “I told you so” later on? Well, thanks but we have SM for that. Yeah Tank, your too vulgar comment didn’t escape me ROFL.
And time is, well, time. Every day lost is another military career ruined, another pension lost, another half of an elderly couple will die because they weren’t able to tie the knot and receive legal equality for their relationship, leaving them in legal limbo and on and on.
Yes they MAY actually have a plan FAR AHEAD and you actually may benefit in the FUTURE, but tell that to the people like Victor Fehrenbach who lost a $50,000 a year pension and his career. Tell him it’s ok, because, maybe down the pike, things will get better.
Tim
@Quack:
I’m no Hillary supporter. I supported President Obama from the beginning because I knew the Clintons were the ultimate politicians playing every side. Unfortunately we are finding the same is true for President Obama give lip service to groups that supported you but do nothing to help them. In my mind he has become everything I hated about Hillary.
Mike L.
@Bill: Wow, well I agree with you on many points especially that we need to be more active and not be afraid to fight (even physically if it comes to defending our lives)for our rights as we have been for fear of the unknown, we really need one leaders with subleaders in case of any problems (we need to be active in our communities) except about the Pres. If after 2 and a half years he’s not done with DADT and DOMA and possibly given us equal marriage rights or atleast partnership rights with all the rights that straight people get when married then I’ll btch n moan like HELL!!!
If he hasn’t done anything by the end of his third term, I know ppl will get mad at me, I’ll still work to re-elect him (Covers self from scratches, hair pulling, and kicks maybe beating with giant plugs and such) the fight for LGBT people will not end if he does nothing, it will only intensify. But as an American who cares about not just LGBT Americans like myself but all Americans, I have the reponsibility to vote for him (depends on his overall performance first time around), I don’t want Sarah Palin, or Cantor, or McCain running our country b/c then we will be set back MORE! Just Remember Bush, and what his presicendy did to our Country.
Fire away btchs! I’d rather safe our country for 4 more years from the repugs even if I don’t get all my rights this time around.
BUT I’m VERY confident that that will not be the case.
I doesn’t take more that a few minutes out of everyone of our days to just call our reps’, senators’, governor’s, and President’s office to tell them, “hey, I support (or I’m against) such n such law and will be paying attention as to how -insert name- votes on it for future consideration” tada! done!
I hope I’m not alone on this, plus with every generation ppl more and more open to gay people’s equal rights dilemma so it is only a matter of time. Republican’s only choice in the future will have to support more moderate even “liberal” social issues such as gay rigths, or become a minority right-wing extremist party (I know they kind of are right now, but they will eventually drive more moderates on to a third party), and allow for the Libertarian party to take hold of their moderates. Time will tell, Dems and Libertarians may be the two majority parties in the future, both liberal or moderate on the social issues, but differing on things like government, law, economy etc.
LOL I have a very positive imagination for the most part, atleast I try not to be taken ahold to despair.
Mike L.
OMG my spelling is so horrible, I’ve got ADD pricks so sorry. I usually have tons of things going through my mind as I write.
Mike L.
I’m 24, it doesnt mean anything, don’t be so ageist.
Shelby
@Mike L.: you sound like a nice reasonable person.
Hominy Grits
isn’t Dan marvelous !! Finally some journalist calling Obama out as the bitch liar he is.
prissysissy
With language so colorful, it is difficult to take Mr. Savage seriously. Surely it would not have been difficult to make his point without having to use sexual terms.
Part of the problem for us is that we consider people like him to be a spokesperson for the LGBT community.
Wayne
@ Mike L. Isn’t there a saying along the lines of: The definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing over and over again but expect a differebt result.
Why would anyone keep supporting Obama for a 2nd term after he has proven that his promises to the LGBT community were just lies to garner votes?
Wayne
“different result”
Mike L.
Wayne apparently you don’t find my reason’s strong enough. I’ll keep fighting for my rights, and keep pushing the pres whoever he or she may be in the future, but if another Bush take hold of our country again it will not be b/c of my vote.
Anyway it’s nice to live in a place where we can have dif opinions.
P.s. Atleast I’m not advocating against my rights like a gay friend I have who doesn’t want gay marraige, gays being out in the open, or adopting, etc b/c he’s an evangelist. Sad story.
youcanthandlethetruth
@Wayne: Hey Wayne don’t get yer knickers in a knot.
If you think Obama isn’t pandering to homosexuals imagine how John McCain would have been?
The fact is that Obama has far more important issues to deal with, like the economy, health care, energy policy and two wars.
Why on earth should he waste precious time worrying about homosexual marriage and DADT when most Americans of both parties aren’t interested in either?
schlukitz
@Mike L.:
I have a friend like that…and he’s not even an evangelist! 🙁
schlukitz
@youcanthandlethetruth:
I like you much better when you are sharing yourself with us….
you know, like you did yesterday?
youcanthandlethetruth
@schlukitz: Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
I don’t see anybody trying to parody your relentless negativity and religiophobia.
Actually that gives me an idea…………….
Wayne
@ Mike L. I think putting your trust in someone who you has lied to you is just not smart. And voting for a politician who has not only lied to you but actively works against your rights like he did with that disatrous DOMA brief (which is still stands and remains the official Obama administration position)is just plain counterproductive.
@Youcanthandle….
Why? Because Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere. And If Americans don’t care about equality, then that is all the more reason to speak up and speak out and convince them to start caring. And if that means getting your knickers in a twist. Maybe you should try it.
Mike L.
@schlukitz: WHEN WILL THE SELF HATE STOPPPP!!!!! OMG I get very frustrated when we get on the equal rights issues, lol he gets pissed when people think he’s a dem for equal rights, really. He’s in denial.
youcanthandlethetruth-Exactly, or if palin had run things, Imagine Palin chosing a Justice, seriously, prayer in school, no pro choice under ANY circumstance, NO GAY RIGHTS WHATSOEVER, criminalizing gays etc!
There are still about two or three supreme court justices that mightstep down in the next 8 years! Three more! mostly on the “liberal” side! Can you imagine if there were no more “liberals” in the highet court in the Land?! What kind of things would happen!
Ppl stop being so gay centrist and look at the BIGGER PICTURE of things!
Wayne
should read: I think putting your trust in someone who you know has lied to you is just not smart
Mike L.
equal marraige is normal to me, in a few decades we’ll see that it will become normal, ppl will have to adjust.
Just like equla rights for blacks was hated back in the day, it’s normal now, ppl deal with it though many many still harbor anger and hate, it will happen with the LGBT community too.
The only thing that is permanent is change. Things never stay the same, things will get better then worse, then better it never stays the same.
Wayne
Gay Centrist? Why shouldn’t we demand our equality? No one else will stand for us. We are citizens and pay equal taxes (in fact gay couples actually pay more taxes yet recieve less access to the benefits of citenship than heterosexual couples)
Why should our equality come second to anyone else?
Why support a politician who lied to you and then put in effect a DOMA brief comparing your relationsips to bestiality and incest? I don’t see how anyone could support that. But that’s just my opinion.
Mike L.
@Wayne: Ok batman, stop being so pessimistic, I’ sure you’ve gone through tonse of things in life that have made you feel betrayed (which might be the reason you have for jumping the gun on your dismay that the pres hasn’t “yet” done enough for the gay community). Or you just have other issues with the pres.
Just imagine President Palin OMG the horror!
schlukitz
@youcanthandlethetruth:
I don’t see anybody trying to parody your relentless negativity and religiophobia.
Well, that’s my problem, you see? I just don’t have the guts to be a trailblazer like you and bring down social taboos.
I gotta hand it to ya.
You got big cajones. *Wink* *Wink*
Mike L.
I support full equality. You are jumping the gun, and prolly are very disillutioned. I have Hope he’ll do the right thing.
I will wait and see, It’s still too freaken early dude! Too early. Plus I would prefer he choose 3 more supreme court justices over palin, gingrisch, mccain, sanford, jet Bush, dingleberee (huckabee), etc see where I’m going?
The more “liberal” judges we have on the supreme court the likelier we will have our equal rights served.
Mike L.
OMG my spelling is so bad, lol, I’m writing too fast! Ahhh!
Wayne
Mike L. The whole “be afraid” thing didn’t work with me under Bush, and it won’t work for me under Obama. Palin is not running the country and right now, when it concerns LGBT issues (as well as a few other issues) Obama and his actions are quite SCARY enough. Maybe you should talk to some of the hundreds of soldiers who have had their careers ruined by DADT under OBAMA and ask them how scary their situation is right now.
Deal with the reality of right now. It’s scary enough.
Mike L.
2 redbulls, a coffee, and a on a a day wieghtsmart pill WITH Caffeine in the morning not so good when you wanna type well. lol!
Mike L.
Well, I’m afraid of most republicans anyway, don’t want to get beat up or my any rights that may have taken away.
Wayne you gotta calm down a bit, and be a little more hopeful for the future, and not get sucked into anger and despair so early in the game.
schlukitz
@Mike L.:
Just imagine President Palin OMG the horror!
You’ve just invoked Godwin’s Law. LOL
“Just imagine President Hitler OMG the horror!”
The fact is, Palin is NOT president (nor is Hitler)and that means that we are still living under some vestige of a Democratic Republic, which in turn means, that we can still free to express our thoughts, feelings and dissatisfactions and we are still free to criticize our President and our administration, if we so choose.
So, why are you telling all of us who do have issues with the current administration, to STFU and STFD?
schlukitz
@Mike L.:
Has it ever occured to ppl that maybe just maybe they have a plan far ahead from what we know.
Ah yes. The great “He’s got a plan ploy.”
And if it doesn’t rain tomorrow, there’s a good chance that the sun will come out! LOL
M Shane
No. 1 (et. al)· Mike L.
You ‘re right entirely! Perhaps, your age, not to say your intelligence, is an advantage; oftentimes the pretentiousness and self importance that can go with age are the stumbling block that makes some old queens unable to understand the logistics of a political process which is not at all easy. These folks are so self involved that they believe that health care, the environment, the war etc, should be sacrificed for a decided falure at their pueril wants.
COMMON SENSE SHOULD TELL ANYON ETHAT UNLESS OBAMA HAS SOME SUCCESSES at the issues that matter to most Americans; his constituency, he is crippled in taking chances with what most people consider to be “special concerns, no matter how important they seem in a relztive few peoples life.
Trust your judgement!
Wayne
Mike L. I don’t take being lied to lightly. Nor do I approve of anyone, let alone a president, equating gay relationships to bestiality and incest. And as I am ex-Army, his absolute cowardice on the DADT issue speaks for itself. I’m not pessimistic. I’m realistic enough to know that Obama and his administration is not the CHANGE he promised when it concerns LGBT equality. We were lied to. And that should upset everyone.
SM
You all make no sense. Onde day you are all saying that Obama did not speak out enough on LGBT issues during the Campaign and the next you get quotes from classy Dan Savage.
You can love Hillary but is she sitting in the White House? Obama BEAT her. Could Hillary have beat McCain?
Your ENDA fight is around the corner (trust me) is the LGBT community prepared for it? The Republicans won’t just lie in the corner for Dictator Obama.
Michael @ LeonardMatlovich.com
Unfortunately, the FACTS disprove the Obambots’ lies that Obama never made specific, timelined promises:
STILL WAITING…unless you consider a limp press release and a smile-and-run photo op with Judy Shepard placing “the weight of [his] administration behind” the bill.
STILL WAITING.
STILL WAITING.
Except for that little ole RAGING homophobic court brief DEFENDING DOMA…
Except for that little ole RAGING homophobic court brief DEFENDING DADT…
and continuing to discharge gays day after day …
and refusing to use his legal authority to freeze discharges NOW.
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youcanthandlethetruth
@SM: And if you win the fight on ENDA homosexuals will have even more special rights and privileges to add to their special status as a “protected class”.
Mike L.
@schlukitz: STFU and STFD exactly what I was trying to say all along, maybe if I had just said that, I wouldn’t have waisted all my time trying to explain my point. Just kidding lol.
Sam
@Wayne: Because, if you don’t and he loses, then every gay you meet for the rest of your life will blame you personally for him losing.
Believe me, I know. I spent the eight Bush years with every queer I knew telling me Bush was all my fault because I voted for Nader in 2000. I voted for Nader because I wasn’t going to vote for the same Democrats who fucked us with DOMA and DADT. I also became active in the Green Party and did organizing work for them because they were the only party to support full rights for LGBT people.
The gays on here bitching about Obama will be the first ones to slam you if you actually go out and try to support candidates or a party that actually cares about gay rights. In all my organizing work I was constantly torn down by queers who said that by helping the Greens I was really helping the Republicans and that I was responsible for Bush.
I voted for Nader in FUCKING CALIFORNIA. I didn’t help Bush win anything. I was trying to get our community an alternative that would actually fight for us. But again and again and again I was told that the community would rather keep getting fucked over by Dems than actually try to get something different.
I’m ranting, but it’s because I’m pretty sure the people on here bashing Obama will do one of two things come 2012: hold their noses and vote Obama or just stay home. Such a shame…
youcanthandlethetruth
Let’s face it, whoever wins the next election there aren’t enough people interested in so-called homosexual issues to make much difference.
Most Americans are far more interested in having jobs, raising their families and enjoying life.
And Americans vote against homosexual marriage every single chance they get. Even in California
Youcanthandlethetruth
@schlukitz: And my other idea is to start an Ex-ex-ex-ex Gay Group, to take all the repaired gays who have been repaired, but then recruited by a perverted group, but then again repaired, before being broken again, needing repair to be repaired again and…wait…..no, that’s right.
As a proud Born Again Christian, I can say, with all my vast knowledge of the Bible, such as in Luke 1:3-52….what? there is not Luke 1:3-52? Well, it’s in there, my pastor tells me so..I think it is in the section wherein heterosexuals who take out passages of scripture and toss them out there like so much meat from an animal, and then work it against a lot of folks who don’t know their scripture (OF which I am not one, because I went to Bible camp, and listened intently to everything told to me)….where was I? Golly, if you keep challenging me, I’m never gonna be able to save you guys or bash you…YOUR choice!
Where was I? Ummm….flattery is the sincerest form of flattering…no, that’s not right….flattery is the sincerest form of …um…
DUTTYBARB
I think what Youcanthandle the truth is trying to say is that imitation is not the sincerest form of flattery…though, God and Jesus, my personal Lord and Savior, both know (or would it be that they all know, because you have to factor in the holy ghost…or would it be that he just has to know, because they are all the same person or non-person? Oh…ooooh…my head just hurt)…..anyway, God Jesus whatever knows that I sure know about fishing for flattering, and I know that sometimes immitation is just the best I can get….
Youcanthandlethetruth
You’re right, DuttyBarb, and may I ask what you are doing a week from Saturday, and if maybe you would consider not shaving your legs between now and then? By the way, do you belch after taking in carbonated drinks? That would be a plus….
Anyway, DuttyBard got my point exactly! I guess what I’m trying to say is that flattery depends on how you wear a tutu, but that’s not all I’m trying to say.
I’m also trying to say that no one cares about you perverted people! NO ONE…you only represent 2% of the entire Population…and I know this, because Tony Perkins says so, and he is a Christian Hunk! What I wouldn’t do to look at him crucified and shirtless on a Sunday morning!
2% of you folks think that you can win some perceived rights?! HA! You at two percent, you were only able to win over another 46% of the voters in California, which only brought you to a paltry 48% of the voters…YOU STILL NEED TO MOVE another whole 2%, like that can happen—um, what? Oh..uh, well you moved then 46% of the voters who are straight and, OH NEVER MIND, if you believed in Jesus and the inherent word of PAUL, you’d get it!…and get the entire APA under your control will you? You couldn’t get the entire APA under your spell, well I know that we say you did, but you’re only 2 percent…wait, now my head is hurting, and I mean the small one that rests above my neck…what can 2% do anyway….2% can do nothing….gay marriage in MASS? Oh…um, bad example….O’kay, you silly little perverts, you’re only 2%, so you’ve won some rights, so what? So….wait…this isnt’ going well for me, so let me just call you Perverts one more time!
I’ve gotta run, my sister just walked by with another Bud, and she is libel to belch at any minute, and that alone brings immediate relief and gratification…she loves it when I stroke her armpits and call her by my new pet name for her, “DuttyBarb”
schlukitz
@Wayne:
Yep. It’s like the old proverb…
“If at first you don’t succeed, try, try, again.”
It’s just plain dumb to keep banging one’s head on the refrigerator door in the hope (faith?) that it will open.
The expression should should read…
If at first you don’t succeed, step back and take a good, hard look at what you are doing wrong? LOL
ifonlyHillarywaspresident
Dan Savage is right on the money as usual. Waiting, waiting, and waiting………………..for what? Maybe he will resign and hand over his office to Hillary so some serious work can be accomplished? One can have some hope no?
schlukitz
@Wayne:
And that should upset everyone.
It certainly upset me. That’s for sure.
I don’t like being lied to either!!!
InExile
@Michael @ LeonardMatlovich.com: The words just do not match the actions or the lack there of. Excellent article by Dan Savage.
schlukitz
@youcanthandlethetruth:
And if you win the fight on ENDA homosexuals will have even more special rights and privileges to add to their special status as a “protected class”.
And I cannot express the joy I will feel, knowing the anguish you will suffer as a result of it’s passage.
The Lord works in strange ways, his wonders to perform. HeeHee
InExile
@schlukitz: None of us like being lied to!
Youcanthandlethetruth
@schlukitz: So, I guess a date would be out of the question then?
schlukitz
@Mike L.:
Humor well received. LOL
Wayne
Actually with Obama’s poll numbers already starting to free fall out from under him after the Gates”gate” fiasco and the Healthcare debacle ready to drag him further down; I can easily see a scenario in which a Democrat could and should challeng Obama in a primary fight for the Dem. nomination (The Dems have proven that their own political survival is always parmount. If Obama tanks and is a drag on the party, they will jump ship to whomever they think will help them keep their jobs). It should also be noted that there was one Democrat who just recently got a higher voter approval ranking than Obama in the latest polls (it was Hillary Clinton) And with the huge voter dissatisfaction with both the Dems and The Repubs that I can see (not as easily, but still possibly) a real run by a third party candidate.
The LGBT voting block may yet hold considerable sway in the upcoming election.
schlukitz
@Youcanthandlethetruth:
@schlukitz: So, I guess a date would be out of the question then?
Only if you let me schnocker your sister. ;o)
schlukitz
@Youcanthandlethetruth:
Where was I? Ummm….flattery is the sincerest form of flattering…no, that’s not right….flattery is the sincerest form of …um…
You slay me, dude! Would that I could compose wonderful stuff like that. Keep it coming.
ROFTLMAO
InExile
@Wayne: I agree with your comments, with his poll numbers sinking like the Titanic we better start thinking ahead to 2012. Like I have been saying here all along, if he doesn’t start moving on LGBT issues soon nothing will happen. The clock is ticking and it is not on our side.
youcanthandlethetruth
@schlukitz: Why will I suffer if ENDA is passed?
It will merely serve to prove my point
It’s a farce when homosexuals whine about “equality” because they are already a “protected class” and will soon have a bunch more special privileges courtesy of ENDA.
schlukitz
@InExile:
@schlukitz: None of us like being lied to!
Yeah but, youcanthandlethetruth didn’t offer to let you boff his sister on the side, and then take it back, did he? LOL
youcanthandlethetruth
@InExile: Trust me, if Obama starts wasting time on homosexual issues his poll numbers will fall through the floor!
Normal people have far more important things to worry about
schlukitz
@youcanthandlethetruth:
It will merely serve to prove my point
Which is???
P.S. Be sure and give “Sis” my best, if you know what I mean. *wink* *wink*
schlukitz
@youcanthandlethetruth:
Normal people have far more important things to worry about
Yeah, I know. Like making sure the law doesn’t find out about their incestuous activities.
Not to worry, however. Your little secret is safe with us. ;o)
Youcanthandlethetruth
@InExile: And of course, when I say “Normal People” I mean people who dress like ponies and ask people to ride them in the confines of a specialized ranch where folks can go and do so amongst one another. Thank the Lord for my 4th wife, who introduced me to this place. Her name was Janice (I liked the way the second half of her name sounded), but in her former life, her family called her Bert.
Youcanthandlethetruth
@schlukitz: Again, just taking an informal poll, but what is the circumference of your fist? Just askin’
schlukitz
@DUTTYBARB:
and I know that sometimes immitation is just the best I can get….
And of course, we all know the old proverb…
“Be thankful for what you have.”
Even if it is nothing! LOL
Youcanthandlethetruth
@schlukitz: one more thing…sorry for the diversion from the topic, but Schlukitz, how do you feel about peeing on pastey guys who chant, “Hail Mary, mother of God?” I hope you condemn it, because Catholics are an occult, and you should only pee on Evangelicals
InExile
@schlukitz: Looks like YCHTT the converter is becoming the converted.
Michael @ LeonardMatlovich.com
Guys, playing ping pong with “he who can’t handle the fact he’s gay” only serves to derail the ACTUAL topic of the thread. Attention whores are attention whores.
Some 30 posts have been wasted on her so far when nothing anyone can write is ever going to change her self-loathing mind. You’re just throwing fuel on the fire of the arsonist trying to burn down the serious discussion; feeding the Net troll, who WANTS to be attacked [well, actually she wants to ________].
[img]http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_NUZ_fM-TQKQ/R1L0H2ZMDNI/AAAAAAAAEMM/KIpoox0hHnE/s400/CraigNotGay.png[/img]
Youcanthandlethetruth
@Wayne: You have to forgive my directness, but just like my handle says, “you can’t handle the truth.” The truth is that Xanex no longer works for me, my wife left me, and my sister is ready to break things off (worse yet, she shaved her legs last night!). I’m a bit cranky.
Youcanthandlethetruth
@schlukitz: I know you perverts love to just make sweeping judgements, but I have much more than your flattery! I have 124 cats, many…most….still alive in my apartment. And, I have my memories…I was littles miss Lima Bean when I was 4, and you can’t take that away from me!
Youcanthandlethetruth
@schlukitz: Oh…and I’m an Evangelical!
InExile
@Michael @ LeonardMatlovich.com: Leave Larry Craig alone, he’s a good christian.
Youcanthandlethetruth
@InExile: I can second that…I was actually on a lay over in Minneapolis. I had to use the restroom, and there was this tapping sound from the stall next to me. The tapping, I came to realize, was a perfect percussion reproduction of “Single Ladies,” by Beyonce–fierce Bitch that she is–and I only mean that in a Christian way. Anyway, it turned out, after we exchanged toilet paper notes, that the tapper was Larry–well, I call him “Master”–and I can say he is good…very, very good!
schlukitz
@Youcanthandlethetruth:
you can’t take that away from me!
George and Ira said it so much better than I can…
There are many many crazy things
That will keep me loving you
And with your permission
May I list a few…
?? The way you wear your hat
The way you sip your tea
The memory of all that
No they cant take that away from me
The way your smile just beams
The way you sing off key
The way you haunt my dreams
No they cant take that away from me
We may never never meet again, on that bumpy road to love
But Ill always, always keep the memory of
The way you hold your knife
The way we danced till three
The way you changed my life
No they cant take that away from me ??
@schlukitz: Oh…and I’m an Evangelical!
I love it when you talk dirty. ;o)
schlukitz
Correction: The question marks at the beginning and the end of the song lyrics were supposed to have been musical notes, but I guess Queerty’s protocol does not reproduce them as such.
schlukitz
@InExile:
@Michael @ LeonardMatlovich.com: Leave Larry Craig alone, he’s a good christian.
HaHaHa!
schlukitz
@Michael @ LeonardMatlovich.com:
Some 30 posts have been wasted on her so far when nothing anyone can write is ever going to change her self-loathing mind.
No way, Jose. I have had some of the best laughs in the last 24 hours than I can remember having in a month of Sundays.
And Lord knows, we could all use a good laugh, after all the shit idliketohandleadick has slung into onto these threads. LOL
schlukitz
@Youcanthandlethetruth:
With all due respect, the only thing Larry was Master of, was bullshit! LOL
Youcanthandlethetruth
@schlukitz: not all, Schlukitz, not all.
edgyguy1426
It’s very Twilight Zone-y in here all of a sudden. But at least the Evangelicals are proving themselves to be even nuttier than I thought! Aren’t they the ones that have rituals with snakes? Speaking in tongues? That’s what’s probably goin on here today.
youcanthandlethetruth
Took me a while to flag all those troll posts but I think I got them all for now.
Inlookout
Regardless of how wrong or right Savage is, how does it help the debate to frame it with such sexual innuendo? How are we to be taken seriously? Savage and Perez and those like them aren’t helpful. Frankly, most of the time when Savage opens his mouth in a televised appearance, I’m embarrassed. Sure, I enjoy his advice columns like everyone else… but does he have to carry over the same style when approaching important LGBT issues?
Also would you folks be turning on Hillary just as fast as Obama if she were president? Provided the outcomes thus far had been the same?
schlukitz
@Youcanthandlethetruth:
@schlukitz: one more thing…sorry for the diversion from the topic, but Schlukitz, how do you feel about peeing on pastey guys who chant, “Hail Mary, mother of God?”
As Harvey Korman said in Blazing Saddles…”Kinky”!
Given the penchant Catholics have for baptism and blessing themselves in “holy water”, they would no doubt, find themselves in Nirvana being peed on. LOL
And speaking of Harvey Korman, he’s a classic between Tim Conway and Harvey Korman that will have you in stitches. Conway is so hillarious in this, that poor Harvey can hardly keep a straight face throughout the video.
http://www.faniq.com/video/Classic-Tim-Conway–Harvey-Korman-video–The-Dentist-YouTube-6389,6,97050/user_recent
Youcanthandlethetruth
Ahhhh, Schlukitz, no matter how many “troll posts” I try to flag, you know that I will always want you!
Youcanthandlethetruth
OH MY GOSH, I can flag my own posts! Imagine that!
schlukitz
@Youcanthandlethetruth:
Re: Your post no. 75.
Neigh. Neigh. People dressing up like horses???
Say me it isn’t so!
Frantically clutching prayer beads:
“Our father who art in heaven…um…or is it Hail Mary, full of grace (oh no…grace is a lesbian?)…which one comes (OMG we’re talking about sex here?) first?
This is all so confusing for a poor, old, white, Christian, lady living on a fixed income in Bombay, India.
schlukitz
@Inlookout:
Groucho Marx was warming up a contestant on his TV show, You Bet Your Life.
Known for his sometimes sexual double-entendres a lady contestant got very upset over a comment that Groucho made and said…
“Sir, I don’t think that I like your innuendo.”
Never one to lose his cool or miss an opening for a one-liner, Groucho flipped the ash off of his cigar and replied…
“That’s what I always say. When money flies innuendo, love flies out the door.”
schlukitz
@Youcanthandlethetruth:
Ahhhh, Schlukitz, no matter how many “troll posts” I try to flag, you know that I will always want you!
Well, you know what they say? “Trolls of a kind, always look at someone else’s behind”. ;o)
schlukitz
@Youcanthandlethetruth:
OH MY GOSH, I can flag my own posts! Imagine that!
You’ve just found a way to fight fire with fire! *wink*
schlukitz
@edgyguy1426</
Do do do do
Do do do do
MackMike
@schlukitz: You sir arenot a of a kind, nor are you a troll!
schlukitz
@youcanthandlethetruth:
Took me a while to flag all those troll posts but I think I got them all for now.
Would you like to borrow my antique, hand-pump, sprayer and the can of “Flit” stored out in the garage? Seems like an appropriate product to use on a bunch of ungodly “flits”.
Shouldn’t be too much trouble to crank-up the Model A and move it back a foot or two so’s I can reach them on the shelf on the back wall.
Hope Jonathan Winters didn’t hear me say that. Maude Fricket would probably come after me in his defense.
schlukitz
@MackMike:
Thank you for your kind words.
I don’t know who is doing a parody on iwanttohandadick and PuttyPussy but whoever it it…he’s the funniest person since Tim Conway, Harvey Korman and Jonathan Winters. LOL
He brightened my day and my hat’s off to him. 🙂
InExile
@Youcanthandlethetruth: Shame on you for corrupting a good christian. They never do those types of things unless they think they will not be caught.
scott
Selfish people. 200 days. I think there are more pressing issues at hand, than our right to marry or dodt. I am confident our issues will be addressed in due time. This President is not like the others.
Stomping off in a huff because you didn’t get what you want, when you want it, is childish. Grow up.
Jaroslaw
I’m not throwing in the towel yet for Obama, but the campaign promises weren’t vague as [email protected] Matlovich points out.
And that defense of DOMA is just completely over the top. Did anyone read Joe Solomonese’s pretty scathing reply to Obama a few weeks ago? He’s pretty laid back, but that letter wasn’t.
Of course, as I’ve said a few times, often I wonder why I let any of this stuff bother me. It is not as if the right to marry would change my personal life at all! And even if “equality” happens at every legal level tomorrow, it will take decades to truly make an impact. Civil rights was 1964 and quite a few people are still racist, although less and less.
And no, I don’t think disagreeing with Obama or pointing out his failings automatically makes one a racist.
Phoenix (Plotting Anarchy From My Mom's Garage, We Got Kicked Out Of The Basement)
Obama has 3 more years to come through on his campaign promises. If he doesn’t deliver, he doesn’t get my vote in 2012. Simple as that. If the rest of the Democrats are too chicken-shit to stand up for what they promised, ditto for them too.
youcanthandlethetruth
@Phoenix (Plotting Anarchy From My Mom’s Garage, We Got Kicked Out Of The Basement): That’s OK Obama needs the pro-traditional marriage black and latino voters far more than the 2-3% of voters who have chosen homosexuality.
SM
@youcanthandlethetruth:
Oh lookie….
http://newspapertree.com/opinion/4117
YOUCANTHANDLETHETRUTH
@Phoenix (Plotting Anarchy From My Mom’s Garage, We Got Kicked Out Of The Basement): By the way, do you have the contact numbers of those in the 2 to 3 percent? I’m not asking for any specific reason, just, ah….curious…yeah, that’s it, I’m “curious” (not that I’d make any long term “choice” or anything like that–I’d just pass through town, rather than stay for any length of time).
schlukitz
@SM:
SM, thank you for that link. I’d like to shake that lady’s hand and give her a hug, were that possible.
Every word that she said, was right on the money.
I would like to write a thank-you note to this lady, but couldn’t find anything on Google except a reference to this video. Do you have any idea where she can be contacted?
YOUCANTHANDLETHETRUTH
@Phoenix (Plotting Anarchy From My Mom’s Garage, We Got Kicked Out Of The Basement): By the way, I just double checked my statistics. After looking at different sources, I see that Kensey estimated that at least 10 percent of all men were more or lest homosexual, while other data suggests that 6.8% of all males and 3.6% of all women identify as homosexual (this excludes those who are active in homosexual behavior, yet are unable to identify as such…possibly due to shame and societal pressure. I apologize for my previous error, I was pulling that Data from the NARTH website, which is relatively anti-gay, thusly biases its figures.
I am really so sorry for misinforming, and as a Christian, I should certainly know better. I think this has made me rethink my position.
Here is my new position: As a Christian, my own interpretation of scripture tells me that homosexuality is a sin–that is just my own understanding. Perhaps you have a different point of view. So, as an American Citizen, living in a pluralistic society, a free society, a society that recognizes all faiths, as well as freedom of expression and free association, I must relent in order to preserve this ideal of an open society that has made the USA a beacon of hope, liberty and a place wherein dreams can be realized.
This new found perspective renders my old ideas incompatible with my wish to be a better American; those ideals that limitted the liberties of a class of people and approached governing from a theocratic basis, I now see as anti-American and a slippery slope which places the freedoms of all at risk.
My humblest apology to you all.
InExile
@schlukitz: She is right on the money, churches do teach hate. What happened to love thy neighbor? Guess it is not very profitable.
youcanthandlethetruth
@scott: Scott thanks for adding a voice of sanity amidst the baying of spoiled brats.
There are far more pressing priorities for Obama, and far more votes to be gained by addressing those priorities.
youcanthandlethetruth
I see I have yet another imitator, how many is that now??
It only proves the old saying that “imitation is the sincerest form of flattery”
schlukitz
Yes, imitation is the sincerest form of imitation, no, that’s not right. Flattery is the sincerest form of imitation, er…sincerity is the most flattering form of flattery..umm, imitating flattery is the sincerest form of imitation…
Drat, this is so confusing. Someone really ought to write a book of proverbs. That would prove that they are really sincere in their desire to imitate flattery…umm…oh well, y’all know what I mean, don’t ya?
Shawn
@Bill: um…I’m 23 and have sent letters to both the DNC and to the President stating that until DADT is taken away, DOMA is nixed, and ENDA is enacted I won’t give another sent to them.
I also echoed to my local democratic party the same thing when they called here last night. I also have gone to the green party, who openly states that they support our cause (they, unlike the dems, have it in their platform, I read through both).
So please, retract your statement.
youcanthandlethetruth
@Shawn: Well Shawn it looks like the Democratic party will have to struggle by without another “sent” from you.
And good luck getting a “Green” President in the White House and a “Green” majority in Congress.
YOUCANTHANDLETHETRUTH
@Shawn: Shawn, what I meant to say is to “keep the faith!” Follow your conscience and your heart in terms of to whom you send your cents. A “Green Party” president may be hard to elect, and if there is a close vote, then be sure to use yours wisely.
By the way, I am so sorry for belittling you for making a spelling error. Like so many fundamentalist Christians, I tend to judge far too harshly. It is something you have to watch me on, and that you should not take personally. Your comments are most welcomed here.
YOUCANTHANDLETHETRUTH
@youcanthandlethetruth: “Imitation is the sincerest form of flatter,” indeed; but, does that apply when you immitate yourself?
SM
Obama is not going to wait years to work on LGBT issues and Congress won’t blow it off until after the midterm elections if you hold them accountable.
Obama and the Democrats might stir the pot for the upcoming elections but it won’t be LGBT issues. It might be the DOJ going after torture claims etc.
Obama may be a lot of things but stupid is not one of them.
youcanthandlethetruth
@SM: The American people are going to be very angry if they see Obama wasting time on these GBLT “issues” whilst millions of people are losing their jobs and houses and living without health care.
TANK
@youcanthandlethetruth:
Only if they’re already homophobic like you and SM, douchenozzle. See, douchenozzles like you make the claim that it’s either/or when that’s simply a false dilemma.
youcanthandlethetruth
@TANK: CAN-TANK-EROUS are you on here 24 hours a day?
Is there nothing else happening in your life?
TANK
@youcanthandlethetruth:
Are you? Ah, hypocrisy, it’s just for sociopaths (though, I wouldn’t be surprised if you were one).
InExile
@TANK: Funny how the right wing religious fascists always think there are more important things to do than legislate equal rights for gays, they did the same thing to African Americans. Having someone to attack and oppress makes them feel important and morally righteous.
TANK
@InExile:
But they don’t really believe that. There’s nothing more important to them than their bigotry and baseless rhetoric. Nothing. They don’t care about the truth–they care about what they want to be the truth.
jay
ychtt, if gay civil rights are such a waste of time, why are you on here day after day to tell us how unimportant they are? You’d think if our rights were so irrelevant, you’d find something better to do with your time. The thought of gay people getting equal rights really terrifies you, doesn’t it?
InExile
@TANK: The scary part is these same people are the ones trying to derail the public option on health care, against having a Latina Supreme Court Justice, and wholeheartedly support big financial welfare to Wall Street. I would put them in the category of the Taliban or people like the Uni-bomber. These fringe groups are very dangerous to all Americans including gays.
YOUCANTHANDLETHETRUTH
@TANK: I am really sorry for being so seemingly bitter. I don’t know, I live in fear that the world will change, that somehow I will be judged for not having tended to the issues in life that address me fully as a Christian; thus, I often try to focus my attention on an easier target, perhaps someone in the gay community whho has to do all the work for me and make the changes I myself cannot make; so I encourage them to stop having sex, to stop loving, while I continue to surrender to a disagreeable temper and struggle with my own demons.
As a Christian, I should not be so very provoking, I should not go out of my way to anger you or embarrass you, nor should I try so very hard to shame you. I should work harder on myself, certainly, and I hope you will forgive me as I am unable to forgive myself.
Alfonzo
I saw Dan Savage when he was on Real Time With Bill Maher last year. I was a fierce Hillary supporter at the time and saw Dan do a section where he talked about being gay for Obama. It sounded as though he presented this case that Obama was a very likeable guy.
While Dan did avoid stating a preference for one candidate over another, he did mention that he understood our party’s infatuation with him.
Another thing to remember is that we have a VERY big mess on our hands and there are many things out there that affect EVERYONE (that includes us) and I think those are more important things to worry about.
I would rather the President spend more time trying to create a job market where I make more money than trying to make so that I can get married. When he accomplishes the first, I’ll be more interested in the second.
schlukitz
@132 – Alfonzo
Of course you would.
After all, making MORE money is infinitely more important than getting our civil-rights.
Making money, I am certain, was the very least of the concerns of the Jews being transported to the concentration camps and gas ovens.
Yeah, yeah. I know. That’s a Godwin’s law statement…but you have to admit, it does fit your comment very well, doesn’t it?