Judge Judy Learns About Grindr, Lays Down The Gavel On Scandalous Case

The honorable Judge Judith Sheindlin found herself thrust into the 21st century in yesterday’s episode.

“Um, we met on a, um…social website,” the defendant, 23-year-old Adam Murphy, nervously told Judge Judy. Murphy was being sued for not paying back a loan from his 47-year-old “friend.”

He continued: “It’s actually called Grindr…Grindr, it’s an app. For your phone or your iPad. It’s a social app that tells you where homosexual males are and their proximity. To where you are.”

Members of the peanut gallery could be seen chuckling in the background as Murphy explained that after finding each other on Grindr, he and his older “friend” agreed to meet in person in neutral territory: Applebee’s.

“So what you’re telling me, sir, is: You went on this website in order to find someone who had the same sexual predisposition you did, right?” Judge Judy asked.

“No, actually, it was just to make friends,” Murphy replied.

But the honorable judge was not convinced.

“No, then you go on a website to make friends,” she replied. “You go with college friends. But you went on a particular website. I mean, if I were looking to just make friends, I wouldn’t go on a website that said, you know, it’s just for little old Jewish ladies. I would try to expand my horizons a little bit, do you understand?”

She continued: “So then you met Mr. Sterns, who is considerably older than you are. So if what you said is you wanted to make ‘friends’, one would think you wanted to make friends with a contemporary of yours.”

Then, letting it be known that the wool was not going to be pulled over her 71-year-old eyes, she concluded: “You were looking for companionship.”

After hearing both men’s testimony, Judge Judy ended up dismissing the case, ruling that the plaintiff gave the money with no reasonable expectation to be repaid. She concluded by telling 23-year-old Murphy that his actions (using the promise of sex to get money from lonely older gentlemen) left her…

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  • Dakotahgeo

    I’m not a great fan of Judge Judy but her track record of “on the mark” judgments is pretty darn good, as was her decision in this case. You can bet the young male slut’s reputation with go far and wide and gain him NO new friends, and even less old friends.

  • redcarpet

    I wanna hear Bianca Del Rio’s verdict!

  • Cam



  • Stache99

    @Cam: What a bitter skeptic you are. Why can’t you believe he was just looking for a mentor. It’s not his fault that the guy gave him money.. :)

  • Stache99

    @Dakotahgeo: He’s young and cute so I’m sure there will be enough to over look his hustling ways.

  • mcflyer54

    @Stache99: it was Grindr, not And if he was seeking a “mentor” why was there money involved? As for the older guy, well there is a reason why they say there is no fool like an old fool.

  • Ben Dover

    The most disturbing part of this case was Applebee’s.

  • SteveDenver

    On more than one occasion I have seen her issue the same statement against slick men who charm money out of women who are less than ideal, and young women who squeeze money out of guys who are absolutely not a social match.

    One more than one occasion I have seen older guys lavish younger cute guys trying to get into their pants or win their affections. I recall one date where the guy was astonished when I asked the server before ordering, “May we have separate checks please?” He said he would be happy to treat. I told him I wanted a level playing field because I was planning to seduce him after our next date if he didn’t do anything stupid that night. Our second date was the next day.

  • Dakotahgeo

    @Stache99: ;-)

  • DarthKitsune

    Love love LOVE Judge Judy!

  • Cee

    lol Judy rarely misses a beat.

  • Dxley

    Saying you’re on Grindr to make friends is like saying you pick up rentboys to get hugs.

  • dvlaries

    It doesn’t even have to be a gay case – it’s a simple fact of life that when 47 chases 23, 47 is going to pay and pay and pay and 23 is going to take and take and take. This isn’t even the first gay one; only the first gay one with Grindr involved, but in any given Judy season, there’s at least a half dozen hetero such cases where the older litigant chose to ignore that same basic wake-up call.

  • James Hart

    Sad story. Both guys lost their dignity in this mess.

  • James

    @redcarpet: haha same!!

  • Horse Lips

    I love her. She’s always been very fair to the gays.

  • dvlaries

    @Horse Lips:
    Yes, she always has been. A great deal of that may be from what she’s dealt with on the show, and perhaps even earlier before she retired as an active judge.
    Regular watchers are fully familiar with her frustration with straight couples, who could have married, may or may not have children together, but decided on just a shack-up, sometimes for years. They’ve co-mingled all manner of assets and liabilities, now hate one another and don’t want to play house anymore, both wanting Judy to leave the other on the curb in his or her underwear.
    The best episodes are when she sends exactly such litigants away, both markedly less happy and triumphant than they’d thought they’d be. “Now you come to me and dump all of this mess out and expect somebody else to clean it up! That’s not what courts are for, we have more important things to do!” Actual divorce would naturally makes any judge’s life easier, subtracting debts from capital and splitting the remainder down the middle. That supplies all the needed logic for any judge who likes a simplified work load to be all for marriage equality.

  • justSomeGuyFromNJ

    @james_in_cambridge: There’s no video on the page you linked to. And youtube only has clips; not the entire case. :(

  • don1323

    It was a very funny episode. Both of them desperately trying to be “discrete.” Judge Judy wasn’t having any of it. As she said, you’re putting this in front of ten million viewers. What did you expect?

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