What happens when you hook up with your straight BFF for a night of naked unbridled passion? That’s what one confused gay man on Reddit wants to know.
“I’m a 27 year old gay guy and my friend is a 27 year old straight guy and we’re both single,” his post begins. “We’ve had a kind of bromance thing going on but we’ve never exchanged more than hugs and joke flirting.”
Until last weekend, that is.
“There was a big jazz festival in my city and a load of friends were coming to stay in my house, including this guy,” the man explains. “All the rooms and couches in the house were full and most of the bedrooms had people doubling up in the beds. My straight friend and I ended up sharing my bed for the whole weekend.”
To make a long story short, one night, after an evening of light drinking, the guys returned to the house and went to bed.
“We were joking as usual and then cuddled up together (which has never happened before),” he writes. “My hand was on his chest and I could feel his heart racing. He started to rub my hand and we cuddled a bit closer and proceeded to some heavier petting.”
The next thing the man knew, his straight friend was kissing him on the lips. Things quickly accelerated from there.
“Lots of kissing and moaning and grinding,” he says. “Then the underwear came off.”
The man says it ended up being “the hottest and most intimate sex I’ve ever had.” The next day, however, he was unsure what to do.
“I immediately woke up fully and was silently screaming WTF repeatedly in my head,” he says. “I left him sleeping and got up and showered and had breakfast.”
For the entire rest of the day, neither of the guys acknowledged what happened the evening before. Nor have they talked about it since.
“It was a bit weird,” the man recalls. “We hung out for the rest of the day and didn’t mention it once. We hugged before he left and just kind of looked in each other’s eyes and smiled. Now I don’t know what the hell to do!”
The man wonders: “Should I just forget about it and carry on as normal and hope it doesn’t become weird? Is he straight/gay/bisexual/bicurious or was he just experimenting or whatever? Should I bring it up with him and figure out where we stand?”
As usual, the folks on Reddit were more than happy to offer their thoughts on the man’s predicament.
“Well, I tell you what, a 100% straight dude doesn’t fuck his gay best friend,” one person writes.
“I’d ask him if he wants to talk about it,” another person suggests. “If he says no, you can just forget it, write it off as one of those fun experimental nights and be done with it.”
“I’m not gay, but I have had regrettable sex with friends,” a third person writes. “The friendships didn’t survive the sex, but I think the friendships were mostly a cover for thinly-veiled flirtation/sexual tension that eventually came to a boil.”
Then there was this beautiful metaphor: “Tell him you had an awesome time with him and that you hope things aren’t going to be weird … Last thing we want is to actively make the elephant bigger. Neutralize the elephant, by understanding that it was some intimate hot fun and that’s all.”