Former NBA superstar Ray Allen has found himself at the center of a gay sex scandal. Now, he’s hoping the court will help set the record straight (no pun intended).
The legal skirmish involves Allen and another guy named Bryant Coleman, who claims he was in a three-year sexual relationship with the retired athlete.
42-year-old Allen, who is married, doesn’t exactly deny the relationship; however, he insists the details aren’t accurate and that he’s not gay.
According to Allen, when he first met Coleman online, Coleman pretended to be a woman. The two chatted briefly but never actually met. After learning Coleman was, in fact, a male, Allen immediately cut ties.
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“Ray regrets ever engaging with this person online and is thankful they never met in person,” Allen’s attorney, David Oscar Markus, tells the Associated Press.
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But Coleman says otherwise. He tells TMZ Sports, “[Ray’s] account of our relationship is false. Ray knows how I look, he knows how my voice sounds, he knows how I think, and most importantly, he knows my heart.”
After the alleged relationship ended, Coleman says Allen began stalking him. In addition to spying on him, he says the NBA star told him to “watch your back” and made threatening late night phone calls in which he threatened to strangle him.
Court documents indicated that Coleman was previously granted a restraining order against the NBA star for stalking him.
But Allen claims it’s the other way around. He says Coleman has been stalking him.
Last week, Allen filed an emergency motion with the court to stop Coleman from contacting him or his family.
“This experience has negatively impacted Ray, and he hopes that others might use his mistake to learn the dangers of communicating online with strangers,” his lawyer says.
Allen’s lawyer went on to say that his client “wants nothing to do with Mr. Coleman” who he says “obviously has some serious issues with understanding the difference between fact and fantasy.”
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Xzamilloh
“He knows how I think and he knows my heart” sounds hella stalkerish, not gonna lie.
leobaga
He’s a better liar than Bill Clinton, “I did not sleep with that woman..” Yea right.
MacAdvisor
Leobaga, Bill Clinton never said, “I did not sleep with that woman..” He said, “I did not have sexual relations with that women, Miss Lewinsky.” See: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KiIP_KDQmXs
niles
seriously, with the lying POS that we currently have, you’re bringing up Clinton? I smell a WINGNUT!!!
Jaxton
Lots of black men have sexual relations with men even though they are attracted to women. Lots and lots. They hide their same-sex attractions because black women find them offensive.
Black women are very anti-male homosexuality, moreso if it’s in their boyfriends or husbands.
Blackceo
Lots of White men have sexual relations with men even though they are attracted to women. As do Latino men, as do Arab men, as do men of all backgrounds.
Donston
It’s common knowledge (or at least it should be) that no matter where you land on the spectrum, no matter the dimensions of your orientation, having relations with multiple genders is not unusual for any race or gender.
Jaxton/Brian/etc makes everything about how horrible women are and how horrible gay-identifying men are. It’s just what he does.
demetreus
THE COMMENT POSTED BY @Jaxton IS A DESPERATE ATTEMPT FOR ATTENTION AND ITS SOLE PURPOSE IS TO SOW DISCORD & HATE ON THIS SITE.
PLEASE DO NOT WASTE YOUR TIME ENGAGING THIS TROLL.
Bob LaBlah
I just did a google and yahoo search for Bryant Coleman and can’t find a pic of him anywhere. There are a few Bryant Coleman’s who are into sports but none specifically point to the guy in this story. If anyone runs across a pic of this guy please post it. This fact is making me wonder if this was a plot all along to embarrass Ray. Back in July of this year Ray spoky up for trans people and it would not shock me if a few people out there in the NBA didnt particularly care for what he said.
http://www.tmz.com/2017/07/26/ray-allen-slams-trump-transgender-ban-insane-jesus/
Donston
I could see someone or somebodies “plotting” against a player. But I don’t see why it would be someone in the NBA. The NBA is not as aggressively conservative and homophobic as other sports leagues. Outing one person puts all the other closeted players vulnerable. And Allen hasn’t played in the league in several years. So, why bother?
Donston
Whatever. Ray Allen has always been semi suspect. But this dude sounds coo-coo and manipulative. At most, it seems they had a brief, sex-less, “emotional” relationship.
Five years ago I was naive enough to think we’d collectively have a few (just a few) out dudes in the NBA, NFL, NHL, MLB, among professional tennis players. I’m kinda doubting it happens at all at this point outside of someone being forced out.
Bob LaBlah
Michael Sam is the reason it will be a long, long time before another gay player is allowed to go public. Sam’s attitude made it bad for those who’s “secret” was already out. He (Sam) became more of an attention whore than a team player. Had he focused on being a football player instead of reminding the world at every opportunity that presented itself just where he like to put/where he likes things to be put during sex with his lover he would be a millionaire. Lets face it. When you say gay the first thing people think about is sex. Its just that simple. Thats why I think it best to simply shut up about where and with whom you sleep.
Donston
I agree that Sam did some damage. However, his initial self-outing was low-key and classy. The media ran with the story. Whether or not he’d be drafted and where he’d be drafted due to him coming out became a tiresome 24-hour news story. They interviewed seemingly anyone whoever met Sam, including his homophobic, ratchet father. The whole thing became a circus. When it was obvious to Sam that he’d struggle to get and keep a job in the NFL he quickly became an embittered attention whore. Jason Collins also didn’t do any favors, a non-relevant player coming out at the very end of his career who had apparently been living a primary “gay lifestyle” since the late 90’s but only publicly dated women for almost twenty years- it was a bad look. The homophobic hubbub and the unearned, empty sentimentality that followed left many unsettled.
Ultimately, homophobia, internalized homophobia, job security, fearing “that type of attention” and not wanting to be defined by your orientation/”lifestyle” are more generally at fault than any individual person.
Bob LaBlah
Donston, Michael Sam was what he was. And that was translated to being not quite ready for prime-time, shall we say. Here is the moment that sealed his fate as for a career in the NFL. He should have never agreed to this interview and personally I feel that Oprah was well aware before she asked that question that she should not go “there”, if you get my drift. It wouldn’t have been long before he started naming names and outing a lot of players who preferred to have kept their business quiet. They meant well but Sam’s still had no grasp of what he was saying and the destructive power a bad television interview can have on a celebrity player. That is why most players avoid the press altogether and a vast majority of them have to more or less be threatened by management after a big game to give an interview.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D9kFz8-4Az0
Donston
That interview took place well after it became apparent his NFL career was null and void. I’m definitely aware that Sam was an unworldly, poor-speaking, embittered, near-sighted mess who allowed the media to turn him into a pariah. I’m just saying solely blaming him for no one coming out isn’t looking at the bigger picture and the multitude of issues.
Bob LaBlah
Donato, here is how it is in professional sports. The sport of boxing is extremely homophobic where the much more violent world of MMA isn’t exactly homophobic but its pretty clear the guys who ignite our gay radars know to keep their sex lives to themselves or they will never achieve their goal of getting at least ONE fight televised.
Football is the nations sport. It surpassed baseball due to that silly strike of the 1990’s that took them ten years to recover from. Football allows men of all ages to relive their high school and college years into middle and old age. There was no room for what was perceived to be weakness, being gay. It is now tolerated by the owners but no, they can’t flaunt it. Sam was kissing and tonguing his boyfriend with camera rolling. It made me sick and I had just hit my mid-fifties at the time. He also wouldn’t shower with his teammates after games and kept to himself. Football is a team sport even in the locker room. They reached out to him but it was him who kept snatching his hand back but had no problem flaunting his sexuality with his boyfriend in tow in front of the cameras. Yes, he was young and deserved a private life but dude, come on, your the FIRST one who admitted it. You had to know to be a bit more conservative than that. I knew it would only be a matter of time and I was right. The fact his boyfriend was white had nothing to do with it. The problem was Sam. That interview with Oprah cost him a possible reality show, guest appearances and all. He is now a near forgot name or should I say he is now, unfortunately, Michael Who? I doubt if even an interracial porn company would want him.
Donston
Sam made some mistakes obviously and I’ve never found him appealing or appeasing in any way. But it’s also a mistake to poo-poo all over him. He was young, naive, emotionally frail, not very well spoken and lacking in media training. Also, there are many athletes who don’t shower with teammates and mostly keep to themselves (especially gay and gay-leaning ones) . And would Sam having a reality show while having a non-NFL career really offer much of any progress? He’d just have a reality show for being a gay dude.
There is nothing you’re saying that I don’t already know. You’re trying to have an entire conversation about Michael Sam. And while Sam is a piece of the puzzle, I’m looking at the big picture.
demetreus
Comments about Michael Sam are irrelevant. Why not list the other sports players that came out gay or lesbian?
Why not speak about Jason Collins?
swellster
Did you guys just miss the part of the story where this guy had obtained a restraining order against Ray Allen? I don’t know the nature of their relationship, don’t really care, but he obviously had enough info on Allen to get a restraining order against him. I have seen in other media outlets where Allen claims he was catfished. Maybe he freaked out because the guy probably had some interesting chat logs or emails from Allen.
Donston
To me, it’s a non-story. Allen is no longer in the league, hasn’t been for years. And I’m over caring about guys on the DL, unless we’re talking about someone having a real relationship with someone. Besides, the nature of Allen’s orientation, when he found out it was a man, the info the guy has on Allen, whether or not Allen was “catfished”, whether or not this was an outside set-up by someone- none of that stuff will likely be brought to light.
surreal33
Why do gay men spend so much precious time and energy on the sex lives of D-list celebrities?
Gay men have too many relationship issues to waste time on the bullshit sex lives of other people!!!
Donston
I would hardly call Allen “D-list”. At least not in the world of sports. Also, hardly anyone is having a conversation about Allen and his sex life. Most of the dialogue has been about being out publicly as a male athlete, especially in team sports.
JerseyMike
D-LIST? LMAO!! Its obvious you don’t follow basketball or you don’t know sports. Either way you should have saved that comment for someone you do know.
Kangol
Maybe Queerty can do a story about handsome former NY Jet and Arizona Cardinal Kerry Rhodes, whose boyfriend, an assistant, outed him back in 2013. The boyfriend posted a number of photos and videos showing them cuddling, Kerry carrying the guy around, etc., and said the teammates knew and didn’t care. Rhodes denied being gay, but the evidence was pretty clear. He had hoped to get signed by a team and could easily have played and starred for someone, but no team would touch him after Michael Sam took his brave step. Earlier this year, Rhodes got married to a woman. Guess what? That marriage didn’t last much longer than a few moons’ cycles.
Bob LaBlah
Thanks for that article. The story below it was a story about a fight that took place in a Georgia locker room. It did not say whether it was about being gay but it is a perfect example as to why the NFL would prefer everyone keep their sexual preferences to themselves. I really do thank you again for posting that article. The one below it is why people should click on the link you posted. And by the way, Queerty did do a story about that little gold digger outing Kerry.
https://www.queerty.com/kerry-rhodes-still-denying-gay-relationship-still-not-playing-for-the-nfl-20140221
Kangol
Bob, I remember Queerty’s articles on Rhodes. They actually published several. I didn’t see the boyfriend as a golddigger at all. He clearly made Kerry Rhodes very happy, as all the photos of them showed. Rhodes is often smiling in them, and looks like he’s truly himself. Also, the boyfriend, Russell “Hollywood” Simpson, said that the other players knew about Rhodes, and their girlfriends and wives of the other players had no problem with him. I think that’s key. He wasn’t the only gay/bi/DL player in the NFL. There are surely others, and the teams and players know about them. The issue remains, will any publicly come out while still playing. The same is true for the NBA (after Jason Collins’s brave step), MLB, and NHL.
Bob LaBlah
Kangol, there is no doubt in my mind that they were a happy couple. Unfortunately as far as Rhodes was concerned it was over. No more first class flight/hotels/limousines and other goodies that come when one has a wealthy other half. Was Rhodes the type who continually reminded Simpson that he was the won paying the bills or Simpson was the type who was always wanting this/that because he knew the day would come when it was all over is hard to say? It Simpson version, Rhodes version and lastly what actually happened. But since it wasn’t Rhodes who put those pics and their business out on public display for everyone to know it just seems hard to argue against Simpson being vindictive.
jhon_siders
Just another black guy on the down low lots do it !!
demetreus
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JerseyMike
The something that white guys do except the call them bros or best friend.