Nate Berkus: I Didn’t Choose To Be Gay, Dad, I Was Born This Way


I felt everything that I had ever been through in my life kind of rushed to me in that moment to give me the voice that I needed to say to him, ‘Dad, do you trust me? Do you respect me? I’m your oldest son. Do you respect me in business? Do you see the decisions that I’ve made?  Do you see how I was listening at the dinner table growing up? Do you see how I have chosen to have some of your qualities and discarded other ones? Do you respect me?’ And he said, ‘Yes.’ Then I said, ‘Do you think I’m smart?’ And he said, ‘Yes.’

I said, ‘Dad, why would I choose to make my life more difficult — why would anyone choose to make their life more difficult? The truth of the matter is being gay is the way I was born. I believe this to the core of my being. I would never choose something to make my life complicated. We’re never going to have a relationship — a real relationship — unless you believe me…Do you think I would choose to have this hair? Do you think that I would choose to be 5’9″? I would have been 6’1″. It’s the exact same thing as my being gay.'”

Interior designer and former daytime talking head Nate Berkus discussing coming out to his father with den mother, Oprah Winfrey (via People).