Neil Patrick Harris Talks Having Sex With Women And Being Gay Married, In That Order

Screen Shot 2014-08-13 at 10.10.31 AMNeil Patrick Harris revealed in an interview with Glamour this week that he is not a gold-star gay, admitting that he once had sex with a woman in the ’90s.

Sorry guys, we can’t all be perfect!

The 41-year-old actor claims that he was basically pressured into testing his heterosexuality because it was the thing to do at the time.

“In high school all my friends were sleeping with girls, and it just seemed like that’s what one did,” he said. “So therefore that’s what I did, but it left me feeling unsettled, as if I had somehow done it wrong. That’s not a good feeling.”

But he also recognizes that times have changed, and LGBT teens today don’t necessarily feel the same pressure to “test” their sexuality the way they once did. “Now I think it’s easier to avoid that fate,” he added. “Today, it’s cool to see a happy lesbian couple who are high school juniors. Better that than have those two girls marry people they’re not attracted to, have three kids, and then come out when they’re 50.”

When asked how he maintains an awesome relationship with husband David Burtka, NPH says:

Honeymoon phases end. They just do. We’re animals, and animals aren’t inclined to copulate with just each other for the rest of their lives. So here’s a challenge: How do you keep redefining your relationship? I think you have to find new elements that turn you on, and not only sexually. Having kids was one of those great moments for me. Watching David become another level of person, mastering this other domain, made me look at him with a whole other set of appreciative eyes. That sort of made me re-fall in love with him. That’s another important thing to realize. Everyone falls out of love with everything. You fall out of love with your house. You fall out of love with your job. You just have to figure out ways to keep [the love] alive.

Check out the rest of the interview over at Glamour.

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  • Stache99

    OMG. I just can’t focus on anything else beside remembering him on Doogie howser as a kid. Now he’s 41.

  • redcarpet30

    I’m calling it: NPH has an S&M dungeon.

    Prove me wrong NPH, prove me WRONG!

  • MMDD

    Gosh, does anybody who writes here bother to do their homework AT ALL? NPH did not “once [have] sex with a woman in the ’90s.” He had sex with multiple women…at least 10-15, which he confirmed on Howard Stern’s program.

  • jd2222248

    @Stache99: I was thinking the something. I am so proud of Doogie. :-)

  • Mark

    @redcarpet30: Great, now I’m imagining NPH in a leather harness and chaps, there goes my focus for today.

  • Billy Budd

    Do you think he has an open relationship? He is right about humans not being inclined to monogamy , especially men.

    • MMDD

      @Billy Budd: From what I understand, he and David are monogamous. And I’m sorry, but I disagree with the comment about men not being inclined to monogamy. My husband and I have been monogamous for almost twenty years.

  • Billy Budd

    @MMDD: You are an exception, MMDD. Most men feel a desire for variety. I mean straight AND gay. Our closest relatives in the animal kingdom, the Bonobo monkeys, are extremely promiscuous.

  • MMDD

    @Billy Budd: Feeling a desire for variety and being inclined to monogamy are two different things, in my opinion. I’m very sexually attracted to a wide variety of men. If I acted out on that desire, I’d be going down on no less than ten guys a day (and that would be on a slow day). But my mind, heart, and body are fiercely monogamous, so even though I’m attracted to other guys, I make the choice every day to channel all that desire and sexual energy on my husband. I don’t think that makes me that much different from other gay men out there. I’ve met lots of other gay men along the way who were monogamous.

  • Maude

    I’ve had a life long crush on Dougie Houser.

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