OK Cupid has roughly 4 million active users, many of whom are seeking same-sex dates. And if you happen to be one of them, know that the site watches every move you make. Not to be creepy, but to compile meta-data (which, OK, is maybe a little bit creepy).
Cofounder Christian Rudder spoke recently to The Atlantic about how users break down on racial lines, offering this analysis:
The racial picture isn’t the most pleasant one. It’s definitely, um, what you would expect if you were a very cynical person. So, you know, black users get a kind of…25 percent discount in the replies they get, volume of messages they get, level of rating they get from other users. And that’s from not only whites, but Asians and Latinos as well.
You can ask people directly, you know, ‘what do you think about interracial dating?’ and you’ll almost always get a, like, ‘oh, yeah I’m totally cool with interracial dating’ or this kind of attitude when they have to verbalize it. But the way they act is definitely different than that…It’s pretty universal.
Some gay guys have no shame in making their racial preferences known, often in horribly crass phrases like “white only” or “not into Asians,” not realizing that their language can and does hurt people.
But behind the veil of anonymity, it appears that there are many more who think and behave just like them.
Billy Budd
I’ve dated cute asians, cute blacks with huge dicks, cute mixed-race guys, cute white guys, cute guys IN GENERAL.
NJjoe
It hasn’t changed. “_____ only” has been the case when personal/hook-up ads were in print. This isn’t news. The only thing that has changed hooking up has become faster due to the internet. Stupid news story.
Trippy
I don’t use OKCupid, so no idea what that scene is like, but my profile on A4A clearly states “no racial preferences.” I see that phrase more and more, so I suppose that’s a good sign.
I’m more attracted to attitude than color, age, or looks. Sometimes an average looking 60 yr old can make for a much better playmate that a young twink with ripped abs. It’s all about the mental connection, not the color of someone’s skin or how “handsome” he might be.
Saint Law
Queerty moderation really is fucked up.
Saint Law
Oh look that appeared. So why not my pointing out how weird most online daters are?
Saint Law
Oh look that appeared too. So why not my pointing out most of them will die very very lonely?
Saint Law
And that that is a good thing.
What self respecting person of color would want to date one of those frigid, pallid shut-ins anyway?
JDean
People get turned on by certain types of other people! Shocking! What’s next? Being called fattist because you don’t want to hook up with or date a fat person because they don’t turn you on?
TrueWords
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RovF1zsDoeM
I do not look for common decency behind the veil of the internet…also when someone is trying to get their dicks or holes off
Paul Nadolski
The love of my life (so far) and the best lover I ever had were the same Latino guy from Minneapolis. I still miss him…and no, the racial difference wasn’t an issue for me.
Trippy
@JDean: It’s true, of course. We all have types, and I don’t begrudge anyone from looking for what turns him on. My problem is the abrasiveness I see online. “No blacks, please” is very common and always makes me wince a little when I see it. How often do we see a white dude at a bar with a “no blacks” t-shirt on? Never. It’s one thing to search for what you want, it’s quite another to insult thousands of people while doing it.
Billy Budd
I must also add that I have dated 20 yo cute guys, 30 yo cute guys, 40 yo cute guys, and 50 yo cute guys.
Ten years from now, I will expand into the 60-yo cute guy niche.
Marc
@Saint Law: Jeeez, would you like some coffee to go with your bitterness? “Most will die lonely”??? I personally do not do online dating but plenty of my friends do. In no manner do I see that as a factor to dying lonely. Who are you , the moral compass? Well, you are pointing south if you are quick to ” that everyone judges. Some people are simply living their lives and happy with it. Try it.
Black Pegasus
Racism in online dating profiles? Not surprising…
Queerty recognizing and pseudo reporting on it….now that’s surprising.
BJ McFrisky
@Saint Law: Your comment, “Queerty moderation is really fucked up,” is so true. They are genuinely afraid of opinions that veer from their compartmentalized, narrow view of the world. As proof, I’m sure they won’t allow this post, either. Way to be open-minded, Q-guys!
onthemark
@BJ McFrisky: @Saint Law: The robo-moderation has some weird settings. For instance, you can’t say ANY word that ends in “-ist” (even if it’s in the article itself, like here). You can’t even say social*** or capital***. What’s the logic with that one?
onthemark
I read the Atlantic article awhile ago, but I think that was entirely hetero oriented.
In general, I’m guessing that gay daters are SOMEWHAT more open to interracial dating than straights are. For straights, there would be (a) fears about what their biological interracial kids might have to face, or more simply, (b) “coming out” as an interracial dater to one’s own family who might not be universally accepting about it.
For gays, (a) is not a biological factor (not an automatic one anyway), and the work of (b) has usually already been done, since we’ve already come out as gay to our families and already been through whatever fallout from that happened.
vive
“Everyone’s a bit of a r@cist”
No, Queerty writer, that’s not at all what they say. Maybe a lesson or two in common logical fallacies may be in order.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_fallacies
Also, what does a Grindr picture have to do with OkCupid?
money718
What? I have no clue what the quote means. People who say no whites, no blacks, etc., are idiots.
onthemark
@vive: To be fair, The Atlantic (mis)reported it that way in their original headline.
vive
@onthemark, so it is not just bad reporting; it is also plagiarism. That makes it worse, not better. 🙂
DDstar1me
Queerty? Please answer this. Why are certain people allowed to post what you deem vulgar or inappropriate and other’s aren’t? Sounds like a little
postist to me lol…
BJ McFrisky
@onthemark: You are, as your name implies, on the mark.
onthemark
@DDstar1me: “Postist,” ha.
So an “-ist” word got through.
onthemark
@BJ McFrisky: Thanks, BJ! I’m glad you agree with that one.
I must say, you have seemed rather subdued lately. What’s up, medical marijuana?
adventuretime
For the most part, I usually feel sorry for the dickwads who say things like “No blacks” or “No Asians” and the like–on profiles or in real life.
Then I think of the lived experiences of racial minorities (and I’m including myself here) who come across words like this on a very frequent basis, and what it does to the psyche, to self-esteem and self-worth, over years and years of exposure to it.
So many people in this world are as*es. I think the easiest way to remain sane is to distance yourself as far as possible from them.
latinpolyglot
@adventuretime: I am inclined to believe racism leaves similar psychological scars to a person as does homophobia.
And, yes, this is a form of racism — an unconscious bias for some I am sure, and a very conscious decision for others, it seems. Why is it racism? Because there is no such thing as a “racial orientation” — like there is sexual orientation. Yet, racial prejudice does exist in the world — and this whole “preference” thing is just but one form of discrimination.
latinpolyglot
Now, concerning OKCupid and the study:
Sadly, this isn’t all too surprising and it has been reported before. Out of my own experience using the site, I find it extremely uncomfortable when a guy states they “strongly prefer to date someone of their own skin color (white) or race (white),” yet they message me or rate my profile highly or creep on my profile (I’m Latino).
It baffles me why anyone would ever think that’s okay or normal behavior. I mean, if you’re going to hold racial prejudices against people, at least be consistent.
justaj
The consensus in the comments seems to be that it’s silly/wrong that this is an issue but as a person of color I can say it absolutely does happen a LOT. I’m Latin and happily partnered with a white guy but I’ve dated a few guys that have told me I was the first non white person they dated. The first time I heard it I was surprised but the next two or three times it definitely got me thinking a) then why are you dating ‘me’? And b) how widespread is this?
grrl
I also am a little surprised that this is news. Wouldn’t that be ‘sexual’ preference ? So am I a ‘sexist’ because I only like to date women?
adventuretime
@grrl: False equivalency. Look it up. I get so frustrated every time someone tries to bring up this point.
SteveDenver
Al Vernacchio is a sex educator for high school students. He is also one of my heroes because he presents sex in a new way. “YOUR SEXUAL FOOTPRINT” is an idea that we become cognizant of the impact we make. People who use hook-up apps — gay or not gay — are intent on their own satisfaction.
My favorite part of his reevaulation of sex is how it’s addressed in sports terms, which are competitive and in which there are winners and losers. He suggests looking at sex more like PIZZA: in terms of flavors and satisfaction.
I never jumped on Grindr, but maybe I’ll advertise for someone who wants to have lunch in the park or go to an early movie, and get to know each other with an eye toward MARRIAGE. Now that it’s legal in Colorado, it’s interesting to see the effect it’s had on many people around me.
Mari
@grrl: @grrl.. Exactly. That isn’t racism. Following that logic, Queerty, should heterosexuals be guilted into gay relationships to ‘prove’ how gay tolerant they are? Or vice versa?
vive
@latinpolyglot, I agree with you and abhor this form of racism. But I am not surprised that they see no inconsistency in contacting you, since “latino” is not a racial classification, except as a U.S. bureaucratic category that in my opinion is a holdover of a r@cist world view. There are white latinos, black latinos, indigenous American latinos, and everything in between.
DonW
Those who are defending the right to prefer what we prefer sexually are missing the point: you don’t have to be blatantly insulting about it. Focus your ad on what YOU have to offer, not a laundry list of negatives. If you get responses from people you’re not interested in, you can politely say no thanks, or just don’t reply (whatever the prevailing etiquette is).
Why limit yourself in advance with arbitrary blanket “preferences”? You’re not just scaring off the race you don’t like, you’re eliminating a lot of good-hearted people who don’t want to date an obnoxious d*uchenozzle.
adventuretime
@Mari: Again. False equivalence.
Ms Urethra Johnson
*Not into: Serial killers / rapists
Drug users
halitosis
grills
hipsters
Parker Molloy
pets
STD’s
Tattoos
steroids
Truvada whores
Hashtag activists
muslims
con-artists
smartphone whores
twitter whores
Instagram whores
Justin Beiber
illiterates
lobsters hands
unkept nails
pointy nails
video gamers
fatsoes
dirty bungholes
small dicks
bible thumpers
and white zinfandel
nice shopping list huh? Maybe an “in-person” encounter/conversation at your local bar / coffe shop would be less awkward… bring your underwear inspector along… don’t forget to ask for income tax returns and ssn to do a backround check…it’s a jungle out there ladies…
Ms Urethra Johnson
Forgot twinks and anorexics…and the whole Jersey shore…
enlightenone
@JDean: I agree with you. Dense/shallow folk like yourself should prefer and be turned on by other dense/shallow folk!
enlightenone
@Ms Urethra Johnson: Well said!
enlightenone
@grrl: No! Next question? Keep asking, you may get it eventually.
enlightenone
@latinpolyglot: “…Discrimination” resulting from the blinders they have on. They are the losers! Personally, I don’t have a preference for losers!
enlightenone
@enlightenone:@Billy Budd: Since you haven’t dated any, there are Asian, “mixed race,” and white guys with “HUGE” dicks too!
Billy Budd
@enlightenone: You are misinterpreting what I said. I once dated a White Brazilian guy of eastern european descent and he was HUGE. I tried but I could not take it properly. Too painful.
adventuretime
@Billy Budd: I think he’s referring to your original comment on this page, where for some reason you singled out “cute blacks with huge dicks,” feeding into a stupid stereotype, and did not add that qualifier to any of the other groups you mentioned
enlightenone
I love it when a man can speak accurately and precisely in my behalf! Thank you.
enlightenone
@adventuretime: I love it when a man can speak accurately and precisely in my behalf! Thank you.
tdx3fan
Oh, come on… the two most discriminated groups in online dating are “fats” and “fems” and you do not see these same arguments made about those groups at all… after all its just “preference.”
Billy Budd
But it is a scientific fact that, ON AVERAGE, asians are smaller than caucasians, who are smaller than africans. I am a scientist and I believe in science. Of course scientific studies usually deal with populations and patterns in the population. Exceptions, outliers will ALWAYS exist. But that doesn’t mean that the pattern does not exist.
…..the existing data suggests that there may indeed be some race-based differences in penis size, and those differences would appear to be consistent with popular stereotypes [1]. Specifically, several studies have found that men of African decent tend to report the longest penises, while those of East Asian decent typically report the shortest penises. Men in Europe, North America, and Australia tend to fall somewhere in the middle.
Lynn, R. (2013). Rushton’s r–K life history theory of race differences in penis length and circumference examined in 113 populations. Personality and Individual Differences, 55, 261-266. doi:10.1016/j.paid.2012.02.016
enlightenone
@Billy Budd: Okay, Science Professor, I’ll bite – pun intented – why does the “African” have a larger dick than any other “race?” I’ll be sitting down for your reply!
Billy Budd
I have dated fasts and effeminate guys too (BTW what is the difference between effeminate and fem). It makes almost no difference to me if a guy is butch or fem, but I must admit I have harder erections for fit-thin guys.
Billy Budd
I mean FAT not fasts.
adventuretime
@Billy Budd: In all studies I’ve seen, the differences are quite irrelevant and miniscule (no pun intended). The differences between racial groups come down to, like, less than an inch–not to mention the fact that if you’re talking about self-reporting studies, that obviously skews the data.
Basically, the stereotype is stupid and I wish people would stop referring to it as if it means something. It objectifies black people and demeans others. As someone who believes in “science,” you should probably help to stop spreading myth.
adventuretime
@tdx3fan: I don’t know where you’ve been, but there have been constant (even on this site) discussions about effemiphobia and fat acceptance. I’m not making judgments on those arguments, just pointing out that they exist, and are often hot topics of conversation when they come up.
Billy Budd
@adventuretime: An inch does makes a difference. I recommend you to trim your pubes so that you can gain 2 extra inches of apparent size. I mean, it will appear to be up to 2 inches longer. 🙂
Billy Budd
does make.
Tommy
I’m one of those preferential people. I won’t openly put “no fems” or “masc only” but at the end of the day that’s what I’m looking for when it comes to a partner.
However, I have no problem being friends with feminine guys (they are exciting and bring me out of my shell), fats guys, or any other type of guy that isn’t my type.
I’m only picky when it comes to who I’m going to be intimate with, other than that I like having a diverse group of friends.
adventuretime
@Billy Budd: thanks for that non-reply, I guess
Billy Budd
The evolutionary reason? I don’t know the answer. And I have the impression that nobody developed hypotheses to explain these findings yet. As a scientist I must be humble and admit I have no answer to your question. Not even a tentative one. A religious gay mind could easily come up with this explanation:
“It was God’s way of compensating them for the slavery”
LOL LOL
adventuretime
@Billy Budd: Let’s just all be very thankful that you’re a “scientist” and not a comedian.
enlightenone
@adventuretime: Just as thankful that Sarah Palin, for the love of God, didn’t become VP and McCain P. Billy Budd is no more a “scientist” as Sarah Palin is no intellectual!
Billy Budd
Well, I must admit, religious thinking is rarely a humorous matter.
Billy Budd
@enlightenone: Now you almost offended me. You are deadly wrong.
Billy Budd
I am not into the “traditional” sciences such as physics, but into Management & Social Science. I study managerial behavior, creating a bridge between Social Psychology and Operations Management. I am an expert in a mathematical modeling technique called System Dynamics. I studied at a top 10 and a top 50 school during my PHD course. I received two prizes when I graduated, one for teaching and one for outstanding scholastic record. I publish, not in the top journals but in international journals, which is a rare thing for Brazilians. I teach PHD and master courses and I am advising 8 students right now.
Chris
Whether people use things like skin color to determine such deeply-personal choices as whom to date and even whether they announce those personal preferences in publicly obnoxious ways is not as important to me as are the social consequences of racism that we witness every day: limitations in opportunities across almost every single socially important sphere of life (employment, education, health, politics, voting, where to live) and the over-representation of certain racial groups along life’s negative outcomes (being killed by the police, living in poverty, being jailed, being ill, being homeless, having short life expectancy).
So congrats to those among us who are personally more evolved. And yeah, shame on you for not judging people based on quality of their character instead of the color of their skin. But really, after what we see played out in places like suburban Saint Louis and after the barriers to voting that have been put into play across this country, how important is this?
adventuretime
@Billy Budd: Great! I’m so happy that all of those excellent scientific credentials have taught you to dismiss long-held, offensive stereotypes.
Billy Budd
@adventuretime: Why are you being such an ass? Is this for real? Are you just joking? Don’t you wanna make friends here?
Captain Obvious
Even if people stop posting it on their profiles they’ll still keep practicing it regardless. There’s really no point worrying about something so silly.
I’d rather know off the bat that I’m dealing with a moron than have them awkwardly write a more insulting rejection later because I dared find them attractive.
pscheck2
If the ‘problem’ is not spam, then it must mean that you are withholding my comments as being not PC, in which case—so be it!
spiffy
So… We’re not going to talk about WHY so many people are raci$t when it comes to online dating or dating in general?
MagikMuzik
@Billy Budd: I have also seen these studies and what Billy is saying is indeed backed up by these studies. Do a google search and u can probably find them for yourself.
enlightenone
@MagikMuzik: Nice try, but weak! You can have any “preference,” just don’t try to intellectualize it! That is why this discussion is dead in the water. For you and “Billy Budd, the fake cut/paste “scientist,” a REAL scientist is skilled at distinguishing legitimate, valid, reliable, MEANINGFUL research, and junk science/research.
MagikMuzik
@enlightenone: well so ur saying its just a coincidence that I developed a preference for Asian guys and the majority of my friends growing up being Asian and therefore I spent a lot of my adolescence and teenage years around Asian people and their families, and as a result being highly exposed to Asian cultures. Cuz It’s not just their appearance I’m attracted to, but also their cultures.
So tell me then, why do u think I developed these preferences if not at least partially,but even completely because of the reasons I’m suggesting. And how is it racism exactly?
MagikMuzik
@enlightenone: @enlightenone: cuz it’s it’s also not exactly that common for non Asians to have a preference for Asians in general,at least in this country. And u can look at TV and movies as an example. How many Asian actors do u see getting lead roles? Practically none… IIs that racismn, or perhaps solely because producers know the general preferences of the American audience?
MagikMuzik
@MagikMuzik: And I can add that from what I remember seeing from these Latino guys tend to be slightly larger than white guys. But not by that much on average.
MagikMuzik
I agree that there is nothing wrong with having racial preferences and do not agree that this is a result of racism. I do not think anything less of anyone as a person regardless of race or anything else. Just as some people might prefer blonde guys or guys with a shaved head. These preferences are generally formed as a result of personal environment as a person grows in and especially during the initial period of puberty while discovering ones sexuality. I have a preference for Asian guys and to perhaps a bit of a lesser extent,Latino guys. And I think it makes perfect sense as I happened to go to schools with that had a large percentage of Asians and Latinos and a very low number of African Americans. White people were Actually the minority. And I agree with what some previous members have said, it’s about the way in which u declare these preferences if you do happen to have them.
NJjoe
After being the 2nd poster on this thread, I’ve been reading the poster’s thoughts/feelings and some drama tossed in- like a salad. I don’t see the big deal in this story centered around OK Cupid’s latest “discovery.” Is it racism when there is a 25% discount of volume of replies and so on? Is it possible that there is a majority of black gay men who don’t use this way to connecting by using these sites and apps?
I’m don’t think there is racism in hooking-up or looking for love. Their “findings” just don’t sit with me as a reality. I think it’s all about a user’s preference it what type of guy they’re looking for. I just don’t buy into this story as racism…It’s about preference of what kind of man you’re looking and attracted to for whatever reason. I feel it’s OK Cupid’s “free” advertising by inventing a “story” that appears not so legit.
enlightenone
@NJjoe: “I’m don’t think there is racism in hooking-up or looking for love.” “You don’t think” because you don’t know! Certainly, when you outright dismiss MORE than 1/3 of your own male species, there is/are psychological barriers beneath their superficial “preferences” that make these GAY/BI men not attractive/desirous. Once the narrow-minded, post-adolescent GAY/BI male is truthful and honest about the facts/truths his probability of meeting a man who will give love of substance and sustaining passion (assuming he is worthy and not overwhelmed by real love and passion), not shallow relationships/”love” and lust built on superficial “preferences!”
MagikMuzik
And to be clear, I’m not saying that I wouldn’t get with a black or white guy. But when using these apps it obviously makes sense to spend more energy initiating contact with people I already have an initial attraction to. But as for meeting people IRL, I’ll talk to anyone regardless of race.
enlightenone
@MagikMuzik: Having preferences (it is “environment”/conditioning/EXPOSURE that form most preferences) it doesn’t mean that they shouldn’t limit you, although it is your choice to do so including whom you choose to date. That said, there’s ALWAYS a better way to communicate, and people can learn and improve their communications IF they open themselves up and not be defensive (i.e. hiding behind “junk” research. (See “anti-gay” research sites!))
Mr C
Funny this isn’t nothing new and why use OK Cupid when you can go to Grndr Bear411 Adam4Adam Growlr and other Gay hookup sights and see the same thing!
Blackceo
I agree with those who say its fine to have those preferences because we all have preferences, but the way many go about it is just insensitive. I’m mixed race Black and Latino and prefer men of color. However, I’ve dated and/or been intimate with guys across the spectrum. For me, it’s not just a physical connection, but an intellectual one. I am very outspoken on racism, social justice issues, white privilege, etc and so most white guys I have met don’t really do well with hearing that. Not saying there aren’t white guys out there who would, but for the most part, it’s an ideology clash.
I have a very diverse mix of friends from different cultural, religious, and social backgrounds and so I think that exposure is also part of it. Within every “race” there is diversity within that race. Black and Latino guys come in such variety in terms of skin tone, hair texture, and so I always look at someone with a bit of side eye who says “—— only” But I mean that kind of goes for any race. The white guys I’m attracted to tend to have darker features (olive skin, dark eyes, dark hair) and I’m not into the blonde hair blue eyed Nordic types. Doesn’t mean I’d never date one. Cute is cute but intellectually we have to mesh. Cute is a dime a dozen and guys with nice bodies are a dime a dozen.
Fortunately tho I got my man now and am glad I no longer have to navigate dating in this digital and social media age. It’s just too much.
enlightenone
@Blackceo: “Black and Latino guys come in such variety in terms of skin tone, hair texture, and so I always look at someone with a bit of side eye who says “—— only” But I mean that kind of goes for any race. The white guys I’m attracted to tend to have darker features (olive skin, dark eyes, dark hair) and I’m not into the blonde hair blue eyed Nordic types. Doesn’t mean I’d never date one.”
Appreciate you laying out the full spectrum of male beauty. Didn’t bother myself since the “_____ only, preference only” speaks more to those who pretend not to see what we and some others here see in everyday life and the VAST media no matter where you live or ” are exposed to.” Also appreciate you not mentioning dick size. Personally, I prefer a big intellect than a shallow, small-minded male! Of course some of us know the biggest sex organ is the brain, the more it is exposed to and experience the better and we all benefit!
vive
@Blackceo: “I’m mixed race Black and Latino and prefer men of color.”
Not to be snarky, but I wish people would stop referring to Latino as a “race.” It’s like saying Canadian is a race.
“Cute is a dime a dozen and guys with nice bodies are a dime a dozen.”
Okay, but cute and nice body guys WHO LIKE YOU BACK are not a dime a dozen for most people, unless you are really one of those A-list gays. But then, as a CEO, maybe you are. 🙂
enlightenone
@vive: Correct, “Latino” isn’t a race, but many of them think of themselves as “white.” Latino is an umbrella term of many ethnicities with MIXED race composition like most “Black” Americans with RACE being in actuality, more of a social construct than having a biological component. All humankind are biologically rooted on the African Continent!!!
Blackceo
@vive:
No I didn’t take it as snarky. I see your point. I should’ve said I’m mixed race Black and Puerto Rican with some Scottish/Irish mixed in as well. I’m a mutt. I mean if anyone needs to do ancestry.com it’s me. I actually really want to trace my Scottish/Irish roots because that’s the lineage I know the least about.
But in terms of preference, I am pretty fair skinned and there’s a certain attraction I have to a guy who has darker features than me. I mean hell I’ve dated Italian guys who were darker than me. But yes…male beauty to me comes in all backgrounds and as I’ve traveled the world I’ve really come to appreciate how much beauty exists in all backgrounds. At the end of the day, to each his own but again I just wish some guys wouldn’t be so douchey when talking about what they don’t like.
I'm Black, and HIV-Positive.
@grrl: I agree 100%. I once went out on a date with a white guy (back when I was in my early twenties), and he actually asked me on our first (and ofcourse only) date just why I found him attractive. Like, really? You mean like: Why did I have the nerve, or something to think so much higher of myself? Like didn’t I watch the nightly news to know what I was, or something? And didn’t we already do this on an episode of Geraldo already back when he had a show in the late eighties? I’m sure he didn’t realize it, but he actually just questioned my right to having a sexual preference in the first place. I couldn’t believe it: A white gay man actually tried to shame me into not being attracted to him, because he was white. A gay man on a date with me just set the entire conversation of sexual preference back ten to twenty years. He might as well had pulled out a Bible, and said, “But God says only man can lay with woman!” But he didn’t want to realize that, because it was the topic of race. Ridiculous! I wish I could turn back time, and say “You know, if you’re straight you don’t have to keep going on dates with me. You know that right?”
I'm Black, and HIV-Positive.
@Captain Obvious: I agree. Let’s just not waste each other’s time.
vive
@I’m Black, and HIV-Positive, are you maybe a little oversensitive? Maybe the guy was just insecure about his own looks and surprised that you agreed to a date. If he already agreed to a date, I doubt he was questioning your right to be attracted to him. If he did, he just wouldn’t have agreed to the date to begin with.
I'm Black, and HIV-Positive.
@vive: I think I was clearly pointing out the irony.
SteveLee
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