This profile is part of Queerty’s Out For Good series, recognizing those who came out to make a difference. The series will run throughout October in honor of National Coming Out Day on October 11.
Name: Michael Aycox, 30
Bio: Former Mississippi Democratic Congressional candidate, Navy veteran, cancer survivor, police investigator in Newton, MI.
Coming out: Aycox came out to family in his native Mississippi at age 20. It was primarily his set of friends who knew when he wed his boyfriend Mario, an Latino Florida Air National Guardsman, in 2013. But following his medical discharge from the Navy, Aycox decided to make a run for Congress as a Democrat. He and Mario moved back to Mississippi from Florida to set up a new life with new political aspirations.
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Hearing whispers about his sexuality, Aycox decided came out publicly in May 2018, making him the first ever openly gay Congressional candidate from Mississippi. That’s right, Mississippi, one of the most right-wing states in the nation.
Making a Difference: “Until the campaign, I never really ‘came out.’ I didn’t,” Aycox told the Jackson, Miss., Clarion Ledger during the campaign. “This is me. It’s not who I am, it doesn’t define me, it’s just a part of me. It’s like having brown hair, it doesn’t change who I am … I didn’t do this to be the voice of the LGBT community. I did this for change. I did this to make a difference.”
Aycox knew opening up about his sexuality could cost him his shot at a seat in the legislature. Needless to say, many areas of the United States still harbor open hostility to LGBTQ people.
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Fear for his political future did not deter him. Aycox found it particularly vital to speak about his sexuality and marriage because his primary challenger Michael Evans opposed marriage equality. Even worse, Mississippi passed HB 1523 in 2016, a law that allows businesses to discriminate against gay people on the basis of religious freedom. Following his defeat in the Democratic primaries in June 2018 to state representative Michael Evans, Aycox went on to found One Mississippi, an organization that lobbies for equality in a state devoid of anti-discrimination protections. Now a recognized name in politics, he hasn’t ruled out other runs for Congress in 2020.
Words of Wisdom, as told to Queerty:
At the start of my campaign I lived under the belief that ‘I am gay, so what.’ I stand by the fact that identifying as LGBTQ is like my hair color; it is a part of who I am, but does not define me. As the campaign progressed and the stories of my sexuality continued to surface, I realized that my “coming out” was bigger than I could imagine; I was a first. Daily we were receiving emails and messages of individuals telling their stories. Daily we were being approached, with tears in their eyes and a secret in their heart, telling us our courage gave them hope. I realized that coming out was bigger than the Mississippi 3rd Congressional Race, it was bigger than my personal privacy, it was bigger than me; my coming out was about the many closeted and fearful people across this state and nation struggling with their identity.”
After realizing the gravity of my campaign and the impact we were making I knew we didn’t have a choice. After the story broke we received both positive and negative reviews. From love and tears to death threats our team stood firm on our beliefs, platforms and pressed on. Coming out is one of the single hardest things a person can do. Although the self-admittance that “I am gay” may be easily portrayed in cinema, it can be detrimental to relationships, social status, and personal convictions. Even though there is a risk associated with coming out, the pros most assuredly outweigh the cons. Coming out gives the individual an identity, a community, and a feeling of normalcy. Coming out opens the door for an individual to be at peace with themselves and not hide in the shadows. Although rejection in some form is inevitable; being free, open, and honest with oneself allows for an individual to learn their pride. Pride in their beliefs, their struggles, and their community. Coming out is empowerment for members of the LGBT+ community and that is how it affects significant positive change for not only themselves but also the world!
Kangol
Michael Aycox’s story is so heartening. Though he lost to Michael Evans, he is nevertheless a brave pioneer, and deserves praise not just for his political run, but also for continuing his advocacy for LGBTQ equality with One Mississippi. What’s also significant is that Mississippi is a state known for some of the worst racist violence in the 19th and 20th century, so the fact that he not only is out, but is happily married to an African American man in a state that fought desegregation and integration tooth-and-nail also is kind of amazing. I wish him and his husband the very best, and I hope he runs again in 2020!
JH0607
He thinks he lost because he is gay. But he lost because he is a race-traitor.
Wicked Dickie
What race did he betray?