In today’s world of interconnectedness, it can sometimes be a challenge to navigate socially — especially with people you’ve just met.
Do you tell them you’ve seen their Instagram? Ask how their vacation was if you’ve seen the album on Facebook? Use your intel wisely and you’ll win anyone over, but go too far and risk looking like a major creep.
And when it comes to semi-anonymous hookups, showing your entire deck at the beginning of the game can certainly make things awkward.
That’s just one of many topics broached in Queer as Folk creator Russell T. Davies’ new series Banana and Cucumber, both of which will begin airing on Logo on April 13th after Drag Race.
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We have high hopes for the two shows, which examine various angles of gay life — from middle-aged relationship problems (a topic often left out in youth-obsessed entertainment) to the aforementioned modern dilemma of holding back information with someone you like.
In the following clip from Banana, we see how awkward it can be:
Joshua Paul Almeida
Lol that video is hella, yup HELLA funny.
Xzamilio
This video — much like my father’s love — is unavailable
Pistolo
I’m always astonished by the more defensive, righteous men who are like “You don’t need to see my dick, I don’t need to see urs. Have some respect! I’m looking for Mr. Right & friends and all u gay sluts are letting me down. What’s wrong with u all? Where have a all the cowboys gone?” -STFU. Its just as bad and subliminally self-loathing as guys who are like “Masc only. Macho sportsbar brosephs plz. If ur gay & other ppl can tell f–k off.”
QJ201
I hate when former tricks find me on face book and ask to be friends.
Efren Corado Garcia
Justin Bass
onthemark
A lot of guys have commented about “Cucumber” here so I’m looking forward to finally seeing it.
Bromancer7
Watched Banana, Cucumber, and Tofu when it aired on the BBC. Definitely worth watching.
Glücklich
@QJ201 How do you respond to those friend requests?
Seems yet another reason NOT to do FeltchBook, even if preferring the telephone, e-mail, or–gasp!–a hand-written letter makes me a luddite.
@Pistolo Opening with a dick pic? Classy. I suppose you walk around town with your crank hanging out. By the time I decide I want to hit the sheets with a guy, whatever he’s got between his legs is the least of my interests, no pun intended.
Pistolo
@Glücklich: oh I don’t greet guys dick first. I just think it’s silly to go on something called Grindr and expect to find the most elite, refined gentlemen. Or scruff or Tinder, for that matter, they’re not designed for romance. And if people think they are, they might not be as romantic as they like to think.
Glücklich
@Pistolo: OK, I agree. My comment comes across as judgmental, and in matters of sex and obtaining it, I’m not. Yes, I guess on Grindr-esque apps men should expect to be forthcoming with dick pics, though I would hope it isn’t their profile pic.
I’ve not used a hook-up app though I support those who do (my husband is on at least a couple). Personally, I need more of a pleasant surprise when I hook up rather than ordering something up like I do on Seamless. Call me old fashioned, but I like meeting a guy at a bar or somesuch. I go to A LOT of conferences every year as part of my job and that provides a handy outlet even if it comes with a bit of a reputation.
charwegl
I’ve seen the show already. While it’s definitely worth a look, there were some issues with it. I couldn’t get over the fact that at times it just seemed like Russell T. Davis acting out a fantasy of wanting to bang young legal teenagers. Secondly, the main character is utterly unlikeable, but nowhere near as bad as Looking. Lastly, the finale was pretty bad and a total letdown.
But it’s more real than several shows like Looking and everyone should give it a try.
ScottOnEarth
@Xzamilio: LOL!! Too cute.
1898
Um. If your put your shit out there for the entire world to see, maybe don’t get pissy when someone from the world actually sees it.
Chris
Some people like putting it all out there; some don’t.
Conflict arises when people become judgmental about folk who do things that they wouldn’t/don’t do. People also get upset when they feel pressure on them to do more than they want to do.
If you think it’s TMI, don’t put frontal nude pix online. But if you do put them online, don’t be surprised if those pix travel.
Likewise, if you think some pix are TMI or that they will interfere with your goal of finding Mr. Right (instead of Mr. Right Now), then don’t put them online. But then, don’t judge people who do so and be prepared for potential hook-ups ask to see the goods before buying. That’s what those apps sell themselves as.