When we read about same-sex couples successfully having children, it’s easy to forget how difficult the process can sometimes prove to be. One couple who knows all about that is *NSYNC singer and businessman Lance Bass and his husband, artist Michael Turchin.
The couple have previously spoken of the trouble they’d had to become dads. Most recently, a ninth round of IVF treatment resulted in their surrogate becoming pregnant but miscarrying at the eight-week stage last August.
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It was the first time their surrogate became pregnant following IVF treatment, and they even knew the sex of the embryo – a boy – so it was a particular blow for the couple.
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“We unfortunately lost him after eight weeks, which happens to pretty much everyone when you’re going through IVF,” Bass told Entertainment Tonight. “I didn’t even know that as we were going through this, but we’ve met so many great couples who have the same story. So, you do feel a lot of support knowing other people have gone through it.
“Getting over that has been hard. It’s like all these hopes and dreams I had won’t be happening this time. But everything happens for a reason and when it needs to happen, it’ll have to happen.”
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He said that he and Turchin, who he married in 2014, were not giving up.
“It’s been a very long process, years in the making… There have been a lot of ups and downs—way more downs than ups.”
They intend to try a tenth round of IVF soon. If that fails, they may consider adoption.
“Of course, in a perfect world, I would love to have my own kids. But if it’s not meant in the cards, then it’s not meant in the cards and there are plenty of kids who need adopting. So, I’m not opposed to going right ahead and adopting if this fails next time.”
fab0497
Ellen Degeneres is beautiful in this photo
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Possibly time to find another surrogate?
whitehusky
Been there. Sounds similar to what my husband and I have been going though over the last 7-ish years trying to have kids.
Chrisk
What is so wrong with adopting though? This is akin to buying from the puppy mill.
spacecadet
@ChrisK: What an ignorant, insensitive statement. IVF is not akin to a puppy mill. So dumb. Fetuses aren’t being mistreated and living in cruel conditions.
jayceecook
@Chrisk I really hope you feel the same way about opposite sex couples who use surrogacy or you’re a total hypocrite. Or when couples, same or opposite, use donor sperm. Or single women who use donor sperm. In fact maybe get off the internet and be like Activist Mommy and start prayer protesting at IVF clinics and sperm banks. Remember, the latter isn’t for your dumpster.
Cam
Lance’s suit looks like something that Mon’ique or Dolly Parton would wear to a church social.
pdpant
I agree.with all of his money one would think he would have better taste. But then again beauty is in the eye of the beholder
Heywood Jablowme
“But everything happens for a reason…”
Yes, the universe is telling you guys not to have a baby! Can’t take a hint, can you?
sillyme
Talk about being clueless they still can’t get it yet, can they that they need to just to adopt a child and go onward with life as is and cope they aren’t meant to be fathers by having someone surrogate for them right now, it’s not the time.
dhmonarch89
The world is over populated to the breaking point- PLEASE Foster or adopt!!!
frankcar1965
Why is Lance’s face so big? Like a pumpkin.
SELA Rising
Any person, and particularly gay men, not genuinely looking at adoption or fostering as options for having kids are selfish and not the type of parents we need. 10 rounds?!?!