A new article published by Red & Black digs into a controversial topic that really shouldn’t be all that controversial in the year 2018: queer interracial relationships.
Titus Williams and Corey Robinson live in Athens, Georgia and have been dating for about seven months. In many ways, they’re just your average same-sex couple. They like going out to restaurants, going out to bars, or just hanging out at home.
But there’s one thing they say that separates them from many in the crowd: their different races.
Titus is caucasian. Corey is mixed, Black and white. Because of this, Titus says, he gets a front row seat to how POC in the queer community are treated. And it’s not always pretty.
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“The stigma of race in the gay community itself is a [huge problem],” Titus says. “Corey is mixed, Black and white, and with this, a lot of times his race is fetishized.”
Corey adds that this fetishization happens pretty much everywhere he looks. From race-specific categories in porn to Grindr.
“There are plenty of Grindr profiles that say, ‘No Blacks. Whites only.’ And that is a big deal,” he says. “That has a long way to go.”
He adds: “It’s not even just Black people. It’s Asians, mixed, et cetera.”
Kai Yost can certainly relate. He describes himself as half white, half Asian. He’s currently in a relationship with a caucasian man but he tells Red & Black that when he was single, guys were constantly fixating on his race.
“I had a friend last year who was also half white, half Asian,” he says. “What’s funny is that year, I was on Grindr, and we found out we slept with the exact same people and they all said the exact same thing to us, regarding race.”
In a video released last year, the dating app Jack’d took Grindr to task for promoting racism and racial fetishization by continuing to allow its members to post awful things minorities and comparing it to “living in the 1960s.”
Other apps like Chappy have made combating racism and racial fetishization a large part of their marketing strategies.
Last year, Chappy came up with the “Don’t Be a D!ck” campaign, which asked users the thought-provoking question, “Why be a dick to someone when you could just swipe left?” From there, they developed “The Pledge,” requiring users to promise to refrain from bias to create a “judgment-free platform” or be banned from the app.
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While there is certainly much work to be done, the good news is these conversations are finally happening in a more mainstream setting.
“In America in general, I’d say conditions [for the LGBTQ community] are improving. That’s usually what happens in most situations,” Corey tells Red & Black. “[Although] it still hasn’t gone away and [the issues] are still there, they’re decreasing.”
h/t: Red & Black
Brody
And here again we have more gay men who insist I’m a racist because I don’t want to sleep with [fill in the blank] . . . all the while (and with great irony) failing to recognize their own misogyny by limiting their sexual partners exclusively to men.
I hate to break it to the SJWs, but you’re never, ever going to sway what turns people on, regardless of how “unjust” you might see it.
porque_loco
Can’t say that I disagree with regards to personal preferences, but it’s also true that people don’t need to be a dick about it. They can just ignore those profiles that they’re not interested in, for whatever those reasons may be.
And what’s with the use of SJW as a perjorative term? I’d much rather be a warrior for social justice than a warrior for social INjustice.
SiamSam
@porque_loco What you and SJWs call “social justice” are probably polar opposites. SJW has become a prerogative because SJWs typically apply racist and sexist double standards. They are mostly interested in fighting what they call prejudice, injustice, exploitation, oppression etc. but only if whites, heterosexuals, Christians, men, capitalism and the West in general can be blamed and shamed. They are typically hypersensitive, humorless, authoritarian and utterly obsessed with sexual and racial identity. They will trash-talk you online, get you fired from your job, publicize your home address, make anonymous death threats and worse if you tweet or post something they find “offensive”. They are not nice people. Avoid.
Juanjo
I see Miss Siamsam is here criticizing people for behaving in a way he has decided that they all behave, regardless of any actual evidence to support his opinion. Of course, one need only look at his back posts to see he is an active and expressive bigot – especially when it comes to certain religions and ethnicities.
And of course, Miss Brody is just an all-around douche bag and always has been.
Knight
Juanwhore do you ever add anything of substance to a conversation or are you just here to name-call and act like a complete asshole? Just curious.
Sinceramente, eres un viejo pedante y tan asqueroso que no sirves para nada en absoluto. Tal vez “en tu día” tus opiniones valían en tus circulíllos de putos corrientes, pero hoy en día eres un naco anziano de tal. Nadie te pela ni aquí en tu vida virtual ni en la real…que tiene que ser 10 veces más miserable para ti.
Brody
SiamSam –
Well said.
You have your pro-social-justice types, and then you have your straight-white-men-are-evil-and-must-be-brought-down-at-any-cost types.
I think it’s obvious which camp most Queerty readers fall into.
DCguy
What a shock, one of Mo Bro’s anti-lgbt screenames trying to insinuate that being gay or lgbt is a “Choice” and that lgbts CHOOSE to be that way.
Seriously, tell the RNC or Putin to cancel your next check, you’re TERRIBLE at this trolling.
bjm123
Brody:
Stop pretending that MOST white gay men aren’t racist. You only make a fool out of yourself. THIS IS WHY A LOT OF BLACK GAYS VOTED for TRUMP! However, you can have your “preference” if that’s what you want to call it. This is why the gay community is so messed up and why we really don’t deserve rights. A Preference leads into some form of racism and that’s the truth…You can’t see the beauty in other people but most white men are arrogant and they think that the world evolves around them and it doesn’t. Personally, I think that Asians, LAtins, blacks should just forget about white men as a whole because we all know that they are whores who get off on being in “control” in some way….
mawbinatl
While it’s difficult for many to see because so many believe that they are breaking ground on the stereotypes of minorities, it (fetishizing and discrimination) still happens.
And, also, while I have my “preferences”, I do not discriminate against anyone. I may be the /chuckles/ minority on this but I’ve learned over the years, that love and/or attraction happens when you least expect it. Those people that eliminate others because they don’t think that they will like them based on hair color, race, religion, age, or preconceived perception, may be missing out on finding that one person that gets you. Takes care of you. Loves you for you.
As an African-Colombian, I have been shunned due to my skin color, yet desired because of my perceived phallus size and sexual prowess. I’ve been looked down upon because of the person I dated (by Caucasians, Latinos, and African-Americans); it’s not a pleasant feeling.
The dichotomy of those paradigms is mind-boggling at best and feeds into the race debate at worst.
Knight, to attack someone (Juanjo) because of their age is rude and uncalled for and ageist. You can learn a lot from someone older as they can learn something from someone younger. It’s a two-way street. You too will be older one day. We all will.
No one wants to know you for you and desires to be with you only for untrue perceptions of who you are.
Brody, you may not want to “sleep” with [fill in the blank], but have you ever asked yourself why that is? Have you ever gotten to know a person on a deeper level than simply sexual? Using SJW as a pejorative instead of something positive shows just how shallow and vapid we have become as a society.
We need to do better as a community that fights for equality. It becomes a little counterintuitive to ask for equality by the masses yet discriminate our own people because we don’t like “femmes, dykes, Asians, whites, anyone over [insert age here], Hispanics”, etc.
We are who we are. We are more than our skin color. We people who have personalities, character, morals, etc. Let’s get to know those parts first before making any snap judgments on whom we truly want to be with. Many may be surprised by what they are truly attracted to in the end.
richard2179
Yes, Brody you’re racist. See definition following:
Racist: a person who believes in racism, the doctrine that one’s own racial group is superior or that a particular racial group is inferior to the others.
Racial preferences are based on racist assumptions that desirability is limited to specific racists. It is not. You just simply choose not to question where your imprint of desirability came from. Time to be reflective and examine what f*cked you up. The universe is not flawed. The choices are there.
Creamsicle
There is no story here. Literally nothing of specific substance is being detailed. This is just a backdoor ad for Chappy.
PaulTK
Well spotted!
Kangol
Again with the Chappy promos! Is Queerty part of the ownership or getting a kickback?
I have no issues with interracial relationships. More power to people of all backgrounds getting together, whatever your race, ethnicity, religion, national origin, sex, or gender.
But I do have an issue with Queerty basically running ads masquerading as articles. It’s creepy and sleazy and lazy, guys!
Donston
You can show love to interracial relationships without guilting people for their preferences. Yes, racism, prejudice and just general ignorance and impoliteness exist. But as I’ve said before, focusing on hook-up apps isn’t the best way to attack racism.
dean089
Thank you!
Blackceo
This poor horse has been beat beyond death. We all have preferences. I prefer to date Black and Latino (Puerto Rican and Dominican) men. While I am not one of those “I don’t date (fill in the blank) kind of folk cuz I think its foolish to exclude an entire group of people, I can only speak for myself. The bigger truth in this article is how often Black bodies are fetishized. I’m not your Mandingo fantasy and whatever BBC fantasies you have. That is true from too many in the gay community. I’m also not your Latino “spice” fantasy. Don’t call me papi because of my Puerto Rican background.
Lets also not act like some Black men don’t do this either. Some of them internalize that Mandingo fantasy and like the idea of wrecking the hole of some submissive White guy and like hearing that “BBC” talk. Listen, at the end of the day, there is never going to be a consensus about this. Some of the “preference” stuff is rooted in racism and it would be foolish to think otherwise. But every White guy that only dates other White guys is not always racist. Just do you. Trying to change someone’s sexual preference is a losing battle.
JK 1984
Had a longer reply but lost it and cbf writing it again.
For me this article and all the other articles along similar lines are not about changing people’s preferences (which honestly will never work) but about changing the conversation from a negative to a positive.
Example: instead of saying “No ” you say “Looking for someone who is “. This way you are saying what you want rather than what you don’t.
For me, if I was still dating and/or using these types of apps I personally wouldn’t want to limit myself to one type/race/etc because you never know that the person who doesn’t look like what you want may end up being the person you fall in love with.
I know for me that happened.
/end of soppy romanticism.
Knight
Blackceo we are SOOOOOO in synch here. Have a great weekend!
Blackceo
@JK I agree with your comments. Personally, I’ve found that guys who have that “No (fill in the blank)” mentality have a social circle of friends and acquaintances who all look like they do.
CastleSF
I am Asian and I don’t get offended if someone indicates “No Asians” in their profiles. In fact, I want to know this crucial information before I decide if I want to start the communication with this person who makes it clear that he has no interest in dating people like me. It’s not offensive. It’s a just a preference. It’s just like me saying “No people under 30”. It’s telling people out there that if you are under 30, I am not interested. What’s wrong with that?
Knight
Castle I think we are all saying this in a similar way. If I’m on a hook-up site, I would much rather know up front if the guy I might be interested in is NOT into Latinos. Saves me time and effort. At the same time, we can’t take it personally if someone is an outright racist. That’s their issue, not ours.
frankcar1965
And yet NO ONE will address the female issue but they sure will constantly bitch about the no fats, no fems and no Asians. Will somebody say why gays continue to discriminate against WOMEN?!!!!
am_psi
There are plenty of non-white guys out there who only date within their race or only within specific races. If people feel extra marginalized it might be because non-white people make up much smaller percentages of the population (so you’re a minority of a minority) and those communities tend to more heavily stigmatize homosexuality. So those minorities have less of a dating pool and are more likely to date someone outside their own group.
tnguy222
My BBC only goes in the mouths and A$$es of skinny, smooth, twinky, white boys. Granted, black studs taught me how to Top, but I’m loyal to my white twinks for companionship.
I grew up with such boys, went to Ivy League colleges and law schools, and am only interested in the Helix Studios types. I make enough money, i’m culturally safe, and it seems that twink boys secretly love chocolate (most easy to see if they imbibe substances).
I digress. Have I encountered racism in the gay community? Sure, but 95% of it is from ugly and unintelligent people whom I wouldn’t touch with a 10ft pole.
In my experience, attractive and smart people are more open to interracial dating. Since they represent the archetype of “hot”, they are free to see attractiveness of other types than themselves. Whereas ugly and dumb people are so brainwashed by media and society that they myopically focus on the mainstream standards of beauty.
Fine by me, I prefer the hot and smart ones anyways.
Brian
I feel like your intention wasn’t to make yourself sound horrifically shallow, and yet here we are.
Brody
Many thanks, Brian, for providing me with an early-morning chuckle.
Heywood Jablowme
I wish them well, but it seems a little odd that a couple who’ve been together 7 months are still looking at Grindr all the time… for NO other reason than to get offended at what they find there?
And porn, yikes. If they seriously want to rearrange the entire gay porn industry by writing a lot of blog posts, good luck with that. (A typical Millennial quixotic pursuit, I suppose.)
How did THEY meet? At the proverbial church picnic? And how do we know that Titus wasn’t fetishizing Corey, and/or vice versa?
Heywood Jablowme
I should have clicked on the link.
Yep – Corey and Titus met on Grindr!
Knight
When it comes to sex, I’m 100% color-blind and just need a bubble-butt of any tone. But when it comes to actually “dating” I’ve found that if I date other Latinos (men or women) we find out whether we “click” or not pretty fast. When it comes to whites, there’s always this learning curve that goes on, and you have to figure out whether they are interested because they just want to try a piece of “dark meat”, are trying to show they are PC to their friends (or themselves), see me as just another hot/interesting guy or at the very worst, have some fantasy/fetish they are trying to fulfill. And I have to say, black and asian guys are just as bad in that respect, thanks to American media (and of course the porn industry) which makes Latin guys out to be ultra-sex-hungry, shady characters with dubious legality and minimal ethics. When gay guys learn I’m bi (and I never tell them, FYI) they always think it’s “double-hot” since they think it fulfills a stereotype that they have of us (i.e. all Latin men will have sex with other guys for the right price or occasion).
Anyway, I’m not boo-hooing here…I’m NOT a victim in any way. Just saying this is the reality out there. I’m sure for White guys and all other ethnicities there are sub-categories with their own issues (i.e. red-heads…who I LOVE, FYI ; ).
PinkoOfTheGange
This article isn’t shaming anyone that has a preference.
It is just suggesting don’t be an ass and be a little considerate when stating them.
Seems to be a lot guilty consciences here.
OrchidIslander
Thank you Pinko. I’m reading the responses thinking many aren’t getting it. Whenever an article like this one appears, the first thing everyone does is defend their “preferences.” It is not about who you “prefer” and who you don’t. It is about decency and treating people the way you’d want to be treated. What is so difficult about saying: “I am into black guys,” while avoiding – “No whites or Asians.” Or, “I am into fit guys,” instead of ” No fats or chubs” Your point, or preference, if you will, is made without insulting, denigrating or castigating an entire group of people. If you care enough about other people – even a little bit – civility is not hard, and many men prefer it.
bbg372
Suggesting that someone change how he states his preferences implies that the way he is currently doing it is wrong. That is ipso facto shaming, and it is intellectually dishonest to suggest otherwise. The honest response would be to say, “The way some men are stating their preferences is wrong, and the community should apply social pressure, i.e. shaming, to coerce them to change.”
However, how someone else states his preferences is none of my business. For example, if he says, “No whites,” and I am white, that is a statement about him, not me. I am not somehow less worthwhile as a person, because he rejects a category to which I belong.
At the end of the day, shaming this person is not going to change his attitudes, it is only going to change his behavior. So instead of him being open about his preferences, or if you prefer, his bigotry, so I know exactly where I stand with him, he will just be more polite about it. That is no different than, “I am not anti-LGBT, I am just pro-family.”
OrchidIslander
“Suggesting that someone change how he states his preferences implies that the way he is currently doing it is wrong”
I did not mean to imply that the way he is currently doing it is wrong. I meant to categorically, beyond a shadow of doubt, state that it is wrong.
Since when has disagreement devolved into “shaming?”
One can take issue, express it and have no intention of shaming anyone.
Throwing that “shaming” tag around sounds more PC than the issue at hand.
mohawk
Being Native American, I’m often faced with the idea that I should be running around with feathers in my hair and a loin cloth. It’s a fetishized ideal that unfortunately comes with my ethnicity. White men don’t believe we exist, unless it’s in a Clint Eastwood movie. Then when they find out, they want to play Cowboys and Indians. Not necessarily bad, but… Puerto Rican men think I’m Mexican, which is okay. Nothing wrong with my brothers south of the border. Mexican men think I’m Puerto Rican. Nothing wrong with the guys from the island. And Black men think I’m white and/or latino, and when I tell them I’m native, they’re like cool and dig it. Mostly, I find a preponderance of men end up liking me because I’m ‘exotic’ or so they believe. I’m not exotic. I’m just me. I’d rather just date a man that’s not hung up on who or what ethnicity we are. Why make it an issue? And why are these guys cruising Grindr for relevance? Everyone knows that’s a cesspool…
Knight
I think you and I have the same experience here. I can totally relate with what you said. Unfortunately, I still have a pretty strong accent when I speak English, so I can’t really “fake it” and blend in even if I wanted to. But what irks me is all of the baggage and expectations that non-Latinos bring whenever they are looking to date/start a relationship. Other than being great in bed/having the “Big-D” and being a good dancer there are very few stereotypes about being Latino that I would fall into. And what’s worse is when people assume ALL Latinos are exactly like whatever ones they grew up around; there is a light year of difference between the experiences of Mexicans and Cubans, or Argentinians and Dominicans. And honestly, I can handle the ignorance…just not the “fetish” part of it.
Ummmm Yeah
Oh look another chaser is offended by what someone else does, so they are promoting a rape culture against gay men. No mean no. #MeToo. I have been sexually harassed at this point by all this pressure to have sex with someone I don’t want to.
Prax07
If they’re a couple why do they care if guys aren’t into one part of their coupling? If I don’t care for black guys, or mulatto, or mixed, or whatever, why is it causing these two guys issues? Sexual racism isn’t going anywhere, especially today, so just get over people not into you and move on to those that are.
Knight
Totally agreed. As a total-top, I’m very much into assholes, but not the kind who write posts like you do. You’d never pay me enough to stick my dick into someone like you, so why the hate? It’s just my preference.
o.codone
The picture makes me cringe. The white boy has apparently fetishized the black guy and by the looks of that smile, I think I know why. Can’t blame him. I’ll take some of that right now myself. Double portion please.
Tête Carrée
Projecting.
Second sentence proves it.
Heywood Jablowme
From the original article on the “Red & Black” link:
“A few years ago, the Huffington Post combined various sources to analyze the 2010 U.S. Census data, which essentially found that couples within the LGBTQ community were more likely to be in an interracial relationship. The Williams Institute of the University of California illuminated the fact that in Georgia alone, “15 to 17 percent of same-sex couples” are interracial.”
Seems like cause for celebration. We’re doing better, not worse, than heteros are.
bbg372
I came here to post the same thing. The LGBT community does much better than other groups on race issues, and is more likely than other groups to approve of, and participate in, interracial relationships. But one would not know that from reading articles like this.
Heywood Jablowme
@bbg372: Yeah, I’m not entirely sure why that is. Maybe it’s just the ubiquity of Grindr among the younger set. (The couple in the photo, who are bitching about Grindr, actually MET on Grindr!) So maybe some people end up confusing Grindr with “the gay community.”
miserylovedme24
So if someone doesn’t want to date another race, they’re racist. If they do want to, they’re fetishizing. What in the world do people want? Just stop always trying to play the victim.
SiamSam
Correction: “So if someone WHITE doesn’t want to date another race, they’re racist.” Have you not noticed this tactic is mostly used to attack and shame whites and only whites? It’s a common SJW ploy to apply a racist double standard to human affairs and interactions by singling out and guilt-tripping whites for things non-whites also do. It’s obviously inconsistent and wrong yet so accepted and prevalent.
Knight
Siam it’s definitely not only whites…I can say this first hand. As BlackCEO said above, there are certain people who stay within their own race or ethnicity for various reasons. And sometimes the reason is it’s because it’s all they know and feel comfortable that way. Nothing wrong with that. But what he said about blacks fetishizing white guys too is also VERY true. I know some Latin guys that fetishize white guys as well. One friend of mine is also Latino but very light skinned and he’d always complain that while Latino guys would always get with him, they’d want him to pretend to be a “surfer” or introduce him around to their friends as “Jake” the American guy etc just to seem high-class. In other words, white guys are definitely not the only guys with “issues” when it comes to sexual hang ups ; )
Zragen77
Whatever. If you’re an individual who ascribe their “preference” off of person’s skin color (which by the way you don’t have any control over) then YES! you are racist and you need to be called OUT for it! Someone’s ” racial preference” just turns out to be good ole racism.
SiamSam
Sure. And if you don’t find women attractive, you are a misogynist. Your hatred of women is not a “sexual preference”, it’s just good ole sexism. (Yawn. That was too easy.)
Zragen77
@Siamsiam Ugh…If you’re going to use a word, than I think you should’ve an understanding of the definition associated with it and your cookie cutter argument is so annoying! To be a misogynist (some who dislike women) which I’m not is NOT the same as being racist!When you flat out deny someone base purely on the color of their skin that is racism and you bigots (I’m talking about you to SiamSiam) can cloak your bigotry of ‘racial preference’ till the Sun swells into a Red Giant, but it’s still racism and your limp and lame analogy not wanting to have sex with a woman doesn’t make you a misogynist! It’s makes you a homosexual. My goodness, arguing with so-called “progressive” people is just as bad as arguing with people on the right, but at least with the right, they don’t deny their bigotry they EMBRACE IT and it’s time for people like YOU SiamSiam to start doing the same.
Kangol
SiamSam/Mo-Brody, you’re giving yourself away by posting the same almost word-for-word point about equating gay men not finding women attractive to misogyny on multiple articles. We get it. Now go get help, please.
CastleSF
Whether you call us racists or something else is not going to change the fact that some of us are just not attracted to a particular group of men, whether it is because of their race, their age, or their body type. We don’t deny them and we can be good friends with them but you cannot dictation our attractions just
because of your narrow-minded definition of racism.
SiamSam
@CastleSF Couldn’t agree more. Not finding members of a particular race sexually attractive doesn’t mean you want to throw them down the nearest mine shaft. You can easily have all kinds of non-sexual relationships with them, united by common interests, values, hobbies, tastes etc. Believe it or not, gays, there’s more to life than just sex! PS You’re hot. Just sayin’.
Zragen77
Birds of a flock you two are (Siamsiam & Castle SF) and I’m NOT trying to tell you who you can and cannot hookup with but this notion of saying “I’m not a racist” while having “racial preferences” IS racism! So you don’t get a pass just like the bigots on the right don’t get a pass if you’re denying to be with someone solely because of their race, than you’re a racist and because you’re “okay” with having them as friends doesn’t absolve YOU from your racist and deplorable behavior! It’s sort of like when conservatives purports they’re NOT racist because they have friends of this particular ethnicity. The hypocrisy among gay men is truly stupefying you’re the first ones to shout “discrimination” yet blatantly discriminate without any qualms whatsoever. I’m beginning notice a that conservatives and gay men share some of the same cores. So much for inclusivity!
Brody
CastleSF –
You’re absolutely right. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: The accusation of racism is the “intellectual’s” way of declaring intellectual bankruptcy. It’s used as a weapon of blunt crudity whenever they run out of facts and logical debate. And what the finger-pointers don’t understand is that the accusation is weakened every time it’s used in such an erroneous way.
CastleSF
Zragen77 — Racism is when you deny people of a particular race a job opportunity, a promotion, the right to be served at the restaurants or bakeries etc. but it doesn’t apply to sexual attractions. You can argue all you want but at the end of the day, people are still only attracted to what their brain dictates.
gymmuscleboy
We all have preferences. It’s no big deal and it’s definitely not racist.
mohawk
^^^This^^^
Really. This kid has it.
OrchidIslander
gymmuscleboy, from your screen name to your comments – its satire, right??
gymmuscleboy
@ OrchidIslander No. And is that meant to be an argument?
irbaboon
Having preferences but not being a jerk about it seem like a good compromise
Blackceo
The commentary for these kinds of things are so interesting. I can always tell who has a diverse social circle and whose social circle looks like a Sigma Alpha Epsilon circle jerk.
Zragen77
“Sexual racism is the “sexual rejection of the racial minority, the conscious attempt on the part of the majority to prevent interracial cohabitation”. It is the discrimination between potential sexual or romantic partners on the basis of perceived racial identity. However, not everyone agrees that this should be classified as racism, some argue that distinguishing among partners on the basis of perceived race is not racism at all but a justifiable personal preference.The origins of sexual racism can be explained by looking at its history, especially in the US, where the abolition of slavery and the Reconstruction Era had significant impacts on interracial mixing.” wikipedia.org sexual racism.
Mikey
Not being sexually attracted to someone does not mean you don’t see them as an equal. And for the record, you can be sexually attracted to someone of a different race and still be racist.
Stop trying to bully people into being just like you. We’re all different and have different physical tastes. Calling sexual preferences “racist” is alienating and takes the focus away from actual racism.
Zragen77
@Mikey Look I struck a chord with you!Huh…that’s usually the case when people are confronted with the truth and yes “Mikey” as I mentioned in my aforementioned comment, if you don’t want to be someone because of the color of their than YOU. ARE. A. RACIST! My goodness, I swear gay men and conservatives have A LOT in common.
Mikey
I wasn’t responding to you and hadn’t read what you posted, so no, you didn’t strike a chord.
But sure, I’ll respond. The definition you used doesn’t relate to what we’re talking about. That’s about not having sex with people of a different race with the intent to prevent interracial cohabitation.
A person who has a “type” but sees everyone as an equal is not a racist. Making it in caps doesn’t change that.
CanadianGuy62
I wrote on my Grindr profile, obviously somewhat cheekily, that Asians and Latinos had “front-of-the-line privileges.”
I sent a message to an attractive black guy and was ripped apart for my racism (and called out for NOT using Latinx in place of Latino).
WTF?! We can say who we don’t like; we can’t say who we do like.
I think all gay men have to stop using apps that try to match them with other gay men as that is blatantly sexist…we don’t what to have sex with women. What sexist pigs we are!
Heywood Jablowme
LOL. “Latinx” is a strange case. It seems to have popped up just within the past two years (?) and if you haven’t been living on a college campus within the past two years, nobody has bothered to beat you over the head with a “woke” explanation of it.
Latinx is apparently an invention of Latinos/Latinas who want to Anglicize the Spanish language and who are freaked out at how relentlessly gendered the Spanish language is. Because it’s so fcking annoying to remember if a refrigerator is male is female.
Of course, all Romance languages are like that, so this stuff is catching on even in France!
CastleSF
CanadianGuy62 – I am not amused by your loud preference for Asians or Latinos. I think It’s perfectly alright for you to state your racial preference but just be aware of the unintended consequence that you could end up attracting guys who may be really insecure about their race or their sexual orientation or are terrified of rejection.
CanadianGuy62
CastleSF – with all due respect, I’m not on there to amuse you or anyone else…I’m on there to get laid with “types” (OMG, I HAVE A PREFERENCE!) of guys that I like.
The point of my post is that it’s ridiculous that we’re told we can’t say, “No Asians,” or “No blacks.” So, I didn’t do that (I wouldn’t anyway, as I don’t discriminate; I find men of various shapes, sizes, colours, etc. attractive).
But by doing what previous articles told me to do – say what you LIKE, not what you DON’T LIKE – and then the black guy whom I contacted called me racist because I dared (OMG! Heavens to Murgatroid!) to say what I like!
As for issues that guys might bring with them, I don’t care who you are…you’re bringing one issue or another into the bedroom with you. If it Fs up the sex, it will be a one-nighter; if it isn’t even relevant, then who gives a flying F?
I’m just tired of the PC Police trying to tell people that they can’t be so up-front on what they like. Sounds like the same type of Puritanism that has kept gays closeted for centuries.
sfhairy
If you’re a couple, get off the effing apps. Stop dragging my single ass into your bedroom. And stop with the white bashing. It’s very tiring.
Tête Carrée
Dragging your ass into their bedroom?
jhon_siders
Why is the race card thrown so much ? This crap is getting old I have a couple of older black friends that even think its BS they are my age (60) and they can remember real racism when they could have been beaten or killed just for being in the wrong place or after dark in a small town ! He saw this stuff as a kid happen in the south we have been out and seen them both have words with young punks with there pants off there ass or acting stupid They have no idea how well they have it now !