Some people never learn – like, for example, South North Carolinian DJ Joshua Waldon Weaver.
Currently on probation for not revealing his HIV status to three lovers with whom he had unprotected sex, Weaver has now found himself under six-months house arrest after again transmitting perhaps tainted sperm. Fool.
On Sept. 6, Q-Notes reported that Weaver, 23, who works in clubs in Raleigh and Wilmington, pleaded guilty to charges that he failed to disclose his HIV-positive status and engaged in unprotected sex with three people. Weaver was given a suspended jail sentence and placed on probation. The terms of his probation ordered Weaver to use protection when engaging in sexual activity.
About two weeks ago Weaver was arrested after Wake County Public Health officials contacted his probation officer with information that he had possibly violated court orders by having sex without a condom.
Assistant District attorney Boz Zellinger told The News & Observer that health officials became aware of the DJ’s violation after he contracted another sexually transmitted disease that could have been prevented by the use of a condom.
We’d laugh at the irony of this STD misfortune, but our bemusement’s been squashed by the sad realization that Weaver’s lover may have received much worse than anything a health official could cure.
Marc
I don’t care what anyone says, if you spread HIV without informing your partner you have committed murder.
It will be a slow death, but eventually the HIV will convert and AIDS will take it’s toll.
Yes there are drugs that can prolong life, but cure????
No.
Josh should be punished to the FULL extent of the law. I find his behaviour disturbing and disgusting!
David
The other partner is just as stupid and guilty as he is, I have no sympathy for the other person…
Everyone shold take personal responibility….helloo condoms are free at most clubs…idiots…
crazylove
Criminal laws doesn’t depend on your sympathy for the victim. It’s about the act of the person committing the crime. You, David, are the reasons why juries are what they are.
kevin
I agree David. Someone who catches HIV because they didn’t use a condom (as I did) has no one to blame but themselves. HIV- people should always assume that the person they are having sex with is HIV+. It’s called safe sex. Do it or shut up.
MEN-SOR
i think of AIDS as population control
and its especially good in the gay community, as it usually gets rid of the ugly, queeny ones – the type who would let anyone fuck them.
too bad this guy is infected, cuz he’s actually kind of hot.
scott
….I think this is just wrong! it takes 2 (at least) people to fuck. Did any of the “victims” bother to ask about his status? did any of them reach for a condom? I agree with the other poster, people have to take responsibility for their own actions, it like women complaining that someone “got then pregnant”.., I mean for the exception of FORCABLE RAPE, ANYONE of those guys could of easily reached for a condom or heaven forbid, said no. Please!
Jason
Just neuter him already. For reals.
rayrayj
I don’t know if Josh is originally from South Carolina or not, but Raleigh, Wilmington, and Wake County are all in NC. That said…
I’m not condoning what he did, especially since he was already on probation for exposing unknowing partners to HIV, however if anyone has unsafe sex with another, he is gambling and you shouldn’t gamble if you’re not willing to lose.
michael
said it has come down to this but i agree both parties are at fault in this day & age cute or not cute it was the so called victims choice to go into this willingly . sex with out protection gay straight whatever needs to be both parties responsibility . is it a criminal act ? i am surprised that the states involved consider it as one ? new to me . HIV for many years myself, maybe it has to come to this but how it is dictatated will be interesting
Marc
Wow, some of your responses blow my mind!
Firstly, what if he lied about his status?
Secondly, what if some of these guys were passed out?
Consent?
Takes 2?
REALLY ?
ALWAYS?
IS THAT THE RULE? I missed that day at gay school.
David
We had a similiar case like this in Georgia a few years back, and yes while it is against the law to knowingly not tell someone if you are HIV positive, the alleged “victims” who reported it were so upset that he “did” this to them…It was so apalling and a huge miscarriage of justice (perverted in my opnion)to prosecute him. Why not prosecute the “victim” for willfull negligence and as an acomplish???
Snoodle
I believe we charged someone with murder for that up here in Canada…send him our way, we’ll take care of him.
David
Yeah Marc, always takes 2….
1) What if he “Lied” about his stautus…
SO WHAT?? The other party was a willful
participant who didnt protect himself
knowing all along what the chances were
2) What if “some of these guys were passed out”
If it were non consensual it would have
been reported that way, and the charges
would have been different
Its 2008, everyone knows the score…they teach it every day at “Gay School”
Peace…
ron
You are responsible for your own sexual encounters.
Assume everyone is Hiv+ and practice safe sex.
If you have sex without a condom, then you are agreeing to put yourself at risk for STDs.
Chapeau
The guys who had unprotected sex with Weaver had a responsibility as well.
Weaver is a douche nozzle for sure — but having unprotected sex with strangers is stupid.
Tim
Charging, fining, jailing people for this behaviour also has the consequence of discouraging others from being tested for HIV. Since the crime is ‘knowingly’ passing on HIV, you cannot be charged unless you are aware of your condition and you won’t be aware of your condition unless you are tested.
The road to hell is always paved with the very best of intentions.
Nick
I’d still hit it
anokie
I’m of the camp that says always go into a relationship thinking the other person is positive, and therefore play safe. What I’m scratching my head about is the age of this person, he’s just young. I’m in my 40’s and I saw what the disease did when it was first discovered and the death that it cause. I’m wondering if we’re not seeing a cultural shift into how this disease is viewed. I’ve read reports on how the youth view this disease, like diabetes, and that concerns me. As a community we worked hard to spread the word out about safe sex pratices I would hate to think that we have become complacent because of the drugs that prolong the life of an individual. Though what he has done is wrong and there are laws on the books that says so, it worries me that safe sex practices are not being adhered to and this individual may represent the opinions of todays youth regarding sex. Just a thought.
Dan
YIKES. I am dumbfounded by the amount of sheer vitriol and stigma in some of these comments.
It takes two to tango and the guys he’s having sex with are equally responsible if they want to stay HIV-negative. HIV status disclosure is a two way street.
trexitron
Is this guy on HIV meds? Is his viral load undetectable? Not that it would make him less of a douche. Just askin’.
And yes, the so-called “victims” should also be charged as accomplices.
Take responsibility, everyone.
Darth Paul
This is ridiculous. The gov’t has no real authority to mandate sexual behavior, so you cannot force a poz guy to use a condom anymore than you can force a woman to stop having kids she can’t take care of. If this were actual rape, (statutory or not) this guy would be in jail. I think he’s a sh!t that deserves to get a beat down, but that doesn’t absolve the infectees of responsibility.
This is another sign of the abysmal level of sexual immaturity within the gay community. If you have unprotected sex, you better accept up front that HIV is a likelihood. There’s even a ‘morning after’ option if, say, you were too trashed and let your hormones get ahead of your brain (a scenario all too common w/gay dudes). I’m presuming these ‘victims’ didn’t take any of this into account and are now wasting court time and $, amongst things.
L
Well…. I hate to admit my ignorance, but what’s the morning after option, DP?
akaison
a) saying this about sex is like saying rape is about sex
b) this is about who is in a position to know better, and for public policy reasons- thats the person with the infection. this is what criminal law does. it looks at behavior and ask what the society at large believes about it. not what david or someone else who has a political queer theory agenda feels. thank god for that. because like the far right, you people are nuts.
Distingué Traces
The morning-after option is PEP — post-exposure prophylaxis. Basically, you have unsafe sex and then you take a bunch of HIV drugs for a couple of weeks. Ask your doctor.
It’s fairly effective, if “fairly effective” is good enough for you, and if a weeks-long course of toxic anti-retrovirals is preferable to using a condom in your mind.
Mark In Indiana
I don’t think I’m ugly, queeny or and I’ve virtually never let anyone fuck me. Though were I any of those, or displayed the last behavior, it wouldn’t matter, frankly. I’m really hoping the person who posted the following was straight so that I could continue to believe that the gay community offers something better, but reading the other AIDS-phobic or seriously dysfuncitonally HIV -illiterate comments here, I doubt that thesis totally–
positive and AIDS ridden for 10 skanky years,
Love,
Mark
i think of AIDS as population control
and its especially good in the gay community, as it usually gets rid of the ugly, queeny ones – the type who would let anyone fuck them.
too bad this guy is infected, cuz he’s actually kind of hot.
Joey
So much thinking over such a small thing?
sex before aids was just that. SEX
Though growing up in the 90’s I just acted like every sex partner was positive, and adopted the NO LOVE NO GLOVE ATTITUDE!
Though, maybe it is time that every one who does test Positive have to be identified or have a tattoo, or go into a database so that we can than just ship them off to islands so they can die. I am sure they will be treated with respect and get fed.. sound familiar?
Hitler Pulled the same Shit in WWII
People with HIV are not a virus, they are human beings that have real needs and urges, they just happen to have a deadly virus that is undetectable to the naked EYE!
I really believe that at this time in human evolution and cizilation there are million human ways to deal with the issue’s that are rising up becuase of this virus.
So instead of smearing this guys picture all over the net, lets take the time to really reflect on what we can do to stop the spread of HIV!
Some Guy in NC
Alright, I know this “DJ” (he was a door man and a bar back who I think touched an iPod once or twice)…
ANYWAYS, I know the whole “it takes 2 argument” and I USUALLY Agree, but Josh (who went by a fake german name Gustav… no joke) would only go after newly gay 18 year olds (and in many cases younger) who are still in High School, and the sex ed down here in rural NC is… lacking… to say the least. I remember being taught that you couldn’t get STDs through oral sex… yeah we were taught this in 1998 in NC. WHOO HOO.
So yeah, Blame both parties… but honestly with the “Abstinence Only” education and shit like that… some of them really might not have known any better…
… it really is sad.
noway
DO NOT EVER TAKE THE MORNING AFTER PILL! you will definitely get hiv then. If you are having sex with strangers then wrap it or just jerk off together. I personally think you only get aids when doing a combination of activities like poppers and having other stds in conjunction with antibiotics. AIDS = Auto Immune which means your body is freaking out and causing the symptoms of AIDS. If you are fucking around and doing drugs and other bad things to your body then you will get or develop something.
I don’t think he should have to say he has HIV. It’s up to the person getting it to make sure their partner is doing it safe other wise I will sue everyone who has driven drunk because they put me at risk for driving that way.
CHURCHILL-Y
Right you are Joey.
Though I’m still scratching my head trying to understand why would Mr. Weaver want to harm other men that he likes/loves, unless he just angry and wants to do to others what was done to him. He must be in so much pain.
You’re right Joey our response to this dreadful disease that came from Africa must go beyond the same tiring condom message, we as Gay men must invest heavily not only with money but most importantly with our own time and intellectual capacity on more scientific research for a cure.
Otherwise we’re always going to be haunted by this monster called HIV/AIDS.
Marc
Ok DAVID, so then what if one of them were raped?
What if Queerty has made a mistake in this report and we DON”T know the WHOLE STORY?
Some Guy in NC
The whole story (as told by the local media)
http://www.wral.com/news/local/story/3419866/
http://www.wral.com/news/news_briefs/story/3753215/
http://www.wral.com/news/news_briefs/story/3781930/
Noway is a retard
For the love of God. People like Noway (#28) just need to remove themselves from the gene pool.
HIV causes AIDS. Tens of thousands of doctors agree. AIDS denialism is responsible for the deaths of many people in the undeveloped world and even some silly has-beens here in America.
The “AI” in AIDS doesn’t equal “Auto Immune,” anyway, it means “Acquired Immune.”
The “poppers gives you AIDS theory was put to rest almost as promptly as it first circulated. Not even witch doctors believe that now.
Please stop dispensing medical advice and and being an irresponsible fucktard.
dizzyspins
There’s a difference between making a foolish decision (not using a condom) and committing a crime (willfully infecting a partner with HIV). Those guys were stupid for having unprotected sex, but they weren’t malicious–they didnt think they were hurting anyone but themselves.
And its not like Weaver just “slipped up.” He’s been brought before a judge for this before! I think he should be made to wear a chastity belt!
How can we fight against those who would call us inhuman when there are gay people who do shit like this?!
seitan-on-a-stick
HIV Negative or Status Unknown men DO engage in unsafe practices in huge numbers and “Hope” that their partner is not HIV Positive because they look “Hot” or “Virile.”
HIV Positive men generally do practice Safer Sexual practices but the real danger is those who refuse to get HIV tested, bareback and have viral copies pumping in the 100s of 1000s in their cells and up their partner’s ass or down their throat.
Is this the Voice of Reason on transmission of the HIV virus which can lead to full-blown symptomatic AIDS?
This guy was a Mensch and deserves punishment but how many big cities is this just normalized behavior?
Crystal Meth has made sure that AIDS will spread beyond even today’s comprehension.
Distingué Traces
“Mensch” is actually a positive word, meaning roughly “a stand-up guy.”
You may have meant to say “schmuck” or “schlemiel.”
This has been your Yiddish moment for the day.
seitan-on-a-stick
Thanks, I forgot to change it before I hit send. Thanks for the Kvetchup!
tommy
I’m poz and he should go to jail!…what a loser. Grow up hiv IS A LIFE SENTENCE!
D.B.
While I strongly believe in personal responsibility, I also strongly believe that anyone who is HIV+ has a moral responsibility to let their sexual partners know their status without exception. Hiding behind the “it takes two to tango” argument is just wrong.
Reiteration
It’s been said countless times before but it needs repeating: it takes two to tango. If you don’t want to catch it from some strange trick, then don’t have sex with some strange trick. If you’re not willing to get tested together, use protection, etc… then just shut the fuck up you whiney assed bitches. Christ, this is what comes of an “everybody wins a trophy” society. We end up with a culture that refuses to take responsiblity for its own actions because it’s too busy looking for someone to blame (and sue) and demands that there be a law for every conceivable situation to protect themselves from themselves. It’s like baby-proofing a nation of idiots.
TOM J
someone tell me how to get in contact with this DJ. I wouldn’t mind being his next bb partner.
1 Hawt Jock
what a bunch fuck ups. First off, this kid is on medication otherwise they wouldnt know his personal information. They hold his meds over his head, like a rabbit and carrots, would someone please give these lost souls a few books to read. I am gonna keep it plain and simple here, if meds are taken correctly, and he is undectable. There isnt a reason in the world he should use a condom. They have proven that meds produe a much much lower level of hiv in semen causing the rish to be none. I had a bf of 3 yrs with hiv and he took his meds we slept unprotected for 3 years and I am clean. You guys should be ashamed of what you have done to this guys life.
Its just amazing how the gay community reaches out to one another. 98% would have more than willing slept with him if given a good chance. It is shocking to me that people havent pulled together in this young mans defence. Its sad to fuck up his entire life over a few rounds of hot sex. Nobody contracted HIV from this kid so whats all the fuss about. The other night i read about guys that are going around sleeping with people whom have hiv wanting to get it. Those are the ones that need to be checked out. why doesnt someone start something in his defence. Its sad what the gay community stands up for and believes in. All of this makes everyone wanna go and get tested too right? NC needs to get all the hillbillys out of office, get with it folks, I mean think about it have you ever even heard I like using condoms. . . . yeah right to what? make your dick bigger?
Catch a clue guys really its quite sad oustide looking in.
OneHawtJock
getreal
Isn’t this like attempted murder?
1 Hawt Jock
Attempted murder i dont think so its reality Mr getreal, gay guys have alot of unprotected sex no matter the cause its reality.
strumpetwindsock
At least one fellow has been found guilty of murder for it up here:
http://www.cbc.ca/canada/story/2009/04/04/aziga-verdict.html
Several other men have been convicted here of aggravated sexual assault for not declaring their HIV positive status.
1 Hawt Jock
What was diff about this case in canada?
“Seven women became infected with HIV, two have since died of AIDS-related cancer, and four tested negative.”
Lets keep in mind also that this man in Canada dated these women and this kid in NC, was simply hooking up online and having bareback sex 8 out of 9 gay guys dont use a condom be it boyfriend or onine hookup.
This kid didnt spead hiv you guys, he had unprotected sex, the only person suffering here is him, and his friends and family. He has already served time both in jail and now 6 months of house arrest. Shit you can give me six months house arrest WITH him . . . . this guy is HOT!
I hope he files a law suit per hippa privacy laws this is a perfect example he should walk away with millions from this and you know what else he deserves it!
strumpetwindsock
@1 Hawt Jock:
No, I’m not making a direct comparison.
I’m just saying there have been murder charges laid for not declaring HIV status.
He wasn’t charged for for having unprotected sex.
Mark M
@L: Out here in SF area, the health dept will hook you up with atripla (and counseling) after a dangerous encounter. Seems to prevent the HIV from attaching.
Evan
This is interesting. I’m 17. I hope I never die from aids. I’m scared. I used protected sex. But I’m always on my toes
Christopher Kelly
@Marc: It’s like this, if you are stupid enough to sleep with someone and NOT use a condom, you accept all the risks that go along with it. It’s not like he went out and told them he was HIV Negative and then slept with them. Don’t cry “How could this happen to me?” When you were stupid enough to play unsafe.
Christopher Kelly
And to everyone who is bitching about Josh, he’s a very close friend of mine. (1) He didn’t spread HIV, he had unprotected sex. (2) His partners were stupid for not asking and accepted all the risk of having unprotected sex, (3) Josh is one of the nicest people you will ever meet.
SO
All you bitches need to close that gateway to hell you call a mouth if you don’t know what you are talking about. If you don’t know Josh, you don’t know shit.
Greg
@Christopher Kelly: How nice could he be if he knowingly exposed his partners to risk? We clearly have different ideas of nice.
But I do have a question: Do we know exactly what is meant by “unprotected sex” in this case? I’m serious. Are we talking oral? If so, intelligent people can disagree on just how unsafe that is. If we’re talking anal, then he should be ashamed at the very least. And his partners are idiots, but that doesn’t excuse his behavior.
jason
I don’t see why this is such a big deal. HIV does not cause AIDS. If he had an actual disease, such as gonorrhea or syphilis, then, yes, I would hold him accountable for spreading a disease.
Pepeh
All this talk talk talk… Everyone who has sex with anyone is responsible for their own actions… You ARE ALWAYS on the risk of getting a disease if u don’t take care of yourself… So Guys you never know who will lie or who will keep their status to themselves,, ALWAYS WEAR A DAMN CONDOM. Is not that hard.. U can get them for free… I know Josh personally and I love him, he is a great friend and a great person…