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NOM Stole this Lesbian Couple’s Image, and Now They’re Super-Pissed

World, take note: you do not want to be on Kerri Carder-McCoy’s bad side, because she is not putting up with any of your shit.

You may remember, back in 2008, when Kerri and her wife Erin made headlines right before the vote on Prop 8. When they got married at San Francisco City Hall, Erin’s first-grade class greeted her at the door to throw rose petals. It was all done with parental permission, of course, but the anti-gays latched onto the event as proof that schools would “teach gay marriage.”

That touched off a nightmare for Kerri and Erin, as their faces and the faces of the kids were appropriated and re-used by anti-gay groups. Two and a half years later, it’s still going on: NOM’s anti-marriage ad in New York features a flash frame of Kerri and Erin.

Through our connections with Marriage News Watch, we tracked Kerri down and asked her a couple of questions about the experience. But first, a little background, as told by the documentary March On!:

Kerri and Erin met on the dance floor of a popular club in the Castro district of San Francisco, the day after Thanksgiving 2006. It was love at first sight. Kerri proposed on February 29, 2008. In May of that year, the California Supreme Court made it legal for same-sex couples to be married. Their desired wedding date of 10/10/10 was moved up to 10/10/08. They were married at San Francisco City Hall by Mayor Gavin Newsom.

QUEERTY: Have people you know told you that they recognize you when they see the ad?

KERRI: A fellow cast member [from March On!] told me on the phone this past Tuesday that we were featured in the ad.  They say it ran a couple of times, and is state-wide.

QUEERTY: Has being in the spotlight changed the way that you look at activism? Are you more or less likely to get involved now?

KERRI: Being in the spotlight makes me want to be out fighting for my rights a lot more.  It makes me want to stand up and and put a face to this fight.  It gets in your veins and makes you fight for equality and justice that much more.  The reason being, is that I want to tell my story and show that I count, that I matter, that there are others out there like me.  Hopefully it will send a message to many more people out there like me and my wife that you have a lot of allies and strength out there across our nation and internationally.
It also makes me feel closer to my lgbtq community.  Right before we got married we were active, right after we got married we were super active and continue to be to this day!  I stand beside my wife and she stands beside me and we fight for equality and justice together.  I love her with all my heart and will fight for our civil rights with all that I am and all that I have!

QUEERTY: Have you ever contacted NOM to ask them to take your image out of their ad?

KERRI: No, not as of yet … but I am going to today!

QUEERTY: Knowing what you know now, would you have done anything different?

KERRI: Yes, I would have stood up and spoken up, put a face to our story a whole lot sooner right after we got married when the arsenal of horrible and dispicable Yes on 8 campaign ads came out, but we were advised not to by legal advice.