A “mostly straight” guy thinks he might be falling for his roommate after the two have been stuck together in their apartment during quarantine for weeks.
The anonymous 21-year-old writes about his unique situation on Reddit, referring to his roommate with the pseudonym “Jake.”
“Jake’s a pretty casually physically affectionate guy in general,” he writes. “Huge hugger, will casually put his arm around me (or any of his mates) when we’re sitting side by side, I think we all know the sort of thing I mean.”
The man says he’s not usually much of a hugger but he’s OK with Jake doing it because “we all need a hug sometimes, right?” Especially during stressful times like these.
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The man goes on to explain that he suffers from an unusual fatigue disorder and must take frequent naps throughout the day.
“Our living room can get pretty cold, so if I fall asleep without a blanket, he’ll pop one over me so I don’t freeze,” he writes.
“It started out being just that; I’d fall asleep without a blanket and wake up with one. Then, a couple of times, I woke up and he was sitting up the top of the couch and he was just casually playing with my hair which I… actually really love more than I thought I ever would, very soothing.”
He continues, “Then, about a week ago, I guess he thought I was asleep before I was because he tucked a blanket over me and then gave me a lil’ kiss on my forehead… And I liked it. Like I really liked it.”
The man says he’s started pretending to fall asleep just so Jake will tuck him in and give him a kiss.
“He sometimes strokes my cheek or my hair a little bit too which, oh my God, that’s even better,” he writes. “I’d really kinda be okay with it/like it if he started giving me these lil forehead kisses while I’m awake too.”
“I consider myself mostly straight, not too sure how he identifies but as far as I’m aware he’s been with both men and women in about equal numbers.”
Now he wonders: “How do I approach him about this without it being weird?”
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In just three days, the post has already received over 1,300 comments.
“A literal pandemic is revealing hidden truths for people and I’m so here for it,” one person writes.
“Where do we download the next chapter?!?!” another asks.
A lot of people are encouraging the man to be open to exploring his sexuality.
“The cool thing about sexuality is that it is so flexible in the sense that you set the definitions and terminology for yourself,” one person suggests.
“No need to feel the pressure of putting any label on yourself, there are plenty of people who would be considered by society ‘bisexual’ but don’t personally identify as such,” another adds.
But not everyone found the story quite so heartwarming.
“Normal adults don’t go for kisses while someone is asleep with someone they aren’t in a relationship with, where that is confirmed to be OK,” one person noted.
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Donston
Out of all the fake straight/straight-ish Reddit stories, this is one of the more Wattpad-ish and fantasy like. And of course, all those people who commented just ate it up. The funny thing is that I was just thinking about the amount of BS stories we’re going to get from this session of quarantine.
Yes, fluidity or confusions is real for some. Sexuality is weird. The orientation spectrum is wide and diverse. Love and relationships can be a complicated journey. And men are generally insecure about coming off too close to “gay”. But no grown person runs to Reddit for advice about how to ask out your friend who you already know is into dudes and is into you. It didn’t even seem like this was an attempt to get advice. It was just telling a half-baked story.
Rock-N-RollHS
You are like one of the adults in Peanuts cartoons: wha wha wha. Do you even have a job? Friends? Someone you can actually talk to?
pharaon.em.joe
Not everyone has your life, thankfully!
Cam
Another story from the same author who previously was pushing the “Hetero Flexible” label, now giving us story after story about “Mostly straight guys”.
Siiiigh
djmcgamester
For a long time I called myself “mostly gay”. Didn’t quite fit into the bisexuality category but have had enough interest in women to say that “mostly” was appropriate. I did this more than a decade ago, so it wasn’t influenced by social media. I don’t understand why people get so bent out of shape about how he identifies himself. If you assume sexuality is a scale of some sort then it allows for a level where someone is mostly straight or mostly gay. I eventually gave up the “mostly” part just because it’s irrelevant. I still have the interest but the label is less important.
Donston
Yeah, the whole “mostly” thing isn’t all that unusual. Social media kicking up identity politics in recent years and the pushing of other identities has led to the demise of “mostly”.
Heywood Jablowme
The pseudonym Jake is a nice touch. JAKE FROM STATE FARM… and we know what he’s wearing at 3 in the morning. Khakis are so sexy (as long as they’re not pleated… that’s too hetero). Well it’s great that Jake can work from home during this crisis!
Donston
Jake is a beacon of dependability if nothing else. There’s also not that many ugly Jake’s out here…. Just like a lot of fan fiction and slash fiction I suspect many of these stories are written by females. Most of them give you the vibe of women romanticizing male friendships and dramatizing men going through confusion with their orientation. It is what it is I suppose.
SarcasaticMisanthrope
My thought exactly. He must be having erotic dreams about James from State Farm and his Khakis.
Harley
Yea, well, I’m gay and if my platonic roommate was doing that to me I would think he was creepy.
pharaon.em.joe
That’s likely because your roommate is creepy in general. 🙂
Bubbleandsqueal
Dear Pent-Up House, You won’t believe this, but I might becoming attracted to my gay roommate . . .
Adam M
This isn’t odd at all and I don’t think it’s made up. I’ve been on lock down with my roommate and we’ve been watching straight porn together. I think I’ve always known I was bi but didn’t want to admit it to myself. Then last week when we were watching porn I asked my roommate if he wanted oral. He said he did without hesitating. I’ll be straight up, I think I’ve loved the guy for the two years we’ve lived together. Anyway, he pulled his pants down and I started to do it. After a while he stopped me and told me he wanted to do it to me too. Then we took off all our clothes. We wound up doing this and more at least once a day. Our dorm rooms have been shut down so we’re staying in a hotel with no place except the bathroom to do ourselves. Maybe this led to this happening. I just hope it never stops.
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
Nice to hear someone is seeing some joy and happiness in these unsettling times. Good on you both!
ShiningSex
YOU MEAN HIS “BISEXUAL” OR “BI-CURIOUS” ROOMMATE.
BORING!!!
pharaon.em.joe
THE AUTHOR DID NOT LABEL HIM AS MOSTLY STRAIGHT. THE SUBJECT OF THIS ARTICLE LABELED HIMSELF AS MOSTLY STRAIGHT. GET IT? YOU ARE STUPID.
ScottOnEarth
Do people actually believe this bullshit? LOL! This sounds like low-grade teen fiction.
Josh447
Fact or fiction, it’s a sweet story of intimacy. Very resonant for positive people who have an upbeat healthy outlook on life.
Great post Adam.
djmcgamester
Could be. If they were close friends, and they’re locked in together, and he’s got at least some interest in men – yeah, I could see it. Maybe it wouldn’t happen under ordinary circumstances but things aren’t ordinary right now.
Donston
These things can and do happen. The problem is if you actually read the Reddit post, the details and the way it’s written make it sounds both creepy and like poorly written slash fiction. I don’t mind these stories, even the overtly fake ones. Reddit is known for a lot of nonsense stories. But there are actual grown ass people who very much take all these seriously. Then you have sites like this one that end up taking these stories and presenting them as actuality. It also gives further excuse for people to hype up identity politics or to continue fetishizing one another instead of actually exploring sexuality, identity politics, and the orientation spectrum earnestly. We’ve reduced everyone to mere memes and anonymous “confessions” on social media. But more than anything, this site needs to find other and more substantial ways to fill its article and straight/mostly straight guy quota. Constantly pulling stuff from Reddit or barely viewed advice columns is a very cheap way to get clicks and comments. And it’s very reminiscent of what a bunch of terrible channels on YouTube do.
Hussain-TheCanadian
My only point of reference is that some of my close female friends would also stroke and play with my hair sometimes (I have curley hair) when we are watching Netflix, it has never crossed my mind that “I’m interested in p*ssy now” because of the physical affection I’m being shown.
I understand that people are different, and bisexuality is there, however I dont believe in this out of no where sexual awakening, not at 21 years old. The poster either has these feelings bubbling under the surface, or the whole story is bullsh*t.
Now if you’d execuse me, I’m going back to watching Ancient Aliens.
Donston
A lot of these social media stories are definite BS, stories designed to troll, to sensationalize, push agendas and/or to turn people on. And even when someone is legitimately speaking about their life and experience they tend to leave out details or make up some certain elements. But the poster admitted to knowing that he was at least somewhat into dudes beforehand. So, it wasn’t very “out of no where”. And hell, I was entirely inherently homo up until my mid 20’s then developed some type of attractions and affections towards women over a few years. So, fluidity and “awakenings” and confusions are real things, as much as people keep trying to dismiss them. But once again, even if the story is made up the poster at least had enough sense to admit to being somewhat into dudes. I feel like a lot of dudes get caught up in their attractions and/or sexual enjoyment. A lot of guys dismiss the entirety of the romantic, sexual, affection, fascination, emotional fulfillment, relationship investment/contentment spectrum. They’d rather hide behind identities, sociology, behaviors. These things especially happens when you’re young and you feel so much pressure to “find yourself” and maybe feel pressure from your family or environment or your ego. I just respect everyone’s journey so long as they don’t go out of their way to manipulate people or be hateful. A lot of these stories are nonsense, and I don’t like how “gay media” uses these stories to push straight/hetero-leaning worship and fantasy. But ultimately, everyone has their own thing going on, their own reasonings and their own journey. That must be respected.
Hussain-TheCanadian
I hear what you’re saying Donston, I have to admit though that I logically find it hard to accept that a person, out of no where, far after their sexual awakening at 14 or 15, to have unknown or undiscovered feelings towards the same sex.
To elaborate, maybe because I never had a sexual interest in women that I’m having this difficulty understanding how could a person, who is supposed to be straight, and never had homoerotic feelings at all, to out of no where develop such feelings for his friend because of intimate kindness.
I know we both agree that this story is most likely bullcrap, and I’m honestly the last person a person should ask about bisexuality, I cant help but feel puzzled when facing out of no where sexual awakenings in people, it feels random, sudden, no real build up or self discovery.
Donston
I believe I had some attractions to chicks in my pre teens. Those attractions completely went away when I hit puberty and stayed away until my mid 20s. From there and going into my 30s things became more untethered. Sexuality is just way more complicated and varied than what you hear out of typical conversation or from these sites. Sexuality is also more than just attractions or sexual enjoyment. And who you love and want to please and want persistent affections, adoration, romantic attention, commitment from may contradict who you might most enjoy sex with or who can get as easily aroused for. I’m sure there’s plenty of men out here in homo relationships who can get more easily aroused for women or may even enjoy sexually engaging with women more than dudes and vice versa. There’s a lot of guys who spend years pretending as if they’re really, really into women primarily because of attractions, arousal, sex or of type of affections, but what they feel for their same sex goes beyond that and they ultimately have overall same-sex preferences. There can be shifts or confusions or it can take a while for someone to self-understand or self-accept. This is why I constantly emphasize the gender, romantic, sexual, affection, fascination, emotional fulfillment, relationship contentment spectrum. And it’s why I don’t place as much weight on identity politics as some. There’s just a lot of different shit going on out here, a lot of different motivations, and everyone has their own dimensions and journeys.
Men don’t as freely express these things to each other. We tend to hide behind identities and behaviors more than women. We feed each other (and women) a lot of BS stories. We manipulate and fetishize each other. But when people seem as if they’re trying to speak their truth or speak on their struggles it’s best to have open ears. Ultimately, you can’t do anything but speak for yourself.
ashersea
Stockholm syndrome?
Josh447
Hussain,
Love Ancient Aliens. I’m pretty much on board with its theory tho I don’t have scaley skin which is a bit of a drag cuz I could make a fortune off scale removal cream (Haha).
Is there a site with posts to comment on do you know?
Hussain-TheCanadian
Hi Josh,
I love the ancient aliens theory, I find it to be fascinating, intriguing, and plausible when trying to understand the mythology of every society on the planet.
I’m sure there are message boards online that cater to the Ancient Aliens hypothesis, however I avoid them because very quickly people will abandon a somber, rational discussion of the theory, and opt to having a fanciful, idiotic, and weird discussion that pretty much ruin the theory.
Josh447
It definitely revs up the mind in new directions and possibilities. Good to meet someone tracking on the way bigger picture.
Ronbo
They have found amino acids in meteorites – maybe even bacteria. There is your ancient alien.
Josh447
Love Ancient Aliens. I’m pretty much on board with its theory. Is there a site with posts to comment on do you know?
winemaker
Mostly straight’ guy thinks he might be falling for his roommate during quarantine. Wow what a headline. You say you’re roommates with this guy. Is he gay or straight? . A presume as roommates you’ve gotten tipsy together or nonchalantly seen each other nude. like when you need to use the toilet and he’s taking a shower or either of you dash out to the kitchen in the middle of the night naked or wearing just your skivvies and don’t think much of this or make a big deal of it. Do you have different bedrooms or is the sleeping arrangement different. Somehow this story sounds fishy . Bottom line, either one or the other or the two are gay or bisexual. There, quandry solved, Now wasn’t that simple?
Rock-N-RollHS
You make this crap up. I’m not even gonna read it.
edtash
Look, in these terrible times when isolation can be emotionally damaging to many…at least this guy is finding companionship in another human being. I hope they have a fun time and realize that boning each other is fantastic!
ohiogreg
When he wraps his arm around you, reach up and grab his hand.
Try a little caressing to see what happens. Hug back. Suggest sharing a blanket while you watch a movie together. I’d hold off on the kissing for a while.
LilMesican
I want to see the hidden camera version. It is too sweet!!!
wimbury
I don’t want to be pigeonholed. I’m ME. And if people can’t take a few moments to find out about me, then they’re not worth the time of day. I’ve tried gay, I hate the word Queer – there’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not going to ‘convert’ anyone who doesn’t want to be. and you’re not going to ‘cure’ anybody you think is afflicted. Live your life – it’s the only one you get.
Josh447
It’s pretty fab what happens when you lock two straight guys in a room together for an extended period of time.
batesmotel
If he’s falling for his male roommate, then he’s not straight. He’s either gay or bi. The definition of straight means you are ONLY attracted to women and are repulsed at the sight of kissing a man.
Assman0647
The first time I had sex was with a guy I went to high school with. Him and I were on the freshman foot ball team. We both had detention after school, while practice was going on, when we got out we bolted to the locker room and changed into our gear. As we were getting ready to go out, the team came busting thru the doors coming in from practice. The coach asked us why were late and we told him, He told us to go out and give him 8 laps around the track, in our full gear. So we did , when we got back to the locker room and got out our gear and hit the showers. I was rinsing shampoo out of my hair, and felt his hands on my shoulders, I turned around and looked at him, he offered to wash my back. Sure I told him so he did paying a lot of attention to my butt, I was backing into his hands, He whispered in my ear, I can use the soap for lube and I told him use spit as soap burns, and not to ask how I knew that, and well nature took it’s course, and I loved it. Since then, I have been married and divorced to 3 women, and have 2 grown children of my own with kids. But all my life I have hidden myself, I have a collection of toys to handle my needs.
Invader7
Wow. Some of you are critical ,negative , skeptical, bent out of shape ( envious/jealous much? ) , just plain BITCHY…. mean spirited. I bet many of you wish this would happen to you jealous bitches .. It may be true /may not be true. In this day & age we can ALL dream . It’s good for the soul. And if you get frisky with some hot dude- GO FOR IT !!! I did this past Monday night.. Good GAWD.. He was fricking HAWT and a mind blowing phuck !! And self identified as “bi”. Whatever that means in this day & age.. I’m just sexual.. I leave labels on my clothes !!
pscheck2
I would suggest to ‘Jake’ that one of these times he is tucking him in, fake the ‘sleep’ thing and as he is leaning down to caress him open his eyes and smile at him and tell him ‘that was nice!’ If he is bi or curious or GAY he will get a reaction that will probably define their ‘status!’ Nothing to lose!