Everyone’s gotta bring home the bacon somehow, but certain jobs can be turn-offs. On Reddit’s r/askgaybros forum, guys recently professed the professions that would be dealbreakers in a relationship. And many didn’t mince words!
Here are lines of work that just don’t work for the commenters on the thread (with responses edited for brevity and readability.)
“It depends on the individual. As someone who grew up poor, I would be less concerned about his job and more about income. If he makes enough to support himself and put some into savings while making good financial choices, that is very attractive. I don’t want to end up supporting someone again, so this is important to me.”
“The biggest dealbreaker is no job at all, with no plans of getting one.”
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“Dating/relationships and love in general isn’t a job interview or a job. I’m not gonna ask you for your LinkedIn profile and call up your past and current employers, asking if you’re a good worker… This is a relationship. There’s a reason why a lot of workaholics struggle to have and maintain relationships… It’s a totally different ballpark. And for those who say finances affect relationships, they can if you let them and if you don’t believe they can be fixed/improved. Character, beliefs, and compatibility are much harder to change than financial status.”
“Multi-level marketer.”
“Drug runner. (Did this). Any job in the mortuary biz. Met too many complete freaks in that line of work.”
“Cop. I have family who are cops and I get along with them fine, but I could never with my partner.”
“Republican politician.”
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“I probably wouldn’t date someone who is a lobbyist for oil companies. Scum.”
“If it’s something heinous like cartel smuggler, Republican politician or HOA-appointed lawyer, then I’m gonna have to pass.”
“I wouldn’t date anyone in the military, nor would I date any scam artist.”
“I’d never date a cop or a stockbroker.”
“A hitman. They have unpredictable working hours, and sometimes they’re out of a job for 30 to life.”
“Republican/conservative party member/aide/campaigner.”
“It’s fine if they do OnlyFans but probably wouldn’t be down long term. Unless they plan to invest the money in something else and have a plan not to do it forever.”
“Years ago, on a gay reality TV show, there was a gay guy who worked for Ann Coulter. That would not work.”
“If that job is about hurting people or working for some obviously criminal group, then yeah, that’s a no.”
“I work on a cruise ship 70 days on and then 70 days off. Seems to be a massive dealbreaker.”
“Arms dealer, or [anything] around that world.”
“Landlords. House hoarding is not a profession; it’s a blight.”
“Corporate jobs and sales is a dealbreaker for me. I find them too fake and materialistic.”
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“I’ll be weird. Hospitals freak me out. A man coming back from the office or the field or whatever has its charm, but hospitals feel so sterile. Just kind of a turn-off.”
“I won’t date an ‘influencer’ or anyone who uses the number of followers they have as a justification for their (good or bad) behavior. Other than that, I don’t care what a guy does for a profession as long as he can support himself.”
“They can do whatever they want at work, as long as it’s not multi-level marketing or Herbalife. If they’re willing to scam and lie in their job, then they definitely will do it in their personal life, so no gaslighting/gatekeeping/girlbossing/marketing allowed here.”
“Unless they market cigarettes to children or something like that, I’m fine.”
“As long as it’s not illegal, I don’t really care what he does for work.”
kevininbuffalo
Guys who write for Queerty.
gregg2010
Hysterical!
Heywood Jablowme
Do you mean the articles or the comments?
gregg2010
I once dated an ex con who worked in a slaughter house. He was the sweetest guy . . . Really!
bachy
I don’t date actors. Take it from someone who lives in LA.
Doug
My response as well. Besides being a very tough way to make a living, most of the actors I’ve met would get rid of a relationship at the drop of a hat if it meant getting a step up in the business.
bachy
@Doug: You know from which you speak!
jumpers80
I wouldn’t date a democrat or anyone working for AOC, Waters, Pelosi, or a left wing media franchise. Imo they are unhinged.
Kangol2
You sound “unhinged.” Are you talking about yourself?
BennyTheHill
I’ll take a rich Republican over a welfare/food stamp Democrat everyday and all day.
griffin87
Naw, lol. jumpers80 and his brethren just isn’t used to being called out on their hypocrisy.
RTG
BennyTheHill: Facts first. Red states are the most dependent on welfare. It’s also generally the case they rank the lowest in education and health care….that may explain your comment.
white-queer-african
@jumpers80, a new fake troll screenname?
We went from Fake Tits to Twit aka Fake Tits M*ntalMarcy to BennyTheTwit!
The only GOP Praise Singer on Queerty is just so boring in it’s repeated over and over again same old drivel.
Sweetheart get back into your t3railer and STFU.
winemaker
If this article doesn’t show gay people as shallow and superficial I don’t know what does. As someone who’s been out for several years it never ceases to amaze me how shallow and catty gay men are. Granted being ambitious to better yourself and employed are important, too many gay men look down at certain jobs as below them. Too many of us have next to impossible standards for potential relationships they never take the risk and often end up old and alone, sad!
Bosch
Did you even read the article? In most of the cases it’s about political values or convicts. The only thing catty here is you complaining about how shallow men are for not wanting to date hitmen and drug runners.
Canadiancub
@bosch I get Americans not wanting to date conservatives. In Canada tho I think that would be pretty dumb since out conservatives are more liberal than your democrats. But I can see why y’all wouldn’t
Stefano
I’m getting ahead of myself here, but maybe you find gays more superficial because you are attracted to them? I admit that it’s harder to find someone who suits you when you are ugly or ordinary (that’s my case). I lived with someone much more beautiful than me for 24 years. He treated me like shit and his whole family despised me. We were an open couple for a long time and we had no sexual relations (18 years out of 24 years together). I was a cover for him to pretend he was stable and respectable…while he was banging three or four guys a week, if not more. He was a regular sleeper. I thought I deserved all this because I’m ugly. Fortunately, I ended up breaking up with him without too much damage. All this to say that maybe it’s up to you to change your vision…it’s often us who lock ourselves in our limiting beliefs.
Bosch
@canadiancub
I know exactly what you mean. I’m from across the Atlantic, and our conservatives are “woke librards” by American standards. Though lately, thanks to a profound lack of media literacy, some of that American extremism is taking hold in Europe again. It seems that WW2 is too far in the past now, and the younger generations are unaware of the lessons we learned from that time.
james7
PS: couldn’t seriously date a man who didn’t get THE POWER OF THE DOG
Canadiancub
What does that even mean ???
Man About Town
In that case we’re breaking up!
THAT Steve
I was listening to an old song, Dead Puppies, today so I guess I’m out.
Canadiancub
I wouldn’t date an only fans person, I would however do onlyfans with my partner. I would just be so probably insecure knowing he’s out there sucking every random.
JJinAus
“House hoarding landlord”? WTF? I own two house rental properties. With all the bills, taxes, repairs etc, it’s not enough for us to live on. Luckily we have other jobs.
IvanPH
A rentboy. I don’t want STDs
white-queer-african
@Stefano, never ever belittle yourself or call yourself ugly. You will only attract monsters that will belittle you. Look at yourself as a beautiful soul and trust me you will attract like-minded souls. Put that into the universe. Do not let monsters drain your soul. I send you love and peace.
Stefano
Thank you very much for your comment and your kindness. I’m still happy in life, despite all the people who despised me. I am doing very well, don’t worry. I’m sending you love and peace too.
cuteguy
A doctor. Most, but I’m sure not all, are narcissists. My ex was a toxic one and I learned my lesson. Believe it or not most of them are on drugs. Ask any nurse. I prefer a guy with a regular 9-5 and most importantly who is loyal and faithful.
bachy
I totally get you. I’ve encountered doctors who were alcoholics, drug addicts and others who were just plain crazy. They’re not the saints they’re made out to be on TV, that’s for sure.
BaltoSteve
Reminds me of the old joke, “What’s the difference between a Doctor and God?… God doesn’t think he is a Doctor… ” though I have seen in with Lawyer in place of Doctor. 😀
GentlemanCaller
Any guy who was involved in the tr*mp “administration” in any capacity. Hell, any guy involved in any capacity in the administration of any federal, state, or local republican politician. People have a choice about who they work for, and your choice tells me all I need to know.
Terrycloth
Won’t date a Queen or a screaming Queen. Anyone who talks down to strangers / waiters ,witnesses. Dosent like animals , isn’t nice to children or the elderly..or anyone who is too self absorbed to realize there’s someone else in the relationship and it Isn’t all about HIMSELF
Terrycloth
* waiters waitresses… damn auto carrot
Bosch
I could not date a steward or a pilot. It has nothing to do with the substance of the job though… I’m way too neurotic to deal with having a partner who’s up in the sky all the time. I’d be checking the news every five minutes for plane crashes.
Yes yes, I know, you have less chance of dying in a plane crash then from an in-land mutant shark attack… But still. Too scary.