Kurt Cobain’s Mother Wouldn’t Let Him Hang Out With Gay Friend As A Kid

9bd6c545Yeah. Yeah. I even thought that I was gay. I thought that might be the solution to my problem. Although I never experimented with it, I had a gay friend, and then my mother wouldn’t allow me to be friends with him anymore because… well, she’s homophobic. It was real devastating because finally I found a male friend who I actually hugged and was affectionate too, and we talked about a lot of things… I couldn’t hang out with him anymore.”


— Late rock icon Kurt Cobain asked if he had problems with people thinking he was gay as a kid, in a recently unearthed interview with PBS from 1993


H/t: Huffington Post

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  • ho

    No surprise there. He was born in ’67 so that would have been maybe 1980.
    What the fuck positive was going on for gays back then. I can’t think of
    one positive role model in my childhood, Liberace doesn’t count unless
    you think mocking counts. Thank goodness times have changed.

  • stranded

    I remember reading the friend tried to initiate a physical relationship, which Cobain turned down and the friend was a dick to him from then on.

  • jimbryant

    Women tend to be very homophobic. Mothers often warn their sons about getting too physically close to their buddies. This is how homophobic attitudes develop in young men. They are passed on from the mother.

    Because women are narcissists, they oppose anything tbat takes men’s attention away from women. Homophobic attitudes in women are part of the gender war that women wage against all men.

  • litper

    I agree with jim. Women are the ones who force guys in the closet, be that in relationships or when they demand a movie star to be 100% straight. Also, some of the worst homophobic leaders are women – Bachmann, Uganda house speaker, Russian mad woman who wrote an anti-gay law, former Australian PM who blocked gay marriage, even Thatcher with her Section 28.

  • Kamuriie

    Wow, Jim. What totally baseless, misogynistic claims. And Litper, while Australia’s former PN certainly wasn’t a gay ally, she wasn’t full of burning rhetoric like many.

    The clami that “women tend to be homophobic” is absurd on its FACE.

    “More broadly, support is highest among younger women and lowest among older men.”

    “Across all three questions, women, adults aged 18 to 34, and Democrats are more supportive of gay rights than their counterparts.”

  • litper

    @Kamuriie she was publicly as anti-gay as she was allowed to be. If it was 20 years ago she would send all gays to concentration camps!

  • the other Greg

    @Kamuriie: “Jim” has a seemingly endless ability to reincarnate himself here – without disguising his, um, distinctive style of writing! Until recently he was our resident misogynist “Brian Apple” (with a fake Facebook page yet), and before that the misogynist “jason” for a couple of years.

  • BlogZilla

    Parents are narrow-minded, mean-spirited assholes. I’m so glad I don’t have to deal with mine anymore.

  • Goforit

    @jimbryant: @Kamuriie: You two have some serious Mommy issues. Please seek some professional help.

  • fagburn

    Erm, this interview with Jon Savage was published in The Observer – one Britain’s biggest newspapers in August 1993…

  • Sebizzar

    Sad for both :(
    Does anyone even know who this friend was? We never hear his name or his whereabouts and I’m sure he’d have said something after Cobain’s death? Makes me wonder if maybe he died even before Kurt did :(

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  • Cee

    That BITCH.

  • Bumper

    @ho: You must be young. There were plenty of gay icons of that time and even further in the past. Remember, it was “chic” to know gay people in the 60’s.

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