Actor and podcaster Nico Tortorella sat down with Pride Source to talk about all sorts of interesting things, including his sexuality, what it was like growing up queer, open relationships, and when you can expect to see him naked on screen.
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The 28-year-old bisexual stars in the new Lifetime movie Menendez: Blood Brothers. He will also appear in the upcoming season of TV Land’s “Younger.” And he’s the host of the podcast The Love Bomb. In addition to all that, he maintains a rather titillating Instagram account.
Here are some of the highlights from his interview…
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Nico on being bisexual:
I really like the term bisexual, and I fall somewhere under the umbrella that is bisexuality. I use the word bisexual because people have fought for so long for this word and the fact that it even exists in part of the LGBTI-et cetera is just a beautiful thing, and I’m not gonna be the person to take, like, fluidity or emotional fluidity or pansexual. I’m comfortable somewhere under the bisexual label, and I’m proud of it.
On growing up queer:
I just wanna make it clear that it was not always easy for me. For sure, as a kid. I had a really bad stutter from 8 to 11. I wasn’t doing any theater, and sexuality in my household was one thing and one thing only. Anything heard or talked about or seen outside of it was gross in one way or another. I mean, big Italian family in Chicago. It didn’t exist anywhere in my family. I didn’t have any gay relatives. It just wasn’t anywhere.
On open relationships:
Why is it socially acceptable for two gay people to be in an open relationship, but if you hear about a straight couple in an open relationship people are like, “What? How does that work?” It doesn’t make sense to people.
Also, being somebody that dates both, how do I maneuver that conversation? Like, “Look, I want a boyfriend and a girlfriend at the same time – are you cool with that?” That’s even more confusing. But I’ve done it, and at the end of the day that’s who I am. I think I’m coming more and more into my own acceptance with polyamory and how I think that I can just be the best partner, if that is an option.
On his gay following:
I grew up in Chicago on stage, and I was constantly surrounded by a bunch of queer people. I really got along with them as a little kid and they really liked me too, so I don’t think there was one moment in my career, like, “Oh, now I see I can get along with these people.” I feel like it was always there. It was always in me; it was always part of me.
On society’s growing acceptance of LGBTQ people:
For so long people have been so oppressed in who they are because it doesn’t match what we’re being shown. Now, in the age of the internet and social media, there’s just so much being thrown down our throats constantly – pun intended (laughs) – and it’s like, it exists. Finally, it exists. Finally, people’s stories can be told. And my purpose in life is to extend these stories. I’m in love with people and I’m in love with their stories.
On doing nude scenes (eventually):
I’m gonna get naked at some point, I promise.
In the meantime, perhaps some of Nico’s smokin’ hot Instagram posts will whet your appetite…
kent25
Damn are all Bisexuals polyamory? So they really are Greedy, Thirsty Promiscuous etc.
BennyP
Yes the are Very GREEDY People, Bi girls can be getting banged by a man and they are laying there thinking about women . Bi men need they women to finger them while having sex, or use a dildo so it feels like a man is humping them doggy style . They need to stay in the closet with that freaky shit
JerryJS
“He will also appear in the upcoming season of TV Land’s ‘Younger.'” – ??? He’s been a series regular since its season one debut in 2015 and it returns (with Nico) for season 4 this month. #FactCheck
WeHoGuy69
Michael Urie looks yum.
Donston
I thought we had all agreed we were over this cat?
He said he would never consider settling down with a man. He said he has no real emotional connection with men. Despite talking endlessly about his sexual “complexity” he still utterly refuses to discuss his sexual attractions (which is a hint that he’s full of it). He is nothing but a pretentious narcissist who wants to use men for sex and opportunity and use women to stabilize his ego. And despite saying he’s bisexual he still separates himself from bisexuality and queerness by constantly talking about how connected he feels to heterosexuality and the “straight world”. Even in his quotes here he’s constantly separating himself from LGBTQ.
There is nothing LGBTQ positive about this dude. I at least could respect him if he was more straightforward instead of a phony who uses his looks and supposed “fluidity” to constantly get attention and press.
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CaliKyle
He’s not a great example for the cause, so to speak. To each his own, but I strenuously object to this rat faced, hirsute poseur being described as “smokin hot.” He’s not even lukewarm. But he is a narcissistic attention whore whose views on male homo love and sex are pretty warped.
Donston
If you actually read most of his interviews and check out some of his social media you can clearly tell that he’s underhandedly promoting gay men not being with men and trying to disguise it with “progressiveness” and “open-mindedness”. And despite letting everyone know he’s not interested in any real relationship with men he still wants to feel apart of LGBTQ and use gay men for sex, money and to boost his fame. And you can tell that his relationship with his girlfriend is sadomasochistic and exist for the sake of his ego. He sees gayness as shallow fun. He’s too “complex” and too desirable for that.
The fact that some still can’t see through this guy’s bull is scary. And like I said, if he was more willing to be real I could at least respect him. I don’t care who someone has sex or relationships with. It’s the fact that he’s a narcissist who’s trying to use self-accepting gay men for his benefit while pretending to be some forward-thinker. That is what’s upsetting.
He’s no good for anyone.
Donston
I guess if you’re willing to constantly take your clothes off and willing to admit to having sex with men everything else can be ignored.
martymart
Hi there, I have listened to his interviews and his pod cast ‘the love bomb’ he talks a lot about his relationship with Kyle Krieger, the man I love. Please search it and listen.
Donston
Yeah, I’ve read most of interviews and listened to some of his podcasts. Hence, why I developed the opinion of him that I did. His “relationship” with Kyle (which I believe didn’t even last for half a year) was clearly all about sex and getting press. Seemingly like his current relationship. Except unlike with Kyle, Nico is obsessed with constantly telling everyone how in love he is with this random chick.
As much as his naive supporters try to deny it, his sexual behavior and “identity” is all about indulging narcissism and getting press for it. But then again, most of his supporters are likely narcissists and people users.
Donston
Also, based off recent, non photo-shopped pictures he looks unhealthy. Very skinny and his face looks emaciated. There are definitely many things going on in his life and in his head that he’s not revealing, despite endlessly talking about himself.
BennyP
He’s another Caitlyn Jenner, Not even worth mentioning. He’s an Attention Whore, the straight press don’t want anything to do with him but here goes the lgbt press fawning over this clown. We don’t claim him. And I wish they stop writing about him, maybe he’ll just go away
Barlow
Big, Italian Chicago family where no one was allowed to be gay: So, I can understand why this guy will park under the “Bi” sign for a little while, and hey: at least he’s talking about this stuff. Five or ten years ago, this one probably would have stayed deeply closeted, while now he can talk about liking oysters AND snails, and now that gives him “edge”, and in a few years he’ll realize he can’t remember the last time he even thought about having oysters, and will look back on the quotes in this article and laugh.
Donston
I’m not so certain about that. His refusal to discuss his sexual attractions, his general femininity, his non-stop talk about his “fluidity” and his pathological obsession with letting people know how much he loves women all hints towards him having little to no sexual attraction to women and doing extreme overcompensation. But I doubt he could ever commit himself to a man or the “gay lifestyle”. His narcissism, desire to feel “different people’s energy” and desperation to promote his sexuality and “lifestyle” shows that his ego is too convoluted and delicate to ever deal with being deemed gay or loving only a man. Being with women, receiving attention from women, being able to sexually please women and still feeling a part of the “straight world”- it just makes him feel too good about himself.
His type is a dime a dozen and they almost never fully embrace and become comfortable with who they are inherently, or it’s not until they’ve had a couple kids and wife for ten years.
ErikO
Or he’s actually bisexual, but you will always be a hypocritical bigot and biphobic idiot who does not understand human sexuality.
Donston
And you will always be a placate-r who defends people’s nonsense no matter what the evidence says.
He says he’s not interested in having sex or relationships with men who identify as bi despite also identifying as bi. That’s “bi-phobic”. He’s talked about not being “trapped” by his attractions. He completely evaded an interviewer’s questions when asked about his attractions, and has made sure not to give any insight in that regard despite endlessly speaking on his sexuality and using it to promote himself. He still doesn’t fully embrace the term “bisexual” or “queer” but prefers “fluid” because it separates him from LGBTQ. Yet, he wants to be fully embraced by LGBTQ people and be seen as a idol.
If there’s any dude who lives up to every bad bi identifying male stereotype it’s him. My bi identifying friends resent him as well. Nonetheless, you must put the cape on, because that’s what you do, trying to shame people with the same one or two lines and no real insight.
He BGB
I don’t care what he is or if he gets naked or not.
jasentylar
Yeah,,,who is he? He’s nice to look at, but never heard of him before this article
amigay
He’s famous for being famous.
IDoNotHaveToAgreeWithYou
Stop with the bad random tattoo choices and placement.
BriBri
Ploymory, is that a homo that wears polyester?
Keebler ILF
I thought he looked familiar. He was part of the hot, psycho, gay couple (or pretending to be a gay couple) on the TV show The Following, starring Kevin Bacon.
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Thanks for the Instagram link; I can ogle him some more.
Terrycloth
Don’t care ..never heard of him..he dose nothing for me…a bunch of blah blah blah about as interesting as a carrot
amigay
Geez, what an attention whore.
luvit00
ummm…. who? …. huh?
girldownunder
Damn. Another LGBTI poser, it seems.
Oh well.
Donston
He’s clearly not bisexual. Most people who truly want to be honest about who they are have no problem explaining themselves. He’s given tons of interviews about his sexuality and even had a podcast based on sexuality. Yet, he remains indirect and pretentious and defensive when explaining who he is.
From what I can decipher, reading in between the lines, he’s either a straight, gay or “queer” megalomaniac who likes being sexually worshiped by different types of people and wants attention from everyone due to ego and fetish, or he’s a gay man in deep denial who’s full of self-hate and needs to maintain a connection to women and heterosexuality to feed his ego and desire to not feel gay. These two types of personalities and sexual motivations are very common in men who do porn. And surprise, surprise, some of his “friends” are in porn. If we’re being real, he’s probably a Hollywood hooker.
No matter what his inherent sexuality is, he’s a trashy attention whore and very much a poser.
Donston
Also, he briefly “dated” Lindsay Lohan and it was during the peak of her breakdown. That lets you know scummy and attention thirsty he is.
kent25
Why does the LGBTQ+ community claim this fool, Self loathing . If I never see this guy again it will be to soon