You know what? It’s not a lie that I am bisexual and I like women, and anyone that wants to twist this into ‘she says she’s bisexual for marketing,’ this is a fucking lie. This is who I am and who I have always been.”
— Lady Gaga once again insisting that she has indeed taken a few dips in the lady pond, during a Q&AÂ at Berghain Club in Berlin, Germany
H/t: HuffPo
Pistolo
Nobody said she wasn’t bisexual! I’ve never read a headline that said that. Perpetual victim. She said the same thing about her weight gain which, again, not HUGE news but she made it bigger. #desperate
Mauricio
How come you say she hasn’t been attacked, I remember the interview she had on BRAVO where she said that she likes women. Queerty posted the interview and all comments were : “She’s not bisexual, it’s marketing, stop making money from the gays, you desperate attention whore “. Why is that people hate her? I mean if you don’t like her , ignore her, but why the fuss? I personally like her, she has managed to be who she is despite the hatred. People should stop the hatred towards artists.
Pistolo
@Mauricio: Did you read the quotes from Lady Gaga’s deposition? The one where she referred to her assistant as a “slave” and then went on to say her assistant wasn’t cool with the idea of Gaga being the “queen of the universe” instead of her. Lady Gaga is the hateful one, she’s a hypocrite and those quotes were all from a stenographer whose job it is to be 100% accurate.
I ignore her as much as I can, I’m pretty sure I’ve never given her a cent of my money but I also don’t think most other people should be so damn naive and indulge her so much.
hotshot70
It doesn’t matter if she’s heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, transsexual, pansexual, or trisexual. She is a great person.
whatisthis
Why do people even care? Aren’t we the community who constantly laughs at homophobes for caring so much about us fucking each other? Yet many of the people in our community obviously care about one of our biggest advocate’s sexuality. And it’s not just Gaga’s sexuality, we’re obsessed with who’s gay and who isn’t. It’s so fucking hypocritical; borderline comical.
Honestly, people just look for any reason to pick apart Lady Gaga. Her style is so different from the norm that the people, even gays, who can’t stand her go all out to belittle her in any way possible. Wow, I never even realized how hypocritical THAT is, too.
AlexM
Her bisexuality is as real as all the wigs she wears.
jonjct
nobody cares
Icebloo
I’m a Gaga fan but I don’t believe she is bisexual. I think she is just saying she is bisexual for the attention and to get the gay audience to buy her music. David Bowie and the Russian group T.a.T.U did the same thing. They lie about being gay or bisexual then they get married to someone of the opposite sex and have kids.
It’s disappointing they use us like this – particularly someone like Gaga who the gays would have liked whether she was gay, straight or bisexual.
It makes me angry because some straight people see these famous people and when they get married to someone of the opposite sex many straight people think this means a gay person can choose to be gay or not. It is very damaging and the selfish famous people don’t care – they just want to make money ! They don’t care about us at all.
tardis
@Pistolo: People say it. Maybe you won’t see it in a headline, but people say it.
tardis
@Icebloo: I hear this type of reasoning a lot. The only thing that leaves me scratching my head is when you claim she wants to make money off you all. The gay community is such a small minority. What is there to cash in on exactly? She’s been bisexual from the beginning. How bisexual she is is a matter of debate.
litper
Oh please, all women are bisexual. They’re attracted to feminity more than masculinity. Just look at the “boys” they like. Only people who like real men are gay men.
jimbryant
Lady Gaga is not bisexual in my view. However, she does use female bisexuality as a marketing ploy. Her ‘bisexuality’ is a brand that is designed to titillate straight guys. It’s got nothing to do with standing up for GLBT rights.
In fact, women who invent their bisexuality for reasons of titillation are usually hostile towards male homosexuality. These women are especially hostile towards the bisexual male. They see the genuine bisexual men as a threat to the female sexuality charade.
Here’s a salient truth about women: they are as phony as the make-up they put on their faces, and the dye they put in their hair. Don’t trust ’em.
GeriHew
@Icebloo:
Re: “then they get married to someone of the opposite sex and have kids.”
You sound just like Beth Ditto – i.e., an ignoramus who doesn’t even know what the word bisexual means.
bi¡sex¡u¡al
b??sekSHo?o?l/
adjective
adjective: bisexual
1.
sexually attracted to both men and women.
Biology
having characteristics of both sexes.
noun
noun: bisexual;?plural noun: bisexuals
1.
a person who is sexually attracted to both men and women.
GeriHew
@jimbryant: Oh shut up you Jason Clone!
krystalkleer
@jimbryant: so that makes you what? a bitter queen who hasn’t been laid in tearsthen…poll together yer pocket change…get yerself “some love” and GET OVER IT!
http://www.getoffmydress.blogspot.com
jimbryant
Unlike men, women don’t need to be physically aroused in order to complete the sex act. It is thus very easy for women to fake an interest in the sex act. This also means that it is easy for them to fake their sexuality, including bisexuality.
Female sexuality is largely a form of prostitution because women are sellers by nature. They sell across the sexuality divide – ie to STRAIGHT men.
jimbryant
Note also that there are no openly bisexual male singers in the charts. Only women can say they are bisexual and still have commercial success in music today. Do you now see how women exploit the bisexual double standard for commercial gain?
GeriHew
@jimbryant: Rubbish! You don’t even know who’s in the charts Jason Clone.
Frank Ocean:
Came out 2012
In 2013
55th Grammy Awards
Best New Artist Nominated
Record of the Year “Thinkin Bout You” Nominated
Album of the Year Channel Orange Nominated
Best Urban Contemporary Album Won
Best Rap/Sung Collaboration “No Church in the Wild”
(with Kanye West & Jay-Z) Won
Best Short Form Music Video Nominated
2013 BRIT Awards
International Male Artist Won
2013 GLAAD Media Awards
Outstanding Music Artist Won
jimbryant
GeriHewson,
Frank Ocean has never said he is bisexual. Even if he is, he is not allowed to market it in the way female pop singers are allowed to. There’s a ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ policy placed on male bisexuality in American music.
As for Lady Gaga, she’s a phony who appeals to sleazy straight guys by using gay men as a cover.
Dxley
Hahaha I knew I’d find @GeriHew here. Fancy meeting you here. Are you still “bisexual”? Or maybe just a straight girl who likes the company(virtual, that is) of gay men?
I also don’t believe Gaga is bisexual. I like her but more often than not, female bisexuals are really straight!!!
Pistolo
@GeriHew: I don’t think people suddenly become straight after a heterosexual marriage but I can understand how it becomes irksome to people who see these actresses coming out after they’re married with kids and in a “safe zone”. Like Megan Foxx or Anna Paquin or Gillian Anderson then there’s actresses like Evan Rachel Wood who have high-profile relationships with men and say they’re bisexual but you never see which women they’re with.
@jimbryant: Whoa, that’s an outrageous claim. Women are not prostitutes by nature. Look up the word “misogyny” please.
The only part you had right was that women don’t need the same level as physical arousal to perform sexual acts. I think it makes women more prone to identify as bisexual, they can mimic the effect of a penis with strap-ons if they want it so they can get the same sensation from women as they do men.
It’s harder to be bi as a male I think because there’s very little similarities between man on woman and man on man.
the other Greg
@jimbryant: Jim / Brian / Jason: I’m surprised you didn’t complain that girls have “COOTIES.”
jimbryant
The bisexual double standard is common amongst young people in America. One of the reasons is porn. Porn has a bisexual double standard. It has influenced the way young people think. It has impressed upon young people that girl-girl is hot and guy-guy is gross.
The more sexualized society becomes, the more pronounced this homopbobic double standard becomes. Women exploit this as part of a superiority kick. They use this double standard to oppress all men, including gay and bi men.
Mauricio
Anyway , she’s great and that’s what counts !
GeriHew
@Pistolo: Ever heard about pegging?
GeriHew
@jimbryant: @Dxley: Well obviously if you like Lady Gaga then you can’t believe she’s really bisexual because if you did then you’d have to hate her wouldn’t you Dxley?
MMDD
I could care less about her sexuality. I just wish she’d put some fucking clothes on for a change. I’m so sick and tired of female performers stripping just to draw attention to themselves.
Dxley
@GeriHew: I admit I was wrong about bisexual(and trans) people and I’m really sorry. I’ve realized that I was being a dick and had some growing to do. As a gay man I’m susceptible to attacks and hatred and I thought it was irrational and simply stupid to try and inflict more pain upon these people. They’re part of the community and that’s probably never going to change. I didn’t want to be so judgmental towards other people because discrimination is still discrimination no matter inflicted by whom upon who. You don’t have to accept my apology but I admit I was a dick – again, sorry.
GeriHew
@MMDD: I really don’t think she stripped off & posed for glamour photos in order to declare her bisexuality. There are millions of photos of Lady Gaga with her clothes on that Queerty could have used instead for this article.
However one of the biggest issues with identifying as a bisexual person is that many people seem totally incapable of thinking about people being bi outside of a purely sexual context.
GeriHew
@Dxley: Aww. That’s a nice surprise Dxley. I hope it stays that way đ
MMDD
@GeriHew: That’s not the point I was making at all. It just seems that stripping naked (or practically naked) is the only way female artists nowadays feel they can garner significant attention.
MMDD
Damn fucking site. Two “internal server errors”…shall we try for three?
nobullshit
There is so much hatred in these comments I had to respond.
Most of these posts are either mysogynistic or ignorant and fundamentally misunderstand the bisexual experience.
These attitudes make it very difficult for people to be openly bisexual at all. Some of the comments above are also very insulting to women.
You can’t blame bisexuals for homophobia or other people’s misconceptions that you can choose your sexuality or blame women for the sex industry which includes male prostitution and is run in the main by men to serve the needs of men.
It’s very painful to constantly hear people undermine bisexuals and viciously attack women.
Some people are attracted to men and women and this is not to spite people who only like one sex. It is also not easy for them and often causes a lot of distress particularly due to the denial of their feelings by the gay and straight community and assertions that they are just ‘fiction’ or ‘fashion’.
Projecting discomfort and pain onto other people and vilifying them in this way only creates more pain for everyone.
Famous people being open about their sexuality is good for everyone and they shouldn’t be attacked for it.