A starstruck Queerty reader snapped this photo of openly gay Oscar-winning screenwriter Dustin Lance Black and openly straight Olympic diver Tom Daley leaving The Coffee Bean in Hollywood last week.
Since Daley recently came into the closet as an avowed heterosexual ā to a chorus of raised eyebrows no doubt recalling the gay-baiting heās become famous for on his Twitter and Instagram accounts ā we presume nothing.
But we do have a series of questions. Were they meeting to discuss a secret film project? Did Daley have a change of heart and sought coming out advice in anticipation of National Coming Out Day? Were they on a date ā of the bromantic or romantic kind? Who knows? Our source says the two where chummy but did not appear to be canoodling.
Since Black gave his famous Academy Award speech, he has become a minor magnet for stars and starlets, including Taylor Lautner. We reached out to him for comment, but the boy who cried werewolf was mum on his freshly brewed rendezvous.
Dixie Rect
Big f-ing deal. Elsewhere in Hollywood, Dixie Rect was spotted having a martini with Olive Beegkok.
andy_d
@Dixie Rect: I agree. My reaction to this story was “so f—ing what?”
MK Ultra
Didn’t DLB totally excuse Orson Scott Card’s homophobia?
Always suck the c*ck that feeds you, hey Dustin?
J.c.
See this is why it took so long for hetros to open up and be public concerning friendships and acceptance of their gay counterparts. Seems every time they are even seen with someone who is gay they get “accused” of being secretly gay or called closet cases etc! The worst accusers are gays themselves too! Its not a playful little (hoping he is gay) either. Its harsh accusing and bitter in tone. Like it is a terrible thing . Much like gays are saying ” Oh look that faggot he has the same disease we have, . he is one of us ” I for one am sick of this. I personally am always pleased when I see more and more young hetros crossing the social barrier and defiantly refusing to be intimidated by old social norms and accusations.
Cam
@J.c.:
“The Gays” really? So nice to see the sad lament of the hetro troll.
The funny thing about your posting is that all of these folks that you claim are attacked by the gay community for possibly being gay even though they are straight….all pretty much turned out to be gay.
We heard the same thing about Clay Aiken, Ricky Martin, Neil Patrick Harris, Queen Latifa, and we’re still hearing it about Jeremy Rener and Kevin Spacey. Nice try.
J.c.
@Cam: Yeah you’re one of those “gays” I was talking about! LMAO! “I was referring to people like Franco , Daniel Radcliffe, Brad Pitt Robert Pattinson and a host of others who are always being “accused” So “Cam” you list a few that were gay. So what who the F’ cares. Its not a communicable disease to be gay.Why do queens like you get so exited scoping out any possibility of being gay. You some sort of gay secret agent with the intent of flushing them out of possible hiding? Does that make you feel justified? (lol) and btw I’m no troll. I’m a fan of queerty and I am gay.
Spike
Ah Queerty, you have hit a new low with this post. Desperate is not pretty.
Stache1
@TinoTurner: OMG. DLB with a pornstar not even having approved sex. Probably more envy then any faux concern that you have.
Stache1
@J.c.: Totally agree and a great way of explaining the harm done by playing these silly games. It’s Internalized Homophobia at it’s most worst and just more proof that gay men can be their own worst enemies. The only time I agree for stories like this is when their doing us harm. Then I say it’s all bets are off.
drivendervish
I absolutely agree with JC that we are often suspicious of “straight” celebrities who are seen with gay friends. But, my first thought is just seeing them talking doesn’t mean they are friends, who knows how they happened to come together for this pic. However, Tom Daley, is a special case here because there is simply nothing straight about him except his lame admission that he is straight. Most straight people don’t feel the need to come out and publicly announce they aren’t gay. When I was young, I met hundreds of young guys that said they were straight and I knew that they were gay. That’s the way I feel about Tom. Tom is still very young and he fears coming out for some reason and I can respect that unless he starts bashing his own community.
sanfranca1
So?
jel1955
@Dixie Rect: Go Dixie!!!! And I wish I was in the land of cotton…
litper
Sorry, JC, but every brit knows Tom is gay. It’s really very sad he keeps playing that game to not loose the fangurls and endorsments!
J.c.
@litper: That’s my point though lipter! Why does it matter if he admits it or not or for what reason he feels it is necessary to keep it under wraps? Its his own business who he falls in love with or has sex with. He is an Olympic athlete. He is there for the worlds sports entertainment. He does not OWE us anything and besides as I said what’s the big deal if he is? Its not the end of the world…. or IS IT to you? Is it like that he has to admit he is part of some horrendous social plague???Will that make you feel better? Truly with all do respect we as a group have to let this stuff go. Gays are worst in accusatory tone with this than any homophobic teenage boy! We as people are human equal and worthy of respect and dignity. We should not in my humble (and at times not so humble opinion)try at every turn to OUT anyone that we think is or probably or should be gay. Leave people alone. I don’t blame this kid at all if he is hiding it . Its early in his career and he doesn’t need any shit to distract him. That’s why most athletes and entertainers come out later in life or at the end of their careers.
Cam
@J.c.: said…
“@Cam: Yeah youāre one of those āgaysā I was talking about! LMAO! āI was referring to people like Franco , Daniel Radcliffe, Brad Pitt Robert Pattinson and a host of others who are always being āaccusedā So āCamā you list a few that were gay. So what who the Fā cares. Its not a communicable disease to be gay.Why do queens like you get so exited scoping out any possibility of being gay. You some sort of gay secret agent with the intent of flushing them out of possible hiding? Does that make you feel justified? (lol)
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Careful JC, your self loathing is showing. Not just because you lash out and attack somebody who disagrees with you by calling them a “Queen”, but because only a bigot or self loathing gay would start foaming at the mouth and crying because somebody had DARED to think that somebody might be gay. You see it as an attack or an insult when people suggest that they may be gay? Then I would say you have some major issues to work through.
The fact is, until people like you stop thinking it is an insult to DARE suggest that somebody like Ricky Martin is gay, then people like Ricky Martin will keep hiding in the closet until their careers are over.
manonyme
@J.c.: well, JC, i see where you’re coming from and to a certain extent we share some common ground. i too feel tht we should just let ppl be themselves without badgering them out of the closet-or just assuming they gay, cuz if it has no bearing on one’s life other that whom they choose to ‘knock boots’ with; then why would we talk about it? right?
however there is a nuanced aspect to this that should be pointed out. i came to know tom daley over the olympics. aquatic sports don’t hit my radar unless there’s guys in speedos. so naturally, i noticed him. and in my opinion he gave off an air tht made me (tacitly) say wow he’s a gay dude at an rather good time to be gay. i saw pictures and behavior that would signal other ppl of like mind. . .
so in his case he sorts put it out there, lit’rally. then a vehement, staunch clarification of being a hetero is puzzling at best. (and yes i did factor in his englishness w/regard to behavior.)
yes it goes too far sometimes, but we are men who like men,so it should be expected tht we will point stuff out,gawk and cruise.
regarding james franko, when a ‘str8′ actor tells how he practiced deep-throating for a role; it makes one think he’ r e a l l y mehtod! or the opposite. so sometimes guys ride the fence maybe unintentionally, but we all get enuff crap from society and these issues are quite sticky. above all, we should treat each other like we have understanding about having diff views. . .tht’s our whold experience. being diff and working our way back to ourselves over time.
i think you raise an imp issue, though š
craigers
I love you Queerty. And I expect more out of you than for you to go all “National Enquirer” over a bad snap shot from a coffee house. Come on, you’re better than this.
LadyL
@J.c.: I have a real problem with the notion that gays who speculate about who is gay, or who dare to queston closet behavior, are the enemy, “attacking” other gays. That attitude goes over well with homophobic straights who would like nothing better than for all of us to keep our mouths shut and to remain invisible and fearful.
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You said: “Why does it matter if he admits it or not or for what reason he feels it necessary to keep it under wraps?”
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You know very well why it matters, JC, or should if you really are gay. Public people who stay in the closet are not there because they enjoy hiding. There’s no dignity or joy in living a life looking over your shoulder.
We’ve talked about closeted celebrities on this and other sites often enough that we should know by now what the deal is with them. They dodge and deny and dissemble because A) they want to come out but are surrounded by gatekeepers telling them to stay down low if they want to be/stay successful or B) they are carrying painful childhood memories of being bullied and marginalized and are frightened it will happen all over again, this time on a public stage with the world watching. They’re scared that everything they’ve worked so hard for will be taken away.
These dilemmas are very big deals. They’re the kind of problems that blight and disfigure lives. (Witness the travails of John Travolta, for example.) We can understand and sympathize, but there’s nothing admirable about a life spent in hiding.
Cam
@craigers: said.. “And I expect more out of you than for you to go all āNational Enquirerā over a bad snap shot from a coffee house. Come on, youāre better than this.
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Only a bigoted troll or self hating closet case would think it is a world shattering insult to ask if somebody is gay.
NormanJones
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Dxley
I bet Perez Hilton is already digging deep for something juicy and what I hate is that most of the time he’s right. All the money but no guy wants him? Poor thing š
Sutherland
Hi guys. He has been seen in various gay clubs in the UK frequently and WHO cares. If he came out it would maybe make other sports people to gain the confidence to do the same.
Cam
@Sutherland: said….
“Hi guys. He has been seen in various gay clubs in the UK frequently and WHO cares. If he came out it would maybe make other sports people to gain the confidence to do the same.
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First you say “Who Cares”, and then in your next sentence, you give a very good reason why people should care.
LadyL
@Cam: Are you sensing a pattern here? We seem to be taking our cues from discomfited straights as to how to feel about ourselves. Still. Bummer.
Rebecca
I’m a straight girl so I don’t know what the case is with Tom, but my gay friends tell me he pings. I certainly find it interesting that he’s hanging out with Dustin Lance Black. Didn’t expect to see a British diver with a Hollywood screenwriter. Perhaps Tom feels he can’t come out before the 2016 Olympics. He’s going for the gold and maybe he thinks that would harm him. Since his father died of cancer, he is the main breadwinner for his mother and younger brothers. Hopefully if he is gay he will be able to come out within the next few years.
G_K1
Dustin Lance Black is a plight on any young up-and-comer in Hollywood, and it’s a pity that Daley wasn’t privy to that fact. He jumps from one barely legal guy to the next, and I know so from personal experience. I personally know 3 guys that were 18-22 when approached and seemingly wooed by Black, all in about the same timeframe too. I understand liking people younger than you, but once this relationship fails – and it will, because Black canNOT hold a relationship without cheating for more than a few months – I hope that he starts bumping up his demographic a few years. Otherwise he will eventually be that “successful Hollywood 70-year-old pedophile.” I hate to sound rash, but he really is a bad person when you boil it down. It’s a pity that this man has taken advantage of so many young guys, using his status to get him ahead. Tsk.
stanhope
They are boinking!!!!! Dustin bottom and Tom top for now..until that is they add the requisite third.
x100preJohnny
@G_K1: If what you’re saying is true, then poor Tom because honestly, after all that he’s gone through recently, the last thing he needs is an unfaithful a**hole that will only treat him like a piece of meat. In all honesty, I don’t think their relationship is going to last long to begin with, just because of the 20 year age difference between them and this – just no. I mean, let’s be real Tom is only 19 y.o. he has his whole life ahead of him and this is his first “actual” real relationship with a man, let alone in general. Like you said, there’s nothing wrong with dating younger men or vice versa but seriously, the age gap is alil’ high; Black’s pretty much rocking the cradle. Heck, I’m 24 y.o. and here I thought Tom was alil’ young for me – go figure. All in all, I just wish Tom all the best and hopefully everything will work out for him in the end.