Have you ever been watching an adult video, going about the business of enjoying yourself, and spotted one of your friends starring in it? (Or seen a friend appear in a magazine spread?)
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The Dreaded Rhubarb
Sadly yes. My flatmate/landlord was watching a cable porn channel’s programme of male strippers when he delightedly called out “hey it’s me”. I’ve never been able to look at a mechanical bull in quite the same way again.
Dawster
i would TOTALLY love more information as to what brought up this question….
(LOL)
Jeffrey Bryan
Could be worse, an ex of mine turned up as the cover boy for a porn site and in all their advertisements a while back. Inescapable.
dave
I was shocked to see a former student of mine…a student I taught in the third grade…appearing in porn.
Alan down in Florida
What’s even worse is turning on the six o’clock news and the lead story is your ex being arrested for impersonating a doctor.
The Chexican
No, but I have gone in search of a porn to leave up for a friend (which was the “star” of said porn) to walk in on after he got off of work…I think it was his birthday…
thatguyfromboston
Oh yeah, I was visiting p’town and walked into the corner store to find my friend on the cover of the very prominently displayed Freshmen. That was quickly followed by the release of his 1st video.
Qjersey
…ever hook up with a guy from MH or some other site and then find his profile on Rentboy or his posting for “generou$” on craigslist? Hey at least I got it for free! LOL
Dragon
Twice now i’ve rented porn for later, then gone out to the club and hooked up with a guy and brought him home for a sex and porn party, only to have him say “Oh, I’m in this one!” TWICE!
thatguyfromboston
or to be in the watching one and recognize the house that it was filmed in.
Tom
Yeah. I was flipping through a Freshmen we’d discarded from the bookstore where I worked when I saw a good buddy of mine from town in a stock photo from years ago. I should have been discrete and just called him, but instead I was a gossipy queen who called his best friend and was then labeled the “reason” everyone in town found out. He was so cool about it, but I still feel like an asshole and a tool.
DavidDust
Once I had popped into a Times Square Peep Show (to get out of the rain, of course) only to find one of my co-workers appear on the screen. It was NOT cute, and my loud GAY GASP from the booth made nearby patrons a little nervous…
Paul Raposo
I don’t know if this counts, but years ago when I owned some commercial property that was between leases, a friend asked if he sould store some of his construction materials there. Weeks later I was driving through the area and noticed a pile of cars in the parking lot, so I went in and used my key to open the door and there he was filming pro/am porn. The sad part? It was straight porn. The sadder part? He was having sex with a prostitute witout a condom. Sadder still? He had been recently circumcised
EdWoody
Many, many times. But then a lot of my friends are porn stars anyway. It tends to happen in my line of work.
Charley
Shopping at Ralph’s market in Palm Springs and half the customers are porn stars. Best of both worlds. LOL
Tim
Yeah I know a couple of guys who made porn after I knew them, and I liked seeing them nude, but the oddest thing was to see the exterior of my former apartment used for a Latino Fan Club video. My partner and I howled when we saw it!
Kia
A coworker is on the wallpaper of one of my favorite porn sites. It is difficult to rub one out as he stares at me but i manage.
Maverick69
Yeah, I found a good friend in a porn mag once. Not pretty, First thought was, Damn they take anyone? and was not thrilled to see he had a huge birthmark on his dick. Yuk !!!!
And the 2nd time, Well I was the lucky one. The guy I had brought home the night before was on the cover of my pron magazine. Loved it, Just loved it. I had just gotten fucked my a porn star !!!
DanGOP
Yeah, that’s happened to me. One day I got an email from a friend with a link containing a website on which my ex had begun his career in bareback porn.
Ray
yes, i was dating a guy when, after 4 months, i found out his second job was to get filmed jacking off and those videos were posted on sex sites online. and what’s worse is that he doesn’t even know what sites show them.
wildeoutwest
as a naive midwestern boy fresh off the boat in SF, kept seeing this hottie around town and he finally picked me up in a park one Sunday afternoon. had been hanging out with him for a week or so, when we went back to my place for the first time. my two über-fag roomies started a hissy whisper-fest and then pulled me aside into another room so my friend couldn’t hear. “Do you know who that is? Why is he here? Did you give him keys?” Turns out this guy was well known in military porn, just not well known to me! (They also hinted at his ‘bad reputation’ which i could neither confirm nor deny, as he was always very nice to me and never caused me grief but he always showed hints of his ‘dark side’ i couldn’t ignore).
After that, though, i started seeing him in random videos, websites, old Honcho covers. He told me he had little control on how his work was reedited and reused. He’d gotten out of the biz by the time i met him, but interestingly enough, i’ve seen recent video evidence that he’s done new work. Still hot, he’s awesome to watch in action!!
As an aside, one of those roomies was the same roomie who, when a random brown paper envelope obviously with a VHS cassette in it arrived for him, he looked through one of the tears in the envelope and said “hey! that’s my ass!” – indeed, it was his ‘thank you’ copy of being in a spanking vid and it really was his bright red ass.
ah, memories… 🙂
the only other odd ‘seen it in porn’ experience is a tat that has a rare design from gay punk culture that has popped up on a couple of different guys. weird to see a small piece of visual art from an obscure subculture appear on more than one actor…
SeaFlood
I have. It was a Bacchus video and very underwhelming. He was not as hung as everyone said he was and I was jealous of his dick for nothing. *lol*
GranDiva
Well, yeah. Two bartenders at my small-town gay bar went to Los Angeles at different times. One of them made one film and then everyone in L.A. lost interest in him (he still tries to flog it, though), the other, who actually got a B.A. in Theater and did chorus work in a couple of shows I teched for, ended up going in an effort to become a serious actor. He ended up building a career of sorts in porn, mostly on the strength of his body, because he had the horse face. The first thing they made him do was shave his entire body, but he did get to move into porn with his natural pelt after a couple of years. I remember, though, seeing him in a video for the first time; I felt real disappointment and pity. He’s not in porn anymore, though, so I assume he’s working a straight job of some sort now.
Insideguy
Or how about being so drunk at a party you didn’t realize they were filming it for a porn film and you only realized it when, the man you had recently sworn your undying love to brought it home to enhance an evening of play. It is a real dick deflator when the guy shouts out in the middle of your great blow job, “Oh, my God, that’s you.” Who knew the names of the people who did the film, or if you signed a realease.
Call me, “On the market again.”
Kevin
Yep. Had a boyfriend for eight months and the mutual friend who introduced us asked me had I ever seen one of my boyfriend’s videos? I asked (like an idiot) “What videos?” He showed me a couple from the late 80’s early 90’s. Neither my friend or boyfriend had told me. I was pissed. Not because he did porn, but because I had to find out from a friend. I got over it, however. He had a little less hair than he did then but he was still just as buff and endowed as he was in the videos. We lasted another 3 years until he decided to start in with drugs. Drugs killed our relationship, not porn.