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New York Times Just Now Discovering “Bromosexual” Friendships


Gay men being friends with straight men. Straight men being friends with gay men.

New York Times article by Jim Farber titled “The Rise Of The ‘Bromosexual’ Friendship” suggests this is an exciting new cultural phenomenon — as represented in the arts, and as demonstrated in life.

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“That kind of easy relationship would not be credible to a broad audience 10 years ago,” says Irish author Jarlath Gregory, discussing a “brotherly friendship” at the center of his new novel The Organised Criminal. “One of the things my publisher liked about my book was that this friendship was something we haven’t seen much before.”

As Farber sees it, “Obviously, there have always been friendships between gay men and straight men, but only recently have they become more prominently, and comfortably, represented in TV shows, movies, books, and blogs.”

The article cites the first season of Scream Queens as a perfect example, since Nick Jonas played a gay frat boy who’s best friends with a straight fraternity brother. It also points out the friendship between Reza Farahan and Mike Shouhed in Bravo’s Shahs of Sunset. And Andy Cohen‘s buddyship with “ladies’ man” John Mayer.

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“Friendships with straight men can be very healing,” says Michael LaSala, author of “Coming Out, Coming Home: Helping Families Adjust to a Gay or Lesbian Child.”

For that reason, gay men have traditionally not felt comfortable in these relationships. When you experience a close friendship with a straight guy and that person is very accepting, it’s a balm for some old wounds.”

“I’m happy that I get to live around people who have a different life experience than I do, and I’m happy that they get to be around me,” says Ben Moss, a 25-year-old straight man. “A homogeneous experience in friendships isn’t good for anyone.”

You can check out the full article here.

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One Comment

  • Hermes

    Really? The world has changed that much? I always had mostly straight male friends. I played sports and games with them in H/S and college. I played Dungeons and Dragons with dozens of them. I was out. My friends all knew I was gay. I think some of their parents would have had problems, but my friends and I were always very tight. They went to gay dance clubs with me in fact, in their (and my) 20s. They would dance with me – no questions asked. We were friends. This seems to suggest that in most of the world this is new….. is it really, or are the elite classes just unaware? I’m talking in the 80s for me. I only encountered homophobia ONCE – and that was from guys that didn’t know me and tried to run me over in their cheapa** American sports car wannabe. This article just stuns me. NEW IN THE LAST 10 YEARS? Is that true folks?

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