0. 10. 20. 50. 100. We each have our own individual number of people we’ve hooked up with. Some of us have larger numbers than others, and that’s fine. But a bisexual man on Reddit wonders: What’s the limit?
“I have a very high amount of sex partners in my life,” he writes. “I don’t know the exact number, but it’s 250+, men and women.”
He continues, “As a bi guy, it mostly men, but not an overwhelming amount. So my question to you is, how do you feel personally about it? Does it make a difference if the person is straight, bi or gay? Would you feel differently if you were straight, bi or gay? What would make a difference?”
He adds, “Assuming they only have herpes (like me and most ppl), how would you feel about it?”
OK, let’s take a look at people’s responses…
A lot of people wanted to talk about herpes:
“As long as you are safe and happy, more power to you,” one person writes. “But ‘most’ people don’t have herpes. Some, not most. It’s possible to have a lot of sex and stay clean. Please don’t spread a disease because you feel ‘most’ already have it.”
“I don’t get what you mean about ‘most people have herpes,'” another adds. “If you’re talking about genital herpes, the number’s around 16% I think.”
“Idk,” a third person says. “I just know I’ve never slept with a person who has had herpes. I’m not at your numbers, but I’m not shy either.”
(Side note: For those of you curious about exactly how many people in the world have herpes, both HSV-1 and HSV-2, you can read all about it here.)
Others wanted to talk about what having sex with 250+ people must mean about an individual:
“What 250+ sex partners says to me is, this person is a lot of fun, they like to sleep around and don’t invest time in them for a relationship,” one commenter explains. “In the back of my mind I’d probably always wonder if I was anywhere near as good as the others.”
“I’ve slept with maybe 4 people?” another remarks. “250+ is a crazy amount to me.”
“A high amount of sex partners just simply means you should be pretty good at the mechanics of sex,” a third person says. “You could still totally suck in the bedroom … Amount of physical partners is irrelevant.”
Some people found the 250+ number inconsequential.
“I couldn’t care less,” one person writes.
“Wouldn’t be that big of a deal,” another adds.
A third writes: “As long as you’re not hurting anyone and being safe, the old convention of many partners is waning. Still, I see guys freaking out if a girl has a lot of partners and I’m not sure why.”
What do you think about all this? Is 250+ a “high amount” of sex partners? Is there a limit on how many partners a person should have? Are the old conventions of what an acceptable number of partners is waning? Sound off in the comments…