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“I’m often horny”: Gay priests talk sex and one night stands in the seminary

A group of young priests recently sat down with Irish Times to talk about homosexual life in the seminary and–guess what?–they’ve been having tons of gay sex!

“There are about 20 of us in my seminary,” a priest referred to as simply Axel explains. “Seven are clearly gay. About six others have, you might say, tendencies.”

Axel says that, if he had to guess, he’d say 75 percent of his fellow seminarians are gay or gayish.

‘The atmosphere at my seminary is also very homosexual,” adds another priest, referred to as Ydier. “There are homosexuals who are really chaste; there are also heterosexuals who are practicing.”

“It’s a very unique atmosphere.”

A seminarian by the name of Lafcadio one of those “practicing” homosexuals. He tells Irish Times, “I’m often horny. So many nights spent in random beds–and still this promise to return to the seminary before curfew.”

Lafcadio adds that gay men within the church speak to one another in code, which took him a while to catch onto.

“I’ve got better at decoding things,” he says. “Sometimes I find monsignori, archbishops and cardinals making passes at me in the Vatican. Before I wasn’t aware of what they wanted from me. And now I know!”

Another place Lafcadio gets hit on: the confession booth.

“A number of priests to whom I have confessed my doubts or attractions have made advances to me.”

Then, of course, there’s Grindr.

Irish Times reports:

Today lots of [priests] spend their evenings on GayRomeo, Tinder, Scruff or Venerabilis–but mostly on Grindr.

Often priests spot each other without meaning to, having discovered that another gay cleric is a few meters away. And my team and I have also managed to prove that Grindr does its job every evening inside the Vatican State.

On Facebook, another site used a lot for cruising, because of the diversity of its members, it is easy to spot gay priests or seminarians.

According to a fourth seminarian who spoke to Irish Times, being gay is usually tolerated so long as it’s not on display.

“The only thing that is really banned is to be heterosexual,” he says, adding that “chastity and celibacy apply mostly to women.”

“I don’t see that as a double life,” he says. “A double life would be something secret and hidden. But my homosexuality is well known within the seminary. It isn’t noisy, it isn’t militant, but it is known.”

“What is truly forbidden, however, is to be militantly in favor, to assert oneself. But as long as one remains discreet, everything is fine.”

Related: Shocking new book claims 80% of Vatican priests are really gay