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How Five Gay Porn Stars Came Out To Their Parents

The process of coming out as a gay to parents is an emotional journey on its own, but the task of coming out as a gay man and a gay porn star is an entirely different monster.

Earlier this week, we were treated to a rare interview with Broke Straight Boys model Paul Canon and his parents, talking very candidly about Paul’s decision to appear in gay porn and the influence his career has over his family’s perception of sexuality. Ultimately, the only thing that mattered to Paul’s family was his happiness and health.

Let’s check out four more gay porn stars and their own stories about laying the gay porn news on their parents:

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Michael Lucas

Controversial porn kingpin Michael Lucas has spoken openly about his decision to pursue sex work as a means of support when he moved to America from Russia in 1997. In an interview with Vox, he revealed that his family, including a brother and grandparents, are supportive of his career in gay porn.

He continued:

It was not big breaking news. I told my mother, “”I always wanted to do something in front of the camera but you know, Hollywood never called. But still I managed to get into the erotica business,”” and my mother said, “”Even porn?”” And I said, “”Yep, I make porn.”” And that was it. We talked about business with my father. We never talked discussed performance, you know, the models and movies themselves, but financial situations. My parents have been to my corporate offices. And so I was very open to them, and I was lucky that they do well. They were very educated, very open minded people and that’s very helpful. I think it’s helpful that they are not religious.

 [Photo: Lucas Entertainment, nsfw]

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Steven Daigle

Before starring in the raunchy bareback flick “Cum Whore”, Steven Daigle was a wholesome country boy pegged as the “gay cowboy” on Big Brother season 10. At the time, he apparently didn’t have a relationship with his family due to his sexuality. “I come from crazy,” he told The Sword in 2011. “Once I made my transition to porn and was being thrust into the media via TMZ and Perez Hilton, it seemed that everyone I had ever known was finding ways to contact me and ask about it–everyone except my family.”

After his award-winning debut film “Steven Daigle XXPosed” won a GayVN award for Best Renting Title, he shared the news with his mother. “The response I got was not too far from what I expected,” he writes. “’You should not be proud of any award you win for something disgusting like that.’ The rest of the message was about me asking for forgiveness from God and quoting random Bible verses.”

 [Photo: Gio Photography]

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Christian Wilde

Bisexual gay porn star Christian Wilde told his entire “coming out” story in an emotional YouTube video, posted to his blog last year. The first of his family members to know about his work were his aunt and mother, who helped eased him into coming out as a gay porn star to his father.

Before he had the chance to tell his father, Wilde says he found out through the grapevine. “Whatever you do, I still love you, and your’e still my son,” he said. “I just want to let you know that it’s ok.

 [Photo: Naked Sword, nsfw]

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Jesse Jackman

Jesse Jackman detailed his entire coming out experience in a blog post for HuffPo earlier this year, explaining that his mother discovered his work in gay porn by way of his blog. “Her response was amazing,” he writes.

“She’d known the whole time. Our bank accounts are linked because we co-own some property; several months earlier she’d noticed a deposit from a source she didn’t recognize — my studio — and traced it back to their website.” After seeing some intimate outtakes from his film “Loud and Nasty,” he says she understood that porn was about love, not torture. [Photo: Facebook]

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Paul Canon

Probably the most candid porn-star-coming-out of all time comes from Broke Straight Boys model Paul Canon, who recently sat down with his entire immediate family to discuss his gay porn career and their assumptions about his sexuality. Check it out here!

“My parents knowing I do porn is actually kind of a good thing now,” Paul says. On the topic of discovering his work in porn through an organic Google search, Paul’s mother said “I was shocked. I thought, ‘that’s him! This is it!’” “It was a big shock, there was a lot of anxiety, but it is what it is. He’s going to do what he wants to do, and if that’s what it is, I support him.”

 [Photo: YouTube]

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29 Comments

  • middleagespread

    Nice that most seem supportive.

  • Masc Pride

    Steven Daigle really expected his family to be excited and inquisitive about his porn career? He seems just as crazy as he describes his family. Nice eyes though.

  • JJ24

    @Masc Pride: He is crazy, he went from creaming how proud he was to be gay to whispering he’s bisexual.

  • EdWoody

    Steven Daigle’s story is the perfect example of how religious and disapproving parents ruin their children. You don’t end up a bucket-c*nt cum-who*re who’ll spread it for anybody without even bothering to look if you’re raised by loving, affirming parents. Well, he sure showed them!

  • lykeitiz

    @EdWoody: And that is the absolute truth that people on BOTH sides of the argument don’t want to admit!

  • Masc Pride

    @JJ24: Well, that doesn’t necessarily make him crazy. Sexuality is a self-identification. Maybe he’s discovered he likes women as well. Look at Meredith Baxter, she said she didn’t have any same-sex attractions until later in life, and now she’s a big ole lesbot. lol

  • Cobalt Blue

    Michel Lucas’ parents like money not their son. Christian Wide’s parents prefer to have their son by their side even walking in a wrong path than voice against his poor choises in life ( He is ‘married’ with Bella Wild ( a prostitute/porn star ) who is now pregnant…) Jesse Jackman’s mother rised him alone and is afraid to desagree about her son’s lifestyle and be left alone ( Another one who accept all that her ‘boy’ do without criticism ). Paul Canon almost dyed due the use of drugs ( Where were his parents that didn’t see his addiction? )and his parents are now ‘happy and supportive’ only to have their beloved with them. They allow all he wants to do without criticism even if he would decide to become a serial killer. Steven Daigles’ family knows how to differentiated the good from the bad.

  • litper

    Steven Daigle is a self-hating bisexual liar.

  • michael mellor

    These porn performers are not stars. Porn is a profession for desperate people.

  • JJ24

    @Masc Pride: Except he suddenly became Bi after doing a “straight for pay” scene. While not meaning he is crazy(everything else proves that) it’s shows you he is not very in touch with himself.

  • litper

    @JJ24: he was always bi, most bisexuals are pathological liars. Well, at least now he has HIV so no self-respecting woman will have sex with him.

  • samfw

    @michael mellor: What empowers you to make a sweeping statement like that? Do you just see other people in the world as a procession lined for your fucking judgement?

  • JJ24

    @litper: No he wasn’t, when he was on big brother he was gay and even when he went “straight for pay” he was saying he was gay. Oh and bullshit most bisexuals are liars, take your bi hate elsewhere.

  • michael mellor

    Porn is not sex. Porn is prostitution.

  • Mark

    What exactly is “an organic Google search”? Was his mom googling for organic vegetables, typed in cucumber and suddenly her son’s dick popped up on screen or something?

  • cpd

    These people are not courageous people to take as role models. It’s much harder for a chubby boy in some lost small town to come out as gay. Most gays insist on seeing pornstars as exceptional human beings. Newsflash: they are not.

  • buffnightwing

    I used to be proud that I did porn, now I am ambivalent at best. It is generally not a healthy career choice, seeing as how it doesn’t last very long. It’s fleeting, and it’s extremely vain.

    Being gay is not just about having sex with men.

  • JJ24

    @litper: No most bisexual do not lie, it is not a fact. You can keep saying it but it doesn’t make it true.

  • Xzamilio

    @Mark: No it just means she came across the results naturally as opposed to looking directly for gay porn or advertisements for her kid in gay porn. It’s likely she may have been looking for his name, or inadvertently typed in keywords that brought up results containing her kid in gay porn. Stranger things have happened and it IS the internet, not a vault that closes off your dirty secrets.

  • seaguy

    @cpd: Nobody wants to read about the fat kid coming out that is boring.

  • seaguy

    @michael mellor: Get off your high horse you hater. Obviously you watch porn otherwise why would be taking the time to comment on this porn related post? And what makes you an expert on the industry and those who work in it? Or was that just you being desperate to come up with something nasty and venomous to make yourself feel better? Pathetic!

  • enlightenone

    @Mark: A Richard Prior in the making. Lol!

  • notwuk

    @DarkZephyr:

    Im not sure if this is actually for the better. Whats great is that parents are accepting of their child’s sexuality… However, being proud and supportive of your child being paid to have sex really feels unseemly to me. I know parent really have no say in what their kids do after a certain point, but id expect each of them to disappointed and worried that this is what their child is doing.

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