As an actor, poet, and activist, Nico Tortorella hasn’t had much time to explore their polyamorous queerness… but they’re wanking working on it.
“Let’s break some things down for a minute,” they wrote in a now-deleted Instagram post. “I talk all this big game about polyamory and LGBTQ identity. This year, I haven’t had the time to properly explore secondary or tertiary relationships outside my marriage in meaningful ways. That however does not invalidate my queer existence. In fact, the majority of my sexual expression manifests via self-pleasure.”
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The Younger star — who rejects gendered pronouns alongside partner Bethany C. Meyers — explained that masturbation is “a healthy, personally intimate sexual activity” with “many benefits for your physical and mental health,” as well as “a natural and safe way to explore your body, fantasies, feel pleasure, and release built-up sexual tension.”
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“In short, I am my own lover,” they said.
Tortorella then asserted that the word “lover” can refer to a sexual partner, a toy or product, or even someone practicing self-love.
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“Lovers is a name for all seeking, receiving and giving sexual pleasure,” the 30-year-old elaborated. “Each individual has a right to sexual pleasure and autonomy defined by their own expression. Everyone, regardless of race, gender identification, sexual orientation, ability, or socio-economic status deserves to reach their greatest pleasure potential.”
Cheers to that! And by the way, be sure to check out Tortorella’s recent Twitter photos to see them on the way to their “greatest pleasure potential.”
ingyaom
Whose “polyamorous queerness” is he exploring, “theirs”?
Billy Budd
Apart from being beautiful, is he actually talented?
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Godabed
I don’t get the interest in this person
Wicked Dickie
@Godabed, he fits the typical profile. That’s why.
Catholicslutbox
He’s a pretty face.
About it.
His body is bleh…his tatts are bleh x2…and his personality is bleh x100.000.000.000.000.000.000
PLAYS WELL WITH OTHERS
Say what???
SnakeyJ
Who cares about these self-involved millennials? He’s gay but trying to be special. Talking about something everyone else does every day… because he thinks that he’s so hot that it’s shocking to us that he has to jerk off.
Donston
I honestly still think he’s one of those “bi guys” who enjoys topping chicks and bottoming for dudes but ultimately has more same-sex romantic passions and relationship contentment. Those types often have a difficult time understanding themselves, are so petrified of being seen as “gay” and often take forever to self-accept if they’re in homophobic environments or in environments where people are constantly telling them they’re not “gay”.
But no matter the dimensions of his orientation, this persistent desperation to always get attention for his supposed “queerness”, to always appear special and unique and all these empty, to try to sell his hetero relationship as non-hetero and these pretentious nonsense quotes are all signs he’s still got a lot of issues to work on.
Wicked Dickie
At first I was wondering who “they” were when Queerty was writing about one person. Then I figured out that the “they” is the douche bag who apparently thinks “they” invented masturbation. FFS, get a grip, “you”.
Donston
So, in other words, he’s content with just having a romantic/sexual connection with his wife and isn’t all that interested in having a relationship with anyone else. But he’s desperate to continuously remind people that he’s not 100% inherently hetero and cis gender. And he wants to make sure no one takes away his “queer card”.
This is one of the problems within the “queer community”. Instead of striving for acceptance, self-understanding, mental health and finding someone who can give you contentment and that you can be happy with, too much of the focus has become about constantly showing and proving how special and unique you are and constantly asserting your identity and sense of self. It’s really lame and tacky. Too many people’s struggles are about ego more than anything else. Just embrace your hetero-normalcy and your “mostly straight” status, be happy with your wife and stop trying so hard to be victim and trying so hard to prove your special-ness/queerness. He’s got to be exhausted by this point.
Brian
Actually, in other words it means he’s too gay to get it up for his wife, so he just jerks off all the time.
thisisnotreal
Donston I truly appreciate these rare moments when the planets align and me and you actually 100% agree on something, because I sure feel like they are a rarity. His whole M.O. reminds me of a quote I saw floating around on Twitter a while back, “the love that dare not speak its name, has become the love that won’t shut up”
Donston
Brian, that could be true. But I still masturbate to lesbian and trans porn on occasion and love sex with my husband and have no interests in being in a relationship with anyone else.
Nico just seems like a very confused and unstable dude who has spent too much effort trying to convince himself and other people of certain things and has spent too much time hanging around gay-hating “queers” who do nothing but indulge each others’ narcissism. No one who is truly happy with their significant other spends this much time constantly reminding people that they’re into other people. But honestly, I don’t think he can be happy with anyone.
Greg
He probably isn’t having any sexual connections with his lesbian wife. He just wants attention.
man5996853
The only way I could possibly be involved with a guy like him would be to resort to polyamory. It would at least ensure that something could be shoved down his throat at all times so that he couldn’t talk and ruin the whole damn experience.
He’s both profoundly beautiful and insufferable.
Donston
The funny thing is that almost no guy who is not homosexual but is in a happy relationship with another guy is constantly obsessed with reminding people they’re not 100% homo and constantly obsessed with trying to hold on to a sense of hetero-normalcy. The fact that he’s scared about people taking away his “queer card” because he’s not interested in having a bunch of relationships outside of his marriage shows that this has always been more about ego and being acknowledged for his sense of self than actually trying to educate people and help others. I don’t understand why folks just can’t be real about themselves and their struggles and then live their lives. The heart wants what it wants. If you’re happy with who you are, happy with your life and happy with your wife then why must you always need your “queerness” to be validated? It also doesn’t help that the dude is unrelentingly self-important and self-serious and lacks any self-deprecation.
Finally, I think most people are perfectly aware of why masturbation is useful.
Prax07
Omg, somebody just shove a big dick in his mouth to shut him up already. Tired of the inane drivel this douche comes up with that this site thinks is newsworthy.
BGinBigD
Amen
jckfmsincty
He likely enjoys himself more than others do.
Sam6969
Never trust a dude that (talking about NT) tells you truly happy people won’t spend so much time talking about themselves, when this dude spends so much time talking about these very people and repeats ad nauseam the same tired arguments. It hides deep personal issues and that’s called projection at his finest pathological level. In this regard, the Queerty comment section is sometimes more instructive than the article itself.
Donston
Dude, don’t be corny. If you want to come at me then come directly at me. Also, there is no “projection”. There is relatability. I have always been honest here about who I am and my struggles. Just like Nico I have contended with fluidity, uncertainty, depression and drug dependence at certain points in my life. I’m also one of the only “queer” people here and someone who actually hangs out with a decent amount of different types of people. So, you can all it “projection”. I call it been there, done that and heard/seen all of that.
Also, “truly happy people won’t spend so much time talking about themselves” isn’t actually what I said. Being obsessed with asserting your identity for years on, being obsessed with being acknowledged for what you thinks makes you different from others for years on, seeming to undermine your marriage just to constantly re-establish your sense of self, connecting yourself to a multiple of different demos, talking about yourself in endlessly vague cliches and pretentious/self-important phrases, being someone who has made it clear that he only really wants to be with a particular type of person (in this case a cis female) but is obsessed with always reminding people they’re into other stuff and expects people to praise him for that- those things do reflect a level of dissatisfaction and discourse and pure self-interests.
Sam6969
Do not worry, Donston, I come at you directly.
The problem is that you pontificate all the time thinking your know everything on a subject that you know only from your tiny personal experience and POV. Your experience is certainly valuable for you, just like any of ours, and can also be shared as it is —useful for others, sometimes in unpredictable ways— but just do not act as if you knew the “Truth” about what is good for NT or anyone else. Just give your opinion, not an authoritarian statement about how they should behave to be authentic accomplished individuals. It is a process, a personal journey for all of us and no one escapes this individuation process. You have no certitude about the fact you master fully the subject you are talking about. Actually, we could also say at any point of their personal life (and self understanding) people are exactly where they need to be. So, first of all, be more humble and your statements will be too.
On the other hand, I do not think it is usual arrogance, as there are compulsive, obsessional characteristics in your comments. You just repeat the same words and ideas over and over again as if there was something you could not come to terms with in what you are writing while pretending or suggesting the opposite. In neuropsychiatry they say a ghost emotional event trapped in the amygdala has not been treated and stored in the hippocampus yet. I do not know if it is your case or not (and you would not be the first one to go through some degree of untreated PTSD), but the obsessional elements of language are clearly there. Combined with the pontificating tone, it produces an annoying interference with whatever useful message you want to share. For instance, to me, this comes off as treating NT unfairly, to the extent of even contributing to bullying him for just who he is right now. If this is the result of a projection process as I think it is I cannot imagine how you treat yourself and how you have been treated in your life.
I could have not responded to your long history of comments as you are the way you are after all, but I still have an issue (among others) with what I perceive as unfair treatments and I still struggle with that 😉 To each his cross.
GetOffMyInternets
Oh wow. Yet ANOTHER article about Nico where he’s covering his favorite subject: himself. He’s such a navel gazer and insufferable tool. No one cares about his sexuality as much as he does, and it comes across as more self serving than genuine. Once again he only gets coverage here because one of the editors wants to bone him. Who gives a phuck if he’s discovered he likes to beat off? He’s not the only one in the world and why does he have to make such a production about his sexuality? He’s not unique. Big deal. Be yourself. That’s all fine and dandy, but no one cares about your supposed “spiritual journey” because it comes across as so valid and self serving.
hillguy
“I don’t care. Do you?”
PoetDaddy
Okay, sorry, I know we’re trying to find gender-neutral pronouns, which is great, but we haven’t succeeded yet, as we can see by THIS construction:
“Nico Tortorella just published a poem describing their penis.”
Is Nico Tortorella two or more people?
Greg
They should use “its”.
Doug
In short, he seems too narcissistic to have sex with any other human being besides himself.
Viktor Zavadsky
yet more pretentious psychobabble & puerile word games from another callow twat…
mzvky
I’m not good with non-binary pronoun usage. Frankly, it gives me a headache. But I really do want to understand. Can someone explain why Nico is referred to as “They” but also continues to use “I” instead “We” when referring to… “Itself”? “Themselves”? Where’s the Advil…
inbama
Because none of this nonsense has really been thought through.
Heywood Jablowme
That’s next! You had to go and point it out, didn’t you? He/they probably reads Queerty comments!
Greg
Because they’re pretentious and forgets to keep up the b.s.
woodroad34
quite the philosophical and verbal gymnastics. sometimes a cigar…..
Heywood Jablowme
If Nico must refer to himself, I mean theirself, as “THEY”…
… they must logically say “WE” instead of “I”. No more “I”. You know, like Queen Victoria.
We are not amused!
QueerTruth
NO ONE CARES. He’s a desperate no talent Instagram celebrity.
CarlIsle
I literally clicked on this link because I needed a laugh. It didn’t disappoint. What is worrying is that some people take a report about Nico jerking off seriously…
DarthKitsune
Ugh, this bitch.
Herman75
The heart wants what the heart wants. I’m going to marry my butt plug.
BGinBigD
“They” ain’t rite!