As we mentioned Friday, Jim McGreevey and Dina McGreevey will share custody of their daughter, Jacqueline. The judge struck down Dina’s request for sole custody, thus giving Jim the first win in what will likely be a series of ugly (and public) divorce battles. Not only that, Judge Karen Cassidy agreed with the former New Jersey Governor and appointed a mediator to “oversee” the five-year old’s relationship with her parents. Jimmy Boy wasn’t the only winner. His soon-to-be ex-wife scored one potentially anti-gay point…
NYDN reports:
[Dina] did win a victory in barring her daughter from sharing a bed with her husband and his partner.
“[There’s] a mutual decision that they are prohibited to allow the child to sleep in the same bed as any other party or any other adult,” Cassidy said.
She also ruled McGreevey use “common sense” over what aspects of his lifestyle he may expose Jacqueline to…
Now, we understand Dina has some anti-gay issues to deal with, but did Judge Cassidy really need to make such an unorthodox ruling? She’s only feeding into Dina’s – and other’s – homophobia. Her ruling practically agrees, “Gay men can’t be trusted with children”. Yes, she’s holding Dina to the same standards, but only as an exercise of “justice”. It’s particularly perplexing considering Cassidy’s comments insisting McGreevey’s gayness is “not significant”. But, that’s just our opinion.
Cassidy may have fallen for Dina’s tricks, but she’s definitely not buying her book, Silent Partner. She told the Portuguese “author” haven’t read his. And I do not intend to read yours.” Oh, snap! Jim says that he’ll give it a look through, “At some point, I’ll read it. It might help me know what she thinks and feels.” Right after he’s found the cure for cancer. And “marrying” his man: McGreevey’s looking to partake in a little civil union action. No word on whether Dina’s invited. We doubt it…
Judge in McGreevey Divorce Says Being Gay ‘Is Not Significant’ [ABC]
McG itching to kiss the groom [NYDN]
Dawster
I don’t know if I accept the “gay men can’t be trusted with children†angle… I partially understand that assessment and get where that may come across, though.
To me, Dina is being mean, and bitter… and that’s okay for a woman in her position (I believe that we can allow her a “bitter†period, can’t we?). But the problem is that she doesn’t want her 5 year old daughter to be exposed to the ‘gay lifestyle’, find it normal and become comfortable with it – the very lifestyle that Mommy got paraded through the media for… the very lifestyle that Mommy was embarrassed by… the very lifestyle that left Mommy insecure at an older age with no means of support. The “horror” is that little Jacqueline would become comfortable with the gays, laugh with them, find them okay, and come home to Mommy telling stories about “Daddy and Daddy’s boyfriendâ€â€¦
So… whereas I’m TOTALLY for the scorned woman taking some personal “bitter time†(and maybe attacking her ex with a fork), I find Dina’s actions working on a much larger homophobic scale than just “gays can’t be trusted with childrenâ€. I find Dina trying to raise her daughter with two aspects of homophobia: (1) no positive light shed from the father’s side… and (2) nothing but negative light coming from the mother’s side (because you KNOW Mommy is talking some trash)… That, to me, is a much bigger issue.
traffick
I am totally taking Dina’s side in this battle. Remember the guy was screwing around on her the exact moment that she was in the hospital giving birth to this child.
Maybe she has a problem that Jim moved in with his new boyfriend a little to soon. If my ex was fucking around behind my back our whole entire marrage, then totally embarrassed me infront of the world’s media then hooked up and moved in with a new guy all within 6 months I wouldn’t want my kid near that skank either. I don’t think she is being homophobic, she’s just trying to attack Jim, and doesn’t know any other way to hurt him.
She’s not attacking all gays, just the ex-closet case faggot who ruined her life.
johnosahon
TO traffick.
sorry to say this, BUT, are you that dumb to realise that this judgement affects other cases. They will always refer to this case to pass judgement. maybe even your own.
suppose you and your partner breakup, and your partner enters x-gay ministry coming out “straight”, and supposely you and him have a child. now he can file using this case to say “i don’t want my child sleeping with faggots on my former bed.
abelincoln
Still not caring.
Dawster
it’s not just the gay thing… it’s about Dina’s control over her daughter. also in the divorce (from a news article):
“One of the most contentious issues in the divorce is what the child should be exposed to. Her mother made McGreevey and his partner take down a nude photograph in their home…….. and says that the girl should not be allowed to receive communion in the Episcopal Church because she is being raised a Roman Catholic.”
I agree with the nude pictures thing… but there is a homophobic religeous thing happening here as well………
traffick
Just because she doesn’t like one gay man, her slimy ex-husband, doesn’t mean she hates all gay people.
And to johnosahon comment, on what I would do if I had a ex-gay lover and we were fighting for custody of our kid. What makes you think I wouldn’t use the fact that my ex entered an ex-gay ministry as evidence that he is psychologically damaged in someway and therefore a danger to himself and the child.
It makes sense for her to be bitter. She was there for him, until he dumped her like a piece of garbage. And now he expects and in some cases in being shown as the gay prodical son. Whatever, he choose to marry a woman, and he choose to fuck around on her while they were married. And the only reason he came out of the closet was because he was about to get caught.
terry mckenna
he guys. even in divorces with hetero sexuals, the issue of how much sexiness the kids should be exposed to is an issue. for example, everyone excepts family nudity as ok – so if mom runs from the bathroom to her bedroom and the boys see a glimpse – that’s ok. but if its the new girlfriend, the matter becomes problematical. so to the gay community out there (most of whom have not raised a child) take it from this dad – all sex matters with a non parent are a bit scary and take time getting used to.