We know it can be an awfully tough concept for some to wrap their heads around, but it bears repeating â sexuality and gender identity are two different things.
Just as there are men who are attracted to men and men who are attracted to women, so too are there trans women into guys and trans women into women. The same goes for any way you want to combine identities and interests.
Hereâs a great rule of thumb: weâre all different and weâre all the same!
Below, we hear from the people who identify as trans and gay on Whisper:
IDoNotHaveToAgreeWithYou
That makes them a heterosexual crossdresser and nothing more. Stop trying to attach yourselves to gays. We don’t want you. Your mental issues are not our problem to deal with.
Masc Pride
A bunch of gay trans people going on and on about how proud they are to be gay and trans…and it seems…totally encouraged? Replace trans with masc and the very same queens encouraging these trans people would be moaning about “effemipobia”, and of course the community fave: “self-loathing”. Interesting.
Ander
@IDoNotHaveToAgreeWithYou: I’m a gay man, but I’m not sure who this “we” is you are presuming to speak for.
Ari Gold
People whisper about everything. #whocares
Dave Downunder
I have read that many trans people remain attracted to the gender opposite to the one they were born with even after they transition but I have only ever met one. All the other trans folk I have known have been straight identifying after they have transitioned.
SFHandyman
I understand gay transmen. I mean come on. Men are hot. It is hard for me to comprehend not liking men. And it’s awesome being a guy. So I really understand a trans man not being happy living his life as a woman. I don’t think the plumbing mismatch would bother me either. I’m not that much into dick but I love men. So a transman has most of what I like. Good for you gay transmen.
IDoNotHaveToAgreeWithYou
@Ander: I’m speaking for the millions of gays who still don’t have job and housing protection because of trans sabotage.
Brian
Trans gay guys are are a feminized version of homosexuality. They identify as women – and all its attendant stereotypes – and thus do not really qualify as male homosexual. In body they are male but in mind they identify as female and thus should be considered heterosexual women at the mental level.
Menatally, trans gay guys should be classified as heterosexual women.
Tobi
@Brian: “Menatally” is a perfect description of you, Brian.
NateOcean
@SFHandyman: Great for you SFHandyman.
By the same token, I’m a gay man and I love dick.
So not wanting to have sex with a dickless FTM trans mans doesn’t make me “transphobic”.
It just means I know what I like, and they don’t have it.
ErikO
I feel bad for trans men and trans women since the majority of gay men and lesbian women, and even bisexual women and men do not want to have sex or even a relationship/partnership with them.
Brian
I want a man, not a man-woman. I don’t want someone who represents a desire to look and behave like a heterosexual woman. Because that’s exactly what a gay man in transition represents – a heterosexual woman.
I might have this trans-gay as a friend but I would not want to go to bed with him. Friendship, yes. Bedship, no.
bottom250
@IDoNotHaveToAgreeWithYou: what?
bottom250
@Brian: How do they represent a hetrosexual women when they look masculine and act masculine and have testosterone over running in their veins.
inbama
@bottom250:
He’s got transmen and transwomen confused.
ErikO
@bottom250: Transmen don’t look or act masculine at all.
Heywood Jablowme
They’re generally nice people in my experience… but at a more intimate level, sorry, if a guy can’t shoot a load of CUM I wouldn’t be interested.
Sex for most guys is much more physical than emotional.
@Tobi: “Menatally” as in Men Natalie?
Tobi
@NateOcean: There have been face and hand transplants recently, so I imagine dicks will follow shortly or have already done so. đ
ErikO
@Tobi: When they’ve done penis transplants they do them on actual men, not trans”men”, and they do it on people who have been basically castrated and who still have part of their penis or male genitals. It also is apparently not guaranteed to work, and the person apparently has to take meds as they have a transplanted organ now.
notcisjustmale
TransMan — the Pontiac version of a woman? A man is an adult human male. A F2T person and a male person can have sex together – enjoyable sex, great sex, or even mediocre sex. But the sex they’re having isn’t gay sex.
awdjeep
What a great idea for an article. I wonder where Queerty got it from.