Is It Harder To Be Bisexual Than Gay? These Guys Think So

“Why can’t you just pick one? It’s weird.”

“But you’re actually gay, right?”

“Only girls can be bisexual. When guys are bisexual, they’re really just gay.”

“You’ve been with both, right? Otherwise, how would you know?”

These are just a few of the awkward questions and comments bisexual men hear on a regular basis.

We asked the folks at Whisper to see what bi guys had to say — here’s what they found:

I am afraid to come out as a bisexual man because my brother is gay and I feel it would crush my parents to have two

I'm a bisexual guy. I wish I could tell people without changing the way I'm  looked at. I'm the same person.. why do we have  to be confined to labels?

I'm a bisexual guy and I'm shy as hell. I don't know how to go after guys or girls.

I'm a bisexual guy who's married. I'll never get to experiment with a guy now.

I'm a bisexual guy and I'm only out to a few people, but my family is homophobic and I feel like my friends that don't know, wouldn't accept me if they did

As a bisexual man recently opening up from gay to bi,  I find I'm even more of a recluse. Now I'm being judged by both sides >.<

I'm a bisexual guy and there's nothing I hate more than straight guys saying they're okay with it as long as I don't hit on them. Yeah bro, you're just that hot, right?

I'm a bisexual guy. I primarily date men  because I find them more sexually attractive than women. I'm more romantically attracted  to women so I feel like  I can't win.

My gaydar is horrible and I'm a bisexual guy. People think I'm gay to this day and I always have to put them in their place.

I'm a bisexual guy but I think I'm starting to like guys a lot more than I like girls, there's much less drama with a guy

I'm a bisexual guy and I  really want to ask a girl to join me and this guy I'm sleeping with. How in the hell can I even approach something like that?

I'm a bisexual guy and I fear I won't find anyone because of the nasty things I've heard about my sexuality. Like how it's a turn off, it's disgusting, it doesn't exist, it automatically means I'll cheat, etc.

I sometimes feel like I'm not accepted into the LGBTQ community because I'm bisexual and we aren't taken very seriously

I'm a bisexual guy, usually doesn't come off well to the ladies but the guys seem to love it.

I'm a bisexual guy but straight people think I'm too gay and gay people think I'm too straight. This makes dating really hard and I want to just give up.

I'm a bisexual guy but I don't want people to know because I'm scared they'd think of me negatively

As a bisexual guy I have a crush on almost anyone who's around my age. It gets really difficult to ignore it at times

I'm a bisexual guy. I've only ever met a couple guys I was actually attracted to though. I guess I'm really picky.